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    1. Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life's Greatest Lesson
    by Mitch Albom
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    Asin: 076790592X
    Catlog: Book (2002-10-08)
    Publisher: Broadway
    Sales Rank: 111
    Average Customer Review: 4.42 out of 5 stars
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    Maybe it was a grandparent, or a teacher, or a colleague.Someone older, patient and wise, who understood you when you were young and searching, helped you see the world as a more profound place, gave you sound advice to help you make your way through it.

    For Mitch Albom, that person was Morrie Schwartz, his college professor from nearly twenty years ago.

    Maybe, like Mitch, you lost track of this mentor as you made your way, and the insights faded, and the world seemed colder.Wouldn't you like to see that person again, ask the bigger questions that still haunt you, receive wisdom for your busy life today the way you once did when you were younger?

    Mitch Albom had that second chance.He rediscovered Morrie in the last months of the older man's life.Knowing he was dying, Morrie visited with Mitch in his study every Tuesday, just as they used to back in college.Their rekindled relationship turned into one final "class": lessons in how to live.

    Tuesdays with Morrie is a magical chronicle of their time together, through which Mitch shares Morrie's lasting gift with the world. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Tuesday's With Morrie
    This year for my seventh grade Language Arts class, we were supposed to choose a book and then critique it. I chose Tuesdays With Morrie after selecting it from a dusty bookshelf in my brother's room. Personally, I loved the book; it had a deeper meaning of life that i had never considered before. Some of my favorite quotes from the book have stuck with me like the one, "Love eachother or perish," The book is about a former college student, and his favorite professor. It all begins sixteen years after graduation when Mitch Albom finds himself watching his beloved college instructor on Nightling with Ted Koppel. Morrie has become a victum of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), also known as Lou Gehrig's disease, leaving his body withered and sagging. Mitch visits Morrie one day and what starts as a reunion of old friends turns into the project of a lifetime. Now, I don't want to spoil anything, but the lessons that Morrie teaches to Mitch on their Tuesdays together will stay with him all of his life. I would recommend this book to anyone. If you are looking for enlightenment, deep thinking, and a true story, you've come to the right book. On a scale from one to ten, i would give Tuesdays With Morrie a nine and a half.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Must Read!
    Tuesdays with Morrie is definitely one of the best books that I've ever read. Once I picked it up, I couldn't stop until I found myself on the last page. Although the book is very short, nearly every page carries a message. It's purpose is to teach us a lesson; that was Morrie's final goal. He wanted to create this one last thesis with one of his favorite students, Mitch Albom, that would give people insight into how to live their lives and what it feels like to die. In this book, not only do we learn from Morrie (who died from ALS) how to live life to the fullest, but we learn from Mitch's mistakes as well. All too often we get caught up in our fast paced culture that we forget to stop and look around and actually enjoy things.

    Mitch Albom uses a unique approach to get his old professor's message out. When I was reading this, I couldn't help but feel like Morrie was speaking right to me. The book could relate to anyone; it covers so many topics from love and life to death and trying to live even when death is knocking on the door.

    I highly recommend reading Tuesdays with Morrie. You can't help but love Morrie by the end of the book, and like me, you might even tear up at the end a little.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Beautiful
    <br /> Beautiful and touching, inspirational and rich. A book that not only teaches but makes you feel. <br /> Also recommended: Nightmares Echo by Katlyn Stewart, Running With Scissors by Augusten Burroughs,The Five People You Meet In Heaven by Mitch Albom

    4-0 out of 5 stars Have A Tissue Ready
    Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom is beautifully written. It is also an easily read and understandable. The fact that it's a true story makes it even more touching. So have some tissue ready :) . Morrie was a real person. He helped so many people during his life, and now, because of Mitch, he will touch many more after death. I strongly recommend reading this book if you are afraid of death.

    There is also another book here on Amazon I have found that I highly recommend on life after death, or between death that has given me a lot to think about. It is called The book of Thomas by Daniel Aber and Gabreael. In their book everything from the suicide, the different levels of heaven, reincarnation, and so on is covered also in an easily read format

    1-0 out of 5 stars I'm Embarrassed I Read This
    My younger brother had this on his summer reading list and I noticed it on his desk. Seeing it was pretty short I sat down and read it. I think the fact that my high school's English department recommended it should have been warning enough to avoid this book. In all seriousness, this is the worst book I have read in a LONG time.
    Even calling it a book is slightly misleading, because that usually implies some sort of literary value. It's about as literary as Life's Little Instruction Book, but far less insightful. Albom writes at about a 2nd grade reading level, in a ridiciulously simple shallow way rather than a Hemingwayesque style. Even more ridiculous is his constant use of immature, sentimental little gimmicks that I guess the Oprah-watching soccer moms giving this book a good review would call "touching and heartfelt". For example:
    "He waited while I absorbed it.
    A Teacher to the Last.
    "Good?" he said.
    Yes, I said. Very good.

    I would write something like that and be satisified with it when I was probably a freshman, and I really don't consider myself to be a talented writer. The whole Tuesday motif was also along those lines. Even more annoying was I lost count of the epiphanies Mitch has by about the 11th page. Highlight how many times he "suddenly realizes something about life". Don't be materialistic? Love other people? Is this really that breakthrough? I think Jesus said that about 2000 years ago, and most people agree he wasn't even that revolutionary(in moral philosophy that is.) Look at some of his other ridiculous "aphorisms":
    Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do.
    Learn to forgive yourself and forgive others.

    If I really felt like it, I could probably spew out about four thousand of those obvious, self-righteous statements in about 5 minutes.
    I also don't even see how Morrie was such a hero. In one scene, they tried to convince you that he was some hero for turning down some medicine that wouldn't have helped and, more importantly, wasn't even available. Wow. Not to mention, it's pretty easy to be so courageous about death when you have an amazing family supporting you. I wonder if he was half his age, alone with nobody to help him except some indifferent inner city hospital nurse if he would face death with such resilience and wit.
    What annoys me the most is how they planned writing this book before Morrie even died. Sounds like he just wanted to pay some bills. I mean, if they are planning to write a book about all these great moments Mitch realizes, of course he's going to have them(or pretend to) because he has to write a book about it! Furthermore, it's pretty arrogant that Morrie to think that he had some great noble truths to spread.
    This book has several more blatant flaws, but this review has a maxium word limit. So, I'll say if you like reading Chicken Soup for the Soul, and other empowering self-help books that like to constantly re-emphasize the obvious for $20, go ahead and buy this. If you are looking for an actual good book by someone who actually knows how to write, don't waste your time or the 40 minutes it takes to read this. ... Read more


    2. I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One
    by Brook Noel, Pamela D. Blair
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    Asin: 1891400274
    Catlog: Book (2000-03-01)
    Publisher: Champion Press (Mi)
    Sales Rank: 5276
    Average Customer Review: 4.54 out of 5 stars
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    Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member. The list of high visibility disasters, human suffering and sudden loss is long and will continue to grow. From TWA Flight 800 to Egypt Air, from Oklahoma City to Columbine, daily we face incomprehensible loss. Outside the publicized tragedies there are many families and individuals that are suffering behind closed doors in our neighborhoods, in our own homes, in hospital waiting rooms. Now for those who face the challenges of sudden death, there is a hand to hold. Both authors lost a loved one tragically. Noel's brother was stung by a bee and died instantly at age 27. Blair's husband died of a brain aneurysm. As they struggled to rebuild they found little printed material. I Wasn't Ready to Say Good-bye is the first book to devote all its pages to the unique challenges of sudden loss, written by two women who have walked the path. They cover such difficult topics as the first few we!eks, suicide, death of a child, when a body isn't found, children and grief, funerals and rituals, physical effects, homicide, depression and many others. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars EXCELLENT, well researched, helpful and comforting
    This is an excellent book on death, grief and loss. Sooner or later death will touch everyone's life. We may not all react the same but most will experience the stages of loss and grief from denial to acceptance. It can be a long often agonizing and lonely road to recovery. Sadly the impact of loss and death can leave many with a loss of their own will to live.

    This book does an excellent job of addressing a topic that most people choose not to address until they are directly confronted. I am an author of a children's book on death/loss/grief titled "ANGEL STACEY" and I personally know the impact on the loss of a spouse and raising young children who have lost a parent. This book is for the adult who struggles with their own feelings of loss and often has other family members to consider and to console.

    Grief has a tendency to creep up in the odd hours of the day and the night and can be overwhelming to those experiencing loss. To have a title, a book that you can reach out and grab at any hour offers comfort. I wish this title had been available sooner as it often was a book that comforted and calmed me most during my own deep dark hours of despair.

    Written from knowledge and from a place of understanding and guidance is sure to make this book a winner and a timeless treasure for anyone who has known a deep loss. It cannot take the pain and hurt away but it will help in the knowlege that those feelings are normal. Also that others have experienced the same and made it back to a seemingly normal existence. Death changes lives and changes people forever, many will grow and change for the better. I was never so humble and in essence never so pure and so good as I was immediately following the loss of my first husband and later the loss of my oldest daughter. It was only later with the anger and ultimately acceptance that I found myself once again on level ground. Death or loss can uproot your entire existence. This book is excellent and necessary.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A poignant and moving read
    A close friend recently died of breast cancer at age 33. The funeral home actually recommended this book to me. I think I had remembered seeing it on ABC World News. Anyway, it was a great recommendation. Pam and Brook cover every part of the grief process--from what to expect in the first few weeks and how to survive them, to how our world seems upside down and friendships changs, to the myths of grief, to blocks in our healing, to excercies that help, to resources--- I have purchase oved 30 books on grief and recovery and to date this is the most helpful. There is also a companion workbook that I picked up (has the same name but the words companion workbook are added) and I am in the process of re-reading the book while doing the exercises. I would recommend both to anyone who is experiencing grief, or who wants to better understand grief in order to help a friend or family member in need.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Grieving and Coping with loss, guidance for the survivors
    Just finished reading "I Wasn't Ready to Say Good Bye", a friend recommended the title to me. My 17-year-old son, Roman died in the prime of life and I didn't have a chance to say good bye. I found the book to be more than a reference, or quick handling of the matter, I identified with similar emotions, the kick in stomach when you are already emptied of air, and the loss of "clean" closure. This book offered perspectives and "normal" responses and actions for each stage of loss. It identifies and provides descriptions for your recognition and insight.

    I wanted to read every word, I felt we were joined, in a lot of ways, in our losses and I wanted the insight. The book is organized for easy handling and easy reading. You benefit from the experiences of the writers as they each experienced losses in their lives, and due to their losses, I find myself more apt to believe what they are writing about. A lot of practical advise, personal anecdotes, and references / citing to other works make for a full coverage and very helpful work. You may decide to want to explore a certain area more than others, great, they provide references for additional reading.

    This is a good book for counselors to have available for their own reference and to provide people with loss. When you have a loss of this nature, you will want the information covered in this book. When our son died, he went to be with God. My wife, other son and daughter all know that. We STILL needed to grieve. In the book, it covers the "loss" from various perspectives, I benefited from this section in that it made me more sensitive to how non-family people treated my son and daughter. We all lost Roman, not just his mother and I. Simple inquiries made to our children started isolating them from their own grieving. After reading the book, I focused on correcting and mending areas of communications between my children and "well meaning" people.

    If you have experienced loss, you need a book that gives you information and is readable at the same time. This book is it.

    3-0 out of 5 stars A recent reader
    This book addresses a very important issue -- the sudden death of a loved one. As it is one of few books that deal with this issue, it will be of interest to many who grieve over such a loss. I wish, however, that there were a more focused treatment of the topic than these authors provide. Also, the huge number of grammatical and punctuation errors were distracting.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Some helpful stories, but a little "out there" for my taste
    While reading the various first-hand accounts was helpful at times, I found myself put off by the author's frequent references to mediums, psychics, and "dream communication." I realize some people believe in this kind of stuff, but for me personally its just another form of escapism, and right now I'm trying to get back on track after the devastating loss of my mother. I don't think its helpful to try to convince myself that I can somehow communicate with her again. My dreams of my mother are my mind dealing with this loss, and I can welcome them and appreciate them without turning it into some delusion of actual contact with the "afterlife." That said, there was comfort to be taken from the stories of the losses experienced by others. It was good to be reminded that I'm not the only one going thru this, and I'm not crazy, just going thru a natural grieving process. I'm not sorry I read this book, but perhaps I would have checked it out from the library, as opposed to purchasing it. Surprisingly, the book I'm benefitting the most from is "Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames" by Thich Nhat Hanh. Its not specifically geared to healing after the loss of a loved one, but the techniques and philosophy are applicable and beneficial. ... Read more


    3. I Remember You: A Grief Journal
    by Laynee Gilbert
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    Asin: 0967896606
    Catlog: Book (2000-11-25)
    Publisher: L O a Pubns
    Sales Rank: 247880
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    For anyone who's lost a loved one, an exquisitely designed keepsake book of thoughtful quotes, comforting advice, and illustrated journal pages for preserving memories and writing through grief. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars beautiful
    This is a wonderful grief journal. Almost too nice to write in! It has some wonderful poetry and sayings throughout the journal pages. The intro has tips on how to get the most from journaling - encouraging the expression of emotions.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A precious companion through grief
    When my young sister died suddenly, I was devastated. I wandered into a bookstore and somehow found this book. Although it is a journal, I didn't intend to write in the book when I bought it. I just wanted to read the quotes on life, loss and grieving on each page. They really captured my many complex and painful feelings. Now, several years later, I still remember "The presence of that absence is everywhere." The quotes were also short, which helped when grief prevented me from focusing on anything for long.

    I did end up writing in the book, and drawing pictures, and inserting stickers and poems she would have liked. It has been my companion through this grief. And now it's a treasured momento with stories of her life and our relationship.

    I hope it will be reprinted soon but, if not, it is worth special ordering.

    5-0 out of 5 stars This journal provides and inspires a place to begin to heal.
    I lost my Mother to cancer nine weeks ago and I miss her so much. This journal has helped me start to express some of my thoughts and feelings that I can't talk about with anyone else. The pages are filled with thoughts and quotes that are very comforting. Some are sad,but very fitting for me at this time. I pick this up and write my thoughts and memories whenever I need to. I keep it with me at all times, if possible. Sometimes I just circle or underline a quote. I would recommend this to anyone that has experienced a loss and needs an outlet. ... Read more


    4. The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying: The Spiritual Classic & International Bestseller; Revised and Updated Edition
    by Sogyal Rinpoche, Patrick D. Gaffney, Andrew Harvey
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    Asin: 0062508342
    Catlog: Book (1994-04-22)
    Publisher: HarperSanFrancisco
    Sales Rank: 3866
    Average Customer Review: 4.72 out of 5 stars
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    In 1927, Walter Evans-Wentz published his translation of an obscure Tibetan Nyingma text and called it the Tibetan Book of the Dead. Popular Tibetan teacher Sogyal Rinpoche has transformed that ancient text, conveying a perennial philosophy that is at once religious, scientific, and practical. Through extraordinary anecdotes and stories from religious traditions East and West, Rinpoche introduces the reader to the fundamentals of Tibetan Buddhism, moving gradually to the topics of death and dying. Death turns out to be less of a crisis and more of an opportunity. Concepts such as reincarnation, karma, and bardo and practices such as meditation, tonglen, and phowa teach us how to face death constructively. As a result, life becomes much richer. Like Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Sogyal Rinpoche opens the door to a full experience of death. It is up to the reader to walk through. --Brian Bruya ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A necessary read for seekers...
    My bookshelves are filled with books on many topics, including death and dying and spirituality -- this book might be the only book I really need.

    For years I have thought I must read the Tibetan Book of the Dead -- but whenever I tried, it was much too complicated for me to understand.

    Sogyal Rinpoche has written this book so that it is easily understood by anyone, even us Westerners, without compromising any of the Buddhist teachings it offers.

    In essence, we begin to die the moment we are born. We spend this life preparing to die well. Nothing is permanent, but we spend much of our lives filling our time with activities and pursuits that help us elude ourselves into thinking that what we see and touch is all that matters.

    Sogyal Rinpoche says, "To follow the path of wisdom has never been more urgent or more difficult. Our society is dedicated almost entirely to the celebration of ego, with all its sad fantasies about success and power, and it celebrates those very forces of greed and ignorance that are destroying the planet. It has never been more difficult to hear the unflattering voice of the truth, and never more difficult, once having heard it, to follow it: because there is nothing in the world around us that supports our choice, and the entire society in which we live seems to negate every idea of sacredness or eternal meaning. So at the time of our most acute danger, when our very future is in doubt, we as human beings find ourselves at our most bewildered, and trapped in a nightmare of our own creation."

    He writes about the importance of realizing the interconnectedness of all living beings (including nature), of meditation (and gives instructions and advice), of finding and being devoted to a good master (something very difficult for Westerners to accept -- he acknowledges that there are fraudulent ones about), of learning to live and learning to die, of letting go of egos and becoming egolessness. Throughout the book, he tells of female masters as well as males, something female readers may greatly appreciate.

    Sogyal Rinpoche is from Tibet, and speaks of the cruelty of the Chinese to the Tibetan Buddhists (very similar to the persecution of the early christians, and later the Jews by the Nazis -- when will we ever learn, but then that's the point of this book!)

    In the last section of the book, he speaks of "The Universal Process" which is about spirituality, living and dying of all humans, regardless of race, spiritual beliefs, gender or national origin. There are in the back two mantras with explanations and he shares photographs of his beloved masters. Throughout the book are inspiring poems from such poets as Rumi and St. Francis of Assisi, as well as Buddhists. In the very back he gives suggested readings, and offers phone numbers and addresses of Rigpa National Office, where those who are interested can find referrals to cources and study groups in the US, Canada and around the world.

    This book is a very good place for the seeker to begin. For those curious about Buddhism, or seriously interested in becoming a Buddha or a Buddhist, or just looking for more thoughts and information on death and dying, this book is excellent, easy to understand, thought-provoking.

    5-0 out of 5 stars a must for a Buddhist library
    This book fully captures the essence of Tibetan Buddhism. I don't claim to be an authority on the subject, but I was born into a Buddhist household that has remained faithful and reverent to both Mahayana and Hiyana traditions of Buddhism. From the information I've had passed on to me by both family and Tibetan Buddhist clergy, this book has never been contradictory to anything lecture I've heard. In fact, everybody seems to recommend it enthusiastically!

    Essentially, according to Tibetan Buddhism, the purpose of living is to cultivate the mind and purify the body and soul to prepare for death. Westerners may, at first glance, find this philosophy morbid. However, we must remember that reincarnation is integral to Buddhist text (and most world religions, for that matter; the 'one life' theory is actually relatively new). Death is explained as a transitional period, like the end of a chapter to a book. To waste away ones life is like wasting away all your money without care for the future. Basically, this philosophy heavily emphasizes living in the present with thoughtfulness and offers a plethora of Buddhist insight into life and death. It also stresses the urgency of cultivation in a day and age when we disregard life, old age, and disease as trivial matters and nothing that science cannot combat.

    The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying is written by a Rinpoche. For those who are not familiar with Tibetan titles, a Lama is essentially a monk who has abandond wordly comforts for a spiritual pursuit, and a Rinpoche is a recognized reincarnation of an esteemed Lama.

    If you are a Buddhist, I highly recommend this book. It is enlightening, insightful, and an absolute must in any Buddhist library. Whether you follow the traditions of Chinese Buddhism, Zen or Chan, take the Amitabha or Guan Yin approach, etc., as a fellow Buddhist to another, you should not go without having this book. It's available in Chinese, as well, for the Buddhists out there who are more adept at Chinese than English.

    For seekers, this is a wonderful guide, as well. The best part with any book as wonderful as this is that everytime you read it, you'll find new insight in the words. Beginners and established Buddhists alike will take in much insight.

    I also highly recommend this to Buddhists who are unfamiliar with the Tibetan traditions. The Tibetan texts will open a whole new door for you. I know from personal experience, because my mother (who is the spiritual leader of the family) was originally a student of Chinese Buddhism, but after reading this book, our entire family discovered a whole other arena of philosophies that have done nothing but enrich our practices.

    So whether you're already a Buddhist wishing to broaden your knowledge, a Buddhist who would like new material to absorb, or a seeker who is just curious of the fundamentals of Tibetan Buddhism, this book is definitely a must.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Good book but
    This book was not really written by Sogyal Rimpoche. It was mainly written by Harvey mentioned as a secondary author (or someone else called Paul Harvey). This information comes to me via a Tibetan Buddhist who sponsored Sogyal Rimpoche's arrival and settling down in the UK. As a reviewer at Amazon.com and a Buddhist practitioner who has met Sogyal, I stand by the above statement. The informant was quite sure though the communication was provided under informal circumstances.

    Before I continue, in the publishing world it is probably not uncommon for books to be "authored" by one person but actually written by another. Jefferey Archer's editor or some other editors often may have written a book under the umbrella of a lucrative author.

    Sogyal Rimpoche has started Rigpa and earns a lot of money. His disciples carry cash in suitcases (I gathered from the above source and am not surprised after attending one of Sogyal's retreats). He was disowned by or he disowned Dujom Rimpoche his teacher. Sogyal is fond of quoting his familial links and relationship to Dujom or the Dalai Lama and is regarded as some sort of incarnation (aren't we all?). Sogyal Rimpoche was informed that he was not mature enough to teach in the Nyngma tradition and was asked to return to Tibet. He refused.

    Harvey kept the fee and Sogyal harvests the royalties.

    This book is a cherry picked slice of Tibet's greatest teachings with highlights on death, rebirth, compassion incorporating practices somewhat external to a principal Tibetan source text on death and rebirth which forms the basis of the book. It is recommended reading before you go on a Sogyal retreat boosting sales. The book is not especially deep and designed to appeal. Small wonder it attracts few detractors.

    It reads rather well I suppose and Rimpoche remains a charismatic teacher. As long as you don't swallow it lock, stock and smoking barrel.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Exoteric
    All of the above reviews that I have sampled, are falling into a trap many 'western' philosophers get caught in. The psychologist Jung saw only the exoteric meaning. This is not a book on the act of actually dying physically, it is all a metaphor to confuse the non-initiates. The book is about ego-loss, specifically 'non-game ectasy' ego-loss. It is the death dying and rebirth of the ego. The 3 bardo's just represent states that are commonly encountered in the journey. The goal is to die, transcend briefly, and then the ego is reborn and the choice lies in ascending to a higher state (permanent growth) or to go to a lower level (or the same/similiar). That is the esoteric meaning, the entire book is metaphorical, if you aren't aquainted with altered consciousness then you will be lost. Useful in psychadelic ego-loss as well.

    The book itself is an excellent guide, I recommend strongly to pick up a version of The book of the dead if you seek consciousness alteration, and/or ego-loss.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Humorous, Insightful...Yet Quite Ambiguous
    This is a book which is extremely difficult to review due to the vast wealth of knowledge contained within the actual text. Sogyal Rinpoche was raised by some of the most prolific Tibetan teachers of modern times, the most well known may well have been Jamyang Khyentse Chokyi Lodro. He had been an authority on all of the traditions of Tibet and a leader in the so called, "non partisan" movement. At any rate, this book does a lot of things for us. Rinpoche explores and explains the difficult and esoteric teachings of the famous Holy Text "The Tibetan Book of the Dead" to us, as well as some most interesting autobiographical looks at his own life. The most important thing to keep in mind when reading this book, is that it's as much about life as it is about death. Sogyal Rinpoche has a great sense of humor, something that is almost a necessity when explaining texts like this to the modern reader; it helps take the edge off of the weighty material at hand. The one and only reason I gave this book four stars is that indeed many of the issues explored are very cryptic; as some reviewers have pointed out. Some of it merely must be taken in with a grain of salt. But all around it is absolutely a worthwhile read that I would not hesitate to recommend to anyone. Enjoy! ... Read more


    5. Final Gifts : Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying
    by MAGGIE CALLANAN, PATRICIA KELLEY
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    Asin: 0553378767
    Catlog: Book (1997-02-03)
    Publisher: Bantam
    Sales Rank: 2906
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    Five years after its first publication, with more than 150,000 copies in print, Final Gifts has become a classic. In this moving and compassionate book, hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years experience tending the terminally ill.

    Through their stories we come to appreciate the near-miraculous ways in which the dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments; we also discover the gifts--of wisdom, faith, and love--that the dying leave for the living to share.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars An Absolute Must Read
    A friend of my mother sent us this book while we were spending the final weeks of my father's life taking care of him at home. We had hospice services but they came nowhere near touching on our emotional needs as caregivers. Mom was a nurse and intellectually knew what to expect physically through the dying process. This book helped both of us tremendously. Anyone going through caring and slowly losing someone with a terminal illness needs to read this book. It helps give you the courage to say what needs to be said. You'll still have grief but hopefully, less regrets and more understanding. Dad went through every phase of death, like textbook, as I had read in the book. He died on a Wednesday and we knew the weekend before it would be his last weekend with us. Giving final gifts is the last opportunity to give the best of your love to someone while you still can. This is a book to keep extra copies of to give to someone who needs it when you don't know exactly what to say.

    5-0 out of 5 stars If you read only one book on dying read this one!
    Written by hospice nurses with a lifetime of experience dealing with the dying, you are spared all the cliches about dying. This book trains us to be aware of the messages and information that the dying provide us with. The language of the dying is highly symbolic and indirect, often revealed through visions and dreams. Through dozens of case histories the authors teach by example how to interpret this information, and how to use it to provide the means for a peaceful death. Wonderful for learning how to improve communication with the dying. The book is also rich in background content with some history of hospice tossed in. This book had a truly transformative effect on me, something that I didn't think was possible!! I would really have missed out on some major personal growth if I hadn't read this book!! Extremely well written, this is one of those books that you just can't put down until you've done. I can't say that about any other book on death and dying I've come across.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Final Gifts - a must read book!
    I read the book on the year anniversary of my father's death. It was well-written. It was highly recommended by a colleague and is a very moving book written by these hospice nurses. A must read for BEFORE the dying process, but helpful for after the death of a loved one!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Helpful and comforting
    A friend gave this to me when my mother was dying at home with the wonderful help of Hospice workers. It helped us all get through each day with its gentle insights and good advice. Highly recommended.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Read BEFORE death is imminent... change lives and deaths
    "Final Gifts" was suggested to me after I spoke to an old friend who called to talk to me after being told he had a week to live. There were many gems within which helped me to communicate well with him and his wife (another close friend) in his final week of life.

    I am very grateful I was able to read this as my friend was dying instead of after he was gone. I strongly suggest people begin reading this book as soon as they know death is possible: before it is imminent.

    We need to demystify the dying process and stop being afraid of it. This book does a great service in that direction. ... Read more


    6. How to Survive the Loss of a Love
    by Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, Melba Colgrove
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    5-0 out of 5 stars Extremely helpful for the healing journey of ANY loss.
    This book is written in an easy to read, to the point format. It explains the many differnt types of losses and how they can affect us. It is very affirming and encouraging. The reader can almost randomly open to a page, read it and relate instantly. I found myself thinking "that's exactly how I feel". It made me feel better just to realize that how I felt was normal. I try to keep a copy on hand to give to friends who are experiencing any type of loss in thier lives. When experiencing loss it is difficult to read someting long and drawn out and understand it. This author keeps it short and simple -- but powerful.

    5-0 out of 5 stars It gives you hope.
    I'm almost done reading this book and find it most helpful. It is short and easy to read, which is good, because someone dealing with a loss has very little attention span. The best thing about this book is that it lets me know that what I am going thru and how I feel is perfectly normal and to be expected. There are words on these pages that could have been taken straight from my heart. And I must disagree with the previous review -- I love the poems -- I find them inspired. If you are going thru a loss not of your choosing (mine is a divorce), I highly recommend this book to let you know you will survive and you will be ok.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Comfort To Read
    This book is a classic for those who are going through a loss. Facing loss is not easy, it's painful. Most people avoid feeling the pain of their loss by running from it. They either run to the arms of another or they deny it. But for those with the courage to face their pain, let this book be your guide. The book is like a friend that really understands you and what you're going through. It tells you that its okay to be feeling what you're feeling and directs you to the way of healing. Though your eyes may be clouded with tears and you may not even know where all of the pieces of your heart have been scattered to...hang in their... and let this book bring you hope.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Absolutely unique and priceless
    This book is not a "chapter" book, but is a collection of thoughts on loss, the pain, the healing. The person who is emotionally distraught anc cannot follow chapters, can pick up this book, flip through it, and find words of comfort. This book was a tremendous comfort to me over 20 years ago when I suffered the loss of a love. I bought several copies to share then, and I'm thrilled to know the book is still available. I'm buying several copies again to give to people who need this help.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Best Sympathy Card
    I have had a copy of this book for over 20 years and I have sent it to people instead of a sympathy card. Almost everyone I have sent it to said that they read it over and over again. ... Read more


    7. A Journey Through Grief : Gentle, Specific Help to Get You Through the Most Difficult Stages of Grieving
    by Alla Renee Bozarth
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    Thte simple, gentle guidance found in A Journey through Grief helps readers through the heartache of grief by showing them what to expect and how to deal with it ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars 51 Pages Says It All!
    As much as I can't stand to cry, I have learned it is as important a release as is laughter. Unfortunately and especially for the male sex, we are, still to this day, taught that this act of crying is unbecoming to children, adolescents, and adults who "have their act together." And this misnomer taught by the very folks who do not have their act together.

    As a reader you would never know that this book is written by a Doctor. All that is needed is to know that this person speaks of what they themselves have been through. That is what makes the book valuable. The publishing industry is grossly mistaken by the belief that credibility goes hand in hand with a scholarly degree. It does not. Experience is the only true credibility. This author has real experience. The only way to know this is to be in the process of grieving and read this book, which proves to us through its compassion and understanding, that this is the way it is done.

    I am disappointed by the plethora of published authors who think that we, the reading public, need to be exposed to endless pages of type in order to get something out of the work we are reading. For me, the opposite is true. There are many books I do not purchase because all too often I find the author has severe difficulty getting to the point of the matter. You will find this book to be a refreshing change.

    If you have ever felt sad and more importantly if you have ever been depressed, my advise is to get your hands on this book. It will not take too much of your time and I believe you will benefit tremendously. This book is most valuable to those of us who have suffered from bouts of depression, as we all do in varying degrees from time to time. This book will help you to move through the emotion of grief so that your life is not a repeated adventure in something you are unable to overcome. I cannot recommend this book enough.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A wonderful book to share with anyone who has had a loss.
    I found this book quite by accident, but the timing could not have beenbetter. After reading this book I felt as though I'd received a much neededhug . It is short, to the point, very gentle, and beautifully written. Theauthor is a true poet. I have given several copies to friends andrelatives. I could not give a higher recommendation.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The most helpful book I found for grief
    This book was the most helpful I found when dealing with deep grief.It's short, to the point, and hits the key heart strings with great simplicity and clarity.The idea that tears are what you do when you can't doanything else was such a relief to me--knowing I could cry for as long as Ineeded and it would pass. And the idea to be gentle with myself allowed meto go through all the stages of grief undisturbed. I recommend this toevery person who goes through a significant death such as a parent. ... Read more


    8. A Grief Observed
    by C. S. Lewis
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    Written after his wife's tragic death as a way of surviving the "mad midnight moment," A Grief Observed is C.S. Lewis's honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life, death, and faith in the midst of loss. This work contains his concise, genuine reflections on that period: "Nothing will shake a man -- or at any rate a man like me -- out of his merely verbal thinking and his merely notional beliefs. He has to be knocked silly before he comes to his senses. Only torture will bring out the truth. Only under torture does he discover it himself." This is a beautiful and unflinchingly homest record of how even a stalwart believer can lose all sense of meaning in the universe, and how he can gradually regain his bearings.

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Difficult, but somehow comforting for those in grief
    Lewis' book (journal, really) captures the feeling of those in grief, there is no doubt about that. June 16, 2000 my wife left this life, 8 weeks to the day after our first child was born. In the midst of our struggle, there were several books that my family and I found comfort in, and this book was one of them.

    I rated this book 4 stars because it's difficult. It's not difficult to read, it doesn't contain long arguments or technical language. The content is hard for those in the throws of grief. And yet it is somehow comforting to know that you're not alone, the feelings that you feel aren't the signs of insanity. I remember several times thinking I was going insane, that I'd finally lost it...only to read those exact thoughts from Lewis' journal.

    Lewis' experience with grief was different from mine, too. I suppose everyone's is different in some way. Lewis is angry with God, and he struggles with his faith. He explains that it wasn't that he was in danger of losing his belief in God, but that he "was in danger of coming to believe such terrible things about him." You may identify with Lewis' words, and I truly believe you'll find comfort in this book.

    If I may, I would like to recommend another book for those who suffer and those in ministry to the suffering, as well. Nicholas Wolterstorff's LAMENT FOR A SON captures the intimate details of grief, and in many ways I identified more with Wolterstorff than I did with Lewis.

    For those who've lost, this book is a difficult and yet rewarding right of passage. You travel down the narrow path, on hallowed ground. You make a journey that those who haven't made cannot speak of, and you can find comfort in the experience of those who travel with you.

    For those in ministry, this book is an excellent insight into the pain of those to whom you minister. Lewis attempts to coldly analyze his grief, and in the end he cannot. He simply expresses his grief without even attempting to gloss over it. The information you can glean from this book for your ministry is immeasurable.

    God bless you as you travel down this long and painful road. Remember, as Lewis did, the hope that will sustain you: God who raises the dead. The journey is difficult, but in the end we will see and hold them again. God be with you.

    5-0 out of 5 stars An honest book that doesn't try to simplify grief
    This work chronicles Lewis' struggle to come to terms with the death of his wife. Because it comes from his private journals, it may not seem as "polished" as some of his other writings. Personally, I appreciate the way it reveals the innerworkings of a very emotional and private man.

    In contrast to many works, this book doesn't try to simplify grief, justify it, or dance around the issue with pat observations or cheery reminders. Instead, it dares to question those very tactics. Lewis allows himself to feel a broad range of emotions, including doubt and great despair. I love this quality in Lewis: he is one of the few Chrisitian writers who is brutally honest about his fears and anger. His writings allow that God is big enough to handle our toughest questions.

    This little book is full of images and ideas that will stay with you long after you've finished it. Lewis takes feelings that you can't quite pinpoint and eloquently puts them into words. As I read the book, I kept thinking to myself "Yes, THAT'S what I feel too!" Misery does love company, and Lewis is excellent company.

    As usual, Lewis is full of astute observations and points to ponder, but don't expect a bunch of clean and pretty answers. At the end, his grief is still very much a work in progress, which is definitely how it has been in my life....a journey.

    5-0 out of 5 stars If you like C.S. Lewis . . .
    . . . like I do, I strongly suggest We All Fall Down, by Brian Caldwell. Like Lewis, Caldwell takes an intellectual aproach to the concept of Christianity. His novel is very much in the vein of The Screwtape Letters and The Great divorce. I highly recomend it for discriminating Christian readers.

    5-0 out of 5 stars No Hype, Straight HELP: coping, understand, surviving Grief
    Mister Lewis starts to the heart of where most of us have been
    when dealing with the sudden loss of a love one through death.
    He gives the words to those errant feelings and horrid thoughts that challenge our day-to-day surviving of that death, that moment where we have been gothically cheated by this world...and maybe feel cheated by our God, or deceived into following a faith we now find repugnant to practice. BUT that is not where Mister Lewis leaves us. This book is real, solid help, and hope when it seems so much more probable to believe that there is none.
    A lot of authors push hype. They are the TV sensation with a fashion of the latest phrases, and tag-lines to sell their next
    deluded idea. They come up short or just plain empty.
    I hope you find, as my family has, that this author and this book sit in a far better realm--unvarnished truth. Treat yourself!

    5-0 out of 5 stars honest
    Like Tolstoy(and like so many others), Lewis was still shocked by the concept of death late in life. Both these men were internationally famous for their brilliant writing about life'
    s questions, but they still found their answers lacking. Both come back to God in the end, one way or another. ... Read more


    9. Death and Dying, Life and Living
    by Charles A. Corr, Clyde M. Nabe, Donna M. Corr
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    Practical and inspiring, this best-selling book helps students learn to cope with experiences associated with death, dying, and bereavement. The authors integrate classical and contemporary material, present task-based approaches for individual and family coping, and include four substantial chapters devoted to death-related issues faced by children, adolescents, adults, and the elderly. They also offer practical guidelines for constructive communication designed to encourage productive living in the face of death. ... Read more


    10. And a Time to Die : How American Hospitals Shape the End of Life
    by Sharon Kaufman
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    11. Good Grief: A Constructive Approach to the Problem of Loss
    by Granger E. Westberg
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    Now available in a 35th anniversary edition, this book describes what happens to us whenever we lose someone or something important. We all need a better understanding of the small griefs in life as well as those larger grief experiences that can overwhelm us. Here is a volume to be kept close at hand. It can be used over the years as you encounter a wide variety of grief experiences or as you assist friends in moving beyond grief to good grief. Examines the stages of grief, from stage one -- a state of shock -- to stage ten -- a struggle to affirm reality. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Simple yet captures the essence of grief
    My 20-year-old son and only child was killed in an automobile accident 11-2-99. So, my husband and I as well as many family and friends are still grieving. A good friend sent me this book during the holidays, but I just read it recently. I was amazed at how the author so simply, in only a few words, captures the essence of grieving--not only grieving for one who has died but other grieving events such as divorce, losing a job, etc. I think the book helped me most understand what my husband is experiencing because I think we are in different stages of grieving. I feel that I can better understand some of his behavior now after reading this book. I plan to share this powerful book with others, especially young people who are having an especially difficult time accepting my son's sudden death.

    5-0 out of 5 stars gr8 help to come thru the most difficult time in your life
    I lost my most loved one almost a year and a half ago. Though I dragged myself to carry on further, I was not really able to face it or accept it. I must agree that even after reading this book nothing has really changed much. The pain, grief and longing is still there. But atleast this book taught me to live with it. I have probably read 7-8 books on similar topic till now. But I guess this was the best one.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Not worth the money
    This short - about 60 half size pages - is really just a religious tract. Wasn't helpful.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Short book packed with good information
    Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg is a book that is cheap ... and short (64 pages) which I was able to read in one afternoon. It is packed with good information. Pages 24 and 24:::Even though a person does come out of the initial shock, he will undoubtedly experience times in the succeeding days and months when the unreality of the loss comes over him again. Every now and then he will say,"I just can't believe it has happened. Intellectually I know it did happen, but I guess I just have not really accepted it emotionally." For all of us the biggest hurdle is "accepting it emotionally."

    This is what I am dealing with sometimes even after 11 months of living through the completed suicide of my fiance, Bob. I accept it on one point but sometimes it hits me temporarily for a few moments and it is hard to accept. The online web sites help too - groww.org, 1000deaths.com, survivorsofsuicide.com, and online support groups and SOS in person meetings.

    Ann in Nashville

    5-0 out of 5 stars Useful
    This is a great little book that has been helpful to me in times of grief and I have shared it with others. ... Read more


    12. When Bad Things Happen to Good People
    by HAROLD S. KUSHNER
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    "I knew that one day I would write this book. I would write it out of my own need to put into words some of the most important things I have come to believe and know. And I would write it to help other people who might one day find themselves in a similar predicament. I would write it for an those people who wanted to go on believing, but whose anger at God made it hard for them to hold on to their faith and be comforted by religion. And I would write it for all those people whose love of God and devotion to Him led them to blame themselves for their suffering and persuade themselves that they deserved it."
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    3-0 out of 5 stars An honest, probing Reconstructionist examination.
    Rabbi Harold Kushner takes a hard look at difficult issues in "When Bad Things Happen to Good People." Written out of his own personal grief and struggle with spirituality, this book is an important and groundbreaking reassessment of what it means to believe in a god and how to reconcile that belief to the cold fact that horrible things happen in this world on a daily basis. This is the fundamental tension of religion, and Kushner approaches it from an original and profound perspective.

    Kushner is a Reconstructionist Jew and a former student of Reconstructionism's founder, Rabbi Mordecai Kaplan. Reconstructionist Judaism examines spirituality from a metaphorical perspective, seeing God as the impulse in us that brings out our best traits and leads to live honestly and ethically. It does not see God as an all-powerful father figure in the sky, interfering in people's lives and letting things like the Holocaust happen for a "reason." It is, in other words, a religious worldview that takes a more mature, probing approach to divinity than the standard "God controls everything and we cannot understand His ways" religious line. There are numerous precedents for the Reconstructionist view in Jewish history.

    Thus the negative reviews here from fundamentalist Christians, who believe every word of the Bible literally (though they can't be bothered to actually read it) and are unable to consider the thought of a more abstract god because their entire intellectual and spiritual house of cards would collapse. This sort of "God-is-my-protective-daddy" view inevitably forces people of this mindset into a state of denial, obfuscation, and pretzel logic when they try to explain or defend their faith--even to themselves.

    "When Bad Things Happen to Good People" is an enormously powerful book which offers a vital glimpse into a more humane and compassionate view of God. I recommend it to everybody.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Good People Turn to be Better humans Indeed!
    Harold Kushner's book has an insight for a heart touching, warming feeling for those who got to be content with Suffering. Some of the other time in life, we suffer. Why do we have to suffer? Why do Bad things Happen? Why Me? These and many questions surface our minds and that's when our 'Faith' is challenged. Why do we turn to the same God who makes it happen? The author came to see god when he faced the worst trials in his life of having lost his son Aaron when he was fourteen. God weeps with us and would not abandon us and can fill the deepest needs of an anguished heart says Harold. The story of job inspires and builds the strength and courage. Harold provides invaluable reassurances and his words are source of comfort in times of bad things happening just out of the blue. His logic that when bad things happen we dump our anger on others or turn it on ourselves. Sometimes angry on God. Why me? And then referring to Cain killing his brother Abel in a fit of jealousy...all through Harold soothes the mind to relax and be at peace saying 'God can't do everything, but he can do some important things' This ticks the mind Fate, not god, sends us the problem. If we are weak, we get angry, overwhelmed. Its faith strong all the way and God rewards in his own fashion; Knows much better what he has to do. A must book to be read by all people in trouble, no matter what their religios faith. Indeed, When Bad things happen, be positive, What happens, happens for good. Good People turn to be Better.

    3-0 out of 5 stars "There are better choices to understand the mind of God..."
    Dr. Kushner was well-intentioned in his authorship of this book to be sure. However, his basic conclusion is that God is either all-powerful or all-loving. Since bad things happen, God isn't all powerful.

    The theology is faulty. As Christ was fully God, and still fully human, so God can be loving and powerful without losing either attribute. God's power never works outside His perfect will, and sometimes that will permits evil.

    A much better book on endurance through adversity is "With Joseph in the University of Adversity". This book will answer most questions Kushner poses from a much more conservative and scriptural point of view.

    4-0 out of 5 stars A sincere and thoughtful book
    I must admit, I have not read this book yet, but aim to do so. I heard Mr. Kushner speak about his book on the God Squad and the message of his book .I found it extremely sincere and thoughtful. I think this book would put many people at rest with some of their un-answered question.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A must read when searching for God after a loss.
    After the recent loss of my infant daughter, I was searching for answers and trying hard to stay connected to God and continue to believe in Him. Being faced with the death of an otherwise perfectly healthy baby it was very difficult to believe that

    1. God is a good, loving God.
    2. God is a just/fair God.
    3. God controls everything.

    How could God be fair and good when he would take the life of an innocent child? Why, if God controls everything, and is good, would he not spare this precious life? Why, if God is fair, would he "punish" this little girl with months of pain and suffering before her ultimate death?

    For anyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one, particularly a child, this is a powerful book. Rabbit Kushner has addressed these painful questions with clarity and love for God. He uses the bible to back up his analysis and tells his story in a manner that everyone can understand. He also speaks to the horrible things that so many people, who think they are helping, say to those who have lost a loved one.

    What matters is not so much if one agrees with Rabbi Kushner's analysis, it matters that he puts forth a way to stay close to God while working through your grief. At this time, I choose to agree with Rabbi Kushner's analysis. For all those who wish to tell me it is incorrect, I know they do not have my best interest at heart. Staying close and connected to God and not turning from him must be my goal. If I cannot at this time reconcile what I thought to be true with my reality, and it causes me to turn away from God or question God, nothing else matters. Anything that can help me continue love and give praise to God while I continue to work through my grief is valuable.

    I commend Rabbi Kushner and consider this book a must read for anyone who has suffered a loss. ... Read more


    13. On Death and Dying
    by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
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    One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives the reader a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars The Classic Work on Grief
    Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's book, 'On Death and Dying', is one of the classic works in the field, still used to educate and inform medical, counseling, and pastoral professionals since its original publication in the 1960s. Kübler-Ross did extensive research in the field by actually talking to those in the process of dying, something that had hitherto been considered taboo and an unthinkable, uncaring thing to do. Kübler-Ross asked for volunteers, and never pressured people to do or say anything they didn't want to. One of her unexpected discoveries was that the medical professionals were more reluctant to participate than were the patients, who quite often felt gratitude and relief at being able to be heard.

    Kübler-Ross also spoke to families, and followed people through their ailments, sometimes to recovery, but most often to their death. She let the people guide her in her research: 'We do not always state explicitly [to the patient] that the patient is actually terminally ill. We attempt to elicit the patients' needs first, try to become aware of their strengths and weaknesses, and look for overt or hidden communications to determine how much a patient wants to face reality at a given moment.'

    This caring approach was often an aggravation for Kübler-Ross and her staff, because they would know what the patient had been told but was not yet ready to face. Kübler-Ross recounts stories of attempts to deal with death in different ways; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance -- in fact, the various stages of grief were first recognised in Kübler-Ross's research.

    There are those who dislike the 'stages' theory of grief, but it is important to know (as the quote above indicates) that these are not set-in-stone processes, but rather dialectical and perichoretic in nature, ebbing and flowing like the tide, so that where a person was 'stage-wise' would vary from meeting to meeting.

    Kübler-Ross explained her interest in this research by saying that 'if a whole nation, a whole society suffers from such a fear and denial of death, it has to use defenses which can only be destructive.' Her work is primarily geared to health-care providers, and provides verbatim transcripts of conversations with a wide range of people in different classes, races, family situations, education levels, and ages. The reader can then get a sense of how to better communicate with someone in a terminal situation.

    'Early in my work with dying patients I observed the desperate need of the hospital staff to deny the existence of terminally ill patients on their ward. In another hospital I once spent hours looking for a patient capable to be interviewed, only to be told that there was no one fatally ill and able to talk. On my walk through the ward I saw an old man reading a paper with the headline "Old Soldiers Never Die". He looked seriously ill and I asked him if it did not scare him to 'read about that'. He looked at me with anger and disgust, telling me that I must be one of those physicians who can only care for a patient as long as he is well but when it comes to dying, then we all shy away from them. This was my man! I told him about my seminar on death and dying and my wish to interview someone in front the students in order to teach them not to shy away from these patients. He happily agreed to come, and gave us one of the most unforgettable interviews I have ever attended.'

    She concludes with a chapter explaining the reactions of doctors, nurses, counsellors and chaplains, professionals who deal with the dying every day, on how the kinds of listening and care she outlines can change their work and lives as well. It is remarkable to see some of the transformations which take place among these people.

    I have used the advice and insight given by this book in my own ministry, and heartily recommend it to everyone, regardless of medical or ministerial intent, for it can give guidance on how to deal with the deaths of friends or family members and, ultimately, our own death.

    Death will never be a happy subject, but it needn't be a dark mystery devoid of meaning and guidance.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Used to be hot stuff.
    When I first started teaching an undergraduate course in Death & Dying in 1972, I could correctly assume that every student had already read Kubler-Ross. Now, they've never heard of her, which is a pity. Despite the total lack of evidence to support her five-stage paradigm, she did us all a favor by pulling the shroud off of the topic. She was the first popular writer to deal with feelings of the dying patient. Her book, which cost $1.95 back then, was hot stuff. She actually talked to terminally ill people and didn't beat around the bush. Now we've got any number of pop psychologists applying her five -stage theory to all sorts of things she never even thought of: grief, marriage problems, alcohol treatment, you name it. I tell my students that the staging theory has been around for 32 years now. If it is going to have any experimental support, perhaps it might have emerged by now. The fact is that people are much more complex than any five stages can account for, and people can hold more than one emotion at a time. I've heard Kubler-Ross herself say this many times. But, we can remember five ideas, so there you have it. If she'd proposed a 16-stage hierarchy, she would have never gotten big. At any rate, there are no real scientists in thanatology that now credit her much at all any more, but for historical purposes this is still a valuable book.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Classic Reading
    I have always wondered about offering this book to people. While a theoretical piece of writing, the terminology has become a part of the modern-day understanding of grief and mourning. This book was a catalyst in getting people to talk about their experiences, understandings, and concerns about death. I always recommend this people because it aids people in understanding the issues about surviving the death of a loved one; similarly, it helps people find solace in experiencing their own death. A must read for someone who is grieving.

    5-0 out of 5 stars On Death and Dying
    Kubler-Ross's work is as valuable today as it was 30 years ago. She described the five stages of dying, while never maintaining that one had to go through the stages in perfect order or that one couldn't have other emotions along with, e.g, anger. No one would argue that death is loss--loss of one's self, or loss of someone dear to us. Many of us have other kinds of loss, i.e., a missing child--a child we have no hope of ever seeing. Is that not death of another kind? The tenets of Kubler-Ross continue to be popular because they have been empirically tested.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Good Book
    This book initially brought professional as well as public attention to a seriously neglected subject. It remains one of the best on the subject, for both the dying and those close to them and for those whose professions involve helping such people. ... Read more


    14. Embraced by the Light
    by Betty J. Eadie, Curtis Taylor
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    Embraced by the Light is an inspirational map of the afterlife framed in the moment of Eadie's death, and presents a possible answer to the big question, "Why are we here?" An easy read, its subtitle could have been "The Average Person's Guide to Near-Death Experiences." Although heavily filtered through Eadie's Christian worldview, her vision of the afterlife does not include a wrathful deity, but a figure of love and compassion. Some readers may find Eadie's repeated Christian references bothersome, and Embraced by the Light will undoubtedly raise a lot of questions along the lines of "What about reincarnation?" and "What happens to people who are not Christians?" --Brian Patterson ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Must Read!
    Embraced By The Light is absolutely wonderful! It
    is a must read for anyone, who doubts the existence
    of another world beyond the one we live in.
    It is insightful and emotional, and speaks freely
    and frankly about life on the otherside. If you
    don't believe me...just read the book.
    I have encouraged many of my families and friends
    to read this book. Mrs.Eadie does a remarkable job,
    and should be given credit for being honest and brave
    enough to come forward with such a personal experience.
    Knowing that people would more than likely
    criticize such an event, she believed enough in
    herself to write about her accounts.
    If you do anything for yourself...........buy this
    book, you won't regret it!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Wonderful!
    This is a wonderfully detailed account of Betty's life after death experience. Everybody should read this book!

    2-0 out of 5 stars Cashing in on Grief?
    Many people who read this book have it handed to them after the death of a loved one. For me it was the passing of my wife's father. She read it and found it a great comfort so she asked me to read it too. I was skeptical but for her sake, I read it. I am a slow reader but this thing is so full of fluff that I got through it in two hours. Religion is a great comfort to people in times of personal grief and I realize that this book has helped many to cope with death. But religion is also, along with politics, one of the few career fields where you can turn bull---- into money. It is plainly obvious that this whole thing was made up.

    She never says why she was in the hospital. What caused the near death experience? Explaining this might have given the story a little more credibility, but for the author, none of this was relevant. The only reason for writing the book was to tell the miraculous story. Most NDEs last only a few minutes. This one was long enough for a feature-length film, and she has total recall of every little detail. How could she have survived such a lengthy NDE? She crammed a lot of material into the four or five minutes that a person can survive such an ordeal.

    Pardon me for being so skeptical of a book that clearly has helped so many people in their darkest hour. Maybe the author was sincerely trying to use her story-telling skills to help people cope with death. But on the other hand, if there is a heaven, and if she did write this to cash in on the grief of others, she'll need a lot more than a good line of bull---- when she meets her maker for real.

    2-0 out of 5 stars A Decidedly Mixed Review
    My father asked me to read this book right after my mother passed away. This book brought her great hope, and she passed it along to many people. To be directly honest with the reader, I write this review as a Catholic convert son of a Seventh Day Adventist mother. To be frank, I have a very mixed review of this book.

    Before I launch into its content, it should be stated that this book is written in a very readable and fluid style. It took me no more than two hours to read. That being said, I now begin with my thoughts about Ms. Eadie. If the book is true to herself, I find Ms. Eadie to be a very loving and kind person. I need not doubt that there are such things as near death experiences, and, for that matter, I do not doubt that Ms. Eadie experienced something wonderful.

    Her depiction of Christ as a loving redeemer is right on. Christ is all these things and more than we can imagine. That being said, however, there are matters in this book that directly contradict that which we know from the public revelation of God to his people. The first test of private revelation, such as experienced by Ms. Eadie, is whether that private revelation seeks to add to or contradict the revelation Our Lord has given us. Unfortunately, much of this book does just that.

    The preface provides that "Betty does not return from clinical death with grandiose claims of establishing a new church or of producing miracle cures for diseases, but rather with a simple message of love." I believe this to be true, she does not establish a new church, but Ms. Eadie does style her own religion based upon her experience.

    More specifically, on page 45 it Ms. Eadie states, "I wanted to know why there were so many churches in the world. Why didn't God give us only one church, one pure religion? ... All religions upon the earth are necessary because there are people who need what they teach." Ms. Eadie's question is a common one, and it is highly relevant. Nonetheless, God has provided the answer. In Matthew 16, Our Lord states "You are Peter and on this rock I will build my Church." St. Paul later would state that the Church is the pillar and foundation of truth. Christ said he has a Church and it is His. That Church is the pillar of truth. Furthermore, this is very consistent with the revelation to the Jews. God's people, with all their faults, were given the truth of God. The religions of the people that they would displace were not on equal par. Through Christ, God wants us to know the truth. In short, it is not God's desire that there be multiple religions. It is his desire to let all people know Him. He accomplishes this through his Church. I'll illustrate with a rather extreme example. The Aztec people appeased their gods by sacrificing prisoners of war and children. Ms. Eadie's statement, if taken to its logical conclusion would mean that the Aztec people needed this religion and that it was good. Not true.

    If we draw out Ms. Eadie's analogy, there would be no need for anyone to become a Christian. Why? He is fine just where he is at. Christ said he is the truth and the life. We need to spread that message. Ms. Eadie does this in an indirect way, but this doctrine of hers cuts against this truth.

    Ms. Eadie also provides that we pre-existed the creation of the world and participated in its creation (page 47). She provides that we elect to accept our way of life, trials, and illnesses before we are born on earth (page 67). She explains that Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden because "she wanted to become a mother desperately that she was willing to risk death to obtain it" (page 109) I find no support for these statements in the Bible or the Apostolic tradition. If, as Ms. Eadie suggests, even our sins are intended for the benefit of ourselves or others, there is no condemnation for sin. If a person has chosen before his existence to be aborted as a fetus, the mother who aborts that child has no condemnation because she is merely fulfilling the will of the fetus and the tacit approval of God. This is a very dangerous doctrine in that there is no sin. To that end, Ms. Eadie also denies the existence of hell. On page 84 she suggests that our those who "die as atheists, or those who have bonded to the world through greed, bodily appetites, or other earthly commitments find it difficult to move on ... these spirits stay on the earth until they learn to accept the greater power around them and to let go of the world." Thus, there is no hell. There is only heaven, although some are delayed. In the final, analysis all go.

    This book was an interesting read. Ms. Eadie isn't establishing a new church, but she is establishing a new religion that denies so many things revealed to us by Christ. To that end, I recommend this book only to those that can recognize the difference between these two matters. Those who can't see the implications of Ms. Eadie's revelation are subject to being deceived. It is very true that Christ is love. It is also truth that Christ taught us what to believe in his love. We should not accept one over the other. Christ desires both for us.

    5-0 out of 5 stars I love the Love inside this book
    This book reminds me of Tiffany Snow's book - the love expressed here, and how we don't have to have a NDE to wake up the real reason for living -LOVE- is wonderfully simple. The joy and changes made in her life have helped us all have a glimpse of the bigger picture, and not sweat the small stuff. ... Read more


    15. Understanding Death, Dying, and Bereavement
    by Michael R. Leming, George E. Dickinson, George Dickinson
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    Catlog: Book (2001-08-10)
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    Using a social-psychological approach, this edition remains solidly grounded in theory and research but places greater emphasis on the individual and copying with death and dying. These two well-known authors and researchers integrate stimulating personal accounts throughout the text, and apply concepts to specific examples that deal with cross-cultural perspectives and the practical matters of death and dying. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars una manera de afrontar la muerte
    este libro, que fue leido por mi hace ya muchos anos, es otro que me impresiono y me gusto. muestra diferentes vistas y perspectivas de la muerte de un ser querido. desde la negacion de los hechos hasta la aceptacion y la resignacion, pasando por diferentes estadios que son necesarios tanto social como psicologicamenete para superar la perdida. es de especial interes para estudiantes de medicina o de psicologia o para cualquier persona que quiera aprender a lidiar con una gran perdida. LUIS MENDEZ ... Read more


    16. Cold Noses at the Pearly Gates
    by Gary Kurz
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    Catlog: Book (1997-05-01)
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    5-0 out of 5 stars Full of Hope, Comfort and Spiritually uplifting!
    Cold Noses at The Pearly Gates was a Godsend! When my beloved Casey passed away I was devastated. My mind was consumed with thoughts of him and unanswerable questions. All the other books I read left me wondering where is Casey now and will I ever see him again. This book answered my questions with understanding and insight based on diligent research. It provided me with spiritual uplift and a sense of relief. I now have real hope that one day I will be reunited with my best friend. It was obvious that he cares a great deal for animals and understands the pain a person goes through when they lose their precious friend. The true stories of animals he included helped me recall special memories. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this book to anyone who has suffered the lost of a beloved pet.

    5-0 out of 5 stars My Help In Time Of Need
    "Cold Noses At The Pearly Gates" is an excellent book.From this book I learned that when my furry pet child passed on,he went to heaven.I learned that God has created all things and that everything He created, He considered it very good,and takes care of all His creation. I learned how important creatures really are in God's eyes.This book also deals with how animals communicate and the importance of life.I learned that we will see our pets again if we understand God's plan for mankind, which is explained in this great book.There is also a section to help you when you're ready to adopt another pet, and some humorous stories to help you in your grief.As I read this book, it was as though,someone else had walked this path that I was walking--the path of hurt,emptiness and lonliness from losing your beloved furry pet child. The one thing I took refuge in was the fact that there were Bible verses to go along with what was said, and as I looked up the verses myself, I found them to be in context and in truth. Cold Noses At The Pearly Gates is now an added collection of the many different books in my library.
    I highly recommend this book to anyone who is searching for answers about pet loss and is also looking for easy reading material with sound Biblical Scripture verses.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Disappointing
    I purchased this book that I might receive some comfort for the loss of my precious pet and some assurance for afterlife for my present cat someday. I received neither of these as the author rambles on and on about nothing most of the time, cites only a few scriptures in which he doesn't have much opinion on, and leaves me with no hope for animal afterlife. I've read a few other books on the subject and the best one I've found is "There Is Eternal Life For Animals" by Niki Behrikis Shanahan. This book details scores of Bible Scriptures that show how much God loves ALL of His creation and proves from these Scriptures that they WILL be in heaven. Most people want proof from the Bible rather than some person's opinion on the subject.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Wonderful Book--Very comforting! Highly recommended
    When I had to put my dog down due to Cancer, I was so depressed, and a friend told me about this book, I thank God that I got this book, If I could sum it up in 3 words..VERY WELL WRITTEN! Gary uses Bible references in the book, even if you are not religious I would sill recommend this book, Its such a comfort after losing a pet! Gary is a wonderful man, he even emailed me a couple times to see how I was doing! I really recommend this book to anyone who Loves animals, and who may have a hole in your heart after saying good bye to a pet.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Comforting but slightly flawed
    This is a wonderful book for any pet owner who has lost ther beloved companion animal. But the theology is a little off. No, make that WAY, way off. My advice is to read the book with a grain of salt and when there is a biblical referance (and there are many) read the entire chapter of the bible from which the reference came. Do dogs really go to heaven? Well of course they do. They have kinder souls than most humans (as do cats, birds, ferets etc.) but not necessarily for the reasons this author states. After reading this book you must also ask yourself ... do New York City subway rats go to heaven? Do rattlesnakes who have killed humans go to heaven? Do spiders and frogs go to heaven? This book is a great springboard for lots of debates and many discussions. ... Read more


    17. Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Professional
    by J. William Worden
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    5-0 out of 5 stars Healing
    As a grief therapist I am always searching for books that will be helpful in my classes. This book was one I did indeed find valuable. I also use Write from Your Heart, A Healing Grief Journal in my group classes and for the children I use After the Tears, A Gentle Guide to Help Children Understand Death.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Useful and instructive
    If you liked this book, also try "The Healing Journey Through Grief" by Phil Rich. There is also a Clincian's Guide available. This book is one in a series of self help journaling books designed to help people through life issues, and breaks the process into clear cut stages with information and journaling exercises throughout to help people understand, write about, and work through their issues and difficulties.The other books in the series, all by Phil Rich and other co-authors)include a book on journaling for individuals (The Healing Journey) and one on journaling for couples("The Healing Journey for Couples") and others ("The Healing Journey Through...") on divorce, menopause, job loss, retirement, and addiction.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent resource book
    Worden has written an inclusive, quality handbook, which is an excellent resource for those investigating the nature of grief. The book is useful to the practioner as well as the individual searching for information on grief and it's manifestations. It is a practical handbook in that it provides the reader with information they can use at the time it is needed, to help get through the crisis at hand. Wordens book is complete, without being wordly, is easily used with well defined categories. The handbook covers many different types of grief ranging from normal to complicated grief reactions, grief in children, to the counselors own grief. Practical applications to dealing with these issues in grief, are also provided. The book gives enough background to understand the topic at hand, saving the reader from 'wading' through pages of literature reviews. For those who desire a more extensive discussion, an ample and lenghty bibliography is offered ... Read more


    18. Living When a Loved One Has Died
    by Earl A. Grollman
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    Catlog: Book (1995-06-01)
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    When someone you love dies, Earl Grollman writes, "there is no way to predict how you will feel. The reactions of grief are not like recipes, with given ingredients, and certain results. . . . Grief is universal. At the same time it is extremely personal. Heal in your own way."

    If someone you know is grieving, Living When a Loved One Has Died can help. Earl Grollman explains what emotions to expect when mourning, what pitfalls to avoid, and how to work through feelings of loss. Suitable for pocket or bedside, this gentle book guides the lonely and suffering as they move through the many facets of grief, begin to heal, and slowly build new lives.

    "If you're far away when someone you care about is in mourning, send this book--it's the next best thing to being there. And if you doubt whether your being there will do any good, read this book, and you will learn how to become the wise, reassuring, and understanding person a good friend is when a loved one has died."


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    5-0 out of 5 stars Living When a Loved One Has Died
    Mr. Grollman allows for the fact that we all grieve differently. He lets you know that you're not going crazy and how to be kind to ones "self". I found it helpful to write thoughts down from his statements and re-read it daily.As someone else pointed out the book was written with the understanding that concentration is at an all time low.My husband of 22 yrs died from cancer at the age of 44. Mr. Grollman helped me remember that while my husband is gone, I'll see him again.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent; anyone grieving should have a copy
    My mother died unexpectedly two months ago after fracturing her hip. I was her sole caregiver (she had moderate stage Alzheimer's) and even though I was preparing myself for her first being in a nursing home and ultimately her death years down the road, this sudden passing away left me totally empty and void. I didn't know what to feel except that I had let her down somehow. I had always promised her I would take care of her and not let anything bad happen to her. I found myself emotionless with regard to anything except grief. Then I found this book two weeks ago, took it home and read it. This book touches upon every emotion you go through when you grieve. It is not written as a self-help book. It does not tell you what some professionals think you should be doing to continue living in spite of your loss. It is simple. The sentences are short. It tells you that it is alright to feel the way you do. I have kept my book on my coffee table ever since and have picked it up twice already when I was feeling low. I will definitely be giving this book as a gift to friends as the occasion warrants.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Help in time of great loss............
    This is not for those who are in the first weeks of loss. The honesty of the text can be hard to deal with while the loss is still new. However, when I needed to finally let go after the death of my grandmother in 1996, this book was a trememdous help to me. It was the catalyst that finally got my emotions flowing and helped me to process the grief. I had been walking around in the "grief bubble" for weeks and wanted to cut through the blackness surrounding me. The passages inside were the catalyst I needed to finally get my emotions flowing and process the grief when I lost my grandmother and, later, my father. This is the gift I give to friends when they are ready to move on and step out of the shadow of loss.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The Words I couldn't Say
    I bought this book sight unseen, simply because I think he's a terrific author on death. He speaks the language of the commoner regarding death.

    I was shocked to find the entire book is written as a series of poems. Originally it threw me off, but as I read the book I was better able to appreciate the impact of using that format for these words. I originally purchased the book for a close friend who was about to observe the 1st anniversary of her sister's death. I hadn't realized how much her sister's death affected me until I read this book and couldn't give it to my friend. I had to buy another copy just for her.

    The poems said exactly what I had been feeling through all my grieving stages but hadn't found words to express them. It was a godsend.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Not that great
    I wasn't very much impressed with this book. It only had a few words per page and didn't offer anything to comfort. If you are grieving and looking for help I suggest finding a different book. ... Read more


    19. The Grief Recovery Handbook : The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death Divorce, and Other Losses
    by John W. James, Russell Friedman
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    Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on your capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories, as well as from others, the authors illustrate what grief is and how it is possible to recover and regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven program, now extensively revised, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to complete the grieving process and accept loss. For those ready to regain a sense of aliveness, the principles outlined here make this a life-changing handbook. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Feels like a miracle
    For more than a year after my father died, I felt as if I was going in slow motion, while the world raced past me. Time didn't seem to have done anything to heal me, in fact I was feeling worse. My friends tried to talk to me and help me, but I couldn't hear anything other than my own despair. One of my dear friends, in desperation, gave me a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook. That simple act of kindness changed my life. In the solitude of my own home, without having to try to feel good so others would think I was okay, I began to read the book. Almost against my own will, I began to take the actions and do the exercises outlined in the book. One of the hardest parts about them, was that they were too easy. I began to realize how much I had been complicating the possibility of recovery by trying to use my head to fix my heart. As the direct result of creating an accurate picture of my entire relationship with my father, and completing what had been unsaid or unfinished, I regained the gratitude I felt toward life, and the energy with which to live it. While I have normal sadness and miss my dad from time to time, I am able to sustain a life of meaning and value, even though he is no longer physically here. What happened for me feels like a miracle, but in reality is the result of the safety and encouragement to take action provided by The Grief Recovery Handbook. I am eternally grateful.

    5-0 out of 5 stars To Move Through and Beyond Loss
    This book is easy to read. The authors recommend reasonable "homework" that guides the reader through his/her loss history. The entire process outlined in the book provides a crucial look at important relationships and includes exercises to help bring relationships "up-to-date". The Grief Recovery Handbook would be an excellent companion to a traditional grief support group. Readers should know that The Grief Recovery Institute, adminstered by the authors, is an excellent resource. Visit their Website at www.grief.net. I have seen this simple book help many people who are grieving even though their stories and circumstances are quite varied. The authors joined with a Child Psychologist to publish another excellent book entitled When Children Grieve.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Book offers expanded awareness
    This book takes you from the concept of grief to choosing a new path to recovery to moving beyond the loss of a loved one. It is an excellent book for any one in grief. The book offers finding stability in a storm of emotions. This is also a necessary book for the library of all health professionals.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Life Saving
    This book reveals a path to resolving grief through the process of re-education. It is both clear and concise in the steps that are outlined. Interesting and life changing reading!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Well written
    This handbook is informative and helpful. The authors have touched on the truth about grief. Good work.
    Kathrine Peterson author of Write from Your Heart, A Healing Grief Journal and Healing Stories of Grief and Faith. ... Read more


    20. Night Falls Fast : Understanding Suicide
    by KAY REDFIELD JAMISON
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    "Suicide is a particularly awful way to die: the mental suffering leading up to it is usually prolonged, intense, and unpalliated," writes Kay Redfield Jamison. "There is no morphine equivalent to ease the acute pain, and death not uncommonly is violent and grisly." Jamison has studied manic-depressive illness and suicide both professionally--and personally. She first planned her own suicide at 17; she attempted to carry it out at 28. Now professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, she explores the complex psychology of suicide, especially in people younger than 40: why it occurs, why it is one of our most significant health problems, and how it can be prevented. Jamison discusses manic-depression, suicide in different cultures and eras, suicide notes (they "promise more than they deliver"), methods, preventive treatments, and the devastating effects on loved ones. She explores what type of person commits suicide, and why, and when. She illustrates her points with detailed anecdotes about people who have attempted or committed suicide, some famous, some ordinary, many of them young. Not easy reading, either in subject or style, but you'll understand suicide better and be jolted by the intensity of depression that drives young people to it. --Joan Price ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars The Most Complete Book I've Ever Read On Suicide
    Night Falls Fast is impossible to fairly review with the 1000 word limit here on Amazon.com. With this limitation though, I'll try and sum up the understanding one gains in reading this disturbing book.

    Kay Redfield's thesis is depressingly convincing and accurate: "The causes of suicide lie, for the most part, in an individual's predisposing temperament and genetic vulnerabilities; in severe psychiatric illness; and in acute psychological stress."

    As sad as her statement is, Kay backs up this notion with personal experience as a bipolar patient, suicide survivor, and psychiatry professor. Not to mention 95 pages of research notes taking up almost a third of the book.

    She begins with endless and boring statistics regarding suicide; albeit objective, enlightening, and saddening. But the book soon picks up in intensity with the tragic suicide story of Drew Sopirak and his dashed Air Force dreams, thanks to manic depression. For history buffs, an objective essay on the controversial death of Meriwether Lewis is offered as well. In addition to other tragic narratives, Redfield explains the science behind suicide. She delves deeply into the neurotransmitter serotonin, the drugs that have been developed to help regulate mood - especially Lithium, and the genetic factors that often lead to these nasty mood disorders.

    Finally, she writes on a more hopeful theme: prevention. Her opinions on prevention are depressing, given the uncontrollable variables that cause suicide. Despite this, she still conveys the possibility that many lives can be saved. In addition to the usefulness of psychiatric drugs, she persuasively writes of the need for a combo of medicine and psychotherapy for the patient (rather than just one or the other), family awareness and cooperation, as well as a more open-minded society regarding mental illness.

    The final chapter is dedicated to those left behind. With insight from her own experience, poetry, and personal narratives, she portrays the anguish, questions, and shame those left behind are forced to deal with.

    Like most people, I always considered the act of suicide to be the result of extreme personal circumstances: a lifetime of rejection, endless professional failure, years of horrific abuse, etc. But Kay Redfield shatters that myth, proving that the majority of life's survivors do not commit suicide, while very successful people may commit suicide in an instant - thanks to unfortunate heredity, mental illness, and drug abuse. With these three "hits" in place, without help on many levels - medical, psychological, and social - suicide is highly likely.

    Kay Redfield Jamison is a courageous leader in the field of mental health. She lifts the ignorance, shame, and silence surrounding suicide. And she writes to the public in a chillingly honest, direct, and compassionate manner.

    Read this book today - and get the real truth.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A beautifully written book.
    I have decided I love this author. Kay Jamison writes with such intense knowledge and grasp of her subject that the reader is transposed into her world. Dr. Jamison is an expert in her field of depression and manic depressive illnesses. She is also an expert on suicide, which this book is about. It is a profound and deeply moving book that addresses an ever increasing problem in our society. Dr. Jamison leads us on a disturbing journey through the suicidal mind, and brings us back again, a bit wiser, more enlightened, and hauntingly contemplative on this desperate subject. She does this with much compassion as well, which endears the reader to the subject from the start, and she offers hope to those unfortunate individuals who suffer a pain and agony in life that, hopefully, most of us will never know.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Scarey
    The book has an exotic name and is very informative on the topic of suicide. But it is a frightening book. I will definitly remember this book for the rest of my life and I get enormous amount of anxiety when I just think about it. I don't recommend this book to anybody because it is like a long research paper(not dry though) but it is not a self-help book. I guess for the general population this book can be very confusing.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent
    This book is excellent. I would recommend this anybody, even people who have not experienced suicide directly. She has a most interesting way of capturing her audience and bringing awareness to a topic that is not always easy to deal with.

    5-0 out of 5 stars thanks
    All I have to say is thank you. Thank you for this book. ... Read more


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