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    1. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
    by John Gray, John Gray
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    Asin: 006016848X
    Catlog: Book (1992-05-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
    Sales Rank: 1265
    Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars
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    Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them.

    Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

    Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.

    With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners. ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars A Good Guide to Communication in a Relationship
    ¡§Men are From Mars, Woman are From Venus¡¨ (MAFM) is filled with insightful advice and many illustrative examples on how to communicate effectively in relationships. Gray places a large emphasis on the importance of marital relationships and endeavors to help couples, going through rough times, to communicate effectively with each other. Within the context of modern society, where marriage is very often presented in popular media as an archaic social construct, it is refreshing to find a person that regards marriage with such high esteem.

    MAFM explores some of the fundamental differences between men and women and seeks to explain why men/women act in the way they do. Gray aims to help readers to understand ¡§how completely different men and women are¡¨ but encouragingly teaches ¡§ways for successfully relating with, listening to, and supporting the opposite sex.¡¨ Gray places a large emphasis on ¡§practical techniques¡¨ and calls MAFM ¡§a practical manual for how to succeed in creating loving relationships.¡¨ MAFM is drawn from the author¡¦s own observations in an active counseling practice and from his own experience as a married man and father.

    Men are described as ¡§rubber bands.¡¨ According to Gray, a man needs to ¡§pull away to fulfill his need for independence or autonomy.¡¨ Gray asserts that if men do ¡§not have an opportunity to pull away, he never gets a chance to feel his strong desire to feel close.¡¨ Gray also observes, ¡§When a man is stressed he will withdraw into the cave of his mind and focus on solving a problem.¡¨ Women, on the other hand, are described as ¡§waves.¡¨ ¡§When she feels loved,¡¨ says Gray, ¡§her (a woman¡¦s) self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion.¡¨ Gray notes that, ¡§a woman¡¦s ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself.¡¨ Gray also asserts women, in general, ¡§feel better by talking about solving problems.¡¨

    Gray asserts, ¡§Most of our complex emotional needs can be summarized as the need for love.¡¨ He then identifies the primary needs of men as ¡§trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and encouragement.¡¨ Woman¡¦s primary emotional needs, says Gray, are ¡§caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance.¡¨ Once these primary needs have been isolated, Gray argues that, for a successful relationship, a husband must be willing to meet the emotional needs of his wife and vice versa. If men/women do not set out to fulfill each other¡¦s needs then they may be unknowingly hurting their partner. ¡§Love,¡¨ says Gray, ¡§often fails because people instinctively give what they want¡K.So they are caught in a loop of failing to fulfill each other¡¦s needs.¡¨ Gray asserts that ¡§if men and women learn how to support each other in the ways that are most important for their own unique needs, change and growth will become automatic.¡¨

    Gray also addresses the complex issue of arguments, and how they can be avoided. He asserts that men and women should ¡§negotiate¡¨ for what they want but that they shouldn¡¦t ¡§argue.¡¨ ¡§The secret to avoiding arguments,¡¨ says Gray, ¡§is loving and respectful communication.¡¨ He stresses that arguments should be identified and, once identified, people should stop and take a time out. He says that arguments are started for one reason: ¡§we are not feeling loved.¡¨ Although there may be apparent surface issues the deeper issue is the lack of love that a person feels. During difficult times in a relationship, it is important, according to Gray, ¡§to try to communicate with a loving, validating, and approving attitude.¡¨ If we endeavor to understand the emotional needs of our partner and work towards meeting those needs then arguments can be avoided.

    Gray also sets about illuminating positive methods to communicate difficult emotions and needs to ones partner. He acknowledges the importance of having emotional needs met and constantly emphasizes that we need to inform our partners as to what those needs are and how to communicate those needs effectively to each other. His use of letters with clearly defined formats that encourage simple and meaningful communication are novel in their method and style. It is certainly something I will attempt to use in the future when I wish to communicate difficult feelings to my wife.

    Although I find myself in agreement with much that is in this book, I do not agree with the expectations that he places within people. Gray talks about the ¡§love you deserve¡¨ and emphasizes this point towards the end of the book. I do not believe that it is correct to expect anything within a relationship although I feel I am obliged to give 100%. If I expect certain needs to be met, and those needs are not met, I will feel very disappointed. Other points I disagree with is his insistence that we get in touch with our repressed, painful feelings. Although they need to be worked out, we should not hover over them and be victims to them. We should rather empower ourselves in the here and now than be slaves to the past.

    Apart from these differences, I found MAFM to be an encouraging book that delves into the depths of relationships and the causes for failures. The practical examples that are provided are insightful and do reflect the reality of relationships. Ultimately, this book is no guarantee to successful relationships, but rather it provides willing partners, who are both prepared to commit 100% to the relationship, greater understanding into the psych of their chosen one. MAFM shows how men and women can work with each other to enhance the good in their relationship and how they can confront difficult and troubling circumstances with hope.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Great Communication Guide
    John Gray's book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in You Relationships is a great self-help book. Gray's purpose in writing the book was to help out both men and women to understand the opposite sex and help break down the communication barriers that occur occasionally between the two sexes. The author not only writes from both the typical male point of view, but also writes as an enlightened professional. Gray tends to believe and put forward what most writers feel. This particular work has greatly impacted society and has helped many couples in trouble. It is original in style and will definitely have lasting value because relationships between men and women will never be perfect. The main sources of the author's data come from his own life, marriage and personal experiences. The author simply questions human nature and how men and women behave and will react to each other and each other's decisions. This book is very well-written and does not contain a lot of argument because it is a self-help book. This book can be read by not only all intelligence levels, but all age levels as well. As long as you are in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, this book can help you. I agree with the author's point of view because he is not biased towards one sex and helps point out not only faults but also the strengths of the decisions of both sexes. The greatest strength of the work would be that Gray has finally broken down the communication barrier with his own wife and shares it with us all. The only weakness that I have found in this book is that Gray tends to be repetitive in what he says. This book has greatly contributed to my knowledge of communication and thought process of both sexes.

    1-0 out of 5 stars A good start.
    John Gray helps the reader in a child story like way throught different qualities men and women express. Great. Those you can figure most of this stuff out with a few well spent nights meditating. If you lack the time. Well get the book it really will clear up alot of communication differences between men and females.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Men Are From Earth And Women Are From Earth!...
    This Book is pure crape!,Theire aren't any diffrences beetween women and men as human beings and in theire soul!in reality!...it is only the stupid society that creates those superficial "diffrences",men and women are programed since they are born,it's cultural,i do think that men and women can communicate as long as they are not both an extreme of eatch gender,because we all do have the same needs and desirs and we are not that different in the inside!

    2-0 out of 5 stars Redundancy, Illiteracy: Words to describe this book.
    I began this book with a positive outlook. I had heard good things about it, people had in a way 'ordered' me to read it. It was interesting in the beginning and I still considered it a 'good' book. However, the more I read, the more I was discouraged.

    This book is incredibly redundant. I believe it is the second-last chapter that is about love letters. However, the last chapter also speaks about love letters. I'm asking myself "Didn't we already cover this?"

    Not only must John Gray enjoy 'rambling,' he most also enjoy having poor english skills. There are multiple times in the book that he uses the word 'caring' as a noun, which it is not. Not only this, but he has persuaded some of his readers to this belief that 'caring' is a noun. Look for yourself: plenty of the reviews for this book use 'caring' as a noun.

    Reading this book, I felt as if I was reading a high school student's writing. A poor high school student's writing at that.

    As I continued reading, the redundancy worsened as did the illiteracy. I had begun thinking of a four star rating, but the more I read the more aggravated I go with the poor attributes of this book, thus leading to my two star rating. Part of me wishes to put one star, just to bring down the average customer rating as it does not deserve to be so high.

    To conclude, John Gray needs some education in writing and the English language. Also, his redundancy needs to calm itself. There are a few ideas in this book that are useful. However, those useful ideas could have been published in a ten page pamphlet and the benefit would have been just the same. [Possibly more, as I would not have wasted my time wading through the redundancy.]

    Recommendation: Any Dale Carnegie work is much better written and more beneficial than this book is. I suggest you purchase and read _Dale Carnegie's Lifetime Plan for Success_, which includes two of his books: _How to Win Friends & Influence People_ and _How to Stop Worrying & Start Living_. ... Read more


    2. Mars and Venus in the Bedroom : A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060927933
    Catlog: Book (1997-01-29)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Sales Rank: 5678
    Average Customer Review: 3.68 out of 5 stars
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    In his #1 New York Times bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray helped men and women develop better communication skills by recognizing that they have different emotional needs. Now he takes them to communications final frontier--the bedroom.

    Mars and Venus in the Bedroom provides both men and women with specific instructions on how their new relationship skills can be used to improve their sex lives. Written with the understanding and unique insight that can come only from John Gray, it shows couples how they can become sexually satisfied without frustrating their partners, be better lovers, keep their monogamous relationship passionate, communicate their sexual needs romantically and get more pleasure out of sex.

    Yes, men are still from Mars and women are from Venus, and vive la difference. With John Gray's guidance, these two celestial bodies can harness their differences to come into closer orbit with each other and enjoy some close encounters of the most heavenly kind. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: You Have to Have This Book!
    I've been married to the same person for 28 years and always thought our sex life was great, but when we read this book (yes, we both read it) we realised how much we still didn't know, hadn't tried, and hadn't communicated about. This book has enhanced an already great relationship - just think what it could do for one in trouble! This is written plainly, interestingly, and is very accurate - from both the woman's and the man's point of view. There were a couple of things that seemed corny to me, but may not seem that way to someone who is 20 years younger than me (I'm 48). Buy this book! I guarantee you will get at least one insight into sex that will help your love life, no matter how wise you think you already are!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Very Informative Text
    John Gray's book is an excellent resource for people who are interested in improving their physical relationships. After reading each section thoroughly, I realized for the first time that there was more to the enjoyment of intimacy than I had imagined. Chapter 3, titled 'Once A Year Is Not Enough', made me re-think my schedule. I still only get it once a year, but at least Gray has made me aware.

    Another excellent piece of advice comes in Chapter 5, where Gray states controversially, 'Don't be afraid to experiment; try new things, like undressing. It may seem unnatural at first, but hey...we've all got wobbly bits.'

    This is also a valuable manual for those just starting a physical relationship. Topics for the 'nookie' novice include 'How Come You've Got THREE?', 'Batteries Are A Girl's Best Friend', 'No, Susan, Fellatio Wasn't That Italian Film Director Married to Sophia Loren' and 'Bob and Carol and Bill and Monica'.

    'Mars and Venus in the Bedroom' is a 'must-read' book. I can't wait for Gray's next one, 'Mars and Venus in the Boardroom'. Coroprate America is already ducking for cover.

    5-0 out of 5 stars By Far the best Mars/ Venus book
    Of any of the books.... this is the one to get if you are in a long term relationship. It touches on so many topics, and different perspectives that is is the only one that I went out and bought after I read it from the local library.

    1-0 out of 5 stars gray is old hat
    I cannot believe what Gray thinks about women.It's insulting
    and sterotyical.How would he know,how would anyone know what
    every woman and every man is thinking or wanting anyway!
    Women are crockpots and men are blow torches he says.He never
    gets to the truth of why this sometimes is so - it's called
    socialisation.Socialisation influences us so much,we don't
    sometimes know it's happening because it's so planted in our
    minds.
    Read Rudov,I just got done with his book and he has ideas which
    will end all of your relationship problems.Some might be
    shocked by his revolutionary and courageous ideas but sometimes
    one has to be shocked into a new way of thinking in order to
    change for the better.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Great for laughs
    I got it,
    and it has lots of great advice! I would recommend that it be read with a lard chunk of salt (in some sections).

    A couple of things made me LMAO and I had to share.

    1. He devotes 1 1/2 pages in telling a man how to deliver oral sex to a woman. And not very well either. He mentions the G-spot, but basically says "It would create preformance anxiety in the man if he kept trying to find it---so he won't get too technical" so he leaves it at that.

    Excuse me! I nearly dropped the book at this point (like, he could have devoted 10 pages to that alone).

    2. HOWEVER, he devotes 5 plus pages!!! on giving oral to a guy! Going into extreme, intricate detail of every millimeter of area to be covered.

    In reading this, there is no doubt about Dr. Gray's gender.

    His justification? Men like it better than women (erm, excuse me?! Was I asked???)

    3. He does this lingerie=mood chart that had me falling out of bed "If she is wearing black lace, it means she is in this kinda mood, if she is wearing white, it means she feels virginal, if she is in pink, it means she feels romantic."

    Again, WHAT? How about I look pretty dang good in black lack, the pink doesn't scratch and the white doesn't ride up. Maybe he is color blind.

    4. Oy, and don't get me started in the section about Quickies (I do agree to some point, but the reciprocal part isn't fair, balanced). Cuddles for a quickie? Where did he find these people! It came off as extremely cold blooded, with the woman lying there like a log being perfectly OK to the hubby (argh!) That alone would be a 'he needed a killin'' defense in a murder trial.

    All that aside, it does have some helpful pointers. Buy the book used....and cheap. ... Read more


    3. Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060926619
    Catlog: Book (1996-02-14)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Sales Rank: 7575
    Average Customer Review: 3.62 out of 5 stars
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    The national bestseller that sold more than 450,000 copies and is the perfect companion to the author's nearly 3-million-copy, #1 New York Times bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars The Information Age can Help even You
    I picked up this book, after running into my ex-fiancée five years after the fact. I have been struggling with gender role issues longer than I care to admit-I turned 50 this year. To my amazement, I learned some things that I can't apply to a male/female relationship at this time (i'm not in one), but is helping with the most difficult relationship I have-with my adopted mother who is my complete opposite. I learned that although she is a career woman, she still has a more traditional mindset than I. If you are a busy person, and you don't get the whole book read, the first three chapters may change your life significantly.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Gain the skill by reading this book
    if you are married , this book will enrich your skills in understanding your mate. It is a book of a very good standard . it added a lot to me in how doing less but supporting more, to duck and dodge, to listen without interrupting and how to get the win/win solution. I recommend this book for all whome are married or about to be married.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Wordy, but accurate
    Having authored my own book on meeting and succeeding with women, "From the First Date to the Bedroom, the Single Man's Official Guide to Success with Women," I can fully appreciate John Gray's work.

    Whereas my book is a light-hearted approach to dating and mating from the male perspective, I will tell you that John does a womderful job in this more serious work. It is definitely worth the time to read.

    Butch Mazzuca,
    Author, From the First Date to the Bedroom, the Single Man's Official Guide to Success with Women,"

    1-0 out of 5 stars Close but not quite..
    Interesting book. Unfortunately it really plays on stereotypes. It does have a few valuable things to say though.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Mars And Venus Together Forever. A MUST READ book.
    This information is excellent in helping couples understand that things we say can be taken one way by our partner when we really mean something else. I think it will help a lot of people out there who unintentionally may be hurting a relationship while trying to communicate. ... Read more


    4. Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving & Lasting Relationship
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060174722
    Catlog: Book (1997-06-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
    Sales Rank: 40283
    Average Customer Review: 3.79 out of 5 stars
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    The latest tentacle of John Gray's formidable Mars and Venus octopus deals with a topic near to the heart of almost everybody--dating. With a lot of insight and common sense, Gray tackles the hard and often messy business of finding "a soul mate." Without fear or favor, Mars and Venus on a Date dissects the dynamics between men and women and the five stages each relationship must pass through: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and, finally, engagement (for marriage, of course). Even though Mars and Venus on a Date isn't The Rules by a long shot, the courtship it describes is surprisingly old-fashioned. It's chock-full of things your mother might say: "Most people find or are found by their soul mates when they are not really looking." "The man should never talk more than the woman." But how to know if the person you're with is your "soul mate?" Gray writes, "When our soul wants to marry our partner, it feels like a promise that we came into this world to keep." Which translates into, "When you know, you know." ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars FANTASTIC AUTHOR...FANTASTIC BOOK!
    First of all, to answer another reviewer's concern about how the author gained his knowledge, John Gray holds a Ph.D. and is extremely well respected around the world in his area of expertise - the psychology of human realtionships. His qualified opinions are not based simply on personal experience or opinion, but on proven, scientific fact and theory. His acclaimed books have been published and sold by the millions, world-wide, in forty languages.

    Like his renowned book, "Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus" this book is an insightful look into the psychology of the male-female relationship. This one, however, draws on the behaviours before marriage or a commitment has been made. As Grey points out, normally there is a five step sequence of events that takes place when dating: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacey and engagement. As a counsellor who has studied psychology and human behaviour, this is one book I have recommended to many couples and received nothing but positive feedback, not once have I heard a negative comment.

    This author deserves abundant praises for his research, expertise and writing ability. His books are an opportunity for both male and female readers to learn and understand more about themselves and their personal relationships. He adds a slight touch of humour to his unique writing style, and from the very first page, the reader cannot help but feel, "this is a person I can trust." Based on the world-wide success of books, obviously a multitude of other readers around the globe agree. His books are not "sexist" as some believe; they are an actual account based on fact from a psychological perspective.

    For anyone who complains about the length of the book, a shorter version would not do the book justice. Each page is a key component to the overall picture, and if you fail to see it's purpose, you are missing out on a valuable part of the overall analyis.

    I highly recommend "Mars and Venus on a Date" to anyone who is dating, regardless of age. Gray has a terrific presentation style and the principles of the book are not limited to any particular age group. Even if you are not currently dating, read the book anyway; it contains some insightful and priceless observations.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The only dating guide you'll ever need!
    There definitely seems to be a market saturation with dating and relationship books these days. But before you do a "Bridget Jones" and buy every single one of them, stop right there--buy "Mars and Venus on a Date" and you won't have to buy another dating guide ever again. This is a good book for ANYONE in the dating market--no matter what age you are, whether you are divorced or widowed, or what religion or set of values you follow. Most people today have no clue how to date properly in order to build lasting and loving relationships, and I was one of them before I read this book. I started reading it after having a disastrous dating situation in college and realized that I needed a little guidance in the romance depatment. This book was like a sudden revelation--suddenly all of my questions about male behavior and the dating process were answered! The book describes the five stages of dating and fills you in on how things are supposed to progress. It also gives you valuable advice about the male and female roles in dating. Though Dr. Gray emphasizes traditional dating roles (the man is the pursuer, the woman shouldn't call, etc.), he explains the logic behind them so that even a feminist such as myself would agree with them.

    What makes this book stand out from the rest is that is focuses on building loving relationships and not just sex. Never once does John Gray say that sex should be a part of every relationship. In fact, he even says that too often people have sex way too soon, which often sabotages the relationship. As someone who wants to wait until marriage to have sex, I found this very refreshing. In fact, Gray gives some positive examples of couples who waited until marriage to have sex. He makes a clear point that you don't have to go all the way to experience intimacy.

    But most importantly, this book works. I have now been dating someone for about 5 weeks now, and things are going great. Without John Gray's wisdom and guidance, this relationship may have ended up like the last one.

    So what are you waiting for...go buy this book!

    1-0 out of 5 stars OK at first, then offensive
    The first 2/3 of the book was OK, with balanced "points of view" and "how-to's" for both men and women. Some of the information was interesting, explanatory, and useful; some was not.

    But then the author began giving unbalanced treatment, primarily telling women how they ought to behave and what they ought to say. The message was that a man has a large and fragile ego, and that a woman should support his ego. She should never disagree with him, except "playfully". In public, she should paint him as a white knight, regardless of what really happened.

    Perhaps it was just the author's writing style, but most of his examples, supposedly of real couples he'd observed or counseled, seemed made-up.

    Finally, at the end of the book, the author insults the reader's intelligence with an idiotic, redundant, and unnecessary list of 101 places to look for a mate. Very patronizing.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Solid, but a minor warning to shy readers
    John Gray's "Mars and Venus On a Date" is a solid piece of work, with well-reasoned insights into the dynamics of male-female romantic relationships.

    One note, though, to men who are shy, and might see the book as a guide to learning how to get dates more easily. Shyness is not really addressed here. This is by no means meant as a criticism, but given the notoriety of the "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" books, many men may wonder if this kind of help is being offered here.

    The closest Gray comes to touching on shyness is when he says that many men get tongue-tied when approaching women they're attracted to, and that usually the best advice is to say the most simple thing ("Hi, I'm John," etc.). He also briefly touches on the various ways women might flirt, and the ways to tastefully send out non-verbal cues that you're interested. This territory is covered in a total of maybe three paragraphs, at different points in the book. One of the last sections touches on dozens of places to meet your soulmate.

    The book is great for people who don't have any trouble in the initial, attraction phase. But for those who can't get to that first approach, this may not be the best place to start.

    5-0 out of 5 stars SUCCESS FOR FINDING YOUR SOULMATE..THIS BOOK IS THE TRUTH
    A year ago,I didn't want to believe this book was the truth.I wanted to believe I could be the agressor in dating and relationships.Newflash ladies being the agressor never works.The one who invest the most is the one who leads and wears the pants.Do you want a puppie for a man???This book is healthy for women and men.One thing will never change and that's the sex of the female and male.Some rules remain..one of them are masculine and feminine energy.IF YOUR HAVING TROUBLE HAVING SUCCESS IN RELATIONSHIPS..DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND READ THIS BOOK AND EXAMINE THE TIMES YOU HAD SUCCESS AND FAILURE IN DATING.AFTER READING AND APPLYING THE ADVICE IN THIS BOOK..I JUST WANT TO WISH YOU A BEAUTIFUL LIFE LONG MARRIAGE...HAPPINESS AND BLESSINGS TO ALL!!!!!!!! ... Read more


    5. Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060930276
    Catlog: Book (2002-06-15)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Sales Rank: 15222
    Average Customer Review: 4 out of 5 stars
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    There's nothing more devastating than the loneliness that comes with a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one. But even though it feels like the end of the world, you will survive -- and you will love again. John Gray's bestselling books about the Venus and Mars factor have helped millions of men and women develop better relationships. Now in Mars and Venus Starting Over, his gentle guidance, compassionate wisdom, and healing practices will help you feel whole again after a relationship ends.

    With warmth and insight, John Gray shows that, while the process of healing is similar on Mars and Venus, there are distinct differences between the ways men and women heal their bruised hearts. Here he offers people of both sexes specific advice for how to deal with pain, find forgiveness, discover the strength to let go, rebuild confidence, and rise to the challenge of finding fulfillment again.

    Mars and Venus Starting Over is a gift of love, a light in the darkness of your grief. Even if you're new to the Venus and Mars philosophy, you can trust John Gray to steer you through this difficult time and turn a painful ending into a joyous new beginning.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars If you fit into any of the categories, rush to get this book
    Heard and enjoyed the taped version of MARS AND VENUS STARING
    OVER by John Gray . . . the subtitle says it all: "A Practical Guide
    for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce or the Loss of
    a Loved One."

    If anybody finds himself or herself in any of those categories, then
    rush out to get this book (or the tapes) . . . you'll find a lot of
    useful advice.

    The first third is general information . . . Gray then presents material
    relevant to women first, men second . . . I found the latter section
    particularly valuable for what it had to say to me.

    Among the ideas that I got from listening:
    * The three steps for healing a broken bone are: getting help, resetting
    the bone, and them giving it time to heal by protecting the bone in
    a cast. In a similar way, the three steps for healing the heart are:
    Step One: Getting help
    Step Two: Grieving the loss
    Step Three: Becoming whole before getting involved again

    * [the four healing emotions]
    Healing Emotion 1: Anger
    Feeling then releasing anger reconnects us to our passion for love and life.

    Healing Emotion 2: Sadness
    Feeling and then releasing sadness opens our hearts to fell the sweetness
    of love once again

    Healing Emotion 3: Fear
    Feeling and then releasing fear provides the ability to discern what we need
    and can depend on now.

    Healing Emotion 4: Sorrow
    Feeling and then releasing sorrow provides the ability to discern what is
    possible.

    * Another way to process the four healing emotions is simply to ask
    yourself these four questions. Often men find this an easier approach
    in the beginning. By answering these questions, our healing emotions
    automatically begin to come up. While answering these questions,
    give yourself permission to feel anger, sadness, fear, sorrow, and any
    other similar feelings.
    1. What happened?
    2. What didn't happen?
    3. What could happen?
    4. What can't happen?

    If you wish to explore a little deeper, there are a few more questions you can
    ask and answer.

    QUESTION ONE
    What happened that you didn't want to happen?
    What is happening that you don't want to happen?
    What has happened that you do not like?

    QUESTION TWO
    What didn't happen that you wanted to happen?
    What is not happening that you want to happen?
    What should have happened?

    QUESTION THREE
    What could happen that you don't want to happen?
    What is important to you?
    What could happen that you want to happen?

    QUESTION FOUR
    What can't happen that you want to happen?
    What can't happen that you wish could have happened?
    What can happen that you want to happen?

    By asking these four questions or practicing the three parts of the feeling
    better exercise, you will be better prepared to heal the waves of feeling
    that come from your loss. With this technique, you will be able to remember
    your partner without having to get stuck in painful feelings. With this insight
    and ability, you are free to stay in touch with your feelings and complete
    the healing process.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A wonderful guide, worth reading and rereading
    Many books about divorce get as far as "this is a trauma" and "don't hurt the kids," and maybe give you the standard "positive thinking" advice -
    but this book goes into emotional machinery, and how to really grow and not just cope.

    There is much more to this book than a quick blurb can suggest, but one main point is: There are four negative emotions which need to be recognized in dealing with a major loss. These are fear, anger, sadness, and sorrow (grieving for hopes that are now impossible). It is easy to get stuck in one or two of these four, but the one of these we are not aware of is likely to be the hidden hook which is holding us back.

    He also has a great many practical observations about ways rebounding men and women injure ourselves and others - the first one is that men tend to get involved too soon, and women too late.

    This is a pop-psychology/self-help book, but don't underrate it - it's got enough to say (at least for divorced people) that I've reread it three times in the last month.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars The Breakup Bible
    What's refreshing about this book is that it does more than just say "Don't call him!" or "Hang out with your girlfriends more." It focuses on your emotions and how you can heal them so you can move on eventually and find love again. It actually validates your feelings of anger, sadness, and loneliness and even calls them "healing emotions," necessary for healing your broken heart and moving on. Instead of telling you to completely forget about your former partner and not think about him/her all the time, he ENCOURAGES you to think about the good times and what you did as a couple. Gray goes into every emotion with great detail, and gives you plenty of exercises to bring them out so they can be healed. And as a woman, it's refreshing to read a breakup book that doesn't "male bash." It doesn't go on about why men can't commit, blah, blah, blah. Since it's for both men and women, it gives both sides of the story (and surprisingly--or not--we both go through pretty much the same thing!) . And it never says "there is no possibility you'll ever be with this person again, so get over it", but it does state you need to heal from the breakup first before considering getting back together with your former mate. This book will immensely change your life and the way you think about relationships. Most of all, it will help you get through a very painful part of your life...with your sanity intact!

    4-0 out of 5 stars It Helped Me.
    Given the market of self-help books these days, it is still slim pickings to find something that might work for the average guy. This book goes a long way to help the average guy figure out all the feelings that go with breaking-up, divorce and death. Although there are parts of the book that are a little "touchy-feely", I would encourage someone to stick with it and finish. The section on the differences of breaking up between women and men is great. It helped me to understand I wasn't crazy and that there are right and wrong ways to approach loss. I'd recommend it to anybody who needs a little help to get over the hump of losing someone they love.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great
    This book has been tremendously helpful, I have read it multiple times and learn something new every time. I would recommend this book to anyone who has found themselves newly single. It's hard enough to be alone, this book definitely helps explain the feelings. ... Read more


    6. What You Feel You Can Heal: A Guide to Enriching Relationships
    by John Gray, John, Ph.D. Gray
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    Asin: 0931269016
    Catlog: Book (1994-04-01)
    Publisher: Heart Publishing
    Sales Rank: 56280
    Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars
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    The need for love begins with your need to love yourself.

    Consciously or unconsciously, everyone is trying to enrich and improve their relationships in some way. Enriching our relationships is an art and a science. For this enrichment to happen'even before we can find and accept love'we have to love ourselves.

    Through his experience in working with others to heal their pain, Dr. Gray has found patterns and messages that many of us received while growing up. These messages can keep us from loving ourselves'and from loving and receiving love from others. By exploring how these messages became ingrained in us while we were young and how we are using them today, we can change old patterns and thoughts about ourselves and others as well as create long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.

    John Gray tells us that “Loving yourself in the presence of others means being able to express your inner gifts and talents without fear. When you don't love yourself and mask your real self, the cycle works in the opposite direction'decreasing love and true self expression.”

    Read by the author.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Very Very Good
    This book is very helpful in understanding yourself and your partner. It is a very easy read and could be mistaken as too "simple" - but the beauty of this book is that it has taken some of the most complex feelings and reduced it to bite size ideas and adorable cartoons. I am a highly educated person and thought the cartoons were brilliant (BS, MS, JD) - some reviewers did not like them? Read this book more than once and learn a lot about relationships. I am really hoping to (educationally smart - relationship dummy).

    5-0 out of 5 stars EXCELLENT!!
    This book is fabulous! It has very easy-to-understand examples and simple illustrations. I highly recommend this book to both men and women!

    4-0 out of 5 stars Simple, but insightful
    While the cartoons can sometimes seem a little patronizing, the book actually has very good content. There are a lot of good suggestions for strengthening relationships. It is most helpful if both partners read the book.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Before John Gray became an idiot
    This book shows real insight into human emotion and interpersonal dynamics, presented in a very gentle, simple way. Why he gave up and became the gender stereotyper from hell, I don't know. I guess because it sold better. Too bad, because this is the better approach. He discusses the dynamics of emotional connection without resorting to "men do this, women do that" by showing that when one partner, regardless of gender, behaves a certain way, the other will respond accordingly.

    The tone of this book, again, is simple, almost childish, but gets the points across. "The Two Step", is the grown-up version.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent
    A must read!!! It is written in a simple and "fun" format but with extremely profound principles. ... Read more


    7. Men, Women and Relationships : Making Peace with the Opposite Sex
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060507861
    Catlog: Book (2002-11-01)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Sales Rank: 76791
    Average Customer Review: 4.35 out of 5 stars
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    Men and women are different -- there's no denying it. So why do we constantly expect the same actions and feelings from them? This enormously helpful book not only enables you to recognize the differences between you and your loved one but also leads you toward an acceptance of those differences, thereby paving the way for a stronger relationship.

    With his characteristic wit and wisdom, relationship expert John Gray explains the different ways men and women communicate, cope with stress, resolve conflicts, and experience and give love. Once you understand these differences, you'll be better equipped to handle inevitable bumps in the road, and be on your way to a long-lasting and truly loving relationship.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars I finally understand men!
    I read this book while my boyfriend (now my fiance) and I were taking some time apart. Not only did this book help me to understand and interpret his behavior; it helped me to understand my OWN behavior in relationships. I realized how so often we try to give so much to the other person, but our efforts fall on deaf ears because men and women DO NOT want the same things. This book served as a true epiphany, and I use John's tips everyday in my happy, successful relationship.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Saved our marriage.. literally
    My wife and I divorced in 1995. We were apart for two years. Situations in our life kept bringing us back together to deal with children. Eventually we decided to try to put our marriage back together so we went to Christian counseling. Our counselor had us read this book. Time after time my jaw would drop open while reading. My wife said the same thing. I remember saying, "She isn't crazy afterall. Our differences are normal." Both our eyes were opened allowing us to accept our differences without feeling the other one did not care of love the other. This book along with our desire to do God's will was the basis for our putting our marriage back together. We remarried after 2-1/2 years apart. That was six years ago. I buy this book regularly to give to couples old and young alike. It is a Godsend for a society too quick to divorce and too misunderstanding of one another.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Long, but entertaining
    Very well written guide for understanding the opposite sex. Even though it was written by a man, it amazes me how well he understands women and how we work. I think this book should be required reading for everyone!! Men, if you want to impress the women, read this! Also, since the book was written by a man, I assume us women can learn a lot about men as well. Read it!

    5-0 out of 5 stars This will open your eyes!
    Here is THE BOOK for a couple experiencing problems communicating and expressing their feelings to one another. My lady and I have recently experienced a painful breakup. I then purchased this book and immediately saw some of the reasons why we saw things differently and suffered a communication breakdown. I wish I had read this book a year ago!

    I could not put it down and read it rapidly. Now, I plan to reread it again slowly. You will get more out of this book than Dr. Grays "Mars/Venus" books and the 100's of other books on relationships between men and women.

    If you are having problems with your mate SHARE THIS BOOK! Read it yourself first, than read it together. It will open your eyes as to how to give and receive unconditional love. Wish you good luck and good love.

    5-0 out of 5 stars AN AMAZING READ...
    I am not an avid reader, but after what appeared to be the end of a great relationship, I needed somewhere to turn. I read through titles of hundreds of books looking for just the right one; the one that could help me understand what was happening in my relationship and why. As with most women, I was somewhat familiar with Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus, but never read it. I took my time and read the preface to so many books, but this book seemed like it might be "the one". As I began reading, I didn't want to put the book down!! I finished the book within a week (again, not an avid reader, but it was a very easy read) and walked away with an amazing comprehension of my boyfriend and our relationship. I could identify with SO MANY THINGS from this book and relate them to my situation. A month before reading this, my boyfriend became distant and seemed to withdraw from our regular conversations. Since we were so close, I didn't understand what was going on and could only conclude he was no longer interested in me -- he must have found someone else. As I read -- there it was -- the exact situation I was going through explained in black and white with no emotional attachments -- he was having (big) problems at work and as such was focusing his full attention on work.
    READ THIS -- MEN AND WOMEN -- to get a better understanding of each other, even if you believe you are exactly the same -- YOU AREN'T! I understand now!!!! THANK YOU!!! ... Read more


    8. Los hombres son de Marte, las mujeres son de Venus
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060951435
    Catlog: Book (1995-05-10)
    Publisher: Rayo
    Sales Rank: 181067
    Average Customer Review: 3 out of 5 stars
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    Érase una vez unos marcianos y unas venusianasque se conocieron, se enamoraron, y fueron felicespor que respetaron y aceptaron sus diferencias. Luegovinieron a la tierra y olvidaron que pertenecían adiferentes planetas....

    Basado en los años de experiencia del Dr. John Grayen asesoramiento de parejas e individuos, Los HombresSon de Marte, Las Mujeres Son de Venus le ha ayudadoa millones de parejas a transformar sus relaciones. Considerado hoy en día como un clásico moderno,este revolucionario libro le ha ayudado a hombres y mujeresen el mundo entero a darse cuenta de lo diferentes que son, y a comunicar sus necesidades sin necesidad de conflicto, dejando florecer la intimidad en la pareja.

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    1-0 out of 5 stars los hombres son de marte, las mujeres son de venus
    sintesis del libro, analisis general

    5-0 out of 5 stars Los Hombres son de Marte, las mujeres son de Venus
    Finalmente alguien que explica, clara y llanamente las diferencias entre los dos sexos y como sobrellevarlas. John Gray describe, con un muy buen sentido del humor pero realista, la relacion entre hombres y mujeres, a tal punto que da un diccionario para que las dos partes se entiendan mejor. Es la cuchara de azucar que toda pareja necesita para encontrar soluciones para las diferencias. Deberiamos tener 2 en cada casa, uno en cada mesita de luz a cada lado de la cama. ... Read more


    9. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days: 365 Inspirations to Enrich Your Relationships
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060192771
    Catlog: Book (1998-11-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
    Sales Rank: 82946
    Average Customer Review: 4 out of 5 stars
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    Drawing from his nine bestsellers, including Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray has compiled 365 reminders, or "inspirations," designed to help you improve your relationship with your significant other. Instead of focusing on where men and women can reach common ground, Gray revels in the differences between the sexes and how men and women must recognize and understand these contrasts in order to solve conflicts and make relationships flourish.

    The book is divided into 12 different themes--among them, "Needing Time Alone," "Keeping the Passion Alive," "Reacting to Stress," and "Improving Communication." The Book of Days will be most helpful to those who've read his earlier titles; terms that Gray has coined, such as "dodging," "ducking," "disarming," and "delivering," and many other catchphrases, will otherwise seem undefined. ... Read more

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    1-0 out of 5 stars Glad I didn't buy my own copy.
    Very disappointing. I don't think the things mentioned in this book are so generically applicable. I read it for an hour and left it, unimpressed. It gives the feeling that the author has a specific male and female individual (or bunch of individuals) in mind, and carries on with that image.

    4-0 out of 5 stars YOung marriages
    Usually the first few chapter discourage me or encourage me to continue reading, I have in fact read on. I have seen many communication problem's in everyday life; people are misunderstanding the other other people around them. Simple because they are only interested in theirself. I find this book a caluable asset to my relationships. I will be purchasing this book for my sister and brother in law. A wonderfull christmas gift for anyone in a relationship.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Helpful each day of the year.
    I love this book. While his other books give a great overview, this one is wonderful because it is broken down into a little information each day. As I read, I am reminded of the changes I first made when I read, "Men Are From Mars..." and this book helps me to keep those changes in the forefront of my mind. I would recommend this book to everyone who enjoyed and learned from, "Men are from Mars..." and the other books in the series.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great book for opening communication
    It follows much of the traditional philosophy of his other books, but the daily format provides a good forum for my wife and I to take turns reading to each other. Each day is a page or two of John's insight, wisdom and humor.

    5-0 out of 5 stars PERFECT
    I have almost all of John Gray's books, and he conveys a tremendous amount of valuable relationship info in all of them. It's very easy to forget things that you have learned and then not remember them when you need them. 'Book of Days' brings much of the info from many of John Gray's books into a single book with 365 daily insights into men and women and relationships. Commit yourself to read the insight of the day everyday, and then share it and discuss it with your partner. The benefits are immediate and endless, and they will make a long lasting impression in your relationship. My lover and I have an incredible relationship with the help of his books, and now we can share his knowledge and insights together. After just a week with 'Book of Days', we realized that there were some things we could improve on and change in our relationship, and sharing these insights and knowledge with each other has made our love and our relationship even stronger. Incredible...GET THIS BOOK !! I love you, Debbie Lin. Here's to us :) ILYMCIE ... Read more


    10. How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060932155
    Catlog: Book (2000-04)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Average Customer Review: 3.52 out of 5 stars
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    Create The Life You Want

    John Gray, the author of the Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus relationship classic, now presents a brilliantly innovative program for achieving personal success. The wisdom and techniques in these pages will enable you to feel greater joy, love, confidence, and peace.

    Some Wise Words From How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have

    • Your experience of the world reflects your inner state.

    • Whenever you are not getting what you need, you are always looking in the wrong direction.

    • Find your soul's desire, and start getting everything you want.

    • Material success can only make you happy if you are already happy.

    • The power to get what you want comes from confidence, positive feeling, and desire.

    • You have the power to change. No one else can do it for you.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars HOW TO WHAT,WHAT, WHAT?
    When I first saw the title of this book, I thought it might refer to a tale on tongue twisters, but seeing John Gray's name ensured me it would be far more insightful than any tongue twister. Having read all of Gray's books, this one is outranked only by, "Mars and Venus Starting Over" (my favourite of all Gray's books) and secondly, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus."

    In this book Gray points out the importance of being at peace with one's self, taking strength from your spiritual beliefs, and the importance of meditation in our lives. For me, personally, that spirituality and peace of mind came naturally many years ago through my beliefs in Buddhists philosophies; however, whatever it is you believe in, whatever your own religious beliefs may be, you will find this book has an important message.

    The author also writes of many self-defeating behaviours which keep us from obtaining our goals and the fact many of us continutally blame others for our mistakes or failures. I absolutely love Gray's unique writing style, his anecdotes and his philosophical outlook on life. He brings to this book a wealth of priceless knowledge, inspiration and spiritual eenlightment. I have followed the principles Grey outlines here for years, partly through my psychology studies and partly through my Buddhist beliefs. While there is not a "one shoe fits all approach" that will guarantee actually getting what you want and wanting what you have, the concept has certainly worked for me over the years. Yes, there have been trials and tribulations, there are in everyone's life, but my materialistic needs are few and the inner peace, contentment, and personal happiness in my life are abundant. For those who are still searching for what they want in life, and those who are never happy when they get it, I highly recommend this fantastic book both from a psychological and personal perspective. Gray has an extraordinary ability to reach out and touch his readers, providing, of course, the reader has the ability to fully understand and grasp the context of his message. I highly recommend this sagacious, thought provoking book and hopefully, you will be blessed to get what you want in life and want what you have.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Probably 3 and a half.
    I expected to hate this book. I got it for free because a box of books was donated to my office for our garage sale (we're a non profit agency). Surprisingly, I generally thought the book was pretty good.

    Despite the fact that the phrase "love tank" is corny, Gray's point is a good one. He is trying to show people that true happiness and success isn't measured through the external trappings of wealth -- without an inner life, and an inner sense of worth, people will constantly try to fill up their emptiness with stuff. And all the "stuff" in the world won't make up for what is lacking in good relationships, a sense of emotional well being, spiritual development, and community. I agree with him there.

    I don't however, necessarily accept that you need all ten types of love to be happy. I do know people who don't have a romantic partner who are quite satisfied with their lives. Same with people who don't have children. The latter especially didn't fit for me -- Gray argues that being an aunt or belonging to something like Big Sisters won't fill you; you actually have to be a parent or have a pet, because otherwise you aren't experiencing enough responsibility. In Western culture that may be true. In other cultures, like mine (I'm of Eastern European descent) aunts and uncles view their nieces and nephews as being like their own. I certain do with my little niece. So it isn't as simple as Gray puts it.

    Oversimplification is the biggest drawback of this book, and the reason I didn't give it five stars. There isn't a whole lot in the book that's particularly new. The letter writing techniques he describes can be found in other Gray books. There is a wealth of material on meditiation on the market. So if you read alot of self-help, some of the material in this book might seem redundant. This fact makes the book, which is about 310 pages, seem even longer than that.

    Gray has a chapter that talks about different crisises at various life stages. Although he doesn't make the comparision, this chapter is reminiscent of Erik Erikson's eight stages of man. Had Gray referred to Erikson, this chapter might've had more weight. I was also frustrated because I know, as someone who's taken developmental psychology, that some of the life stages he mentions (mid life, retirement) have been shown in some studies to not result in crisis for a number of people. He makes no allusions to any evidence or research that might contradict his beliefs. In general, I was disappointed by the lack of references to other authors who share similar ideas.

    I did find that his chapters on identifying and addressing the twelve blocks were really useful for me. I can also see myself journalling with some of the questions he gives in Ch. 17 to help the reader explore their past. Some of the suggested meditations are pretty good, too. So overall, there is some material in the book I could see myself referring to in the future, either for my own personal work, or to help a client. If you like Gray, and/or you want to learn to deal with your emotions more effectively, I'd say that this book is worth reading.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Buy it for yourself AND the people you know!
    This book really surprised me. I have not been a fan of Gray's, but I am now. In this new era of energy shifts and higher consciousness, John helps you get through past issues and get on with life! I have read that some think all he talks about is God, and that is simply not true. Yes, he does mention God and devote some writing to it - but what self-changing book would be complete without bringing God into the picture?
    This book helped open my eyes to some of my blocks in a very subtle AH-HA way. I also see many of Gray's points in issues my friends and clients are struggling with. If you feel unease and are overwhelmed by the changes in life, this is a good book to help pinpoint some of the root causes and find the solutions.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Very disappointing
    I have read other John Gray books and have found them wonderful - I usually instantly connect with what he is saying. I was disappointed with this book and couldn't buy into it since his message was so different. The discussions on meditation and religion just seemed so out of place and even though I consider myself to be religious (a Christian), they didn't appeal to me at all. Maybe I got caught off-guard with this one, but I don't want to keep this book on my bookshelf, let alone recommend it to others.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Contradictions...
    I have plenty of material possessions and wealth, but find them totally ungratifying. On the other hand, I also yearn for more: bigger, more luxurious and up-to-date models of the material possessions I have, and more wealth than I have. It's as if no matter how much I have, it's never enough. It's the same with my personal and emotional life - I have very good relationships with those close to me, but feel unsatisfied by them and find myself wanting something more from somewhere else. I neither have what I want nor want what I have. It's as if my desires are locked in a self-defeating spiral, like the heads of a two-headed serpent from Greek mythology or a Harryhausen film, eating each other, oblivious to the fact that they are not only destroying each other, but in so doing are also destroying themselves. Or something like that, anyway. This book, then, seems perfectly tailored to my needs. I have many self-help books on these kinds of subjects clogging up my spacious and highly desirable house, but experience (and my very desirable wife) has told me that none of them will satisfy me, so I don't want them any more. This book, however, seems just the thing for me. It seems to be addressing the exact issues I'm facing, so I want it. I'm worried though - if I get this book, will I then not want it? While I'm dealing with this quandary, I'll give this book 3 stars. ... Read more


    11. Practical Miracles for Mars & Venus: Nine Principles for Lasting Love, Increasing Success and Vibrant Health in the 21st Century
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060199504
    Catlog: Book (2000-10-01)
    Publisher: HarperLargePrint
    Sales Rank: 836417
    Average Customer Review: 3 out of 5 stars
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    "The power to create practical miraclesis now within your reach. " -- John Gray

    According to John Gray, the author of the phenomenal bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, just as the pace of life has accelerated so has your potential for change. By awakening your hidden power to create practical miracles, you can more effectively adjust to life's challenges and respond with greater peace, joy, confidence, and love.

    John Gray provides nine guiding principles for creating miracles in your life as well as new practical tools and techniques for taking charge of your personal destiny. These easily can fit into your life, and they work right away.

    • The Recharging Technique
    • The Decharging Technique
    • The Natural Energy Diet
    • The Positive Response Technique
    • The Blockbuster Process
    • The Attitude Adjustment Technique
    • The Willful Breathing Technique
    • Natural Energy Healing
    • The "What If" Exercise
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    3-0 out of 5 stars A Mixed Bag¿
    Albert Einstein's famous quote sums up the message of this book: "There are only two ways to live your life.
    One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is."

    A large part describes the cultural and historical changes that have taken place that now allow miracles to take place by common people - rather than by the stereotypical monks that live in the mountains.

    Smashing old and limiting beliefs with inspiring and liberating ideas, John Gray provides nine techniques that'll
    allow you to use these nine principles to create miracles in your life in a simple, practical manner.

    One technique, however, may be a bit superficial and impractical: The Blockbuster Technique.

    In this short chapter, John Gray describes a familiar way of healing: writing a mock letter to whomever you are feeling negative towards. Gray provides a chart of "blocks" that are common to most. Examples include: Resentment, Depression, Confusion, etc. Your letter should explore the feelings attached to your particular block. By exploring emotions below the "block," one can attain healing. Examples of feelings attached to these blocks: Deprived, Angry, Abandoned, etc.

    I tried this with a particular person I knew at one time. My biggest challenge with this technique? I would have been up all night writing this letter. And I would have wasted an entire notebook of paper to boot!

    In trying to figure what was not working out for me, I realized one's beliefs about oneself and others determine how long this letter will go on for. So rather than using this technique of letter-writing to feel better, go read something by Albert Ellis instead - and change your ideas that lead to these feelings. That way, you will not only feel better...but you will GET better. There is a big difference between those two.

    Regardless of the validity of writing letters, there is one fantastic part that I love: this book will teach you the
    exact technique behind energy healing.

    Yes, the mysterious stuff "those spiritual people" have used to create miraculous healings. Whether these techniques work or not, I cannot say - I still need to start applying them myself. These are not ideas that you grasp in an hour, however. There are three separate exercises involved with energy: Recharging, Decharging, and Natural Energy Healing. Each one has separate instructions, and John encourages you to take baby steps
    and learn these concepts gradually.

    John Gray has the background for this, too. From my hazy understanding of him, before he got his Ph.D. in psychology and created the Mars-Venus craze, he was a monk for nine years. His story of how he healed his own blindness is described in the book as well.

    A great book: liberating, practical, and useful. Most important, if you've always wanted to learn how to heal yourself and others via meditation, touch, and energy, you must read this book.

    5-0 out of 5 stars An Inspiration
    This book is great, no matter what your stage of life. If you are ready to change your life and learn more about yourself and others, this book was meant for you. Miracles are possible.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Not Worth the Time
    I skimmed John Gray's "Practical Miracles for Mars & Venus," but couldn't stomach the hype. The first 150 pages are about the power of positive thinking and of belief in miracles. (Gray claims that the world has matured to the point that miracles are now available to anyone, at any time. Democracy and religious tolerance are two of the enabling changes.) Gray then sketches some simple techniques for physical and emotional healing: eat right; breath deeply; use a Chi Gong exercise to "recharge healing energy" and "decharge excess or negative energy" (or stress and negative thoughts); imagine that people have treated you better than they actually did; write yourself a letter expressing your frustrations; cultivate gratitude, confidence, joy, etc.; envision the world you want; believe in yourself and your power to heal. I gather that the techniques are more completely described in Gray's "How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have." "Practical Miracles" reads like an ad for Gray's seminars, or like a verbatim trancript of a stage presentation. (On page 239 he says "Now I have written twelve bestsellers and tend to be a speed writer. ... After many years of developing my thoughts, it takes me only a few months to write them down and create a book.") Positive thinking is all well and good, but the seminar must be more inspiring than the book.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Some Praticality But Not So Clear
    John Gray takes a fairly open minded stand in this book. Throughout each chapter, Mr. Gray tries to emphaize to people not to take things so seriously. By taking what you can have and enjoying the pleasures of what is given, one will find diminshed stress and the ability to heal.

    Some of the healing techniques seem a bit undeveloped and a little out there. Mere simple words have a limited healing effect. What is needed is attitude adjustments and Gray presents that fairly well. Also, the history of change over different time periods is fairly interesting and how it relates to relationships. However, this book has some psycho babble and is not totally down to earth. Some interesting points but not too deep. I borrowed this from my liubrary and would recommend others to do the same.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Really bad
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    12. Marte y Venus en el dormitorio: Una guia para hacer durar el romance y la pasion
    by John Gray
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    Catlog: Book (1996-07-17)
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    Con el libro Los Hombres son de Marte, Las Muieres son de Venus, en el primer puesto de la lista de bestsellers del New York Times el doctor John Gray ha ayudado a miles de parejas a mejorar sus relaciones, haciéndolas más amorosas y afectuosas. Ahora examina el lugar donde la buena comunicación más se necesita pero donde muchas veces falta: en el dormitorio. Léalo con su pareja y ¡láncense a un amor fuera de este mundo!

    ¡:Puede sobrevivir la pasión en una relación monógama a largo plazo? ¿Pueden los hombres y las muieres entender, aceptar y apreciar las diferencias entre los dos en el dormitorio? Claro que sí dice el doctor Gray, Marte y Venus en el dorinitorio explica como, podemos hacer para relacionarnos mejor con nuestra pareja y mantener ardiendo el fuego de la pasión y lograr una intimidad mucho más profunda.

    El romance florece cuando nos damos cuenta y aceptamos que los hombres y las mujeres tienen muy diferentes necesidades físicas. El doctor Gray enseña como hacer pequeños pero importantes cambios en nuestros horarios, actitudes, y métodos para que los dos miembros de una pareja estén felices en el dormitorio y con la relación entre ellos.

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    13. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
    by John Gray
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    Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

    Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Good stuff - but too late for me
    I LOVED this book, but unfortunately, I got the book too late. I had always thought I was a good communicator, but this book truly outlines the ways that the opposite sex thinks and takes in information... Little did I know, or appreciate, for that matter. Ever since reading his series - starting w/ this classic - I have been much more successful in relationships - intimate or otherwise - and feel more secure in my own skin. Which took a lot. The book is not written in a dry manner, and he uses a lot of vignettes to help illustrate exactly his point, which makes the book a GREAT read - - like a novel you don't want to put down. I recommend this book to everyone: singles, couples, divorcees, married couples, everyone. It's a good dose of preventative medicine, of sorts. ... Read more


    14. Truly Mars and Venus : The Illustrated Essential Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060085657
    Catlog: Book (2003-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins
    Sales Rank: 113657
    Average Customer Review: 4.75 out of 5 stars
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    Truly Mars and Venus celebrates the wisdom of the number one international bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are From Venus.

    With passages drawn from John Gray's groundbreaking classic on relationships, this beautiful book is illustrated with humorous cartoons and charming artwork by Barbara State.

    The perfect gift for a loved one or for yourself, Truly Mars and Venus delivers John Gray's rich and inspiring advice for creating and sustaining healthy and loving relationships.

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Good tips
    Its a good book overall, Although it has on both, I think its oriented more on how to please a man. It should be equally done..

    5-0 out of 5 stars Truly Mars and Venus
    I'm a 17 yr. old high school student that had to do a report on love, differences, and communication. My teacher suggested the other book, and Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, but the lazy student that i am, i went for the shorter version. But wow, this book is amazing, I'm so glad I read it, I've learned many things about men that i will be able to use throughout life. It really helped me understand somethings that had been going wrong even in my own relationship. Very good book, I would suggest it to anyone!

    5-0 out of 5 stars On the mark!
    I make it a point to read the popular "relationship authors" because, as an author myself, it gives me a sense of perspective.

    Mr. Gray's books are by far and away the most concise and entertaining, even if he does get a bit too serious at times. Regardless, the information contained is excellent and I highly recommend it.

    Butch Mazzuca, author of "From the First Date to the Bedroom, The Single Man's Official Guide to Success with Women."

    5-0 out of 5 stars EVERYONE SHOULD LOVE THIS ONE!
    Simply put: a great gift book for Valentines' Day!

    I really enjoyed reading this "greatest hits" album of Mars and Venus. It's short, easy to read, and fun, yet its simple messages can probably save a lot of marriages.

    Like a lot of people, I've already read the original Mars and Venus book along with a few more in the series. That first one was the biggest-selling relationship/self-help book of the 1990's according to USA Today. But here in 2003, people are still looking for the same quality of information and wisdom but perhaps in a more interesting format for our "shorter than 1990's" attention spans.

    As a fellow author in this genre, I'm often times skeptical about new books on relationships (like what's new or original about this). But in the case of John Gray I have the utmost respect......his books are wise, valuable and fun to read.

    And this one is the most fun of them all!

    Some interesting, well-illustrated points include:

    * Men think that women want to change them and women think that men don't listen.

    * Men go into their caves to solve problems and women want to talk about them.

    * Men are like rubber bands: when a man loves a woman he periodically needs to pull away before he can get closer.

    * Women are like waves: a woman will rise and fall in her ability to love themselves and others.

    For those looking for practical, ready-to-use advice, you'll like the "25 ways to score big on Venus" (plan a date several days in advance, give her a hug before anything else, when listening make eye contact) and "25 ways to score big on Mars" (ask his opinion, practice accepting his imperfections, admire his strengths and talents).

    There are also important chapters about how to handle arguments, how to give up changing a man, how to ask for support, and a new one for me.....the seasons of love....which was a nice little treat.

    At a unique time when the pop culture is so fixated on the likes of The Bachelor, Joe Millionaire, Blind Date, and the Bachelorette, it's nice to come back to the wisdom of Mars and Venus in a more condensed, up-to-date, and cleverly illustrated package. ... Read more


    15. Mars and Venus in the Workplace: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting Results at Work
    by John Gray, John Gray
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    Asin: 006019796X
    Catlog: Book (2002-01-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
    Sales Rank: 210392
    Average Customer Review: 3.33 out of 5 stars
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    Effective communication is a crucial life skill, and John Gray's Mars and Venus series has helped millions peacefully sort out emotional issues in their personal relationships. Now he turns his attention to the professional side of life with Mars and Venus in the Workplace. The concepts remain the same, but are in an entirely new setting; as he says in the introduction, "although gender differences are often not as obvious in the workplace, they are there and are often misunderstood."

    Gray proceeds to cover a variety of situations typical on the job, from solving revenue problems to negotiating a raise. With his important points printed in bold type, and plenty of prioritizing lists and straightforward examples, this is an easy read that allows you to focus on finding the solutions you seek, rather than wading through research terminology.

    If you are new to Gray's work, the continual gender-based assumptions may feel outdated, but know the author understands that no one is all male or all femaleand that we all have areas of sensitivity. The recurring gender pronouns are a simple way of teaching us what years of private practice have shown him: humans of both gender can benefit greatly by listening effectively, being verbally straightforward, and analyzing the reactions of others. --Jill Lightner ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Making the Workplace More Productive and Pleasant
    This book and audio tape are up to the high standards of most of John Gray's books. It ranks up there with Men Are From Mars; Children Are From Heaven and How to Get What You Want. Small and large businesses and their employees should all be required to read this. It should be required reading in colleges too, especially for business majors. Dr. Gray does for the workplace, what he did in revolutionizing personal relationships with Men Are From Mars. His easily understood writing style helps all people to understand his concepts.

    3-0 out of 5 stars GOOD INFORMATION...IF EVERYONE FOLLOWS IT!
    "Mars and Venus" seem to be creeping into every aspect of our lives, and while I am an avid reader and praiser of Gray's books, I found this one probably my least favourite of his works. Why? It is a common fact that we do have gender differences and gender bashing in the workplace. Should it be there? Should there still be machoism and feminism taken to the point where it affects the office environment? No, of course not. However, the general context of this book seems to imply that by learning and accepting our gender differences, the problem of communication will be solved, and, yes, if EVERYONE followed that principle we would not have a problem. The downside is, even if one reads this book and contemplates the valuable information it contains, we are still going to have the same old problems in the workplace because not everyone is going to follow Gray's principles. It only takes one rotten apple to spoil the barrel.

    Unlike many of Gray's previous books, where the issues involve couples or family, in this book we are talking about changing the attitudes and habits of a great many people, depending on how many employees are in the work environment. If you have 100 employees and each one reads this book, in reality, there will still be one or more whose attitudes will not change - in other words, "that bad apple will still exist and cause havoc in the barrel." There is no question, the author's advice is sound, good advice, but unless all employees think in the same light, which in reality is highly unlikely, we will still have gender issues and communication problems in the workplace.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Of COURSE we're different!!
    The biggest thing missing from my MBA education was learning how to interact with other people. Business is nothing if we can't communicate effectively and regularly. This book explains in clear terms how men can understand women and communicate effectively. We men can't talk to women the way we do with other men. We are very different. By following Dr. Gray's guidelines, men can learn how to earn the trust and respect of female co-workers. We can learn easy ways to speak the woman's language and understand her perceptions. The most fascinating aspect is the description of women's emotions, what they mean, and positive responses men can use to increase productivity and create a pleasant workplace. Working in harmony is the only way to go.

    I should think that this book can be especially helpful to women, as they are basically working in a world that has been designed and run by men. As Dr. Gray says, a woman's challenge in the workplace is greater than a man's. While the books and research of Gail Evans and Dr. Deborah Tannen and others have described gender differences, this book by Dr. Gray sheds light on many aspects of workplace problems and offers solutions that are easy, respectful, effective, and even fun.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Another outstanding mars venus book
    Dr Gray has done it again...another outstanding book.His insights have assisted me with my male(martians)client.My practice is now brimming with males....because I now understand not to give unsolicited advice...but rather ask better questions.The tools and skills should be taught in schools.I wish I had of know the differences when I first started out in the workplace.Bravo Dr Gray...
    It is truly amazing how little changes make such big differences.The quality of my relationships since using the mars venus principles has gone to levels I had never dreamed of!
    As a single parent with two boys,I am grateful for all the knowledge and practical advice....It is wonderful to have such a close connection with them.
    I would suggest everyone in the workplace read this.How wonderful to go back to basics,courtsey,shivilery.I could only image how much more pleasant,loving and caring the world would be if everyone adopted Grays work!
    Keep up the much needed work! God bless him for trying to open peoples eyes and hearts!!!!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Workplace is right on!
    I found myself underlining everything! In true J.G. fashion, he has described the human condition, and the way we interact.I thought it was brilliant, and very helpful in particular for understanding myself and the opposite sex in regards to problems solving and dealing with stress. ... Read more


    16. How to Get What You Want at Work : A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting Results
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0060957638
    Catlog: Book (2003-05-01)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
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    Make the best impression at work -- on Mars or Venus.

    John Gray, who changed the way people view gender differences with his #1 international bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, now brings his insights to the business world.

    In How to Get What You Want at Work, Gray analyzes the ways men and women misunderstand and misinterpret each other in the workplace, and he offers practical advice on reducing unnecessary conflict and frustration.

    How to Get What You Want at Work will:

    • Increase your performance by giving you the tools to improve communication, promote teamwork, and enhance working relationships.
    • Increase your productivity by providing a greater awareness and appreciation of the diverse characteristics within each of us—and how these differences can positively or negatively affect productivity.
    • Increase your effectiveness by empowering you to overcome frustration and resolve conflict in difficult communication situations.
    • Increase your morale by utilizing interactive techniques that will promote respect and build trust.
    • Applying his trademark practical advice to everyday office issues, John Gray will teach you how to achieve your goals and how to make the workplace a source of fulfillment.

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    17. The Mars and Venus Audio Collection (Boxed Set)
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 0694515892
    Catlog: Book (1995-09-01)
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    Includes the mega-bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, as well as What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know and Mars and Venus in the Bedroom. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Great Set of Books
    This is what is needed by every male and female. Just when you where sure that we could not get a long this book set arrives. Dr. Gray gives very common sense approaches as to why we do what we do and then tells us how to fix it. A must read for everyone! ... Read more


    18. Handbook for the Heart : Original Writings on Love (Handbook for the Heart)
    by John Gray, Richard Carlson, Benjamin Shield
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    5-0 out of 5 stars Trying to Define Love
    The struggle to find to find true love in the present world is not an easy task. In this world where the once sacred institution of marriage is now no more likely to last than flipping heads on a coin, those who truly know what love is are scarce. Everyone claims to know what this thing called love is, but few truly understand the essence of everything the word love stands for. In this book, the writings of several self-proclaimed love experts, professors from various colleges, have been compiled together in an attempt to help others find out what love is and how to make it a part of their lives. The basic beliefs range from Buddhism to Christianity, but all of the authors agree that we all need love. This in itself is a valid argument because of the basic human need to feel accepted and appreciated.
    Some of the claims made about love in this book are:

    1. Give love to get love
    2. Love is a choice
    3. Love is wanting the best for another person
    4. Love yourself in order to love others

    There are various other insights on love in this book; buy it and find out what they are.
    The basic argument from these claims filters into the overall argument of love stems from the individual. Love cannot exist if an individual doesn't want it to exist. Restating the claims, an individual must give love to get it in return, choose to love, desire the best others, and show love for the self in order to show love to others.
    This argument is quite valid because love is not some sort of pit which people can helplessly fall into. Love is not lust and love does not envy. All of the claims presented elaborate on the essence of what love is and reasonably arrive at the conclusion that love stems from the individual. All of the points are clearly and precisely elaborated on in the book, and the reader comes away from the book with a newfound sense of mental completeness. This completeness comes from better understanding what true love is. There would be no way to account for the multitudes of occasions in which individuals have professed to "knowing" what love is, but enough sufficient evidence is presented in the book to allow the argument to be complete.
    It's intriguing to find that many proverbs have stemmed from the forethought that love stems from the individual. The Golden Rule is the prime example of this. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." The "doing" part is from the individual, one must do unto others first in order for others to do the same unto them. "You reap what you sow." Again, it is seen that the individual must first sow in order to reap. For what is there to reap if nothing has been sown? So this is what you must do, go out and express your appreciation for someone. Love first in order to love last.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Incredible
    Everyone in the world needs to read this book, I guarantee it would change many lives. It opens your mind to think deeply of what some fears the most, love. It truly answers so many questions in regards to love and life. Everyone that has picked my book up, cannot put it down. Now that's a winner!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Inspiring essays on the most important thing in life.
    To receive more love in your life, you must give more love: This book opens you to the possibilities. There are so many pearls in this collection of essays, and each and every chapter gives one much to ruminate about. I rate it a "10" because the messages are both timeless and crucial to finding happiness. It's a wonderful book to give as a gift, but first and foremost, as a gift to yourself. ... Read more


    19. Secrets of Communicating With the Opposite Sex
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 1561701416
    Catlog: Book (1995-03-01)
    Publisher: Hay House Audio Books
    Sales Rank: 299315
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    John tells us how men and women are equal, but different, with very different emotional needs.Then he reveals how to become more conscious of what is really going on in our relationships, and how to retrain ourselves so we can provide our partners with what they need and have our needs met, too! ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars IN LIGHTING PEOPLE HOW HAVE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
    HE IS A VERY GREAT PHD. THIS TAPS SET IS AGREAT BUY FOR NEWLY WIDS JUST STARING OUT OR SOMEONE THAT NEEDS SOME HELP TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP WITH THRER SPOSEOR PARTNER. HE WILL INLGHTEN YOUR LIFE AND MAKE YOU THINK ABOUT HTAT YOU MIGHT BE DOING IN YOUR RELATIOSHIP AND HOW TO GET YOUR PARTNER TO DO WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE FOR HIM OR HER TO DO FOR YOU. ... Read more


    20. What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Fa
    by John Gray
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    Asin: 069451487X
    Catlog: Book (1994-11-01)
    Publisher: HarperAudio
    Sales Rank: 86566
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    The rules of relationships have changed.

    In our generational movement toward wholeness, women want to be more than mothers and homemakers and men aspire to loving relationships rather than simply being warriors and work machines. The age-old distinctions between male and female roles have blurred, and the rules of relationships have not yet caught up, creating confusion and frustration.

    Our parents couldn't teach us what they didn't know. As children, the lessons we learned from the adult relationships around us did not prepare us for our current adult love interests and challenges. Today, men and women expect relationships to enhance the total quality of their lives, meeting both their practical and emotional needs. And, when the need for individual fulfillment clashes with the desire to have a lasting relationship, couples often resort to divorce.

    With the extensive experience gained through his seminars, Dr. Gray has discovered several keys to happiness within relationships and shares this information with listeners. Through the development of relationship skills that address contemporary needs of individuals and couples, John Gray offers practical ways to enjoy and celebrate the differences between men and women and create long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.

    Read by the author.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars What your mother couldn't tell you and father didn't know...
    This book thoroughly explains the major differences between Venus and Mars. I especially enjoyed reading about Mars (cave time). This refers to the personal time Men need to reconnect with themselves. It also gave a synopsis of Mars and Venus in conversations. It's amazing how Men (Mars) interpret what Females (Venus) say. It's no wonder the two planets are always at war. If Men (Mars) could understand how Venus emotions work, maybe there would be less conflict between the two. This book covers many issues relating to couples and relationships. I highly recommend all women and men to read this book and others written by Dr. John Gray. He has a firm understanding on how Men and Women are total opposites in regard to life, love and the pursuit for happiness.

    5-0 out of 5 stars gray presents many useful ideas here....
    that could benefit both males and females . . . he really seems to know what makes both sexes "tick," and i found myself realting to the many of the excellent examples in the book

    5-0 out of 5 stars A must read for happily and unhappily married couples!!
    Obviously our "Reader from Brazil" has some type of vendetta against Dr. Gray. My wife and I have read this book together and have achieved a deeper intimacy in our marriage as a result. The only complaint I would expect to see would be that he is not always "politically correct". (Which, by the way, I found quite refreshing) The bottom line: Men & women ARE different! Mr. Gray gives couples a roadmap that outlines how we perceive and react differently to lifes ups & downs and how to grow together rather than drift apart.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Very good tapes for advanced relationship skills
    We found this much more useful than the original Mars/Venus material, since we had a lot of those skills under control. This material goes quite a bit further and has really helped us a lot. Well worth a listen! ... Read more


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