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1. Mother-Daughter Wisdom : Creating a Legacy of Physical and Emotional Health
by CHRISTIANE MD NORTHRUP
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Catlog: Book (2005-02-22)
Publisher: Bantam
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2. The Friend Who Got Away : Twenty Women's True Life Tales of Friendships that Blew Up, Burned Out or FadedAway
by Jenny Offill, Elissa Schappell
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Catlog: Book (2005-05-17)
Publisher: Doubleday
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4-0 out of 5 stars "Do be my enemy for friendship's sake."
I felt compelled to read "The Friend Who Got Away: Twenty Women's True Life Tales of Friendships that Blew Up, Burned Out or Faded Away" because I am a woman who once lost a best friend, and for some reason let her "get away." I have long felt a profound sense of sadness for the tremendous loss - the loss of so much closeness, the mutual trust, and the extraordinary intimacy of being able to confide almost anything in another person. In my lifetime, I have experienced the end of many relationships, some for expediency, others because paths diverged, and some, even for the best. Yet I will never forget this special women and all the wonderful conversations, thoughts and dreams we once shared - and now do not. Those who believe, in general, that romantic relationships are more intense than platonic friendships are in for a surprise. As I read the twenty essays included in this gem of a collection, some of them wonderful, others not, I was amazed at how many resonated with me and reminded me of various and diverse relationships I have had with women over the years. I was struck by the complexity of these friendships, and the variety of reasons they ended.

One friendship broke-up over a loan. Another, because men, sex and dates took priority over women friends. Others ended because of intellectual differences, competition, ambition, and betrayal. A few stories are devastating in nature, one involves the loss of a child. Authors Heather Abel and Emily Chenoweth discuss their mutual college friendship, and its demise, in separate essays. "I've never had a friendship that was that intense," Chenoweth said in a recent interview. "It did make it volatile in the way that a love relationship can be. But the thing is, lovers have a vocabulary for talking about the relationship. I'm not sure that exists for friends." Now, at age 33, both have reconciled.

Contributors Heather Abel, Diana Abu Jaber, Dorothy Allison, Nuar Alsadir, Kate Bernheimer, Emily Chenoweth, Jennifer Gilmore, Beverly Gologorsky, Vivian Gornick, Ann Hood, Nicole Keeter, Patricia Marx, Lydia Millet, Mary Morris, Francine Prose, Katie Roiphe, Helen Schulman, Elizabeth Strout, Emily White, share their well written, unique stories with the reader, which will inevitably evoke a multitude of feelings. Most affected me deeply.

William Blake wrote: "Thy friendship oft has made my heart to ache; do be my enemy for friendship's sake." Appropriate here, I think.
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3. Reading Lolita in Tehran: A Memoir in Books
by Azar Nafisi
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Asin: 081297106X
Catlog: Book (2003-12-30)
Publisher: Random House Trade Paperbacks
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Average Customer Review: 3.88 out of 5 stars
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We all have dreams—things we fantasize about doing and generally never get around to. This is the story of Azar Nafisi’s dream and of the nightmare that made it come true.

For two years before she left Iran in 1997, Nafisi gathered seven young women at her house every Thursday morning to read and discuss forbidden works of Western literature. They were all former students whom she had taught at university. Some came from conservative and religious families, others were progressive and secular; several had spent time in jail. They were shy and uncomfortable at first, unaccustomed to being asked to speak their minds, but soon they began to open up and to speak more freely, not only about the novels they were reading but also about themselves, their dreams and disappointments. Their stories intertwined with those they were reading—Pride and Prejudice, Washington Square, Daisy Miller and Lolita—their Lolita, as they imagined her in Tehran.

Nafisi’s account flashes back to the early days of the revolution, when she first started teaching at the University of Tehran amid the swirl of protests and demonstrations. In those frenetic days, the students took control of the university, expelled faculty members and purged the curriculum. When a radical Islamist in Nafisi’s class questioned her decision to teach The Great Gatsby, which he saw as an immoral work that preached falsehoods of “the Great Satan,” she decided to let him put Gatsby on trial and stood as the sole witness for the defense.

Azar Nafisi’s luminous tale offers a fascinating portrait of the Iran-Iraq war viewed from Tehran and gives us a rare glimpse, from the inside, of women’s lives in revolutionary Iran. It is a work of great passion and poetic beauty, written with a startlingly original voice.
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4-0 out of 5 stars A literary tour-de-force
Azar Nafisi's memoir, Reading Lolita in Tehran, is the sort of book you should pick up if you want to assure yourself of how well-read you are, or perhaps to remind yourself that you are not well read at all. In the back of Ms. Nafisi's book is a list of recommended reading, some of which deals with Iran, but much of which is the fiction about which she writes in the book.

Having only read some of the novels about which Ms. Nafisi writes, I don't think I can adequately discuss the literary criticism woven throughout the book. The story of the book club itself is often not the main focus, as Ms. Nafisi gives a crash course in Iranian revolutionary history and delves into her personal life as well as that of the women in her book club. The combination of the three is an intriguing and potent conceit; learning how everyday life in Iran affects these women is compelling and evocative. Intertwined with commentary and comparison of some of the great books of western literature makes it even more so.

It would be had to say that one does not learn one thing, if not many things, from this book. Certainly it inspires you to read some of the books Ms. Nafisi writes about, if only to re-read the book and access a new level of understanding.

5-0 out of 5 stars Reading Lolita in Tehran : A Memoir in Books
Nafisi details her experiences in Iran from 1979 to 1997, when she taught English literature in Tehran universities and hosted a private seminar on Western literature for female university students. Born and raised in Iran, the author offers readers a personal account of events in the postrevolutionary period that are often generalized by other writers. She was a witness to compulsory veiling, the "cultural revolution" that closed and purged the universities, the Iraq-Iran war (including missile attacks against Tehran), and the Ayatollah Khomeini's death. Nafisi provides readers with a view of Tehran during these tumultuous two decades and describes the ways that individuals resisted and defied the new regime's restrictive policies concerning both women's and men's behavior and dress. Readers interested in Western literature and the ways that key works could be interpreted by those living in different settings and times will find this book fascinating. Specialists on Iran, the Middle East, and Islam will also find the work unique, controversial, and informative. ^BSumming Up: Recommended. Most public and academic collections and levels.

5-0 out of 5 stars Classical Celebration
<br /> Through turmoil, heartbreak and heartache comes the courageous and celebrated life of women. This will be one of the classics that will be handed down through the generations to come. A beautifully written and prolific book for all to read. <br /> Other reads are: Nightmares Echo by Katlyn Stewart,A Paper Life by Tatum O'Neil <br />

5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent Style
Excellent style of writing,a story that captures your attention and holds it. I am a fan of Non Fiction works, Particularly that of Memoirs-Autobiographies. This book is meaty and hard to put down. Other Non Fiction works that have caught my attention are- Running With Scissors,One Child and Nightmares Echo

2-0 out of 5 stars didnt like it either
I had a few probs with this book.

1. Nafisi talks at length about the vices of the islamic republic of iran - which i wholly empathize with - however, she fails to give substantial background on the how the country reached this state ie. the radical secularism that plagued the country only a generation before, under the 'shah'. And while this seems like a mere detail, its very significant, as it provides a sociological context for the political ongoings Nafisi writes so much about.
2. she seems a bit whiny to me and kind of passive....
3. maybe its bc i havent read most of the books she mentions, but I found her running commentaries on the books a bit boring and tedious. I felt like i was reading a book report or something.
4. the one thing i expected from this book was a heartwarming narrative of female bonding (think female"dead poets society" or "how to make an american quilt"). instead, i found the relationship nafisi conjurs somewhat empty and unsatisfying. i felt like she was trying to take me somewhere and we never got there.

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4. The Courage to Heal - Third Edition - Revised and Expanded : A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Ellen Bass, Laura Davis
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Catlog: Book (1994-06-29)
Publisher: Perennial
Sales Rank: 4734
Average Customer Review: 4.49 out of 5 stars
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The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and encouragement to every woman who, was sexually abused as a child -- and those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible. The authors weave personal experience with professional knowledge to show the reader how she can come to terms with her past while moving powerfully into the future. They provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, a map of the healing journey, and many moving first-person examples of the recovery process drawn from their interviews with hundreds of survivors.

Definitive in scope, The Courage to Heal speaks directly to the survivor in a warm and personal way:

  • TAKING STOCK -- outlines the effects of child sexual abuse and the ways women cope over time.
  • THE HEALING PROCESS -- explores each stage from the decision to heal and remembering through breaking silence, knowing it wasn't your fault, nurturing the inner child, and grief and anger, to resolution and moving on.
  • CHANGING PATTERNS -- offers in-depth guidance for shifting self-defeating patterns in specific areas of one's present life, including self-esteem, feelings, intimacy, sexuality, and dealing with families.
  • SUPPORTERS OF SURVIVORS -- provides insight and strategies for partners of survivors, family members, and counselors.
  • COURAGEOUS WOMEN -- profiles survivors who share the challenges and triumphs of their own healing journeys.
  • HONORING THE TRUTH -- a substantial new Afterword that refutes the "false memory" argument and presents a thorough and enlightening response to the backlash.
  • RESOURCE GUIDE -- fully updated for this edition -- informs readers about therapy, healing activities, recommended reading, support groups, self-help programs, and services and organizations.
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5-0 out of 5 stars A wonderfully supportive and helpful book!
This book has gone a long way in helping me to begin the long journey to coming to terms with the sexual abuse I suffered as a pre-teen. For most of my adult life, I've been reluctant to attribute any of my problems (such as depression, self hatred, unhealthy sexual relationships with men, a general disgust about myself, etc.) to being molested by my stepfather. Within the past couple of years, however, I've begun to examine my feelings about it more and more. I bought this book rather hesitantly, but ended up reading the first few chapters in tears as I read so many of my own feelings and experiences echoed by the other abuse survivors. I had thought that I was all alone and that there was something intrinsically wrong with me for feeling the way I did about myself, and it was an overwhelming relief to find others who feel the same after having similar childhood experiences. The reviews offered here referring to the "memory" issue misrepresent the focus and intent of the book. These readers seem to want to keep abuse survivors quiet to save the "sanctity" of the family. So many of us have done this for years; sacrificing of our emotional well being. They belittle the profound hurt and damage caused not only by the abuse, but by the silence as well. At the very least, this book has helped me to feel human and has given me hope that I may one day feel whole. I highly recommend this book as an invaluable resource.

5-0 out of 5 stars More than one path exists
I have read Courage to Heal and I found that many of the exercises were helpful in getting me in touch with my feelings. The personal accounts shared in the book helped me to feel connected to a larger group of individuals who had been sexually abused. This connection was especially critical at a time when my own shame was still so strong that I couldn't bring myself to join a group or talk about the abuse in more than vague terms. It was one step on the path and a very important step at that - the authors provide a list of resources which are also helpful. The one thing that I find off-putting is that the book seemed to stall on the issue of anger (feeling the anger related to the abuse) and didn't offer enough to guide one to a place of resolution. And, there are, afterall other sources for dealing with anger.

5-0 out of 5 stars total agreement
I am in total agreement with the prior reviewers. If you want healing to occur, then you must read "Courage To Heal", "Courage To Heal,The Workbook" and "Nightmares Echo". These are some of the best books I have come across for healing and understanding the pain of sexual/child abuse. I also agree with : "Beauty For Ashes",it is a spiritual look at healing.

5-0 out of 5 stars One of the best
Theresa, surviving the past, January 16, 2004,
One of the best
this is one of the best books to read regarding healing from past child abuse/sexual abuse issues. I am very thankful for the knowledge of the authors.

I also recommended: Nightmares Echo-Katlyn Stewart,Beauty For Ashes-Joyce Meyers

1-0 out of 5 stars Junk, Junk, Junk
Nothing worse than junk pop-science from the touchie-feelie crowd. ... Read more


5. The Breaking Point : How Female Midlife Crisis Is Transforming Today's Women
by Sue Shellenbarger
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Asin: 0805077111
Catlog: Book (2005-04-06)
Publisher: Henry Holt and Co.
Sales Rank: 910
Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars
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In the tradition of The Second Shift, a groundbreaking work that identifies and explains the phenomenon poised to redefine our culture

When Sue Shellenbarger wrote about her midlife crises in her award-winning Wall Street Journal Work & Family column, the volume and emotional intensity of the responses from her readers was stunning. As she heard story after story of middle-aged women radically changing course in search of greater fulfillment, a trend began to emerge: an entire generation of women was experiencing the tumultuous transition of midlife in ways not seen before.

To capture this paradigm shift, Shellenbarger combines original research data and interviews with more than fifty women who've navigated their own midlife crisis. Long stereotyped as the province of men, today the midlife crisis is reported with greater frequency by women than men. Emboldened by the financial independence to act upon midlife desires, exhausted by decades of playing supermom and repressing the feminine sides of themselves to succeed at work, women are shedding the age roles of the past in favor of new pursuits in adventure, sports, sex, romance, education, and spirituality. And in the process they are rewriting all the rules.

Beyond defining a new phenomenon, The Breaking Point shows how various options women use to cope with the turmoil of midlife-from playing it safe to dynamiting their lives-have a profound impact on their families, careers, and our culture at large. Provocative, insightful, and resonant, The Breaking Point is sure to be one of the most controversial and talked-about publications of 2005.
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5-0 out of 5 stars I recognize some of these people!
For years Sue Shellenbarger has written a "Work and Family" column for the Wall Street Journal, one of the first to focus on the practical consequences of juggling careers and home. She's not a psychologist or sociologist, and doesn't pretend this is a scientific study. Rather, she tells the stories of women who reach the mid-point of their lives and find that somehow it doesn't work anymore. It's much more than menopause, the empty nest syndrome or a mid-life crisis. The author lays out six "archetypes"--representing six types of change women seek--the leader, the lover, the adventurer, etc. It made sense to me--I know far too many women who reach mid-life and abandon successful careers and start new ones, travel--with or without spouse, begin new ventures or new businesses.

When I was 40, I attended my husband's 35th college reunion--he and his classmates were in their mid-50's. I listened in on a women's breakfast meeting, and heard thrilling stories one after the other from women who were soaring, having finally completed child-rearing and the struggles to establish careers. What was going on I wondered?--being only 40, they'd seemed old to me. Now I understand!

2-0 out of 5 stars A Disappointment
When I read a review of this book, I was interested and checked it out of the library. It was a quick and easy read, and, unfortunately, also a disappointment.

In author Shellenbarger's favor, it must be said that the book is literate, well-organized and based on a reasonable methodology of data collection. It even has footnotes. It categorizes female midlife crisis into specific types, and gives defining examples of each.

However, _The Breaking Point_ is also quite superficial, despite a few offhand references to Jungian psychology. After awhile, the collected personal stories which are used as examples start to sound like a litany of airheaded people who made bad decisions (dropped out of college to get married, married emotionally remote men, tried to mold themselves according to other people's expectations) and eventually wound up paying the price. The book also has virtually no perspectives that are not rooted in the last 50 years of human experience, which makes it difficult to take seriously.

I am a 52-year-old woman, recently retired, and I find it impossible to identify with these people. I also find it absolutely astonishing that anyone should find the notion of continued personal growth a radical solution to any problem.

This book may possibly be of assistance to women who are like those the author interviewed. There is at least one piece of sensible advice herein: throwing yourself into a series of sexual or romantic affairs may be dangerous to your mental health and your marriage.

Sorry, Sue, nice concept, weak execution.

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6. How to Be Like Women of Influence : Life Lessons from 20 of the Greatest
by Pat Williams, Michael Mink, Ruth Williams
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Asin: 0757300545
Catlog: Book (2003-09-01)
Publisher: HCI
Sales Rank: 34029
Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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What do Oprah Winfrey, Sandra Day O'Connor, Margaret Thatcher, Marie Curie and Sojourner Truth have in common?Not only are they some of the world's most influential women, their life lessons are now revealed in the latest book by Pat Williams.

Williams blends the personal accounts of each influential woman with the contemporary and historical insights of others, what emerges is an intimate portrait of each great person-her motivations, her aspirations, her personal challenges and the qualities that made her so successful at her calling. An added bonus is life lessons at the end of each chapter, which provide remarkable motivation for women who are blazing a new career trail, building a strong family or struggling to "have it all".
This exceptional book highlights a diverse group of women, from activists, businesswomen and humanitarians to athletes, explorers and scientists-it will appeal to any reader regardless of age, occupation or creative pursuits.

Profiles of women of influence include: Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Mary Kay Ash, Helen Keller, Anne Frank, Amelia Earhart and others. This is not a history book-it is a perfect blueprint for creating a successful life.

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5-0 out of 5 stars A great read even if you know the stories already
The book spine is cheap and separates some from the pages (without the pages falling out) - the physical quality of the book isn't among the best in the bookstore, but what's inside was surprisingly great--much better than I could have expected from the outside. Even if you know the stories of these women already, it's still great reading!, which amazed me.

5-0 out of 5 stars Give him a PAT on the back...
I cant say enough about this book.I, being a woman, have always thought of taking on a project of this nature.However, Pat Williams beat me to the punch.It tickles me to see an idea I often thought about in such a splendid format.Any woman who feels the need to improve on their quality of life must read this book.You can be sure to gain a new perspective on living life as a women.The content of the book provides the reader with twenty life lessons that will continue to guide you throughtout your life.A great read for any female regardless of race or wealth.In addition, any of you fellas out there who are interested in females, if you have ever wanted to learn what makes us tick, read this book.

5-0 out of 5 stars Motivational and Inspirational
My life was in shambles.I had no direction and I was definately no women of influece.One day I stumbled upon one of Pat Williams great pieces of literature, how to be like women of influence.It changed my life.

5-0 out of 5 stars Motivational and Inspirational
My life was in shambles.I had no direction or meaning for my beautiful journel through life.I was looking for something to save me and sure enough I found it in my local bookstore.What I found was the book, how to be like women of influence and now the rest is history.

5-0 out of 5 stars How to Be Like Women of Influence
This book has been such an inspiration to me. The in-depth way that the author describes each woman featured is incredible. After every reading session, I was more and more anxious to better myself to be like these women. They really have made a huge influence on society and I think this book will also! ... Read more


7. Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives
by Laura C. Schlessinger
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Catlog: Book (1995-02-15)
Publisher: Quill
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the incredibly popular and controversial psychotherapist who hosts a nationally syndicated, top-rated midday radio talk show. She has strong convictions and doesn't hesitate to voice them to callers. She urges women emphatically to lose a domineering jerk of a lover and pick one of the "good guys," to stay home and parent the babies they've made, and to follow the dream rather than some dreamboat. Above all, she exhorts women not to blame anybody or anything but themselves if they're unhappy and their lives seem a mess.

10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives uses real-world examples from Schlessinger's radio show and private practice to drive the message home. And the message is that our reticence to be bold and brave often makes us act like stupid, submissive victims. Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless.

If you're looking for an all-approving hand to hold, you won't find it here. If you're prepared to take a clear-eyed look at your self-diminishing behavior and to make the move to a quality existence, there's no one better than Schlessinger to keep you honest and to cheer you on. One thing's for sure: You'll never look at your relationships, behaviors and decisions the same way after you've finished reading this book. ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars skip the one star reviews
....I have listened to Dr. Laura's program for the last 8
years... that's before the religious conversion she/her show
underwent. I have read all her books, so i feel i have some basis
from which to comment. If you are thinking about buying this book, do
it. What is it, 10 bucks for the paperback? If the information in it
could change your life for the better wouldnt it be worth it? If you
think its a bunch of crap... thats fine, but really, really try to
read it with an open mind... sometimes the truth hurts and we dont
want to admit the image in the mirror is a reflection of ourselves. I
had bought a bunch of these paperbacks and gave them to female friends
i cared about... young, in their early twenties. .... Dr. Laura is
VERY straightforward, blunt, logical, and does not mince words... many
people get offended by this style. "Whoa, how can you tell me
like it is? I want you to make me feel good." You want to feel
good? Go read Chicken Soup For the Soul, but if you want some
straightforward advice READ THIS BOOK.

4-0 out of 5 stars Maybe Because I'm A Guy
Dr. Laura is great, fantastic and well.... fantastic. I listen to her radio show as often as possible, but when I get to read one of her books, it is shear pleasure. This is the first of her "Ten Stupid Things..." books and I really enjoyed it, although not as much as "Ten Stupid Things Men Do..." Maybe it's because I'm a guy, and couldn't stop saying "wow, how true!" every five seconds.

When I bought the book, my intention was to try and get some insight into how women think and where they are coming from. But I left the book gaining something better than insight into the mind of a woman. I gained the understanding that women, just like us men, have messed up, have hang-ups, and have insecurities. And we as men have to do our best to help support and empower the women in our lives to rise above (overcome) their pasts so that they can fulfill the destiny God has for them. As long as we drag our feet in the past, we can never run towards our future, and we can't continue to hang failures over our wive's/mother's/sister's/daugther's heads. Knowledge isn't worth anything until it becomes understanding... until it has substance in your life. Buy both books and do yourself a favor.

5-0 out of 5 stars Stupid behaviors, not stupid women
I really enjoyed reading this book after a recommendation on a messageboard after sharing my experience. I didn't know what I was feeling and experiencing till I read this book. It was like it was writing about my life! Well, suffice to say, it helped me to open my eyes. I heard about the controversy surrounding this author and I understand why. She is being very realistic and sensible about realities of life. Most of the things in the book I have an agreement about, while some others it didn't really elaborate much. It depends where you are at this point in your life. But do read it if you're at crossroads (like I). But if you're totally happy with your relationship, then maybe it's not for you.

5-0 out of 5 stars A Guys Perspective
Call me stupid, but this book made sense. As a pastor I have come to realize that pastoral counseling is not one of my strengths. My concept of pastoral counseling is to get a 2 x 4 and smack someone on the side of the head and tells them to get a life- perhaps, that is my this book appealed to me. Dr. Lauras straightforward approach made perfect sense to me. Perhaps that is my so many woman reviews have panned this book at being cold, insensitive, or uncompassionate.

But after twenty years of pastoral counseling, I still am dumbfounded how some women sabotage their lives. Case in point. During premarital counseling sessions, I always try to determine whether there is drug or alcohol abuse, especially in second or third marriages where children are involved. More than once, I have been told that there is no abuse where I have suspected there was only to have the woman back in my office three to six months later crying her eyes out and blowing snot into her hanky and telling me about her husbands drug or alcohol abuse. What is partially frustrating for me is that invariable these woman knew before their marriage that the problem existed, but believed that love would solve the problem.

Ok, so I am another insensitive white male who does not understand woman. So be it. But I think that Dr. Laura is right.

4-0 out of 5 stars For Those Who Want to Reflect on Themselves
Dr. Laura gives it to you straight in this no nonsense book. While most people wouldn't have the guts to be this brutally honest and constructively critical, Dr. Laura goes where no one else dares to go. So many other self help books are too concerned about being politically correct and candy coating topics, that in the end you feel like you don't gain anything. But whether you like her or not, everything she says is actually true. This book will remind you of times in your life (and it's happened to all of us) when a family member or friend tells us something we don't want to hear but deep down inside we actually know is true. Dr. Laura is also a very logical person, so much of her opinions and advice is not hard to follow. I recommend this book to anybody in search of learning more about themselves and how they can improve themselves. ... Read more


8. A World Apart : Women, Prison, and Life Behind Bars
by CRISTINA RATHBONE
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Asin: 1400061660
Catlog: Book (2005-05-17)
Publisher: Random House
Sales Rank: 3583
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9. Women Who Love Too Much
by Robin Norwood
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Catlog: Book (1990-10-01)
Publisher: Pocket
Sales Rank: 5176
Average Customer Review: 4.69 out of 5 stars
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This is the world-renowned, inspiring, practical program for women who believe that being in love means being in pain. Based on the multi-million-copy bestseller, Women Who Love Too Much presents a clear, comprehensive, 10-point recovery plan for women who are addicted to the wrong men for the wrong reasons. Among the vital lessons you will learn in this program are:
How the search for the love you never got from your parents can become a crushing obsession in adulthood.
How to change from loving someone so much it hurts, to loving yourself enough to stop the pain.
How to free yourself from destructive loving and build a healthy, meaningful relationship.
This step-by-step self-awareness program offers help, understanding and, above all, hope -- the pathway to making love the truly happy event it is supposed to be.
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5-0 out of 5 stars This book is a must . . .
... for women who can't understand how & why they keep getting stuck in relationships where they are taken for granted or abused. I was given a copy of this book in 1993 by the bank officer who helped me open my bank account when my marriage was falling apart and this book changed my life!

It had such an impact on me that ever since, as soon as I realize that any of my female associates & friends are in these types of destructive relationships, this is the book I buy for them. I've probably bought this book 20 times in the last 7 years . . . I gave up on lending it out, and just buy my friends a copy, because I never get mine back!

To Robin Norwood, thank you for putting into words what I needed to hear & opening my eyes 7 years ago. My life has totally changed for the better & I am now in a wonderful relationship. (Ladies, there are good ones out there! Don't settle for less!) There have been bumps along the way, but I will always have my trusty well-worn copy of the book to remind me that *I* can change this pattern forever!

5-0 out of 5 stars THIS HAS BECOME MY BIBLE
I come from a family of many sisters. So many have married men with whom they now struggle. One sister was brave enough to divorce her first and second husbands, then discovered this book. Now, she has an awesome, loving, truly supportive husband! She purchased two copies of this book for each one of her siblings. We are all grateful! We have all read the book at least once and many of us have so dog-eared and marked up our first copy, that we were appreciative of the foresight for the second copy we had been given. I honestly keep this next to my King James Bible and I refer to it as my "Second Bible". I have to read from it daily. I can not describe with words the power I receive from my worn-out copy. I am ready to purchase a third copy because this one is getting quite tattered as well. I pray a prayer of thanks constantly for Ms. Norwood's inspiration which has changed the direction of my life and my family's lives as well.

4-0 out of 5 stars Do you really need this book?
Girls, it's really quite simple. Women are attracted to the potential in men, men are attracted to what's already there in women. If we followed their formula we wouldn't end up with our hearts broken so often or so badly. Unfortunately it would also mean an awful lot of lonely single women with inadequate men who never bother try living up to their potential. The reality is women ARE a motivator for men when they do manage to get something done like pass the Bar or fix the grill. It's our unlucky lot in life as the smarter more adaptable specie I'm afraid to be stuck in this losing end of such a questionable arrangement of keeping the world turning. Also, instead of thinking of yourselves as loving too much (!!) maybe, ratio-wise, statisticaly speaking, there are just more jerks in the world who are men. It's ok to give up on the buggers for a moment and go dancing with the girls.

5-0 out of 5 stars This book could help you change your life!
I recommend this book to friends all the time! I first read it 3 years ago and it was a real turning point in my life. It helped me to realise where I was going wrong in relationships and how to put it right - perhaps the main one for me was learning to really love myself first. So read it! Even if you don't think its for you, there is probably going to be a gem in there for you, and certainly you will know friends to whom you want to give a copy.

5-0 out of 5 stars Eye Opening
This is an eye opening book. The personal stories in this book can apply to many women to one degree or another. Most women I know have fallen into a relationship at one point in time that is similar to the situtations described in this book. It offers insight into why this happens and allows females to look within themselves for the answers. Worth the read. ... Read more


10. The Courage to Heal Workbook : A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Laura Davis
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Average Customer Review: 4.48 out of 5 stars
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In this groundbreaking companion to The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis offers an inspiring, in-depth workbook that speaks to all women and men healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. The combination of checklists, writing and art Projects, open-ended questions and activities expertly guides the survivor through the healing process.

  • Survival Skills -- Teaches survivors to create a safe, supportive environment, ask for help, deal with crisis periods, and choose therapy.
  • Aspects Of Healing -- Focuses on the healing process: gaining a capacity for hope, breaking silence, letting go of shame, turning anger into action, planning a confrontation, preparing for family contact, and affirming personal progress.
  • Guidelines For Healing Sexually -- Redefines the concept of "safe sex" and establishes healthy ground rules for sexual contact.
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5-0 out of 5 stars Healing exercises for anyone with any kind of abuse issues.
This workbook is an excellent tool for survivors of any type of abuse to use during their healing process, whether the journey to healing has just begun or the traveler has been on the road to healing for a while. I shared this book with my therapist, she said she was going to recommend it to me but I had beat her to it! This book can be worked on alone or with support groups or partners. I recommend the companion book as well, but this book can be used alone.

5-0 out of 5 stars A must for a survivor
This workbook and its companion reading material is a MUST. It is amazing how soon you can start to heal when you learn just how much abuse affects all aspects of your life. Completing this workbook is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but I do not regret it. I have tried other books and workbooks and not finished them because they just didn't seem to "get it" about what it was like to experience the abuse and what it does to a child. This book got it right. The authors don't preach, condem, talk down to you, or make you feel like the guilty party. I highy recommend.

5-0 out of 5 stars Much needed
Thank goodness for this and its companion book, THE COURAGE TO HEAL. With the problem of abuse being so rampant, you'd think that there would be more books like this on the market--more "quality" books. While there are numerous works of fiction dealing with repressed memories, abuse, multiple personality disorder, etc (think McCrae's BARK OF THE DOGWOOD or SYBIL) there is a shortage of "how to" books. This one fills that void. Thank you Laura Davis.

5-0 out of 5 stars recommendations-
I had read "Courage To Heal Workbook" first, Then went back and got "Courage to Heal". I was then recommended by my Doctor to go and get "Nightmares Echo" and "Beauty For Ashes".
Each book helps in so many ways. If you are a past victim of abuse I would recommend that you start with "Courage To Heal", then "Nightmares Echo", then "Beauty For Ashes" (spiritual) and finally "The Workbook". The WorkBook Brings it all together and sums it up. Helping to strengthen and learn new techniques for your life.

5-0 out of 5 stars 3 excellent books
I have read Courage To Heal, The Courage To Heal Workbook (Laura Davis)and Nightmares Echo (Katlyn Stewart). I can tell you that because of these books I am now on the path to healing. I understand so much as to why I have done some of the things I did in my past. I learned I am not alone in the feelings I had. I thank the authors of these books that have made it possible to heal. ... Read more


11. Fat Girl : A True Story
by JudithMoore
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Catlog: Book (2005-03-03)
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A nonfiction She's Come Undone, Fat Girl is a powerfully honest and compulsively readable memoir of obsession with food, and with one's body, penned by a Guggenheim and NEA award-winning writer.

For any woman who has ever had a love/hate relationship with food and with how she looks; for anyone who has knowingly or unconsciously used food to try to fill the hole in his heart or soothe the craggy edges of his psyche, Fat Girl is a brilliantly rendered, angst-filled coming-of-age story of gain and loss. From the lush descriptions of food that call to mind the writings of M. F. K. Fisher at her finest, to the heartbreaking accounts of Moore's deep longing for a family and a sense of belonging and love, Fat Girl stuns and shocks, saddens and tickles.
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5-0 out of 5 stars Most Impressive
What is most impressive about "FAT GIRL" is that it takes strong stands. The author takes risks with confidence. As with other books in the same league of impact and merit ala "YOU REMIND ME OF ME," "THE GLASS CASTLE", "NIGHTMARES ECHO," "MY FRACTURED LIFE," or "NEVER LET ME GO," "FAT GIRL" is a book that will either amaze you or offend you. The author presents a finely crafted story it is. Judged on impact and merit, this is a story that is in the same league as "MY FRACTURED LIFE", "THE LOVELY BONES", "MIDDLESEX", and "RUNNING WITH SCISSORS."

2-0 out of 5 stars Most pointless book of self-hate I've ever read
Like mosquitoes drawn to lights, I couldn't stop reading this blessedly short vilification of overweight people.208 pages could hardly contain the mounds of self-hatred Judith Moore exhibits here.I have to admit she writes well.When she describes a meal, she not only seduces the reader into craving, she makes her smell and taste it. Unfortunately, the same can be said about her depictions of fat people; I kept feeling she wanted me to shower and put on deodorant several times while reading.

I looked at the author's photo on the back flyleaf and could not figure out just why she described herself in the beginning of the book as looking so horrendous and disgusting, with rolls of abdominal fat hanging over her thighs and each bubbling buttock sluicing against the other.She looked fine to me, very normal.Moreover, she admitted to being, at most, only 40 pounds overweight, weight she continually lost and regained over the years.I have been more than 40 pounds overweight and I never looked anything like the woman she so vividly describes, nor do other people I know with even more excess poundage.Ms. Moore is evoking someone morbidly obese, someone begging for a heart attack or stroke.She described her father as repulsive at over 6 feet and more than 200 pounds.Yet, most men over 6 feet tall are at a healthy weight when near 200 pounds.Then I realized that her outrageously abusive childhood had obviously warped her perception of herself (and other overweight people).As she said "Even when I was slender, I was fat".

But I have read Ms. Moore's earlier book, Never Eat Your Heart Out, where her autobiographical sketches are of, as another reviewer wrote, a "relatively ordinary life" with little hint of the horrendous existence she portrays and blames in Fat Girl.Yes, her parents divorced when she was very young, yes, her father disappeared from her life and her grandmother and mother were vicious shrews, her school life was friendless and full of teasing.Hey, that's the story of hordes of people who have nonetheless gone on to lead fulfilling lives free of excessive vitriol focused on a past they cannot get beyond.Ms. Moore is now in her sixties and the mother of two grown daughters.She must realize that a lousy childhood and nasty relatives should not be given permission to control her perceptions and self-worth into late adulthood. My advice to Ms. Moore - get over it.Do good deeds for others less fortunate (yes, there are people with worse lives), smile, and act like the attractive and well-adjusted person you want to be; it will quickly become self-fulfilling. Or get thee to a good therapist posthaste.

For those who might read this book, save yourselves the agony and have something to eat instead.

3-0 out of 5 stars motive unclear
I'm not quite sure what to say about this book. The writer doesn't mince words or make excuses, she lays out her life, her pain, and her fat. She doesn't cut a sympathetic figure, and she isn't trying to be one. I had difficulty finding a context for the novel. Why write it? Was it for self exploration? To explain something to people she knows? To chew the fat? I couldn't figure it out, and couldn't decide if reading it was enlightening or vouyerism.

5-0 out of 5 stars The Truth Hurts
I read this book in one day, alternately weeping and laughing out loud.The author is so brave, honest and unsparing in her description of inner pain.Self-medicating with food does not work but it is easy to fall into. Her descriptions of food are seductive and sensual. I wanted to call her when I finished reading the book and just say I am sorry you suffered that way, you are a delightful human being, and I just want to put my arms around you.I will never judge an overweight person, myself included, again.We cannot know another's inner pain or early experiences.I thank Ms. Moore for sharing hers so brilliantly.

5-0 out of 5 stars A Story That Had To Be Told
FAT GIRL is an abrupt and blatantly rude title. It's one that is silly in a way that is funny only to bullies. That's the point. That sense of feeling is exactly what FAT GIRL captures. It is the biography of being fat, being made fun of, being the outsider. My sister was a "fat girl" and I know first hand how she came home crying from the way she was treated. She wasn't any less intelligent than me or any less kind or less polite, yet she was treated so differently - all because of her weight. FAT GIRL is an excellent book in the same league as THE GLASS CASTLE, MY FRACTURED LIFE, SECRET LIFE OF BEES, and THE TRUE AND OUTSTANDING ADVENTURES OF THE HUNT SISTERS. ... Read more


12. The Secret Language of Girlfriends: Talking Loudly, Laughing Wildly, and Making the Most of Our Most Important Friendships
by Karen Neuburger, Nadine Schiff
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Catlog: Book (2005-04)
Publisher: Hyperion
Sales Rank: 12955
Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars
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"For better or worse, for richer or poorer, your girlfriends are yours for life." --Karen Neuburger

A joyful celebration of female friendship in all its wild, poignant, and inspirational glory.

Karen has spent the past ten years collecting stories of love, laughter, and inspiration between girlfriends from the thousands of women she comes in contact with through her work as the founder of an immensely popular lifestyle company. Often funny, sometimes sad, but always enlightening and uplifting, these testimonials show that in a world where women are constantly being pulled in several directions, they can always rely on their girlfriends to be there for them.

Celebrating these rare and unique bonds between women, The Secret Language of Girlfriends shows how restorative friendship can be and how setting aside time to be around other women can have a transforming effect. Whether it's getting over a breakup, struggling with family frustrations, dealing with illness and loss, or simply just shopping 'til you drop and sharing a bottle of wine over dinner, being around your girlfriends can make all the difference in the world.

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5-0 out of 5 stars I now know what this girlfriend thing is all about
I expected one of those easy, fun, skim-the-surface reads when THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF GIRLFRIENDS arrived in my mailbox recently. Before even opening the envelope, I was already imagining something along the lines of those tacky TV "chick shows" about the pitfalls of Internet romance, the miracle of cosmetic makeovers, breathless tell-all forums on perfect love-making, how to shop for shoes, etc. etc.

In other words, I was expecting style, self-absorption and perhaps some cynical wit. But substance? Soul-stirring inspiration? Genuine cosmic insight? After all, we're talking girlfriends here --- you know, the kind of relationships formed in high school washrooms, in shopping malls, over interminable phone calls that drove our parents mad.

But now it's confession and celebration time. I was wrong --- and I was never happier to be wrong.

You see, I couldn't actually reach the mailbox to get Karen Neuberger's wonderful revelation about female friendship. Thanks to some rogue bacterium, a minor leg injury went terribly wrong, leaving me miserably chair-bound, very sore, frustrated at my doctor's orders to choke down those antibiotics, and not a little worried about the long-term effects on my mobility.

It was a visiting girlfriend who cleared my mailbox, made coffee, did my dishes, even fed the cat, and then sat down and kept me company all evening with some of the best conversation I'd had in ages. And of course she told all the other girlfriends. I had become a team project!

A few days later, as I was deeply immersed in the anecdotes and insight of THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF GIRLFRIENDS, another brought over dark chocolate, flowers, and an unfinished knitting project. She insisted on doing my laundry while I sorted out her dropped stitches. Then we shared the chocolate, talked, watched a favorite Britcom, talked, laughed ourselves silly, talked.... Several others joined the relay in the following days, knowing exactly what to do, when to do it, and how much.

Finally, I realized that this is what it's all about, the girlfriend thing. We were living what Neuberger has packed so brilliantly --- and substantially --- into every page. I also realized that who we are as befriending and tending women has got to be genetic, uniquely hardwired into every healthy feminine psyche from the dawn of creation.

And so a week-from-hell that had begun with a fearful six-hour ordeal in the local hospital ER, ended in happy tears, gales of laughter, and above all, the indescribable grace of knowing I would never be alone when some dumb luck crisis suddenly strikes. As one of my long-distance "broad squad" members reminded me during a two-hour phone call across three time-zones, it just happened to be my turn to "get the treatment" --- to be spoiled, reassured, affirmed, propped up, accepted unconditionally in my worst moods, and loved into healing.

I'm still spending a lot of time with the inconvenient leg propped up, but I'm beating the blues now by reading my favorite bits of THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF GIRLFRIENDS aloud, sometimes for the second or third time, to this wonderful, extravagant herd of women, whose collective power to release healing endorphins never fails to astonish me.

Neuberger may not have invented the "secret" of our intuitive language, but few writers communicate its vocabulary and grammar with such authentic experience and delightful skill. This is one "chick book" that belongs on every mature woman's bookshelf --- if you can actually keep it there.

Be firm, be strong: tell the girlfriends to go buy their own copies.

--- Reviewed by Pauline Finch

5-0 out of 5 stars Best Gift!
A great read! I thoroughly enjoyed every page. In fact, I thought it was so much fun I purchased a book for each of my girlfriends and plan on giving the book as gifts on our annual summer road trip to the coast. It brought up so many memories of my own experiences...I loved it! Cherish your girlfriends...Thank you Karen.

1-0 out of 5 stars Secret marketing ploys and celebrity suck up .......
At first glance this book looked like a really fun read.Cute cover and catchy concepts it seemed like it would something right up my alley.I was very wrong.The book talks all about the sort of girlfriends that one may want to have or hope to have over the course of her lifetime.That's all fine and dandy (not to mention obvious) but does anyone really need to read 200+ pages of the author's fond memories of her friends? Is it necessary to suck up to Oprah right in the dedication and then barely mention her in those 200+ pages? I also did not appreciate the cheap marketing ploy that involved the author plugging her stupid pajama line.I don't think that the author imparts any true words of wisdom and I seriously doubt there is much for anyone to gain by reading this book.You could do better things with your time like perhaps watching Thelma & Louise, A League of their Own, Beaches, Steel Magnolias, etc.... Don't waste your time or money on this.Don't even waste a trip to the library - grab a girlfriend and go shopping instead!!!!

4-0 out of 5 stars A gentle Read
I have read half of the book in just two days. It is a great read. I felt like I could relate to a lot of what was being said. The tales are of everyday women in everyday situations. It is comfortable to know that others out there feel as you do during any stage of your life. ... Read more


13. The Bitch in the House: 26 Women Tell the Truth About Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage
by Cathi Hanauer
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Catlog: Book (2003-09-16)
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Average Customer Review: 3.56 out of 5 stars
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Virginia Woolf introduced us to the “Angel in the House”, now prepare to meet... The Bitch In the House.

Women today have more choices than at any time in history, yet many smart, ambitious, contemporary women are finding themselves angry, dissatisfied, stressed out. Why are they dissatisfied? And what do they really want? These questions form the premise of this passionate, provocative, funny, searingly honest collection of original essays in which twenty-six women writers—ranging in age from twenty-four to sixty-five, single and childless or married with children or four times divorced—invite readers into their lives, minds, and bedrooms to talk about the choices they’ve made, what’s working, and what’s not.

With wit and humor, in prose as poetic and powerful as it is blunt and dead-on, these intriguing women offer details of their lives that they’ve never publicly revealed before, candidly sounding off on:

• The difficult decisions and compromises of living with lovers, marrying, staying single and having children

• The perpetual tug of war between love and work, family and career

• The struggle to simultaneously care for ailing parents and a young family

• The myth of co-parenting

• Dealing with helpless mates and needy toddlers

• The constrictions of traditional women’s roles as well as the cliches of feminism

• Anger at laid-back live-in lovers content to live off a hardworking woman’s checkbook

• Anger at being criticized for one’s weight

• Anger directed at their mothers, right and wrong

• And–well–more anger...

“This book was born out of anger,” begins Cathi Hanauer, but the end result is an intimate sharing of experience that will move, amuse, and enlighten. The Bitch in the House is a perfect companion for your students as they plot a course through the many voices of modern feminism. This is the sound of the collective voice of successful women today-in all their anger, grace, and glory.

From The Bitch In the House:

“I believed myself to be a feminist, and I vowed never to fall into the same trap of domestic boredom and servitude that I saw my mother as being fully entrenched in; never to settle for a life that was, as I saw it, lacking independence, authority, and respect.” –E.S. Maduro, page 5

“Here are a few things people have said about me at the office: ‘You’re unflappable.’ ‘Are you ever in a bad mood?’ Here are things people—okay, the members of my family—have said about me at home: ‘‘Mommy is always grumpy.’ ‘Why are you so tense?’ ‘You’re too mean to live in this house and I want you to go back to work for the rest of your life!’” –Kristin van Ogtrop, page 161

“I didn’t want to be a bad mother I wanted to be my mother-safe, protective, rational, calm-without giving up all my anger, because my anger fueled me.” – Elissa Schappell, page 195

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4-0 out of 5 stars Brilliant and insightful!
The Bitch in the House is a collection of essays written by some of today's brightest female writers. The authors of these essays are of various ages, economic and marital status. It is a book about women venting their frustrations in various aspects of their lives. The stories are brilliant and insightful -- especially the ones that focus on marriage and motherhood. I especially enjoyed reading "Getting the Milk for Free," by Veronica Chambers; "Moving In. Moving Out. Moving On," by Sarah Miller; and "Killing the Puritan Within," by Kate Christensen.

4-0 out of 5 stars Betty needs a bit of better bitter
I thoroughly enjoyed this collection of first-person essays in the beginning, but as I read more I found, as several other readers seem to have found, that these women's experiences were too similar to enjoy reading over and over. There is not much diversity of culture, race or age. Still, I did enjoy the humor and the sharing, and thought the writing was very good. Ultimately I did realize that I am not as angry, not as bitter, not as disappointed as these authors, though I did enjoy the writing, and would recommend it to others.

2-0 out of 5 stars Bitch and whine
All these essays are fairly interchangeable. All the women seem to be white professionals, all left-leaning academics/writers griping about their complicated lives. There's a sameness to all their narratives; even the one by Ellen Gilchrist, a writer I admire, is suprisingly flat. No humor, no variety, no lightness of touch anywhere--just the self-absorbed ruminations of spoiled, earnest women who've bought the line that they can,and deserve, to have it all.

2-0 out of 5 stars no sympathy here.
This book sounded like it would be terrific -- women talking about things women tend not to discuss. However, it wasn't at all what I expected. The contributors are mainly upper-middle-class magazine writers, which means that the pieces all tend to sound the same, and have a real feeling of entitlement. Too, there are almost no older women/women of color/etc.

I actually preferred THE BASTARD ON THE COUCH, because the men seemed a lot more dimensional than their wives (if as shallow).

2-0 out of 5 stars A tree gave its life?
A tree gave its life for this book? Give me a break! As a woman, I take offense to others who cannot look at the sunny side of life! This sets women back 100 years. ... Read more


14. The Price of Motherhood: Why the Most Important Job in the World is Still the Least Valued
by Ann Crittenden
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Catlog: Book (2002-01-01)
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5-0 out of 5 stars Time to change things for American moms (and dads)
In this well-written, passionate, and fascinating book, Ann Crittenden challenges us all to look at the subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which we make life harder than it should be for parents (especially moms). So many of us care enormously about both our families and our work, and too many of us are forced to choose between the two, to either drop out of the workforce when we have kids or to work ridiculous hours that don't allow us to be there for our families. As Crittenden points out, with paid parental leave, a fairer income tax structure that doesn't penalize spouses who work, more high-quality and affordable child care options, and a richer array of flexible and part-time work options, many more women would choose to and would be able to combine work and family, which would be better for women, for families, and for society as a whole. Crittenden notes that feminism largely succeeded in opening up many previously male fields to women, but only if women will play by the male rules (with the result that the gap between mothers' and childless women's wages is now larger than the gap between childless women's and men's wages). Shouldn't the next task be to transform the workplace so that it works better for everyone, including parents? So many other countries have done this -- why not the US?

Crittenden is sure to be criticized by some as another rich whiner who chose to have a child, can afford not to work full-time, and yet isn't happy with the results of her choices. This, I believe, is a superficial and short-sighted criticism. Crittenden counters that choosing to have a child is not like choosing to have a pet. Today's children will be supporting these nay-sayers in their old age. We all have a stake in making sure that families are supported and that children get the best start in life that they possibly can. Crittenden's book is a must-read.

3-0 out of 5 stars More Important are the Rewards of Motherhood
As a stay at home mother of 5 the title of this book intrigued me. I was interested in learning the history of how motherhood came to be valued so little by modern America. And I hoped for affirmation of my life's hardest and most important work: mothering. The beginning of the book seemed to offer both. I could relate to the instant loss of success and credibility when, despite economic and social pressures, I left my professional career to stay home with my first baby. One of my husband's married male cousins actually asked me a chapter question, "So....exactly what DO you do all day at home?"

As I read through the first half of the book I became angry at maternal social injustices and was inspired by the baby-passion that encourages mothers to raise their own children anyway. But in the second half of the book I felt profound disappointment. Ms. Crittenden seems to come to the conclusion that any form of motherhood is worthy of financial remuneration, it matters not if a mother's child is in round-the-clock day care. The myths of feminism's working woman are (inadvertently?) reinforced over the unrecognized contributions and sacrifices of career mothering.

There are however seeds of a greater truth scattered within the pages of this book: a mother breastfeeding her baby, a mother caring for an aging family member, a mother who manages the household, volunteers her time, and homeschools her children should be acknowledged and valued (page 66). We know the price of motherhood, the rewards are less understood, and a deeper question remains. How can we, as a society, best support, protect and value motherhood?

"Labor is prior to, and independent of capital. Capital is only the fruit of labor, and could never have existed if labor had not first existed. Labor is the superior of capital, and deserves a much higher consideration." Abraham Lincoln

4-0 out of 5 stars Worth the Read
This book offers a searing criticism of the ways that mothers pay a price in our society. I read this book for my own edification and loved her honesty. It's written in easy to read style.

I also used excerpts of this book in one of my women's studies classes and the students enjoyed it. Many of the re-entry students actually told me that they either checked it out at the library or purchased the book.

I perused the reviews and was amused at how some reviewers felt that this book was whiny. Why is it that when we disagree we have to say that she (usually a woman under attack!) is whining. Motherhood isn't all bread and roses and this book explains why.

1-0 out of 5 stars Destroying our country in the name of motherhood?
I was disturbed by this book, to put it mildly. I am a stay-at-home mom myself, and I was curious about the tenets of a book that appeared to be defending mothers. Instead, in the name of motherhood, the author attacks our wonderful Constitutional government by blatantly extolling and calling for greater Socialism in our country. Has our freedom become so cheap in the last 200 years that we would lose it, not to an outside enemy, but from within by our own countrymen? I recommend that anyone thinking of reading this anti-American propaganda think again.

1-0 out of 5 stars A cop out, one sided analysis.
I was somewhat dissapointed by this book. It should either be read along with 'Women Cant Hear What Dont Say' by Warren Farrell Ph.D, or not be read at all. The author treated marriage as if it were a sentence to uncertainty and insecurity, divorce as the inevitable outcome, and the government as the end all and save all. While saying that divorce is leaves mothers poorer,-which is only one side of the story-nowhere in the book does the author say that 70% of divorces are initiated by women. Hmm, makes me wonder why 85% of the homeless are men. I think its a cop out because the book doesnt really get to the preventitive measures or the 'nitty-gritty' of the issues-relationship issues, helping men and women to understand each other, how to communicate, how to give and recieve criticism etc. With the divorce rate today, its quite obvious all the 'pop psychology' isnt helping. Every thing starts at home. Crime, abuse, suicide, you name it. Once relationships are in order, families will be in order, and divorce wont be an issue to the extent it is today. I also sensed a disdain for the traditional, male headed nuclear family.
There is a lack of research concerning issues such as male housework,-inside and around-economic conditions of husband, wife and children after divorce, issues leading up to divorce, work habits of men and women etc. All of these things tie in with motherhood-and fatherhood. I agree that motherhood-and fatherhood-are the most important jobs in the world, but this book doesnt give the whole, precise picture. Alot of crucial information is missing. ... Read more


15. Women Who Run with the Wolves
by CLARISSA PINKOLA PHD ESTES
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UPDATED, WITH NEW MATERIAL BY THE AUTHOR"WOMEN WHO RUN WITH THE WOLVES isn't just another book. It is a gift of profound insight, wisdom, and love. An oracle from one who knows."--Alice WalkerWithin every woman there lives a powerful force, filled with good instincts, passionate creativity, and ageless knowing. She is the Wild Woman, who represents the instinctual nature of women. But she is an endangered species. In WOMEN WHO RUN WITH THE WOLVES, Dr. Estés unfolds rich intercultural myths, fairy tales, and stories, many from her own family, in order to help women reconnect with the fierce, healthy, visionary attributes of this instinctual nature. Through the stories and commentaries in this remarkable book, we retrieve, examine, love, and understand the Wild Woman and hold her against our deep psyches as one who is both magic and medicine. Dr. Estés has created a new lexicon for describing the female psyche. Fertile and life-giving, it is a psychology of women in the truest sense, a knowing of the soul."This volume reminds us that we are nature for all our sophistication, that we are still wild, and the recovery of that vitality will itself set us right in the world."--Thomas Moore Author of Care of the Soul"I am grateful to WOMEN WHO RUN WITH THE WOLVES and to Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés. The work shows the reader how glorious it is to be daring, to be caring, and to be women. Everyone who can read should read this book."--Maya Angelou"An inspiring book, the 'vitamins for the soul' [for] women who are cut off from their intuitive nature."--San Francisco Chronicle"Stands out from the pack . . . A joy and sparkle in [the] prose . . . This book will become a bible for women interested in doing deep work. . . . It is a road map of all the pitfalls, those familiar and those horrifically unexpected, that a woman encounters on the way back to her instinctual self. Wolves . . . is a gift."--Los Angeles Times"A mesmerizing voice . . . Dramatic storytelling she learned at the knees of her [immigrant] aunts."--Newsweek ... Read more

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4-0 out of 5 stars "If a story is a seed, then we are its soil."--CPE
Clarissa Pinkola Estes is a gifted storyteller--one who does not just love stories, but also recognizes their ability to stir the soul. She sees each story she shares as a cure for a spiritual deprivation, and so retells each one in her rich, soulful style, adding Latino ethnic twists to increase the illumination. Then, sounding like a village wise woman, she explains the effects of each type of deprivation in the souls and bodies of women. For instance, she interprets "The Little Match Girl" as a story about the necessity of putting one's creativity (represented by the matches) to good use: the failure to do so makes one freeze to death.

Certainly, women need the sort of healing that stories can give them--but so does everyone in the world, male or female. Men just didn't happen to be part of Estes' "target audience" when she wrote "Women Who Run with the Wolves", I suppose. Yet it is precisely this book that encouraged me to read "Jack and the Beanstalk" and "The Selfish Giant" to my little brothers.

The wondrous thing about this book is that it is only one person's opinion about the power of certain myths. Anyone is free to agree or disagree with Estes . . . to take or reject her advice . . . to give her chosen stories different meanings . . . to apply her meanings to different stories. For example, Estes used "The Ugly Duckling" to lament how a rigid, uncompromising society can oppress mothers into abandoning "unconventional" children. To that I add that if the ducklings had had a father duck around, then the ugly duckling would have had proper protection from the pond bullies and a lot more backbone.

It is also delightful to recognize the archetypes playing hide-and-seek in the fairytales and myths of many cultures. Russia's "Vasalisa" is uncannily like "Snow White", except that the cottage in the woods houses a witch (Baba Yaga), rather than seven dwarves. Also, the colors white, red and ebony/black are not found in the features of the story's heroine, but are sewn into the dress of her doll. Then there are the striking similarities between "Bluebeard" and the Greek myth of Eros and Psyche. (Of course, the difference is that one ends happily and the other does not.)

Finally, I love the way almost every sentence here rings with the kind of beauty and passion I have come to expect only in poetry, never in prose. For this reason, I can sit with this book and just dip into the paragraphs to be refreshed.

The most potentially disturbing element in "Women Who Run with the Wolves" is Estes' firm faith in the Life/Death/Life cycle--something very pagan. If readers miss the point early in the book, all the references to long-gone goddess-based religions of the ancient world will certainly drive home the fact. Personally, I thought it less bothersome than all the psychological concepts she used--half of which I don't buy at all. I've found that it helps to remind oneself all throughout the story that even though Estes writes of something true and deep, it doesn't follow that all women must identify with wolves (I happen to relate to mice), or feel like wild women, in order to be healthy in spirit.

5-0 out of 5 stars Haunting, touching, inspirational women's myths and stories

Clarissa Pinkola Estes opened my mind...
I thought the book was going to be either too scholarly
or too depressing. My preset ideas were completely shattered
once I read the first chapter.

Ms. Estes opened up a fanciful world of fairy-tale
and folk-tale creature/archetypes and explained them
in a way that gave them life, fleshed out the "skeleton woman"
and inspired me to make my leap into the creative with her
technique of creating a "scapecoat" to introduce a healing ritual
into any woman's life.

My creative life was enriched. My dream life was enriched.
"Wolves" inspired me to keep searching deep within my unconscious
for those archetypes that would nurture me into FULL conscious
living.

"Wolves" will no doubt bring answers from the depths of many, both
male and female, who delve into the mysterious world of the
fairy/folk/archetypal myth. Readers who open to her images
will come out with a richer feel for life and living in the now.

1-0 out of 5 stars Women, Run Away!
I read this book hoping for a little insight and perspective from an educated women and found myself abysmally disappointed. This book failed to capture not only my interest but the interest of every person I lent it to. Pinhola makes exceedingly long reaches to arrive at primitive conclusions (no pun intended), and fails to integrate the slightest hint of logic into her tales that supposedly incorporate a new feminist theory. If this is an "I am woman, hear me roar" chant, it is sure to back fire, serving only to show those of us who already know we're worth something that there are some women who keep our gender from advancing and being taken seriously! I strongly recommend that any reader who needs some encouragement and empowerment to find another book with factual, interesting psychology that may be legitimately and appropriately applied to her life.

5-0 out of 5 stars Comforting to those questioning themselves and their motives
I read this book several years ago during a two year period of going through a divorce. This book empowered me to get in touch with my inner female voice, listen to my instincts and trust them again (because they were always sending me warning signals I was told to ignore by my overbearing, controlling spouse at the time). This is a wonderful collection of tales from many cultures that remind us women that we are born with an instinctual knowledge of things to come. We, unfortunately, allow others (i.e. the men in our lives) to tell us we are too sensitive, overreacting, imagining things, jealous, distrusting, etc., only to discover that those instincts were right on the mark the entire time! This should be on every woman's bookshelf!

4-0 out of 5 stars Necessary Background Work
If you are researching Latino/a storytelling, this is the book for you. It is a wonderful outline of women figures in storytelling in general, and the outlook the author lends to Latino/a issues is invaluable.

Estes describes some of the spirituality that goes hand in hand with mythology. This is a strongly feminist text. Much of the work has a Goddess sort of touch to it - it explores the maiden, mother, and crone. ... Read more


16. Founding Mothers : The Women Who Raised Our Nation
by Cokie Roberts
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In the histories of the American Revolution, much has been written about America's founding fathers, those brave men who signed the Declaration of Independence, battled the British, and framed the Constitution. Yet the wives, mothers, sisters, and daughters who supported, encouraged, and even advised them have been virtually ignored.

In Founding Mothers, New York Times bestselling author Cokie Roberts brings to light the stories of the women who fought the Revolution as valiantly as the men, sometimes even defending their very doorsteps from British occupation. While the men went off to war or to Congress, the women managed their husbands' businesses, ran the farms, and raised their children. These women who sacrificed for the fledgling nation spent months or even years apart from their husbands, at a time when letters were their only form of contact.

Drawing upon personal correspondence and private journals, Founding Mothers brings to life the everyday trials, extraordinary triumphs, and often surprising stories of Abigail Adams, Mercy Otis Warren, Deborah Reed Franklin, Eliza Pinckney, Martha Washington, and other patriotic and passionate women, each of whom played a role in raising our nation.

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3-0 out of 5 stars Good and Not So Good
The information about the various women was interesting.However, I had to go through the book a second time to be able to sort the facts about each woman separately in order to get a picture of what she was like. The book was so poorly organized that one reading left me with a mish-mash of impressions. I can't imagine why any editor would allow this rough draft to be printed. And I expected better of Cokie Roberts. I am reasonably sure that no one but a celebrity could get by with such a poor effort.Fortunately, the subject matter was arresting enough to carry me through the forest even though I often could not see the trees!

5-0 out of 5 stars Women Powered by Inner Force
Against enormous social,political and family forces the early American dynamos profiled by Cokie Roberts changed the face of the world by revolutionizing a nation. They powered realignment of social and political forces often through low profile but passionate and decisive impact on decision makers as well asgrassroots movements. As Roberts notes, coercive powers that locked many women into racial and gender servitude were not enough to silence or bind Founding Mothers. They were energized by inner forces just as essential for truly free women today - will, knowledge, vision, judgment, conscience, social radar and faith. As skillfully unearthed by Roberts, these stories of early American wonder women seem bittersweet. Bitter, in that they have been buried so long, robbing generations of American women of a rich legacy. Sweet, in finally allowing us to savor the inspiration of their lives. Whether in birth families or in a national family, digging out historic facts of our ancestors empowers us to move on from a stronger position. Truth sets us free. Reviewer: Beverly Hubble Tauke is author of "Overcoming the Sins of the Family," and is a Virginia-based family counselor and lecturer.

1-0 out of 5 stars Great subject matter -- poorly written!
I used to like Cokie Roberts until I started reading this book. I love reading about the Revolutionary War and had (like other readers with comments) read the excellent biography of John Adams that was extremely well-written. Time and again in Cokie's book, she puts in little asides -- for instance early in the book when she speaks of the wedding present that Benjamin Franklin gives his daughter. He changes it from a nicer present to a spinning wheel. Cokie apparently does not think the reader "gets it" and goes on to say that such a present is akin to getting a toaster. She does this throughout the book and it is annoying. Worse, however, the narrative does not flow and it is easy to lose track of who she is talking about and when she is placing them in history. And I really do not like how Ms. Roberts keeps inserting her voice in the lives of these historic people with her 21st century sensibility. The Revolutionary War was a different time period, Cokie! I winced when I would read quotes about Abigail Adams with such Cokie asides as "she must have wanted to hit him." etc. I will look for a better book on this subject!

2-0 out of 5 stars Let's face it, celebrity standards are lower
Would this book even have been published if the author wasn't an NPR commentator? I truly doubt it. The standards for celebrity authors are MUCH lower, even if the book is supposed to be a "scholarly" work, as opposed to, say, a diet book.
If Roberts could pull together a few facts about a woman from the Revolutionary War period (documented or undocumented), that woman landed in the book. There was no real narrative flow.
But, if it interested a few people in the Revolutionary War period that weren't interested before, well, that's a good thing!

2-0 out of 5 stars Disappointing
I like Cokie Roberts, listen to her on NPR, etc. etc.Perhaps it was because I had just come off from reading "John Adams," but I was very disappointed in this book.There didn't seem to be much in the way of original research, it didn't challange me to rethink history, and I really wasn't blown away by how these women did much to change the course of history in the grand scale.Nonetheless, there were interesting tidbits of historical information, and a reader may learn some new stuff. ... Read more


17. The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure (Ultimate Everything!!!)
by Violet Blue
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Many people enjoy giving and receiving cunnilingus, but where do you turn when you want to learn more about oral sex or ways to introduce it into a relationship? The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. In her clear, concise, and informative text, sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman, as well as accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In her friendly, witty tone, Blue dispatches fascinating facts and discusses games for lovers, positions, safety, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations, and tips for effectively communicating with a partner. ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars What are you doing down there? I just wondered:)
Okay, I must admit, I have no real need to know how to perform cunnilingus but I just wondered about the 'how to' involved in this practice. I was surprised to find out all sorts of other great stuff in this book.

Now that I have read this book, I think that in a life or death situation I certainly could perform this erotic practice but I don't think there are any life or death situations involved unless we are talking 'the little death' of orgasm. As a woman, I did have a good idea involved in the 'how to' but now I have a knowledgeable book sense of what men and lesbians are experiencing.

The book is well written and to the point, full of the usual female physiology, anatomy, and safe sex but I must say done very well. I didn't care for the chapter titles, not titillating enough for my taste with the exception of chapter five titled 'taste and textures'. I did learn some great facts for example the ph of the vagina and the ph of seaman. Oh yeah there is a whole chapter on tongue techniques and positions. Oh and we do touch on some other practices in the sex arena but this book is focused on the giving and receiving of cunnilingus.

This book was spiced up quite nicely with the great short erotic stories at the end of each chapter written by Alison Tyler and sprinkled through out are some real people insights about going down. Also, included are some really wonderful illustrations.

Over all a good instruction book on this oral erotic practice enjoyed by so many.

girldiver:)

5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent book
This is THE book to get on going down on a woman. Most other sex guides don't cover the vast amount of ground the author covers, and even though I knew a good amount of the anatomy stuff I learned a whole lot about how to use my mouth and hands. It's essential reading for guys who want to know exactly how to make women come and what happens physiologically when they do. Plus the sections on using extra tricks with cunnilingus like blindfolds, sex toys, fantasies, and advanced stuff makes it a book I keep using. And she's a great young writer who brings a breath of fresh air and a savvy sense of style to the world of sex writing.

5-0 out of 5 stars Yes please.
The fact that my husband went out and bought this book for us on his own accord all ready was stimulating. Great book, I love being the experimental candidate for all the suggestions. Also, get, get, get the DVD "New Sex Now"--- wow, wow. Who says that your sex life goes down after marriage, ours is hotter than ever.

5-0 out of 5 stars Ohhhhhhhh Yes this is sooooo goooood !
This book is a must for any bedroom library. My wife and I have been stocking our shelves every few years to keep things spicy. I have and I know my wife is throughly enjoying me trying out new ways to stimulate our "close contact sports". The book is frank, well written, it doesn't attempt to steer clear of this subject in any way. The suggestions for other reading were also a help. Buy this book and ENJOY !

5-0 out of 5 stars This book is excellent
As a straight male, I found this book highly informative, helpful and my wife has a smile on her face! Finally a book written by a woman about women telling you stuff that most women fail to tell you. ... Read more


18. Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities
by Alexandra Robbins
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Catlog: Book (2004-04-14)
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A fast-paced, behind-the-scenes book that blows the lid off the intriguing world of mainstream sorority life, by a New York Times bestselling author.

Alexandra Robbins wanted to find out if the stereotypes about sorority girls were actually true, so she spent a year with a group of girls in a typical sorority. The sordid behavior of sorority girls exceeded her worst expectations -- drugs, psychological abuse, extreme promiscuity, racism, violence, and rampant eating disorders are just a few of the problems. But even more surprising was the fact that these abuses were inflicted and endured by intelligent, successful, and attractive women.

Why is the desire to belong to a sorority so powerful that women are willing to engage in this type of behavior -- especially when the women involved are supposed to be considered "sisters"? What definition of sisterhood do many women embrace? Pledged combines a sharp-eyed narrative with extensive reporting and the fly-on-the-wall voyeurism of reality shows to provide the answer. ... Read more

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4-0 out of 5 stars Couldn't put Pledged down!
Being a member of a NPC sorority at a large Midwestern university made me want to read this book and I definitely was not disappointed! I have recommended it to all of my sorority sisters... and anyone else who would like to read it. While I dont think that the main characters of the book are a great protrayal of all sorority sisters, they were still so fun to read about. I felt that Robbins was fair in her writings but since she was at a Southern university, where sororities are everything, I feel that this book does give a slightly off idea to non-Greeks on what sorority life is like. Not all sororities haze or are as cruel or superficial as some of the girls are in the story. Even though they weren't your everyday sorority, they made for a great book.
What I also really enjoyed about the book is that Robbins takes about every other chapter to discuss different sorority topics such as black vs. white sororities, hazing, rush, and even the rituals of different chapters. She even focuses on topics that are avoided by some Nationals... such as rape at social events, drug use, and eating disorders throughout the book. These chapters intertwined with the story really complete the book and make it a great read for non Greeks and Greeks alike.
When it all boils down, this book was really, really good and everyone that I know that has read has said that they couldn't put it down until they finished. Definitely read Pledged!

5-0 out of 5 stars Shocking Expose of Campus Life Today
This book is a shocking expose of what its like to be a sorority sister in today's campus culture. Pledged is the result of intensive research into sororities. One fascinating aspect of Pledged is the extent to which Satanic-like rituals play a role in many sororities today. Also revealing is just how much alcohol and illegal drugs are at the center of sorority life today. Robbins also reveals how much of a role that peer pressure at sororities plays a role in young women becoming dangerously anorexic, not to mention neurotic. Another interesting relevation is that while community service was stressed back in the 1950's, today's "Greek" campus organizations perform almost zero community service. Robbins does a service in exposing the fact that sorority members generally earn worse grades, suffer more alcohol-related trauma, engage in more perversion, have a higher rate of anorexia and bulimia than the rest of the student body on campuses today.

Every parent of a girl who wants to go to college needs to read this book.

2-0 out of 5 stars bleh
As a smart sorority woman I was stoked to read this book as a sort of outside look at who we are. It had potential but overall reading it was waste of time. There a few major problems with the book:

1) The characters are one-dimensional, boring, undeveloped and I was NEVER able to relate to them. (And I SHOULD be able to relate as well as anyone since I AM a sorority woman)

2) Robbins overgeneralizes and exaggerates throughout the book. The "experiences" of these girls only slighty resembles my experience (note: I go to school at University that has one of the strongest greek systems on the West Coast)

3) Robbins really loses it at the end with her "recommendations." She should stop preaching and write a good book.

4) While the "secrets" chapter was the most interesting and juicy I found it disrespectful to reveal this kind of thing in a book AND Robbins got a bunch of them wrong. She only got my chapter's secrets right and was completly wrong on the sorority my best friend is in

Overall Robbins is just not a good writer. This book is neither good journalism nor good fiction (good fiction shouldn't bore me to tears).

Overall, if you want a trashy book to skim through pick this up. If you want the truth about sororities or to be entertained don't bother

4-0 out of 5 stars Never was Greek but....
I enjoyed reading this book, through reading it I kept in mind that some of these events probably only happen in a few chapters throughout the US. However, it does happen. I never belonged to a sorority, but I had two friends belong to them, they loved their sisters and said the good things that happened in the sorority far outweighed the bad. And that's how I felt when i read the book, there were some bad things writen, but all the good things, parties, fundraising, the closeness the girls shard...far outweighed the bad things. I mean seriously, put just 20 girls in a house and don't see if you have these kinds of issues Greek or not. It's part of life, and it doesn't mean that you have to get defensive about it.

I highly recommend this book. And if i have a daughter who would choose to join a sorority, I would highly encourage her, even after reading this book.

2-0 out of 5 stars This is ridiculous
As a member of the greek community, this book makes me angry. But what makes me more angry is that people are reading it and taking it as though she researched every greek community in the country. If she would have look at even just a few other campuses she would have seen that not every sorority is like that. Did anyone realize that she takes some of the things that are not even bad things and trys to make them sound bad. It's sad that the sororitys portrayed in this book have such a bad greek system at their school and maybe instead of bashing it or letting it continue how it is, these girls should try and do something to change it. Complaining to a reporter isn't going to help anything. And if it's as terrible as they portray it to be, then why are they there. It's their choice to be in the sorority in the first place, so what's keeping them there? Obviously something is. I can tell you that in my experience NOTHING has ever come close to being like those sororitys. Sorry, but for her to judge something she was never a part of is apalling to me. The sister hood in my sorority is amazing and I'm sorry that this book is causing people to not want to experience something that has changed my life the way that it has. ... Read more


19. Couldn't Keep It to Myself: Testimonies from Our Imprisoned Sisters
by Wally Lamb, Carolyn Adams Goodwin
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In a stunning work of insight and hope, New York Times bestselling author Wally Lamb once again reveals his unmatched talent for finding humanity in the lost and lonely and celebrates the transforming power of the written word.

For several years, Lamb has taught writing to a group of women prisoners at York Correctional Institution in Connecticut. In this unforgettable collection, the women of York describe in their own words how they were imprisoned by abuse, rejection, and their own self-destructive impulses long before they entered the criminal justice system. Yet these are powerful stories of hope and healing, told by writers who have left victimhood behind.

In his moving introduction, Lamb describes the incredible journey of expression and self-awareness the women took through their writing and shares how they challenged him as a teacher and as a fellow author. Couldn't Keep It to Myself is a true testament to the process of finding oneself and working toward a better day.

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5-0 out of 5 stars close to home-literally
I live about fifteen minutes from York and work at a halfway house for drug addicted women trying to get their lives back on track and many of our clients come from this prison...point being I obviously could not wait to read this book. I was not disappointed-it is uplifting and heartwrenching- it teaches compassion and shows these are women are HUMAN BEINGS not just criminals. I am glad Mr. Lamb started this writing program at the prison and that despite the efforts of some to shut it down it continues to thrive. For those who didn't like the book I can only say that you must have a very closed heart to not find any connection with any of these women...should we feel sorry for them, forgive their crimes? No-but should we be able to show some some compassion for those that may have had less than "wonderful" lives? Yes! Not everyone can have as horrible a life as some of these women and then simply pull themselves up by there bootstraps and live a "normal", happy, problem free life! Another reviewer said that it was like reading essays written by kids in grade school or some such nonesense...one must remember when reading this book most-although certainly not all-of the women who were contributers did not complete school and have not had much in the way of formal education-compassion for others is a beautiful quality-may this book help us all to cultivate that trait a bit more in our daily existence.

5-0 out of 5 stars Captivating from the very first page!
Wally Lamb is an amazing writer. I purchased this book with a gut feeling that it would be special, and I wasn't disappointed. The individual stories of the women were touching, well written, and at the risk of sounding corny, truly inspirational. It was enlightening, educational and made me a believer in what Bonnie Foreshaw says several times throughout her story, "We are human beings first, inmates second". A highly recommended read for anyone, and if you are a fan of Wally Lamb, it will do nothing more than reinforce and further your love of his work.

3-0 out of 5 stars Ok read
I had to read the book for class and I thought that is was good but I wouldnt read it for anything other than class.

4-0 out of 5 stars Interesting but..
The book held my attention for the most part and I had it finished in 2 days. I have mixed emotions, however. My curiosity about the reality of prison life is what made me buy this book. This book portrayed prison life as a lot LESS harsh than I had imagined. In this book the prison seemed like a social club for wayward women. Being in prison seemed to actually improve the lives of some of them who had been used to harsh street life, abuse and a daily battle with society but now have three warm meals a day, shelter, clothing, social time, schooling and no responsibilities.

Nothing surprised me concerning the lives of these women. What happened to them was pretty typical in stories you hear of women in the system..child abuse both sexually and physically, neglect, lack of security, no financial stability, etc, etc. I found some of the stories to be monotonous because of this and got tired of how nearly every story went from their childhood to adulthood, childhood to adulthood..back and forth, back and forth..each one so similar. The stories..in my opinion...were very predictable and it doesn't help that you don't know why, specifically, some of these woman are in prison. You hear what drove them there socially and psychologically, but not the exact crime they committed..understandably hidden in some cases because of laws that have to be kept concerning writing about crimes, but these type of stories needed more of that information so you weren't left hanging. It doesn't tie together and flow..you are suddenly jerked to a stop at the end of each story wondering what on earth this person had done to land in jail. A brief excerpt at the end of each woman's story stated matter-of-factly why they were there but the story itself doesn't lead up to each crime..you don't understand what's going on. I kept reading partly because I thought it would pick up my interest the further I delved but that didn't happen. Sure, it has a few touching stories but I wasn't that impressed as a whole.

One thing that really bothered me is how nearly every woman was sexually abused as a child but it was almost spoken of lightly..the abuser wasn't turned in...nothing was done..almost like it's an accepted fact and a part of life. I found it deplorable that it was spoken of so generally and almost in an acceptable manner. All in all to sum it up in one sentence: it was a background on a bunch of women who had hard lives, like millions of us, but they went over the edge.

1-0 out of 5 stars Couldn't Keep It To Myself
Love Wally lamb...Hated this book! The intro was good (because it was written by Lamb) but the rest of the book read like a junior high school writting class project. I know Lamb wanted to dispel any rumors that prison is a fun place to spend a relaxing 10-12 but I believe he accomplished that in the intro without dragging us through chapter after chapter of abuse. (ours and theirs)

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20. Good Catholic Girls : How Women Are Leading the Fight to Change the Church
by Angela Bonavoglia
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Asin: 006057061X
Catlog: Book (2005-03-01)
Publisher: Regan Books
Sales Rank: 7921
Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars
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The inspiring true story of the women who are fighting for the soul of the Catholic Church

Angela Bonavoglia is a self-described "itinerant Catholic." Born a Catholic, she knew she would die a Catholic. She was resigned to living with the knowledge that the Church had failed to live up to its own ideals, but then she heard the story of one woman who had the courage to say no to the pope. That launched Bonavoglia on a journey of discovery, through which she found many contemporary women, all over the world, stepping forward to challenge one of the last bastions of male authority -- the Roman Catholic Church. She began to believe that change just might be possible.

The recently exposed transgressions of priests within the Church stunned the faithful and sent a new surge of energy through the progressive Church reform movement in the United States. Despite the movement's growing profile, the world has only recently learned that Catholic women are the driving force behind reform. Good Catholic Girls is a lively account of these courageous women, as seen through Bonavoglia's eyes. They include Joan Chittister, the Benedictine nun who refused to obey a Vatican order not to speak at the first international conference for women's ordination groups worldwide; Mary Ramerman, ordained a Catholic priest before 3,000 jubilant supporters in a packed theater in Rochester, New York; Frances Kissling, whose fight for women's reproductive rights has shaken the Church at its highest levels; priest abuse survivor Barbara Blaine, who created the most powerful voice for victims, the Survivors' Network of those Abused by Priests; and Sister Jeannine Gramick, who built a pioneering ministry to gays and lesbians, despite Vatican orders to silence her and ban her work.

Backed by supporters worldwide, these and other women are rethinking Catholic theology, changing the face of ministry, and resurrecting the lost lives of female Church leaders. They are working to open ordination to all, challenging the Church's sexual repression, and calling the Church to openness and accountability. Their work is brave, provocative, and vital, for what becomes of women in the Catholic Church will determine what becomes of the Church itself. As Bonavoglia shows in this compelling book, the hierarchy ignores them at its peril.

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5-0 out of 5 stars Revealing
Good Catholic Girls is a beautifully written book based on views held by a wide spectrum of catholic women. It is especially interesting to pay attention to where Catholicism is growing the fastest, especially in Africa. DISCIPLES OF FORTUNE mirrored some of the paths taken to reconcile the Church's role in the complicated worlds of the faithful.

5-0 out of 5 stars Dignity Restored
Bonavoglia's interviews of "good Catholic girls" vivify a sweeping panorama of women in the Church from the ancient to our gifted present. What we hear seems to rest and grow on the obscure and the obscured, the silenced and the banned, until we recognize the bold stillness of a mountain revealed. Recent events in the the Roman Catholic Church beg the unanswerable question - how might things have been different? Bonavoglia puts much to rest in this invaluable recap of who stays, what they are doing and where they are taking the rest of us. The women we meet are not leaving the Church and yet they are not staying--they are changing the Church while their work moves and alters everything and everyone it passes. Write on, Angela!

Peggie L. Thorp, Boston, MA

1-0 out of 5 stars More feminist propoganda
It is interesting how Ms. Bonavoglia is writing so much misinformation regarding the Catholic Church. However, "good" Catholic women would know better than to read and listen to this misinformation. Hopefully other "good" christians and nonchrisitans will also get the point. This is the same, old, boring feminist information that has been spreading since the 60's. Luckily for real Catholics, these people are getting older and are quickly dying out while the young of the church are standing strong. The younger generation is comming out full force behind the teachings of the Church. If you are truly interested on reading about women, Read Pope John Paul II's Apostolic Letter Mulieris Dignitatem regarding the Dignity and Vocation of Women.
I would also recommend going to the Couple to Couple League's website and learn about Natural Family Planning. When you are knowledgable about what it TRULY is (no the "Rythm Method"), why we should do it (to allow God's will), you will begin to see the beauty of God's love and his gift to married couples.
And for the VERY basic of reading, I would recommend pulling out your Holy Bible and reading about what role God truly intended women to have.

5-0 out of 5 stars St. Augustine would like this book
Angela Bonavoglia has written an up to date view of the Catholic Church in the United States.She has researched and interviewed wherever she could find Catholic women.These Catholic women are enrgetic, hard working and faithful.Faithful in the broadest sense of the word, followers of the good news to the outcasts of society and the good news of mutuality which Jesus preached.Most importantly she brings the beauty of Catholicism into full view through her stories of the women in the Church. "Ah beauty, ever ancient, ever new..." Augustine wrote.The new beauty of the Catholic Church is found in her women.
Gaile M. Pohlhaus, Ph.D.
Coordinator Villanova Theology Institute
Villanova University

5-0 out of 5 stars An Engaging Read
After wading through tons of books about current Catholic "troubles", it was refreshing to pick up a book that entertains as well as it informs. Bonavoglia is a skilled craftswoman. Hats off! ... Read more


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