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    1. Male Desire : The Homoerotic in American Art
    by Jonathan Weinberg
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    Asin: 0810958945
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-01)
    Publisher: Harry N Abrams
    Sales Rank: 19826
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    "Male Desire entertains, stimulates, seduces, enlightens: it is the perfect art history course, slide after delicious slide, with piquant, smart commentary." -Wayne Koestenbaum

    Examining the history of homoeroticism in American art, Male Desire surveys how the male body has been portrayed for the last century and a half. From the academic-style paintings of Thomas Eakins in the 19th century to Félix González-Torres's conceptual works in the "age of AIDS," this fascinating book by the well-known art historian Jonathan Weinberg highlights specific artists while illuminating the artistic and cultural contexts in which they worked.

    Accompanying Weinberg's engaging text are 170 compelling images of the male physique by such artists as George Bellows, Marsden Hartley, Paul Cadmus, Andy Warhol, and Robert Mapplethorpe, works that address the theme of the homoerotic in vivid and often contentious ways. While they range widely in style and content, these artworks all share a quality of excess in the way they represent the male figure. Sexy, beautiful, edgy, and thought provoking, this important book is a must-have for every art-book collection, as well as the library of every gay man.

    AUTHOR BIO: Jonathan Weinberg, Ph.D., is a painter and art historian. He is a recipient of a 2002 Guggenheim Fellowship and is currently a fellow of the Clark Art Institute in Williamstown, Massachusetts. His paintings are in many important collections, including the Metropolitan Museum of Art. Weinberg lives in Connecticut. ... Read more


    2. Three Junes
    by JULIA GLASS
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    Asin: 0385721420
    Catlog: Book (2003-04)
    Publisher: Anchor
    Sales Rank: 1581
    Average Customer Review: 3.49 out of 5 stars
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    An astonishing first novel that traces the lives of a Scottish family over a decade as they confront the joys and longings, fulfillments and betrayals of love in all its guises.

    In June of 1989 Paul McLeod, a newspaper publisher and recent widower, travels to Greece, where he falls for a young American artist and reflects on the complicated truth about his marriage. . ..Six years later, again in June, Paul’s death draws his three grown sons and their families back to their ancestral home. Fenno, the eldest, a wry, introspective gay man, narrates the events of this unforeseen reunion. Far from his straitlaced expatriate life as a bookseller in Greenwich Village, Fenno is stunned by a series of revelations that threaten his carefully crafted defenses. . .. Four years farther on, in yet another June, a chance meeting on the Long Island shore brings Fenno together with Fern Olitsky, the artist who once captivated his father. Now pregnant, Fern must weigh her guilt about the past against her wishes for the future and decide what family means to her. Inprose rich with compassion and wit, Three Junes paints a haunting portrait of love’s redemptive powers.
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    4-0 out of 5 stars A Beautifully Written Story
    Julia Glass has written a luminous novel about family ties those we are born with and those we acquire through life. The novel is divided into three sections that each include the McLeod family memebers. In the first and most interesting section we meet Paul McLeod who is recovering from his wife Maureen's death on a trip to Greece in June . Paul's reminiscence of Maureen is poignant as he describes their meeting and early years of marriage together. The reader is treated to beautifully written passages about their rural Scottish home and the interactions between these two people. Paul is left wondering if he ever really knew his wife, certian that he loved her, yet regretting not having the courage to really know her. Part two of the story centers on Fenno, Paul's oldest son, who arrives home from NYC to attend his father's funeral. It is in this chapter we meet the rich, interesting characters in Fenno's life; Malachy Burns a music critic dying of AIDS, Fenno's lover, his neighbor and twin brothers Dennis and David and their families. Fenno keeps his emotions to himself and like his father, questions why he sometimes doesn't have the courage to connect in a real way with the people in his life. This is the longest section of the book and at times drags as Fenno philosophies about his life and relationships. The last section of the book is by far the weakest, with Fern Olitsky being the central character who ties into the McLeod's life in an intesting way. This scene is set in the Hamptons, at a beach house where a dinner draws Fenno, his brother Dennis, his ex-lover, Fern and a new man. The interactions are interesting, but this was disappointing as the rest of the book was superb and the ending just seems to drop off. This is a story that is meant to be read slowly, with wonderful imagery and details to characters and relationships, but ends somewhat weakly.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Elegantly written, but incomplete
    This book is divided into three intertwining sections; each section has in common some of the same characters and the month of June, where Important Things happen ' people die and babies are conceived. This is NOT a quick read; it is a literary novel that you can either tire of or admire (or in my case, both). As in many literary novels, there are many reflective passages that do little to move the story forward or tie up loose ends in the plot.

    The story focuses on the McLeod family, a Scottish clan from which the eldest son, Fenno, has departed for NYC, only to return after the death of his mother, Maureen, and several years later his father, Paul. There's a lot of back stories to learn about Fenno and his younger twin brothers, David and Dennis, as well as the secret life of Maureen, and later Paul, who moved to Greece after his wife's death. There's also Fern, a young woman Paul meets and develops a crush on during his first trip to Greece, and who resurfaces in the book's last section. Needless to say, there's a lot going on here, and much of our information comes from Fenno's perspective, and he is not the most likeable character.

    Criticisms aside, this was an interesting, elegantly written novel that's worth getting through, even though you may feel somewhat shortchanged at the inconclusive end.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Three Junes
    This book was beautifully written, except I felt I was deceived from the beginning. When you read the book from the front cover, back cover, even inside the book with numerous positive commentaries and plot summaries, there is not one word mentioning that this novel's main character is gay and how his gayness affects his family/friends relations. I have nothing against gay people or stories about gay characters. Don't get me wrong (I am from California!). But I felt I was not prepared for this much gayness when I read the book. It deeply disturbed me that the publisher had to go in such length to "hide" the main plot from its potential readers. Why? Just be honest and come out of the closet! I felt as if I bought a candy that it is supposed to be strawberry flavored. But when I open up the wrapper and eat the candy, I find out it is chocolate flavored. I don't mind chocolate, but not when I want to eat strawberry flavored candy.

    I believe many readers are like me and would like to know what we get ourselves into before we get involved. Having said all these complaints, I would still read the book after all. I would read it not because I enjoyed the book, but because the book won the "National Book Award". I try to read as many awarded books as possible.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Simply amazing
    This amazing tale is unusual on several levels. First, the form of the book: it reads like three novellas as the book is in three distinct sections, each with its own point of view. Then there are the characters (well-drawn and complex)which are interwoven into these sections. But the form alone is not the chief drawing aspect for this fresh, new novel, it is rather the excellent writing and dialogue. No, this is not a quick read, but then most great books aren't. With its themes of homosexuality and conflict within the human heart, it is like Jackson McCrae's "The Bark of the Dogwood" or a few other great reads that are currently out. And Glass handles her material as well as McCrae in this respect. But aside from all this, "Three Junes" is an entertaining read, and isn't that what it's all about? I highly recommend this stellar novel.

    Also recommended: McCrae's BARK OF THE DOGWOO

    3-0 out of 5 stars Good Enough
    But not great. Nothing so wrong with this book except that it just isn't vibrant enough for me. The people are so ho hum. The story just doesn't get me excited as when I read MIDDLESEX or even the better works by J.C. Boyle. Or, actually, some of the Southern writers out there. Ms. Glass is published and lauded by the mainstream press when a real gem, SIMON LAZARUS by M.A. Kirkwood, deserves so much more. If you want a reading experience that will transcend the quaint and predictable, SIMON LAZARUS is the ticket. Now that is a read! ... Read more


    3. Malibu : A Century of Living by the Sea
    by Julius Shulman, Juergen Nogai
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    Asin: 0810958856
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-01)
    Publisher: Harry N Abrams
    Sales Rank: 37146
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    Renowned Southern California architectural photographer Julius Shulman began exploring Malibu in 1929. Nearly 80 years later, he is still bringing back pictures of paradise—except that the pristine landscape is now a backdrop for luxury homes. In Malibu: A Century of Living by the Sea, more than 300 lush vintage and new photographs by Shulman and his collaborator Juergen Nogai capture the look and feel of a private Shangri-La. While many of the homes were designed by architects with local and international reputations--including James Moore, Frank Gehry and Richard Meier--the book also conveys the quirky flavor of do-it-yourself designs that hark back to the beach town's beginnings. A brief historical section describes how a Massachusetts millionaire's $10-per-acre land purchase was transformed into the Malibu Film Colony. Beginning in 1924, 30-foot-wide oceanfront lots were rented to Hollywood stars, who built modest weekend hideaways. Once ownership restrictions were lifted, the style parade began. In 1948, Modernist architect Welton Becket designed a flat-roofed beach house for his family with broad expanses of glass facing the ocean and a deep roof overhang to protect against the dazzling sun. Twenty years later, John Lautner worked his magic on a narrow lot by designing a towering curved concrete shell—like a surf rider's wave—enclosing the floor-to-ceiling glass facade of Stevens House. Before land costs became prohibitive, artists and musicians often designed their own homes in eclectic, personal styles that incorporated local crafts, or even an oak tree growing in the living room. Local architects developed inventive ways of handling difficult sites, the constant threat of fire and the requirements of the California Coastal Commission. And the super-rich built their palaces, ranging from a crenellated monstrosity called The Castle Kashan to an 7,000-square-foot modular compound designed by Bart Prince. Invitingly packaged, except for the hard-to-read gray type, Malibu is above all a showcase for Shulman's signature manipulation of sunlight and shadow to reveal architectural form. —-Cathy Curtis ... Read more


    4. When I Knew
    by Robert Trachtenberg
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    Asin: 0060571462
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-31)
    Publisher: Regan Books
    Sales Rank: 1496
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    When I Knew is a collection of smart, hilarious, and often poignant stories about that revelation for all gay men and women: when they first knew. In this gorgeously illustrated, cleverly designed, and colorful book, acclaimed fashion and celeb-rity photographer Robert Trachtenberg brings humor and style to the EUREKA! moments of more than eighty contributors, including B. D. Wong, Arthur Laurents, Simon Doonan, Stephen Fry, Marc Shaiman, Michael Musto, and more. Also mixed in are tales about when parents knew and when everyone else knew, as well as laugh-out-loud coming-out stories.

    Readers will fall in love with these anecdotes, from the seven-year-old who looked under the television set to sneak a peek under Tarzan's loincloth, to the inquisitive grandmother who asked her grandson, "You don't like a girl to get married? You prefer a boy?", to the courageous field trip participant who passed up the universal favorite burger-and-fry combo in favor of the fruit plate with cottage cheese.

    Filled with original art by New Yorker illustrator Tom Bachtell, historical images, and personal photographs from the contributors, When I Knew is a vibrant and witty celebration of that sometimes glorious, sometimes painful, but always captivating moment when everything suddenly makes sense.

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    5. All the Wrong Places
    by Karin Kallmaker
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    Catlog: Book (2004-09-01)
    Publisher: Bella Books
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    Brandy Monsoon is looking for love. Since there’s never a shortage of casual playmates at the tropical resort where she works as a fitness trainer, most of the time she gets it, too.

    If Brandy tires of the perpetually curious but primarily straight women, there’s her best friend Tess for a friendly encounter – safe, with no strings. After all, they’re just buddies.

    When an all-lesbian tour group arrives for a week, Brandy is sure she’ll be in paradise on earth. The guests include lesbian celebrity comic Celine Griffin, who has an obvious interest in an after-dinner Brandy. Celine and Brandy do find explosive pleasure together -- so why does Brandy feel as if that’s no longer enough for happiness? ... Read more


    6. The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks
    by Jen Sincero
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    Asin: 0743258533
    Catlog: Book (2005-02-01)
    Publisher: Fireside
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    7. On the Down Low: A Journey Into the Lives of "Straight" Black Men Who Sleep with Men
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    Asin: 0767913981
    Catlog: Book (2004-04-14)
    Publisher: Broadway
    Sales Rank: 3065
    Average Customer Review: 3.56 out of 5 stars
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    The closer a secret is kept, the more powerful the impact once it is finally revealed. Such is the case with author and activist J.L. King's intriguing look at the lives and lifestyles of black men who sleep with other men but do not consider themselves to be gay. These men live "on the down low," the "DL" for short, and their sexual activities have gained significant notice as the rate of HIV/AIDS infection in black women has skyrocketed, with the vast majority of cases coming from heterosexual sex. King is a veteran of the DL himself and his book serves partly as a social and psychological survey of the other men he has surveyed and partly as highly candid memoir. King was well regarded in his community, popular at his church, successful in his career, and married to a woman who had no idea that his secret life existed. But when she caught him in a lie and with another man, the marriage collapsed and King's long and painful path to self-awareness began. King cites the negative image many socially conservative black men have of homosexuality as an obstacle to those men being honest with their partners and themselves about who they are. Among the more intriguing elements of On the Down Low are the peculiar approaches men on the DL have to the sexual act, seeking a strictly physical sexual relationship with their secret male partners while remaining in more traditional arrangements with women. Whether this discrepancy is a product of scrupulously guarded secrecy and shame or the natural preference of an understudied sexual identity is one of the numerous questions raised by this book. Though the infection statistics make the DL a huge public health issue, King is neither a sociologist nor a medical professional. And while a more clinical look at this issue would be welcome, King accomplished what he set out to do: provide light and insight into a world that so many have worked so hard to keep in the shadows. --John Moe ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Come Out, Not Down Low
    J. L. King's part informative, part personal book exposing the trend of down-low African-American men who sleep with other men leaves a bittersweet taste in my mouth. Granted, I commend him confronting this decadent truth that many women (and some men) don't seem to know about or turn a blind eye to. He provides an honest look at what this DL behavior is doing to our communities, our homes and our relationships, and paints a disturbing portrait of the rise of HIV among young people. King also imparts prudent advice to women looking for signs about their men and counsels them to care about themselves and their health a little more.

    Yet, how can a man who sleeps with another man deny his own sexuality? That, in my opinion, is the root of this problem. That disavowal of who they are is what's killing African-American women and men at an alarming rate. Although King does tell men to be honest with their partners, making them aware of their sexual tastes, he doesn't encourage men to confront their own sexuality enough. Labels aside, you should get to know yourself before you get involved with someone else. They don't have to scream it to the world, but at least to thine own self be true. As Black women, we will always stand behind our men, and for us they need to be honest with themselves.

    For what it's worth, King has done his homework and gotten in touch with himself about his life and issues. I applaud him. For our sistahs and brothas' sakes, DL men should do the same.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Thank you Mr. King!
    I'd like to thank Mr. King for writing this book. I was hesitant to read On the Down Low because I thought it was going to be a typical "black women can't keep their men" type of book. But I was pleasantly surprised. Mr. King has presented a very well rounded look at the subculture of "down low brothers" as well as the effects of this activity on the black community. After reading this book I felt like a blindfold has been lifted from my eyes. I want to discuss this issue with my fellow sisters. The AIDS epidemic is effecting people at alarming rates and it's time to stop pretending that we're invincible. Knowledge is Power! Mr. King is applauded for doing his part to get the word out about the not so obvious sexual "landmines".

    1-0 out of 5 stars "What A Darn Shame"!!!
    I think Mr. J. King's book is part of his evil plot to self-promote himself & turn even more brothas' on to this nasty-germ traveling phenomenon!!! It's such a shame that a large number of our Beautiful, Handsome, Intelligent, Black men are being turned on & schooled about this *straight from hell* trend! God still has a plan for our Black American men....no matter how the devil tries to turn them out & destroy them as a whole! King, on The Oprah talk show said he still doesnt consider himself gay....now if this man doesnt come across as a complete nut-case, I dont know who does! No man can sleep with other men & enjoy it greatly each time & NOT no they're not gay/homosexual!
    That's insane! -- The one thing I do hope comes about as a result of this book being released is that MANY of those Down Low black men living in Atlanta Georgia & most of California [as well as other cities/states] will want to be more honest about there sexuality for a change with the growing number of black women testing postitive for HIV because of DL brother's actions!

    1-0 out of 5 stars WHY BASH YOUR BROTHA's
    J.L.King, may have meant well with this long an dwordy piece but all he did was badh his own people. He baegan belittling the relationships that gay/bisexual men have with each other in to jsut sexcapades. That is a crime in itself. I never thought I would see the day when one man took the Church's condemnation and made it PC. That hurts alot of people in the process. The Most horrifying thing about the book is that it is being revered for its stereotypes of men. Now he has given homophobia a new weapon against the homosexual community. This book really is hurting rather than healing the SGL community as well as American society in general.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Uncovered!
    What you do in the dark will eventually surface to the light. Mr. King has stripped the covers from underneath this double lifestyle that many of our men are living. It's scarry. It makes a woman want to become a Nun. I appreciate his honesty. It took a lot of courage for him to come forth to reveal his sins of homosexuality and infidelity. I only hope that women will take heed to his message. Unfortunately, many will not and will find themselves in a heap of trouble. It was recommended to me to read a novel called "Lust Of The Flesh," and I am so glad that I read it. It was the best novel I ever read. It was different from all of the mainstream novels that are being written today. Lust Of The Flesh is full of entertainment, page-turning excitement. The author lets you know that there are consequences to your actions, without coming off as preachy. If anyone reads this review, PLEASE READ THE NOVEL: LUST OF THE FLESH. It is necessary. Kudos to the author of Lust Of The Flesh and to Mr. King. May God continue to bless your ministries. ... Read more


    8. Up All Night: Adventures in Lesbian Sex
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    Asin: 1555837476
    Catlog: Book (2004-01-01)
    Publisher: Alyson Publications
    Sales Rank: 8273
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    In the tradition of the erotic bestsellers Skin Deep and Early Embraces, Up All Night presents the uncensored sizzling words of real women describing their hottest, wildest erotic adventures.

    Stacy Bias is the founder of Technodyke.com, the gathering place for the web-savvy dyke. She lives in Portland, Oregon.

    Rachel Kramer Bussel is an editorial assistant at On Our Backs and has contributed writings to Starf*cker, Best Lesbian Erotica 2001, and Hot & Bothered 3. She lives in New York City.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars HOT HOT HOT!!
    Up All Night is a perfect erotica collection, with stories that runs the gamut from naughty to tender, smoldering hot to gentle flames that lick at you lightly until they get you totally turned on. Many of them feature couples trying out new roles, such as in Khadijah Caturani's "Ungentlemanly Behavior," when a very unchivalrous butch gets what's coming to him! Others show friends going beyond the bounds of friendship into much sexier territory, such as in "The Sex Test" by Alison Tyler and Zonna's incredibly tormenting "Games." That these stories are true is simply icing on the cake. "Insert Three Fingers Here" and "Caged" are some of the more delightful titles, and all of these naughty tales are sure to get you worked up. The passionate emotional truths underlying the amazingly hot, kinky and varied sex make this one a keeper. To quote a recent New York magazine cover story, "these are NOT your mother's lesbians." They are modern girls who know what they want and go after it, whether it's an alluring stranger in a club, a hot train conducter, or that very special person - their own lover.

    5-0 out of 5 stars An Excellent Read
    I found this book recently and was intrigued by the cover, and was pleasantly surprised as I kept reading. While the cover is hot, the stories have a lot more depth to them than the cover might lead you to believe. I liked the wide variety of sex in the book and that all of it was so unusual, even the couples in the book mixed things up and tried new role playing. I especially liked "Kim" by Rosalind Christine Lloyd about hot NYC sidewalk sex and "Coming Soon to a Theater Near Me" by Bree Coven, about dating a lesbian porn star.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great read
    I saw some of the writers reading from this book in Brooklyn. It was not just hot, it was fun. I just couldn't help getting sucked in when these women read about their adventures, their desires, their bodies and everything that was going throught their heads in the process. I lent it to a male friend who said his wife can't put it down, and he is one happy man. Check out the stories about the blindfold, the train ride, or the role reversal. Good Stuff

    5-0 out of 5 stars Hot Women + Hot Sex = Stunning Book!
    I found these ladies' tales of steamy sex completely arousing. These fiery gals really taught me a lot about what two women can do together. None of these stories were boring or formulaic, all of them were fun and sexy and realistic. I liked that these were a far cry from simple lovey dovey tales but featured hot lusty sex between real lesbians. Great job and definitely kept me "up" all night!

    5-0 out of 5 stars My new favorite erotica book!
    I couldn't put this book down, racing from one hot story to another and then going back to reread them all again. Fun, imaginative and exciting, this one's getting a permanent place next to my bed. These girls are kinky, wild and crazy (in the best way)! ... Read more


    9. Encyclopedia of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered History in America (3 Volume Set)
    by Marc Stein
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    Asin: 0684312611
    Catlog: Book (2003-12-01)
    Publisher: Charles Scribner's Sons
    Sales Rank: 718742
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    10. What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality
    by Daniel A. Helminiak
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    Asin: 188636009X
    Catlog: Book (2000-04-01)
    Publisher: Alamo Square Distributors
    Sales Rank: 13446
    Average Customer Review: 3.88 out of 5 stars
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    4-0 out of 5 stars An informative little book, but not the whole story
    Helminiak takes a straightforward scriptural approach by tackling the main witnesses (Genesis, Leviticus, Romans, 1 Corinthians and 1 Timothy) in turn. Rejecting the literal view of Scripture he argues for the historical-critical approach, mainly with a detailed analysis for the meaning of words and their wider application elsewhere in the Bible. Additional contextual elements are brought in - for example ritual purity in the Old Testament - where necessary. However this is not a book about the OT and NT background to sexuality and ethics. Nor is it a book about the modern debate around Christianity and homosexuality, although it provides detailed background information on the scriptural elements that some have sought to use in justifying their condemnation of homosexuality.

    The style is straightforward and easy to read, with Helminiak mainly presenting his own views, with the occasional short reference to other (usually contrary) viewpoints. This book is not a literature review, or balanced "state of play" of the academic, or popular, debate. To keep the text clear, he avoids footnotes and references but has a helpful short annotated bibliography of the main modern texts on the subject.

    He stresses the need to see the scriptural usage in context, and manages - usually, but not always, convincingly - to portray both the OT and the NT as considering homosexuality (more accurately male-male genital acts) as socially unacceptable (in its context) and not a sin before God.

    His overall conclusion is that the Bible really has very little to say about homogenital acts and nothing about homosexuality as we would consider it today. In this he follows others, such as Scroggs.

    The strengths of this book are that it is short, readable and has a clear focus (on Scripture). As such it is a very good starting point when investigating homosexuality in the Bible. It helpfully makes clear that the Bible concentrates on the actions, not orientation, of males, and has little to say about lesbianism (although Helminiak does discuss this).

    Its weaknesses are that it pays insufficient attention to contrary views and as such the careful student will have to research elsewhere. Similarly, he does not discuss the issues of Christianity and homosexuality that go beyond Scripture although, to be fair, he never sets out to tackle such a wide remit.

    Overall a valuable and informative look at one of the key elements in the debate surrounding homosexuality, the Bible and the modern church. From a liberal perspective a very good place to start, but not an alternative to reading widely.

    5-0 out of 5 stars One Star Reviewer Did Not Read This Book
    The author of this intellectually honest book, himself a Reverend, embraces both the Bible and the Brother (or Sister) who may be gay. Yes, it is possible to embrace both; indeed it is necessary. If I may change gears, another reviewer gave this book only one star; she makes a few (inane) arguments to condemn gays, then writes that she had hoped those arguments would be addressed in this book but claims they are not. Wrong!! The Adam-and-Eve versus Adam-and-Steve argument is specifically addressed. Did she not read the book she reviews? Let me share a song I've been singing lately. "Every guy grab a girl, everywhere around the world. There'll be Dancing in the Streets." Now, there is no reason to believe homosexuality was anywhere near the songwriter's mind. His point was simply EVERYBODY dance! The songwriter simply used the most common example ("Every guy grab a girl"). So it is with the Bible's Creation story of Adam and Eve. To mistake this for a condemnation of homosexuality is simply to miss the point. To use this Bible text to condemn gays is to misuse the Bible.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Beware!
    Obviously, whether you like this book or not will depend on what you want to hear. Those who are looking for justification for the reconciliation of homosexual practices with the Christian faith will probably be pleased with this book, at least part of it. However, it should be noted that as I recall the author has been removed from the Roman Catholic priesthood since the publication of this book. In addition, potential readers should be aware that this book not only defends homosexual practices but at least implies a defense of pederasty. It claims that Christ approved of a sexual relationship between a Roman centurion and his servant who was likely only a boy. I think few on either side of the homosexual debate in the Church will welcome this interpretation, particularly coming from a former priest in light of recent events.

    1-0 out of 5 stars deeply flawed and full of wishful thinking
    Daniel Helminiak tries to convince the reader that the Bible condemns only special kinds of homosexuality (e.g. gang rape in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah), that the verses against homosexuality in the holiness code of the book of Leviticus only refer to Israelites (as God's chosen people) etc.

    Unfortunately Mr. Helminiak often reads into the text what he wants to get out of it. When explaining the meaning of some Hebrew or Greek words he uses the definitions he likes best and which seem to support his interpretation (ignoring the fact that the same words are used with another/different meaning in many other verses in the Bible). When quoting some texts the author sometimes stops too early because reading some more verses of the texts Helminiak refers to makes clear that the texts don't say what the author claims etc.

    The book is full of circular reasoning and Helminiak's arguments (although some of them sound convincing at first) can be refuted easily. You can read a good rebuttal on the website of the "Center for Reformed Theology and Apologetics" (it's not allowed to mention the link here but the website can be found easily using Google). Click on "Social Issues" to find the article. The book "The Same Sex Controversy: Defending and Clarifying the Bible's Message About Homosexuality" by James White and Jeffrey Niell also refutes the views of Helminiak and other authors who try to make the Bible "gay-friendly".

    2-0 out of 5 stars Clear, yet clearly biased
    The author of this book attempts to put together a thesis proving the gay-friendliness of the Bible. What he has done is to put out an exegetical theory that at best is questionable. He takes each 'disputed text' individually and reinterprets the original Greek, showing how it is POSSIBLE to interpret the text in a way that dodges the full culpability of a homosexual lifestyle. Unfortunately, what the author does not do is look at the text and let it speak for itself. The author clearly searches scripture with the motivation of imposing his own viewpoint onto it. It becomes clear that the higher value is not finding the true meaning of the text itself, but rather trying to see if what he thinks is right can 'work' within the scripture. This method will always produce flawed interpretations of scripture, and in this case, I believe it has. The book is good reading for anyone interested in what the main tenets of the 'pro-gay' argument are--it helped me considerably. What you will find, however, is that in the end, the argument comes up short. ... Read more


    11. The Diving Bell and the Butterfly : A Memoir of Life in Death
    by JEAN-DOMINIQUE BAUBY
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    Catlog: Book (1997-05-13)
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    We've all got our idiosyncrasies when it comes to writing--a special chair we have to sit in, a certain kind of yellow paper we absolutely must use. To create this tremendously affecting memoir, Jean-Dominique Bauby used the only tool available to him--his left eye--with which he blinked out its short chapters, letter by letter. Two years ago, Bauby, then the 43-year-old editor-in-chief of Elle France, suffered a rare stroke to the brain stem; only his left eye and brain escaped damage. Rather than accept his "locked in" situation as a kind of death, Bauby ignited a fire of the imagination under himself and lived his last days--he died two days after the French publication of this slim volume--spiritually unfettered. In these pages Bauby journeys to exotic places he has and has not been, serving himself delectable gourmet meals along the way (surprise: everything's ripe and nothing burns). In the simplest of terms he describes how it feels to see reflected in a window "the head of a man who seemed to have emerged from a vat of formaldehyde." ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars life worth living
    In December of 1995, Jean-Dominique Bauby, 43 year old editor in chief of Elle magazine in France, suffered a stroke which severely damaged his brain stem. After several weeks in a coma, he woke to find that he was one of the rare victims of a condition called "locked-in syndrome" or LIS, which had left his mind functioning but his body almost completely paralyzed. In a perverse sense he actually got fairly lucky because, unlike most victims, he was still able to move one eyelid. This allowed him to work out, with a speech therapist, a system of communication which entailed winking as someone slowly read through the alphabet. By using this code, he could painstakingly spell out words, sentences, paragraphs and, finally, this memoir.

    The title of the book refers to the metaphors he uses to describe his situation. The physical paralysis leaves him feeling as if he was trapped within a diving bell, as if there is constant pressure pinning his body into immobility. However, at the same time, his mind remains as free as a butterfly and it's flights are as random. In fact, he calls the chapters of this book his "bedridden travel notes" and, indeed, they eloquently relate his journey through memory.

    Although Bauby's situation is obviously unique, this book has universal resonance because his condition is itself an apt metaphor for the human condition. It is the essence of Man's dilemma that our infinitely perfectible minds are trapped within such weak containers of flesh and blood. For most of us, at most times, this frustrating dichotomy, between that which makes us godlike and that which makes us mortal, lurks in the background; but the author has it thrust rudely into the foreground, where it necessarily dominates his existence. This makes it all the more remarkable that Bauby is able to "write" about his life with such great humor and generosity of spirit and with so little bitterness.

    Public opinion surveys reveal an interesting contrast in modern opinions on the "right to die." Contrary to the accepted wisdom, the so-called right is favored by those who are young and healthy, but opposed by those who are old and sick. The very premise which underlies such a right is the belief that the quality of life experienced by the aged and the ill is so inadequate that they would willingly choose death instead. In fact, the evidence suggests that--despite the anecdotal horror stories with which all of us are familiar--people generally cling to life even in the face of suffering which seems unendurable to the well.

    Bauby's book, for all the horror that we naturally feel at his status, is wonderfully optimistic and life affirming. Sure, there are a few moments of well earned self pity, but they are almost completely drowned out by the author's enduring hopes and dreams and memories. Jean-Dominique Bauby died two days after this book was published, but in it's pages, he left behind one of the great testament's to the splendor and majesty of the human spirit. In these times when people tend to complain about the pettiest matters, he reminds us that even when life is genuinely difficult, it is still quite beautiful and invaluable and well worth living.

    GRADE: A+

    5-0 out of 5 stars A captivating testament to a spirit that could not be broken
    At the age of 43, Jean-Dominique Bauby (former editor-in-chief of the French magazine "Elle") suffered a massive stroke that left him almost completely paralyzed. His mind, however, remained intact. A victim of "locked-in syndrome," the only part of his body that he could still move was his left eyelid. Unable to communicate in any other way, he and his therapists devised a system whereby Bauby could blink out what he wanted to say, letter by letter. In this way, he managed to compose his memoir, with his speech therapist carefully transcribing Bauby's coded blinks. The book was published just two days before Bauby's death in 1996.

    I became aware of this book when I learned that Johnny Depp will star in a movie of "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly" in 2006 (playing Bauby himself). Intrigued, I decided to read up beforehand. What I discovered was a poignant and inspirational expression of a man with an incredibly strong spirit. Though he expresses frustration and sadness at his condition, Bauby does not wallow in the trap of self-pity. His observations of the world are sharpened and given new perspective as he is forced to deal with paralysis. Bauby is even able to look at elements of his predicament with a wry sense of humor, as in the time a nurse woke him up to ask if he wanted a sleeping pill.

    The book is not written as a linear story - in fact, we don't read about the day of Bauby's stroke until near the end - but rather it is a collection of vignettes. In some he offers insights and observations of his daily life in the hospital. In others he reflects on various memories, with both fondness and, at times, regret for missed opportunities. And in still other chapters he shares with us the dreams he has had since his stroke. He also reflects on his last day as a normally functioning person, and on some of the plans he had in his life before - plans that he never got to fulfill. Bauby has dedicated the book to his children, and it is clear that he misses being a regular father.

    "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly" is a very easy read, and well worth the time. It is only 132 pages in length, but I can't help imagining just how tedious it must have been for Bauby to blink out even one page, let alone over one hundred. That, and the amazingly beautiful, fluent language in which the book is written has given me an overwhelming respect for this remarkable man. We have here a window into a soul that refused to die, even while trapped within a body that could no longer move. I would heartily recommend this book to anyone, as it sparks in the reader a more complete awareness of the world and a fuller appreciation for the little things in life.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Suffocating!
    This book was like being underwater.... with no life support. Death was a blessing.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The Wonderful is Painstakingly Evident
    This could be the only book of its kind. I ran across this 1998 or '99 and read it faster than I read most books. I was enthralled and engaged fully by Bauby's vivid imagination. I wound up raving about this book for years to anyone who would listen.

    When all you left is imagination and you are gifted with the ability to describe your visions and dreams, you wind up 'writing' a book like this. The kinds of dreams, hopes and emotions Bauby experiences is so incredibly deep, honest and telling. The gift he leaves the reader is their ability to genuinely feel the alienation and abandonment of the world all while feeling at one with body, mind, earth, life, love and death. The thing that you walk away from, after reading this book, is nothing short of an amazing epiphany.

    UPDATE: I saw that Universal announced they will make this into a movie. To top it off, Johnny Depp will be Bauby. It won't be coming out for two years or so, but it will be worth the wait.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Stunningly beautiful glimpse into a nightmare.
    Wow. This book is beautiful and haunting. You begin the book with the knowledge of Mssr. Bauby's fate. He proceeds to share with us his eloquent and striking observations post-accident. This book is beautifully and concisely written - it's as tight as a drum - and that is a testament more to Bauby's journalistic talents than his impaired condition. An intellectual with a love for opera, music, writing, and food, he comes to life in these pages despite the brevity of the book. We get a decent sense of him prior to his stroke: a man with a full appetite for life. At times, I had to suck in my breath and set the book down to pause, it was so profoundly heartbreaking. He shares with us his deepest, raw thoughts about his daily life, his former lifestyle, his children, the blessings he misses and the pleasures he now looks forward to, as well as the torment he cannot control. A key point, I think, is that throughout the book he sprinkles his persistent sense of humor, and a feeling of hope. It's amazing considering that he is experiencing something we all agree is our worst nightmare. There is no bitterness on these pages, it's more of an honest wistfulness. Like when he says he would have cheerfully killed one of his caretakers for the neglect he suffered at his hands. I will never forget the irony of the photograph from his childhood sent to him by his father; the description of his last day of normal life; the story of Mithra-Grandchamp; the bleakness of his Sundays and how they lend perspective to his other days (and ours); and his trip to smell the French fries. The meaningfulness and importance of the small, everyday events, abilities, and choices we make are cast in a new light after reading this book. But the experience is like having someone open you up and rip out your heart, such is the sympathy we feel for Bauby. In fact, I will likely be haunted by his descriptions of life, both breathtakingly beautiful and immensely sad. What a man. What a book. ... Read more


    12. Intended for Pleasure : Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage
    by Ed Wheat, Gaye Wheat
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    Asin: 0800712536
    Catlog: Book (1981-08-01)
    Publisher: Fleming H Revell Co
    Sales Rank: 483054
    Average Customer Review: 3.85 out of 5 stars
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    4-0 out of 5 stars Detailed and helpful but somtimes cold.
    I purchased this book before my honeymoon in hopes of ithelping my wife and I get the maximun enjoyment out of sex in ourmarrige. The first few chapters are rather dry and cold speaking mostly of anatomy and the like. After that there are some excellent tips to making sex very enjoyable and not discouraging, especially if its your first time. These chapters helped me tremendously in finding out what God intended for sex and pleasing my wife. All the tips he gives in these chapters are very long and tedious. If you think you have these problems prepare yourself for some fun but hard work. Lots of practice sessions with total vulnerability with your partner. And probably with some disappointments. It can be tedious reading but stick with it, it is helpful. Some of the commentary is very clinical and dry, but helpful when you apply it. I really saw the heart of the writers, which is to help and instruct people to have the most fulfilling sex life as possible. END

    5-0 out of 5 stars excellent book!!!!
    I bought this book and "Intimate Issues" at the reccomendation of a female friend who said that she wished someone had told her about them before she got married.

    When I recieved the books I immediately dove into this one, it's an easy read, seperated into chapters so that you can read what intrests you. Technique, STD's, dysfunction, God's purpose for sex, etc. etc. it's not like the stereotypical Christian sex book... Ed Wheat gives the reader a good idea of how exciting and fulfilling sex can be in marriage. There's also a chapter on the honeymoon night and having sex for the fisrt time.

    This book is esspecially helpful for men who might feel they can't sexually satisfy their wife, there is an extensive section on a "cure" method for pre-ejaculation and also a section on teaching him the intricacies of a woman's body and how to last longer so that he can please her. Ed feels very strongly that it is a man's job to please his wife... I was happy when my finace borrowed this book from me and claimed he had read the whole thing!

    2-0 out of 5 stars a guide to torpid lovefaking
    I have found that christian women are among the most sexually active and adventurous women in the dating scene today. Paradoxically, among the most adventurous and willing are the married ones, many of whom seem to have husbands who refer to genesis and leviticus for their tips on sexuality. Because of this situation the present book does little more than confuse the issues that many married christian women face in coming to a decsion to seek sexual gratification outside the marriage, which is the only way that many of them can find it. I often hear from these women that their husbands are selfish, inattentive, uncaring, disrespectful, immature, boring and certainly not concerned with their sexual needs. You can't teach an old dogmatist new tricks, as they say, especially when they have no desire to contradict the dictates of the bible that requires them to treat their wives like livestock. Despite this, or perhaps because of it, christian women seem to be very adept at whatever sexual activity you offer them and if not they always seem very eager to learn, as a result much of the information in this book is yesterday's news to them. If only there was a chapter on Guilt relief, then we would be getting somewhere.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Warning for practicing Catholics!!
    If you are a practicing Catholic, and are thinking of buying this book, you should know it promotes birth control, many forms of which cause aboritions. I am returning the book for this reason.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Getting married? Already married? You need this.
    This book is very cool, easy to read, and is a life saver. Especially if you have never made love, and you are getting married, it respectfully gives you an overview and important tips to make your first ime with your spouse memorable. It respects the sanctity of marriage, and values love and respect within your marriage. And it also talks about sex not only for young people, but for older adults as well. God will bless you through this book! Buy it here cuz they have it cheaper than where I got it! ;) ... Read more


    13. The Fabulous Sylvester : The Legend, the Music, the 70s in San Francisco
    by Joshua Gamson
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    Asin: 0805072500
    Catlog: Book (2005-03-01)
    Publisher: Henry Holt and Co.
    Sales Rank: 591461
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    A journey back through the music, madness, and unparalleled freedom of an era of change-the '70s-as told through the life of ultra-fabulous superstar Sylvester

    Imagine a pied piper singing in a dazzling falsetto, wearing glittering sequins, and leading the young people of the nation to San Francisco and on to liberation where nothing was straight-laced or old-fashioned. And everyone, finally, was welcome-to come as themselves. This is not a fairy tale. This was real, mighty real, and disco sensation Sylvester was the piper. Joshua Gamson-a Yale-trained pop culture expert-uses him, a boy who would be fabulous, to lead us through the story of the '70s when a new era of change liberated us from conformity and boredom. Gamson captures the exuberant life, feeling, energy, and fun of a generation's wonderful, magical waking up-from the parties to the dancing and music.

    The story begins with a little black boy who started with nothing buta really big voice. We follow him from the Gospel chorus to the glory days in the Castro where a generation shook off its shame asSylvester sang and began his rise as part of a now-notorious theatrical troup called the Cockettes. Celebrity, sociology, and music history mingle and merge around this endlessly entertaining story of a singer who embodied the freedom, spirit, and flamboyance of a golden moment in American culture.
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    14. Tipping the Velvet
    by Sarah Waters
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    Asin: 1573227889
    Catlog: Book (2000-05-01)
    Publisher: Riverhead Books
    Sales Rank: 4509
    Average Customer Review: 4.31 out of 5 stars
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    This stunning and steamy debut chronicles the adventures of Nan King, a small-town girl at the turn of the century whose life takes a wild turn of its own when she follows a local music hall star to London...

    "Glorious...a sexy, sinewy sojourn of a young woman in turn-of-the-century England."--The Boston Globe

    "Erotic and absorbing...If lesbian fiction is to reach a wider readership, Waters is the person to carry the banner."--The New York Times Book Review

    "Wonderful...a sensual experience that leaves the reader marveling at the author's craftsmanship, idiosyncrasy and sheer effort."--The San Francisco Chronicle

    "Amazing....This is the lesbian novel we've all been waiting for."--Salon.com

    "Compelling...Readers of all sexes and orientations should identify with this gutsy hero as she learns who she is and how to love."--Newsday

    "Echoes of Tom Jones, Great Expectations...Waters's debut offers terrific entertainment: pulsating with highly charged (and explicitly presented) erotic heat."--Kirkus Reviews (starred review)
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    3-0 out of 5 stars (3.5) A "Ladies" Guide to Victorian England
    I almost decided not to review this first novel by Sarah Waters, as I was quite speechless after finishing it. But having enjoyed AFFINITY, her second novel, I know that Waters is a uniquely talented writer. TIPPING THE VELVET leaves nothing to the imagination, so it's quite a crash course for the uniniated, but certainly worth the effort.

    In the early 1960's, Harold Robbin's potboiler, THE CARPETBAGGERS, was a source of sexual information, and then some. In much the same way, Waters is fearless as she wades through the lesbian adventures of Victorian England. Nan King propels the reader through an emotional rollercoaster as she embarks upon a career as a music hall entertainer in drag, as well as behind the closed doors of the mansions of wealth and privilege (read: privacy), all with the intensity of new romance and broken hearts. What can I say? I was blushing through most of the book...and I did pass it on to other friends of whatever sexual orientation.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Good god, what a triumph!
    When I heard about this book, I thought, "Victorian-era erotica? I don't think so!" But in the end, it turns out that my thirst for totally engrossing, wonderfully entertaining, and incredibly well-written lesbian fiction has at last been quenched. Nearly 500 pages was barely enough of Waters' evocative tale of Nancy Astley, aka Nan King, and her life and times as a newly out "tom" (surely the 19th-century English equivalent of "dyke"), a male-impersonating prostitute, a kept "boy," and finally a self-realizing adult. The sights, smells, sounds, tastes of turn-of-the-century England were so brilliantly captured that I couldn't wait to take the subway somewhere, anywhere, so that I could sit down and read without anyone bothering me! The novel is an erotic and emotional triumph. I can't wait to read Affinity, Waters' next...it's already sitting on my desk. If I haven't raved enough about this book, take my word that it's highly recommended.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Damn sexy
    Before I go into my thoughts on Tipping... I noticed a reviewer who suspects Sarah Waters of really being a man. In case anyone else is curious, I can confirm that she is female! I've twice worked at author events of hers, and she is most definately a woman (and a lesbian as if you needed telling!)

    Anyway. I really enjoyed this book. Apart from having a wonderfully readable prose style. Waters is a master of structure and plot - the story mixes erotica, sentimentality, darkness, humour and growth perfctly, and never repeats its own ideas.

    The characters are like all Waters' characters in that they risk being dislikable, but always end up winning you over. Nan as the narrator is a wonderful character to take the reader through the sexual underworlds of Victorian London.

    However, if you find you like this book don't expect Waters' other two to be similar! Affinity and Fingermith are involved, moody, dark and complicated, both employing elements of mystery (with big ol' twists). HAving said that - give Fingersmith a try: I loved it even more than Tipping.

    5-0 out of 5 stars One of the best novels I have ever read
    I absolutely loved this book. It is a story of first love, of sexual awakening and exploration, and of true love. Extremely well written - a great plot and excellent prose. The author brings turn of the century England to vibrant life - as if you could taste, touch, and smell it. Both erotic and touching, I could not put this book down. Among the best novels I have ever read ... definitely my favorite.

    3-0 out of 5 stars I think we were fooled
    I am always surprised by the glowing reviews that this book recieves. I have to say that I bought the book with a great deal of anticipation because I had read so many positive reviews, ultimately I was quite disappointed in the book. First of all I couldn't shake the feeling that Sarah Waters was a man writing under a psuedonym. There was so much emphasis on the male identification of the main character that it smelled suspiciously like it was written by a man who thinks that lesbianism is no ones true calling, only a distraction until a real relationship can come along. There were other clues, such as the reliance on violent sexual images and the fact that the oral sex episodes with men during her prostitution years were far more graphic than any of the lesbian sex (which leads you to believe that the writer had no real knowledge of lesbian sex). I just felt fooled, that I was being toyed with, that the author was a man trying to slip in through the backdoor and show us all that men really understand lesbian mentality. What may be even more irritating is that if this really is a woman writing this than it is truly an offensive novel for the lesbian community as we have had enough of the lesbian that should be punished for her desires. ... Read more


    15. The Joy of Gay Sex : Fully revised and expanded third edition
    by Charles Silverstein, Felice Picano
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    Asin: 0060012730
    Catlog: Book (2003-05-01)
    Publisher: HarperResource
    Sales Rank: 117738
    Average Customer Review: 3.57 out of 5 stars
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    First published in 1977, The Joy of Gay Sex became an immediate bestseller and a touchstone of the emerging gay consciousness, offering a delectable first glimpse of gay life and love for countless gay men. Throughout the 1980s and 1990s, it has remained an essential reference for gay men worldwide.

    The changes to gay life over the past decade, for better and for worse, are reflected in this fully revised and expanded new third edition. Noted psychologist Dr. Charles Silverstein has teamed up once again with critically acclaimed novelist Felice Picano, updating every single entry and adding nearly thirty new entries. The authors have succeeded in bringing the book up to date for a new century and a new generation of readers while maintaining its signature brand of positive, permissive, and responsible advice.

    Invaluable as a sex guide, a resource on building self-esteem, and a coming-out guide for young gay men, The Joy of Gay Sex covers the ins and outs of gay life alphabetically from "anus" to "wrestling." The authors continue to provide advice about safe sex in all of its varieties, from techniques and positions to fostering intimacy and creativity in relationships. They also address the many emotional and relationship-oriented issues in gay life, such as loneliness, depression, and letting go. Expanded entries provide cutting-edge health information on the newest treatments for HIV, strategies for avoiding STDs, and tips for getting the best care from your doctor.

    The Joy of Gay Sex serves as a general reference on a number of diverse topics important to gay life and culture, ranging from the history of the gay rights movement to the history of condoms, from body decoration to spirituality. Scores of new entries address topics such as on-line dating, cosmetic surgery, coming out at work, sexual harassment, and much more. Acclaimed artist Joseph Phillips spices up the proceedings with fifty new illustrations.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Must read!!! LOTS of info!
    I absolutely loved this book! It was chalk-full of clearly presented, mostly objective information. There wasnt preachy like some books can be... It was very objective, gave u the option of assigning ur own opinion... The only preachiness was of things that could be hazardous to your physical/mental health. The authors have a very optimistic attitude toward sex, which is extremely refreshing, and they basically say that if you follow safe sex guidelines and avoid people, places, and situations that might cause unsafe sex, u can lead a satisfying and healthy sex life.
    This book is a must read for anyone new to the gay scene as it provides information on a wide variety of topics and makes u aware of certain scenes and practices and risks associated with them. I found the information on AIDS and HIV and also the section on STD's VERY helpful. It cleared up many questions I had and debunked all the false info.
    I especially enjoyed this book as it was written in part by a psychologist, and so the information was given in a kind of psychologically logical way. Since many of the sections dealt with sexual practices, they are behaviours and the author presented them as such and goes into possible sources for these behaviours and preferences.
    I enjoyed the illustrations even thought they were only pencil illustrations. They were exceptionally done and I actually got turned on by them LoL
    Also the Appendix supplied me with many useful resources for other books and helpful organizations for future reference.
    This book is full of helpful information and advice and, again, I highly recommend this book to anyone new to the gay scene, or even just as a reference. This book has become an invaluable reference for me, and I hope it becomes the same for all of you as well!

    2-0 out of 5 stars So, so...
    This book offers some nice information, but to subculture, sex-centered gays. I was really disappointed at some topics such as bisexuality and sex with animals!!! Thats not what I expect in my gay sex. So clearly, buy this book ONLY if your life revolves around sex. I now regret I bought this book.

    2-0 out of 5 stars There is much better out there
    I picked up a copy of the first edition originally published in 1977 years ago at a used bookstore, mainly for some of the drawings. Alas, the text was so awful that I finally had to sell it since I couldn't bear to have it in my library any longer. This new edition is worse as the text is virtually verbatim from the original but now even most of the pictures are unattractive! Far from being an objective reference book on gay sex the original (and this revision) had a very strong agenda...namely selling the promiscuous casual-sex gay lifestyle the authors saw as liberating. Entries on long term partners or couples was brief and halfhearted but entries on watersports, rimming, fisting, etc. were extensive. From the authors writing style one would gather that anyone not into these esoteric practices just wasn't opening themselves up to their true desires. The real problem though is that instead of having a nice, long entry on say anal sex, covering both it's history and all the issues, The Joy of Gay Sex is more interested in cramming in every weird, esoteric "gay" practice that it can in order to be called definitive. There are new entries that were not present in the original like 'shaving' but rather than state the facts the authors go off in some of the most rhapsodically purple-prose of the book about how wonderful the practice is. Then the authors belittle and put-down the promising trend toward a lighter-skinned physical ideal for us caucasions rather than the leathery sun-tanned look so popular in years past. This in spite of years of evidence showing how damaging all that sunbathing is for those of us of caucasion ancestry. So much for objectivity.

    The best gay sex manual ever written was published by Gay Sunshine Press the same year as the original Joy of Gay Sex in 1977 and is also still in print. It has beautiful illustrations and a joyous, loving, holistic writing style. There is another gay sex glossary published by Alyson which is also very good and again, with wonderfully sexy drawings. Now yes, these other books deal with casual sex as well but they don't sell it with the relentlessly aggressive manner that this book does. If watersports, fisting and living the most stereotypical sort of gay "lifestyle" is what you want this book will likely fit the bill. For the rest of us, there are wonderful other books out there.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Satisfied
    I sat down and flipped through this book after I bought it. While I didn't need or use all the information in this book, it has definately proved usefull.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Loved it!!!
    Loved it better than Cats and more stimulating than Pottery Barn!!! ... Read more


    16. Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality: A New Clinical Approach
    by Joseph Nicolosi
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    Asin: 0765701421
    Catlog: Book (1997-10-01)
    Publisher: Jason Aronson
    Sales Rank: 316586
    Average Customer Review: 2.78 out of 5 stars
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    "This book explores a reparative psychotherapy based on an understanding of the development of gender identity, offering to help the non-gay homosexual, that is, one who is unhappy with his sexual orientation." ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Don' t let reviewers scare you away!
    Evidently some reviewers are writing without having read the book. Dr. Nicolosi does NOT assert that recovery from homosexuality is impossible, but that one should go through therapy anyway, as another reviewer asserts. Even a reading of the book's title should have made this obvious(!). This flagrant misrepresentation of Dr. Nicolosi's work should serve as a caution to those trying to find information on this sensative subject. Emotions run so high that one hardly dares trust any of the reviews --SO-- get the book and read it for yourself. If you've come this far seeking answers, you owe it to yourself not to be detered by the venomous rhetoric of those so uncomfortable with their own sexuality that that they cannot stand the existence of differing points of view, particularly when backed by science, experience, and success, as are Dr. Nicolosi's.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Reparative Therapy for Homophobia
    I wrote this review for another book on Amazon, but it certainly applies to this book. Unlike many reviewers I did read this book.

    If you are struggling with homosexuality or want to help someone that is, do not read this book. I read this book when I was going through "reparative therapy". Not only does this so-called "therapy" not work for most people, it is quite harmful. I should know, I nearly committed suicide several times during the "treatment". What really needs to be cured is the homophobia among the religious community.

    Thankfully I am still alive and happily married to a wonderful man. I can tell you that things will get better as you accept and love this part of you. God made you gay for a reason and loves you that way. Concentrate on becoming a better, more loving person and changing things in your life that actually need changing.

    1-0 out of 5 stars a dangerous sham
    I am a former patient of Dr. Nicolosi and have obviously read this book, which is a collection of dangerous lies. Dangerous? Says who? Try the APA, AMA and American Association of Pediatrics. Nicolosi lays out a respectable argument homosexuality can be cured, but neglects to justify WHY it should other than relying on the readers own inner homophobia. There's nothing the least bit clinical about that. This book is absolute trash and that should be kept away from the youth of America.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Thoughtful, profound
    I am a formerly homosexually active male who embraced celibacy due to a religious conversion to reformation christianity. This book is making me begin to think that I may be able to move beyond celibacy to heterosexual expression. I found this book so "on the money" (at least in my own case) that I needed to read it in small sections in order to absorb all that it had to offer. If you embrace the gay lifestyle, this book will be like waving a red flag to a bull. If you have rejected that lifestyle because it goes against your faith, morals, and desire for family or because you desire a wholesome life in the heterosexual/judaeo-christian community, this book will be a blessing. I'm not saying that this book will eliminate your same sex feelings. I will only say that I have experienced some profound insights and that it has thrown a great deal of light on my issues so that what once seemed permanently ingrained may now be more of a matter of working through some important growth in areas of my life that I did not know even existed. I know that many gay men will be angry at this book. This book came to me at a moment when God had cleaned my life up and when I was ready and open for its message. It is having a profound effect on my way of thinking. How this will work out in my life remains to be seen.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Blasphemous
    The book blasphemes. It assumes homosexuality stems from a bad relationship with the father. And: if you choose to be openly gay you have to live the "gay lifestyle." And: homosexuality is something to "repair." And: something is wrong with your masculinity if you're gay.

    Hey folks, you can be gay and not live "the gay lifestyle." I HATE the gay lifestyle and I'm gay! I hate the vapid gay pride parades, the endless preening of gym queens, the self-loathing barebackers and germ chasers, and the utter failure of all HIV organizations, especially the gay-identified ones.

    I live in New York but avoid the pretentious gay ghetto. I have a boyfriend whom I love and who loves me. My dad and I are buddies. My boyfriend and I are HIV-negative and monogamous. I have a job and I pay taxes. There's nothing to repair - except the subway system!

    Don't fool yourself: Nicolosi is basically making a name - and big bucks - for himself. It's the American thing to do.

    Don't torment yourself, either. It's post-9/11 and we have better things to do. Let's all be gay.

    And let's change the discussion from "what is masculinity?" to "what is humanity?" ... Read more


    17. Ultimate Gay Sex
    by Michael Thomas Ford
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    Asin: 0789496976
    Catlog: Book (2004-05-01)
    Publisher: DK Publishing Inc
    Sales Rank: 33483
    Average Customer Review: 3.33 out of 5 stars
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    Elegant, sexy, provocative, and infinitely informative, this richly illustrated manual celebrates and explores every aspect of gay sex in over 300 photographs, from coming out, cruising, kinks, and one-night stands to staying healthy, finding a partner, and nurturing a relationship. Although the author never shies away from tough issues in gay life, he focuses on all the delightful permutations of good sex, including a range of exciting positions, many of them photographed for the first time. ... Read more

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    2-0 out of 5 stars Glossy and Superficial
    Gay sex is so mainstream that banality has set in and the kinds of ordinary books that heterosexuality has been plagued with has entered the gay market. (...).....Men Loving Men would be my preference and it is so much cheaper.....the illustrations in this book are so bland that I ached for the line drawings of other books....all in all this book was so pedestrian in such a high-gloss format that the triumph of form over substance was apparent on every page

    5-0 out of 5 stars Much more than a how-to
    Michael Thomas Ford has accomplished something in this beautiful, inpsiring book that has not been achieved by any other sex guide for gay men--provided solid information on achieving a great sex life while emphasizing that sex is not the most important part of a gay man's life. Where other books attempt to detail every conceivable sex act, Ford's focuses on what really makes for satisfying sex, exploring what makes you and your partner happy. An earlier reviewer complained that there weren't enough "techniques" described in the book. This misses the point. Techniques are not what make for great sex (having sex isn't that difficult, after all), and Ford discusses this with insight and humor, explaining that exploring your sexuality is more about having open communication with your partners (and with yourself) than it is about outlining where to put what. Ultimately his advice is much more useful than any step-by-step instructions. I found this book to be incredibly refreshing. The text is first-rate and the photos are hot. This easily replaces The Joy Of Gay Sex as the bible of gay male sexuality.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Not a How-To Book
    A beautiful coffee table book, with high-quality photographs, but not very explicite. If you really want to learn more about gay sexual techniques, this book is not for you. ... Read more


    18. Threesome: How to Fulfill Your Favorite Fantasy
    by Lori Gammon, Bill Strong
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    Asin: 0965071669
    Catlog: Book (1997-09-01)
    Publisher: Triad Pr Inc
    Sales Rank: 70441
    Average Customer Review: 4.26 out of 5 stars
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    For those who fantasize about the erotic delights of a menage a trois ..., Lori Gammon welcomes you into her uninhibited world. With fiveyears of research and her own intimate adventures as a guide, Loriexplains bisexual women and what they want. Then she lays out acarefully-crafted plan that allows men and women, married or single, toexplore sensual pleasures most cannot imagine. She teaches women how toarrange and enjoy any combination of attractive men and willing women.Girlfriends discover how to seduce each other without fear ofembarrassment or rejection. Men are taught to delicately andsensitively fan their lover's secret passions and lead their wives ontonew frontiers.

    Lori explains why shy women can't openly admit theywant a threesome; she then reveals magic techniques that open afloodgate of eager feminine desire. Singles learn what bi women lookfor in potential partners. Couples learn why bi-curious women actuallyNEED your help to fulfill their fantasies.

    With her detailed planas a road map, you'll master the skills to find, identify and recruityour choice of willing partners. Discover how easy it can be with anexperienced bisexual beauty as your guide and mentor. Use her simpleadvice to make yourself appealing to bi women. Learn exactly what tosay and when to say it for maximum impact. More importantly, Lori warnsyou how to avoid words and actions that instantly squelch bisexualdesire. As a free bonus, she offers you the secret code words that biwomen use to identify new partners. If you are serious about theincredible possibilities of a threesome, this is the only book everwritten that explains exactly how to finally fulfill your favoritefantasy. If you can handle the most dramatic change your sex life willever take, order Threesome today! ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Great For All Female Relationships -- Not Just Threesomes
    Believe it or not, even though I haven't yet managed to have a threesome after reading this book (although I'd like to think that I'm getting closer), I have managed to improve my relationships with almost all of the women in my life (including my wife, my wife's friends, my female relatives, and even my mother), and I now go to lunch much more frequently with some of the prettiest girls in my office.

    "Threesome" by Lori Gammon explains that one of the biggest challenges to fulfilling this ultimate fantasy is the successful romancing of women -- which is accomplished by helping women deal with their insecurities and making them feel good about themselves (good advice not just for getting women into your bed but for dealing with women in general).

    The seduction of women should be accomplished, as recommended by co-author, Bill Strong, "one small bite at a time." As I've practiced this advice, I've found that escalating relationships one bite at a time is actually easier -- with less pressure for immediate results -- and much more fun.

    I wish I had found this book years ago. I would probably have stronger and deeper relationships with all of the women in my life -- including my wife. And, who knows, maybe I would've already had a successful threesome by now.

    In the meantime, I'll just keep on practicing the techniques suggested by Lori and Bill -- and wait for "Ms. Right" to come along.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Realistic, practical, truthful, useful!
    I've have never, ever found a book on relationships that I could stand behind until this one came along! THREESOME IS THE ONLY BOOK ON RELATIONSHIPS I RECOMMEND. The advice rings true and corresponds with my menage a trois experiences. Except for two, every young woman I dated for more than a few months revealed she was bi-curious or had sexual encounters with other young women. Threesome was written by someone who has been there and done that for 15 years! Her chapters on seduction, alone, are worth the price of the book.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Read this book with your companion.....
    Wow! What a wake-up call. This book is an absolute must read for ALL men and women everywhere, even if you have no intention of ever pursuing a threesome. Lori Gammon is superb in disclosing how women really think (which my wife affirmed) and how men SHOULD think and behave. Lori's lightening bolts of wisdom will help you improve on existing relationships and establish new ones in the proper manner. She primarily speaks to women but occasionally targets male readers so it beehooves everyone to carefully read the entire book (and not skip around).

    I feel compelled to disclose a couple examples for men which struck me as great revelations. One is that men with spouses or girlfriends must stop flirting with other women because it makes you appear less attractive. Also for men, most triple XXX videos give us the wrong idea about threesomes. Lori reports that contrary to popular belief, the "King" Menage a Trois (one man/two women)is NOT all about the man; it's all about the women! Simply beholding the spectacle of a wife or girlfriend with another woman would be sufficient to catapault a man's libido into orbit. Watch it put Viagra out of business!

    Read this book with your spouse or girlfriend so you can discuss the points as they're brought up. You'll both experience quite an awakening. Hat's off to Lori Gammon!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Best book on Threesomes
    I'll keep this simple. The book was very helpful for both my wife and myself. Since it was written by a woman, Lori takes in the concerns of a woman. As far as helping a man guide his way to this experience the book gave direction, wisdom, and good advice. I would recommend this book to anyone in search of this experience or for a woman who is BI curious and needs some good advice and how to have a good first experience. Thanks Lori!

    5-0 out of 5 stars very helpful information
    For several years, i have wanted to experiment with a relationship between myself and two women.I had not been successful, to to my nervousness, and my inability to express my self properly to the women i was interested in. After reading Threesome, and re-reading it, I gained an understanding of a womans point of view, as well as more confidence in my own desires. I have finally been able to realize my fantasy, and i believe my eventual success was due to the knowledge I gained in reading this book. I strongly recommend it to anyone wishing to expand their sexual experiences ... Read more


    19. The Children Are Free: Reexamining the Biblical Evidence on Same-sex Relationships
    by Jeff Miner, John Tyler Connoley, David Squire, Rev. Jeff Miner
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    Asin: 0971929602
    Catlog: Book (2002-04-02)
    Publisher: Jesus Metropolitan Community Church
    Sales Rank: 58013
    Average Customer Review: 4.38 out of 5 stars
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    In The Children Are Free, Rev. Jeff Miner and John Tyler Connoley offer a comprehensive yet easy-to-read examination of the biblical evidence regarding loving same-sex relationships and God's attitude toward them.

    In Chapter One, the authors lead the reader through a discussion of each of the six passages traditionally used against gay, lesbian, and bisexual people. In their friendly and authoritative style, they demonstrate how an anti-gay interpretation is a misapplication of these scriptures.

    Then, in Chapter Two, Miner and Connoley turn our attention to the biblical stories and passages that affirm loving same-sex relationships. Did you know Jesus once met a gay person? Jesus' loving response is just one of the well-researched stories presented in this chapter.

    Chapter Three asks readers to take seriously the call of Jesus to think more deeply about biblical rules. And Chapter Four calls Christians to action, making a connection between the conflicts in the early Church and those occurring within the Church today.

    This book belongs in the library of any Christian questioning the role of Scripture in the lives of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people, or the role of GLB people in the Church. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Best book to open Christians eyes about Bible and gay people
    This compact and readble book shows convincingly that the mainstream anti-gay sentiment in the church is based on a misreading of the Bible and of Jesus. But that's just the first chapter. The book goes on to show same-sex relationships affirmed by the Bible. It shows how Jesus' own approach -- affirming people over rules -- calls for Christians to embrace gay people as good, and part of God's creation. If you are a Christian with a lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender relative or friend, you owe it to yourself to read this wonderful book. You will then want to buy a stack of them and give them to your friends and church, as I have just done. Slim, well-argued, to the point, and complete, it is the best book for this purpose I have found.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The Children are Free
    For any Christian who wonders if the Episcopal Church did the holy thing by elevating an openly gay Priest to Bishop, for every Christian who questions if God loves and accepts homosexuals, for all Christians who wonder what Jesus would say about same-sex relationships, this book is the is the answer. Excellent! It is a well researched, clearly written and concisely presented investigation of what the Bible has to say about these confusing and often perplexing questions. Recommended as required reading for every Christian parishoner and Pastor. Especially inspiring for those who have ever experienced rejection by the Church.

    4-0 out of 5 stars concise and well argued
    This short book is a great resource if you're looking for an easy to read apologetic for pro-gay theology. Many of the most convincing, progressive answers to the old clobber passages are found here, as well as intriguing arguments that the scriptures may in fact support loving, same-sex relationships.

    1-0 out of 5 stars SEEKS TO LEGITIMIZE PERVERSION
    The goal of this book is to free guilt-ridden homosexuals from the unalterable tenets of God, thereby giving them license to continue in perversion. The Bible is crystal clear in its views on homosexuality. Homosexual activity is not to be engaged in, period. No society in recorded history has accepted this behavior for obvious reasons - the emotional and physical devastation it reeks on its participants and society at large is obvious. The Children Are Free and the plethora of like-minded books aptly chronical societal decline. From that standpoint they might have some value. However, flooding the market with such tomes will never legitimize the subject matter in the eyes of moral, clear-thinking adults.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Love Christ, hate the Christians
    This work is a breath of fresh air, dispersing the poisonous dogma of the "people of the Book." Perhaps by reading works like "The Children Are Free" we will come to our senses and realize that the institutional religions have long been co-opted by political forces into becoming engines of genocide, rather that paths to transformation and revelation. Now that Native peoples (and their cultures) have largely been exterminated, the Church continues to repress the natural man in all of us, enforcing its control by the repression of Love, which is ultimately our only redemption. Thank you, Jeff Miner, for helping set that Love free. The only thing I would add is to recommend some works that back up this book: The Gnostic Gospels by Elaine Pagels and Lovers' Legends by Andrew Calimach, a book about the gay Greek myths, which illuminate the spiritual foundation of gay love. ... Read more


    20. Wet : True Lesbian Sex Stories
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    Asin: 1555837662
    Catlog: Book (2002-12-01)
    Publisher: Alyson Publications
    Sales Rank: 14259
    Average Customer Review: 3.75 out of 5 stars
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    Intense and vibrantly real lesbian erotica in the spirit of Skin Deep, these quick and dirty true stories revel in hot lesbian sex. As they peek into the diary of a very busy (and very bad) girl, readers will be panting hungrily as women from around the world reveal their most intimate lesbian encounters.

    Nicole Foster edited the best-selling books, Skin Deep, Awakening the Virgin, Body Check, and Electric. She undresses in front of her window in Los Angeles.

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Very hot stuff
    I'm not even a lesbian (actually, I'm a guy) and I dug this book a lot. This is some good stuff -- no filler, just lots of steamy, graphically detailed (but genuinely erotic) sex -- none of that "her tenderness opened the flower of her lovingness" stuff readers of erotic literature know all too well here. A bit too much butch/femme roleplaying for my tastes (I fully support a woman's right to be named "Hank," but I don't necessarily need to see her having sex), but then, of course, this book wasn't intended for me. Good stories, recommended.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Wow
    The stories in this book are overwhelmingly hot. Good, solid storytelling, excellent dialogue. Juicy plots. Makes me yearn for a sequel. WETTER, anyone?

    5-0 out of 5 stars Hot, Hot, Hot!
    Nicole Foster never fails to excite me with her books--and WET is no exception. It's filled with hot, juicy stories of lesbian desire and sensuality. Makes a great companion book to her excellent SKIN DEEP. In fact, it might be even better! I definitely learned a thing or two reading it, and I've been a lesbian a loooong time! Buy it! You won't be disappointed.

    1-0 out of 5 stars damp maybe, but not wet
    not the best collection of erotica i've read by a long shot. most of the stories are poorly written, even if they do deliver the sex promised. they're very amateur-level stories, with no consideration for narrative flow, or dialogue or any of the other things needed to make an erotica piece a WELL-WRITTEN erotica piece.

    if sex is what you're looking for, this is okay. otherwise, move on to another collection. ... Read more


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