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    1. Mother-Daughter Wisdom : Creating a Legacy of Physical and Emotional Health
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    2. Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety
    by JudithWarner
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    Catlog: Book (2005-02-17)
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    The old adage is especially true for Perfect Madness: don't judge this eminently readable book by its stern and academic-looking cover. Judith Warner's missive on the "Mommy Mystique" can be read in a weekend, if readers have the time. Of course--according to the book--many would-be readers will have to carve out the hours in between an endless sea of child-enriching activities, a soul-sucking swirl that leads many mothers into a well of despair. Warner's book seeks to answer the question, "Why are today's young mothers so stressed out?" Whether shuttling kids to "enriching" after-school activities or worrying about the quality of available child care, the women of Perfect Madness describe a life far out of balance. Warner spends most of the book explaining how things got to this point, and what can be done to restore some sanity to the parenting process.

    Warner draws her research from a group of 20- to 40-year-old, upper-middle-class, college-educated women living in the East Coast corridor. In other words, mirror images of Warner herself. Her limited scope has caused controversy and criticism, as have some of her more sweeping statements. (For example, Warner blames second-wave feminism--rather than corporate culture--for the many limitations women still experience as they try to balance the work-family dynamic.) Other favorite targets include the mainstream media, detached fathers, and controlling, "hyperactive" mothers who create impossible standards for themselves, their children, and the community of other parents around them. Warner begins and ends the book with a compelling argument for the need for more societal support of mothers--quality-of-life government "entitlements" such as those found in France. It's these big-picture issues that will provide the solution, she says, even if most mothers don't want to discuss them because they consider the topic "tacky, strident-sounding, not the point." In these sections on governmental policy, and also when she steps back, encouraging women to be kinder to each other, the author's warmth comes across easily on the page. Pilloried by some readers and supported by others, Warner should at least be applauded for opening up the Pandora's Box of American motherhood for a new generation. And if readers are of two minds about the issues raised Perfect Madness, as Warner sometimes seems to be herself, it's a fitting reaction to a topic with few easy answers. --Jennifer Buckendorff END ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A good read
    In Perfect Madness , Judith Warner successfully exposed a strong view being held by some groups of professional women about motherhood in the new millennium. It is all about securing career growth while being a mother, a path that demands less presence by the mother in the life of her child(ren), while at the same time is fraught with the pressure to be the ideal mum that children always dream about, the mother who is always there when needed. It is a rising conflict in motherhood in the rapidly professional America where the specter of single parent families is growing everyday. However I think this book should have toned down its strong feminist perspective. It is a good read though. Like THE USURPER AND OTHER, DISCIPLES OF FORTUNE, THE COLOR OF WATER, HOW TO AVOID THE MOMMY TRAP,THE JOYS OF MOTHERHOOD , the echoes of conflicts in motherhood are very similar. I like its hilarious side the most.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Unnecessarily bleak -- Read Avoid The Mommy Trap to avoid it
    Along with others, I kept wondering, where is the joy and magic of being a mother, and of children?Why are all the men depicted not helpful?I read an article quoting Judith Warner in which she stated that the men in her generation just were not going to help out enough to take this awful weight off of our shoulders.This assumption is not correct for many of us, thankfully.My husband does a little more in the house and with our children than I do, and we both have worked hard to achieve a good balance in our lives and we are in Warner's generation, and many of our peers do the same.The norm we see is parents sharing and mothers, whether they work or not, finding their own life after the first few years if not before, not the over-stressed Moms alphabetizing toys or lining up at 6 am to sign up for a pre-school or arts and crafts class.The best book on this subject and almost the only one that is not whiney or depressing is How To Avoid The Mommy Trap, by Julie Shields.Shields interviewed a different set of Washington parents, among others, including some in France.I'd much rather hang with them, and their children than in the amped up, unhappy world Warner presents.

    4-0 out of 5 stars A big warm pat on the back
    The book succeeds at the least in being an interesting read and quite a we're-all-in-this comfort if you're a mother working in or out of the home, or both. Though she's interviewed but a small slice of society, Warner taps into the extreme performance anxiety many American moms are facing as we try to cope with what society's dealt us.And it's not senseless whining, as other reviewers have claimed -- there's a clear agenda here, but it involves getting together and getting some big policy changes through -- in the interests of mothers and children, for a change. If more women understood that's what needed, fewer would blindly accept that mothering is a "sacrifice." It needn't be.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Necessary Read
    This book has struck a chord with me and many of the women I know balancing a family and work. The author has some great points about the lack of a public support system (or even a private one in today's world) and my generation of control freaks. I recognized myself and many of my friends in bits here and there throughout the book. It is also a good history on motherhood and feminism through the 20th century, and different social movements. This book also states right out front, it doesn't have the solution, but is a collection of what women are feeling.

    Where I feel the book lacks are a couple of areas. The author interviewed many women, but mainly women in the Washington D.C. area, it would have been good to see more women around the country profiled. Also many of my friends (inlcuding me) have husbands that are staying at home or sharing in child care and the book tends to focus on the father as the chief breadwinner and I quote, "Men who cut their hours to spend more time with their children are routinely regarded as losers." Nu uh, maybe in Washington D.C., but not in my world honey. I see men among my friends doing this, and men I work with, and when I hear one of them is working his schedule to keep up with his family, he is a hero in my eyes.

    I read this book on vacation, and my Mom seemed a bit worried about it. "Maybe you should read something a little more upbeat." She is right. The book did raise my own level of anxiety, but I think it was needed. I look forward to the slew of books that will provide the solution.

    1-0 out of 5 stars No real solutions, just hopelessness
    I finished Perfect Madness with a heavy sigh. As I thought about how to sum it up, all I could do was sigh some more.

    I'll compare it with Mommy Guilt, in which the underlying message throughout is, "You are not alone. It's OK. You're doing a great job. Forgive yourself. Stop feeling guilty." When I finished that book, I felt energized, excited, empowered. I wanted to tell everyone about it.

    Here's the message from Perfect Madness: Life sucks. It sucked for our mothers. We thought we would take over the world. We didn't. Life sucks for us. It even sucks in France now. Nowhere is a good place for women or their children. It's hopeless.

    Something seems underhanded. Much like the author accuses women of humiliating their husbands by sharing intimate details of their sex lives, she somehow does the same to other women. She sat among them, talked to them, even proclaimed to be one of them. Yet she took their confidences, stamped them with her judgment, fit them as pegs into the holes she so neatly lined up and turned them out for the world to see. In the beginning, she said she wanted to prove that mothers aren't divided. At the end, she divided them herself, pitting SAHMs against WOHMs.

    I'm not a frantic parent she discusses throughout the book. But you know what? I still feel overwhelmed, underappreciated and isolated sometimes. I need something to help me get through every day, every week, every year.

    Will the author's "solutions" help me get through today or even next year? The solutions are vague at best. I can say we need "quality daycare" too. But what exactly does that mean?

    Sigh. What a depressing book. I'll take empowerment (Mommy Guilt) over hopelessness (Perfect Madness) any day. ... Read more

    3. Because I Said So : 33 Mothers Write About Children, Sex, Men, Aging, Faith, Race, and Themselves
    by Kate Moses, Camille Peri
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    Asin: 0060598786
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-01)
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    5-0 out of 5 stars This is a Phenomal Book!
    This is one of my top Five books of 2005. In fact, this is the best book I have read this year. If I could give it a ten, I would. I identified with each of the authors in this collection of essays ~~ even though some of their experiences I may not share, they are writing from the deep reaches of their hearts and souls. This book is not only a collection of essays of women from all ages and all walks of life ~~ it is about Everywoman. It's about you and me.

    When I started reading this book, I thought, oh, I'll have one favorite essay. Nope. I have more than one ~~ in fact, I love them all. These women have a wonderful and rare gift of expressing their thoughts and feelings on paper. They are inspirational for me to be the best mother, wife, friend, daughter that I can be. And if you're worried that this is all about women writing about children and parenting ~~ your fears are groundless. These women are writing about everything. They write about divorce, race, religion, abuse, love, tenderness, parenting, babysitting, watching their children grow up, dealing with prejudice,having nannies, being banned from the mosque and more.

    These women write of real experiences. These women are not angry writers. They are thoughtful and reflective writers, writing with prose, humor and lyrical rhyming. These women reveal their strength and grace in their essays. They don't have any male-bashing in their essays nor are they bitter or angry. They just write and their feelings and thoughts flow together in a wonderful chime of words.

    If I have any regret from reading this book, it's this one. I wish I could meet each and every single one of these essayists and sit down with them and just talk. I have learned so much from the little they've shared within this book, that I want to learn more. They are inspirational for women like me who do like to read and think. These women take in their events that changes them and in a small way, they change my perceptions and thoughts. A reader cannot walk away from this book without gleaning something from this book. It's just impossible. These writers make you stop and think about issues that you may not even be aware of. They challenge the status quo, so to speak. You cannot be comfortable with life after reading some of these essays ~~ but like I said, they're not angry writers, just perceptive and challenging writers. They force you to think, whether you like it or not.

    I highly recommend this book for every woman and men too. Men can learn a lot about women and what we think just from reading this book. If you're looking for a wonderful Mother's Day gift for the thinking and reading woman in your life, this book is it. I also recommend it for high school/young women to read ~~ it gives them an idea of what women face every day as they juggle the roles of motherhood and wifehood or single parenting or just being a woman in today's world. This is a wonderful book and a best gift for everyone to add to their booklist.

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    4. Nice Girls Don't Get Rich : 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money
    by Lois P. Frankel
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    Catlog: Book (2005-05-10)
    Publisher: Warner Business Books
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    After her terrific success revealing the mistakes women make that sabotage their careers, Dr. Lois P. Frankel is back to reveal the 75 mistakes women make that prevent them from achieving financial success. From executive to entry level, single to married, every woman needs to know the subconscious behavior that prevents her from developing a healthy and successful relationship with money--from depending on men for financial advice or support to a reluctance for negotiating. Frankel offers help in recognizing these self- defeating behaviors--as well as financial and investment advice and tips to help women claim wealth and riches. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Must Read!
    This book is excellent and offers many tips on how to save and stop spending your money.In one day I have implemented 5 of her suggestions and all ready I feel better about my self and saving money.A book that all women need to read, and also the high school and college girls.
    Definately a must read!!!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Nice Girls Don't Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make
    Regardless of your age or economic situation this book has something of value for everyone.Dr. Frankel is practical, to the point, and her suggestions for financial freedom are easy to implement. This is the perfect gift to send your newly graduating daughters out into the world as well as your women friends that may need some help.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Buying this book is a great investment for your future!
    This is a must read for any "girl" - teenager to senior citizen.Dr. Frankel offers straight forward strategies and advice on how to play the game of getting rich. The book is like a great buffet where you can pick and chose any chapter and feel well nourished.She gives you coaching tips that assure your financial and personal growth. The book is rich in priceless words of wisdom!

    4-0 out of 5 stars Everyone can get richer!
    The title really could be amended to, "Seventy-five mistakes that can benefit just about anyone."

    Nearly everyone has made at least one of these mistakes (okay, maybe Donald Trump never did).But I think Frankel offers more than a collection of mistakes and "if onlys." She's got some good ideas you won't find everywhere.

    My favorites:

    Brainstorm with big picture thinkers -- and then get advice from the nitpickers.

    Get out of your safety zone (no guts, no glory).

    Listen to your intuition.

    Just these three could save you the price of the book -- and there are many, many more.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Another winner!
    Once again, Dr. Frankel points out the mistakes made by "too-nice" women that limits their wealth and self-esteem, and offers common-sense solutions to help them break out of the old routines and assert and protect themselves. The advice is specific, with examples, and addresses every case scenario. Good, solid advice your mother never told you (or even knew!). ... Read more

    5. Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers
    by Lois P. Frankel
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    Catlog: Book (2004-02)
    Publisher: Warner Business Books
    Sales Rank: 941
    Average Customer Review: 4.74 out of 5 stars
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    In the bestselling tradition of Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman comes the breakthrough book that teaches women how to stop sabotaging their careers--and start getting ahead.For every professional woman who wants to get ahead--but feels she is at an impasse--NICE GIRLS DON'T GET THE CORNER OFFICE comes to the rescue. When overlooked for that special assignment or promotion, many women point the finger outwardly, looking for someone else to blame. Now, Lois P. Frankel presents a different view in her empowering career primer that helps women identify ingrained habits they learned as girls that may be holding them back, such as couching statements in a question, smiling inappropriately, tilting the head while speaking, and others. Only by overcoming these self-defeating behaviors will the "nice girl" learn to leverage her power in the workplace--and claim the corner office she so richly deserves. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mist
    This book has been all that I hoped for and more. The book, in a nutshell, basically says that to get ahead in life, in career, in everything, women need to stop acting like little girls.

    Replete with examples from Ms. Frankel's consulting clients, this book gives practical, no-holds-barred evaluations of such behaviours as feeding people at the office, working too hard, asking questions instead of making statements, and "asking permission." That last was a revelation to me.

    As Ms. Frankel points out, we are all raised in a society that says you should get proper approvals before taking a step---any step. But men learn when to ask and when to just go ahead. Men learn how to apply the rubric "It's easier to get forgiveness than to get permission." Ms. Frankel pointes out that children, not adults, ask for permission to do perfectly rational things. I had never considered how detrimental to my career the habit of asking permission had been. But I decided to give Ms. Frankel's suggestions a try. I went to my boss and said, "I cannot come in on Friday." My boss looked nonplussed. I was petrified, but proud. I had done it. I had Made A Statement instead of Seeking Approval. And he didn't demur. He said, "Okay," and we went on with the day.

    If you are feeling frustrated by the glass ceiling, if you feel stuck and can't figure out why you can't get further in your career ambitions (and if you're a female), this book is definitely worth the investment. It opened my eyes to things I did that I never even thought about, things that presented an image of an incompetent child---not a competent, composed, and capable woman. My image is now improving, and yours can too.

    4-0 out of 5 stars More Than Rosie the Riveter:
    Men are men. Women are women. Right? The matter of gender is easy enough to establish, but in Lois P. Frankel's book, "Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers" we learn there are underlying mores and premises to follow if women want to be at the top of a company. These rules are unspoken, but Frankel demystifies the process by which some women hurt their success by playing into the cultural roles prescribed to them growing up.

    Frankel presumes most women grew up in a home that oppresses women from growing up into full adults. What may have been true for 1954 is not as true today. However, her challenge is still with merit, and in 2004, it crosses the gender barrier. e men should be taking notes from Frankel. There are plenty of little boys among us who need to work as men.

    "Rosie the Riveter" ads during WWII encouraged women into the workplace, but often as factory and shipyard works. There was no "Annie the Accountant" or "Sally the CEO" campaigns. Being all you can be means being more than you were as a child. Frankel helps show how women can be more than little girls in the office place, and garner success as a result.

    It is important to note that as much as this is an important book for women who esteem to be seen as professional should read, men also should read it. Not every man has reached his potential, and some fall to the same problems, in a masculine variation, as do some women. Fear, exhibited through the lack of initiative and an overborne, unnecessary kindness, holds many people back.

    Objective, straightforwardness is much of what Frankel asserts.

    Being professional doesn't mean you need to convert into a stomping intimidator, but it does mean being firm, not wincing when rejection is forthcoming, and thinking about more than immediate relationships. It is about getting the job done well, in concert with others, but never becoming weak while doing it all. You have expertise. You have training. You have what it takes.

    Although Frankel is a professional coach, her book itself shows a coach is not needed. You need to be in control of your career, without worrying about the next person. Retain your ethics, your integrity and your aplomb, but it is your job to lead the way through your professional life. No parents, no coach, no friends are responsible for this.

    I fully recommend "Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers"
    by Lois P. Frankel. Follow it up with the classic Dale Carnegie book, "How To Win Friends And Influence People," to learn the other side of the professional relationship balance.

    Anthony Trendl

    5-0 out of 5 stars Good Book.
    This book does a fine job of exploring gender issues not just in the corporate world but also in other relevent aspects of life. It was a good read. I got a good kick out of this book and also suggest reading the book "Stumbling Naked in the Dark" to understand how men can benefit and learn from us women.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Oh Come On
    No excuses. I read this book and it has a few obvious choices for altering behaviors male or female, but I despise books like this because the premise is failure before you even begin! This book is only for you if you're think you're "behind" somehow. You're not and if you think you're not others will see that confidence. Do you think women who succeed in business begin with the premise they're NOT going to get a corner office? Are women "flawed" to begin with? No. I wholeheartedly disagree with this author. Embrace what makes people different.

    If you're not doing well in business of course you re-evaluate how you're handling your career and professional demeanor. If your career is all important to you then by all means do whatever you have to do to reach your goals, male or female.

    Here's the real white elephant in the room. Women have babies. Moms will always be torn during their reproductive years between advancement in business and raising a family and those same years are typically the most productive years for a career. You can still be yourself and have it all, just not all at the same time. Make time for children and husbands and friends. They're worth the time too. If you let your business relationiships be just business relationshihps the level of respect you have for yourself will advance you further than just no longer "apologizing too much" or no longer being "naive" whatever that means.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Nice Girl's Don't Get The Corner Office
    The single most important book I have read on gender issues. Not only are the tips and insights readily applied to the corporate world, but also apply to every aspect of life.
    Thank you so much Dr. Frankel. I can't wait to see the new results I get from using your suggestions! As the saying goes, "If you keep on acting the same old way, you will get the same old results!"
    Heartfelt Appreciation,
    Robin in Denver
    Also, I love the writing style, very to the point, no hype or glamour, just real usable meat! ... Read more

    6. The Friend Who Got Away : Twenty Women's True Life Tales of Friendships that Blew Up, Burned Out or FadedAway
    by Jenny Offill, Elissa Schappell
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    Catlog: Book (2005-05-17)
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    4-0 out of 5 stars "Do be my enemy for friendship's sake."
    I felt compelled to read "The Friend Who Got Away: Twenty Women's True Life Tales of Friendships that Blew Up, Burned Out or Faded Away" because I am a woman who once lost a best friend, and for some reason let her "get away." I have long felt a profound sense of sadness for the tremendous loss - the loss of so much closeness, the mutual trust, and the extraordinary intimacy of being able to confide almost anything in another person. In my lifetime, I have experienced the end of many relationships, some for expediency, others because paths diverged, and some, even for the best. Yet I will never forget this special women and all the wonderful conversations, thoughts and dreams we once shared - and now do not. Those who believe, in general, that romantic relationships are more intense than platonic friendships are in for a surprise. As I read the twenty essays included in this gem of a collection, some of them wonderful, others not, I was amazed at how many resonated with me and reminded me of various and diverse relationships I have had with women over the years. I was struck by the complexity of these friendships, and the variety of reasons they ended.

    One friendship broke-up over a loan. Another, because men, sex and dates took priority over women friends. Others ended because of intellectual differences, competition, ambition, and betrayal. A few stories are devastating in nature, one involves the loss of a child. Authors Heather Abel and Emily Chenoweth discuss their mutual college friendship, and its demise, in separate essays. "I've never had a friendship that was that intense," Chenoweth said in a recent interview. "It did make it volatile in the way that a love relationship can be. But the thing is, lovers have a vocabulary for talking about the relationship. I'm not sure that exists for friends." Now, at age 33, both have reconciled.

    Contributors Heather Abel, Diana Abu Jaber, Dorothy Allison, Nuar Alsadir, Kate Bernheimer, Emily Chenoweth, Jennifer Gilmore, Beverly Gologorsky, Vivian Gornick, Ann Hood, Nicole Keeter, Patricia Marx, Lydia Millet, Mary Morris, Francine Prose, Katie Roiphe, Helen Schulman, Elizabeth Strout, Emily White, share their well written, unique stories with the reader, which will inevitably evoke a multitude of feelings. Most affected me deeply.

    William Blake wrote: "Thy friendship oft has made my heart to ache; do be my enemy for friendship's sake." Appropriate here, I think.
    JANA ... Read more

    7. Reading Lolita in Tehran: A Memoir in Books
    by Azar Nafisi
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    Asin: 081297106X
    Catlog: Book (2003-12-30)
    Publisher: Random House Trade Paperbacks
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    We all have dreams—things we fantasize about doing and generally never get around to. This is the story of Azar Nafisi’s dream and of the nightmare that made it come true.

    For two years before she left Iran in 1997, Nafisi gathered seven young women at her house every Thursday morning to read and discuss forbidden works of Western literature. They were all former students whom she had taught at university. Some came from conservative and religious families, others were progressive and secular; several had spent time in jail. They were shy and uncomfortable at first, unaccustomed to being asked to speak their minds, but soon they began to open up and to speak more freely, not only about the novels they were reading but also about themselves, their dreams and disappointments. Their stories intertwined with those they were reading—Pride and Prejudice, Washington Square, Daisy Miller and Lolita—their Lolita, as they imagined her in Tehran.

    Nafisi’s account flashes back to the early days of the revolution, when she first started teaching at the University of Tehran amid the swirl of protests and demonstrations. In those frenetic days, the students took control of the university, expelled faculty members and purged the curriculum. When a radical Islamist in Nafisi’s class questioned her decision to teach The Great Gatsby, which he saw as an immoral work that preached falsehoods of “the Great Satan,” she decided to let him put Gatsby on trial and stood as the sole witness for the defense.

    Azar Nafisi’s luminous tale offers a fascinating portrait of the Iran-Iraq war viewed from Tehran and gives us a rare glimpse, from the inside, of women’s lives in revolutionary Iran. It is a work of great passion and poetic beauty, written with a startlingly original voice.
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    4-0 out of 5 stars A literary tour-de-force
    Azar Nafisi's memoir, Reading Lolita in Tehran, is the sort of book you should pick up if you want to assure yourself of how well-read you are, or perhaps to remind yourself that you are not well read at all. In the back of Ms. Nafisi's book is a list of recommended reading, some of which deals with Iran, but much of which is the fiction about which she writes in the book.

    Having only read some of the novels about which Ms. Nafisi writes, I don't think I can adequately discuss the literary criticism woven throughout the book. The story of the book club itself is often not the main focus, as Ms. Nafisi gives a crash course in Iranian revolutionary history and delves into her personal life as well as that of the women in her book club. The combination of the three is an intriguing and potent conceit; learning how everyday life in Iran affects these women is compelling and evocative. Intertwined with commentary and comparison of some of the great books of western literature makes it even more so.

    It would be had to say that one does not learn one thing, if not many things, from this book. Certainly it inspires you to read some of the books Ms. Nafisi writes about, if only to re-read the book and access a new level of understanding.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Reading Lolita in Tehran : A Memoir in Books
    Nafisi details her experiences in Iran from 1979 to 1997, when she taught English literature in Tehran universities and hosted a private seminar on Western literature for female university students. Born and raised in Iran, the author offers readers a personal account of events in the postrevolutionary period that are often generalized by other writers. She was a witness to compulsory veiling, the "cultural revolution" that closed and purged the universities, the Iraq-Iran war (including missile attacks against Tehran), and the Ayatollah Khomeini's death. Nafisi provides readers with a view of Tehran during these tumultuous two decades and describes the ways that individuals resisted and defied the new regime's restrictive policies concerning both women's and men's behavior and dress. Readers interested in Western literature and the ways that key works could be interpreted by those living in different settings and times will find this book fascinating. Specialists on Iran, the Middle East, and Islam will also find the work unique, controversial, and informative. ^BSumming Up: Recommended. Most public and academic collections and levels.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Classical Celebration
    <br /> Through turmoil, heartbreak and heartache comes the courageous and celebrated life of women. This will be one of the classics that will be handed down through the generations to come. A beautifully written and prolific book for all to read. <br /> Other reads are: Nightmares Echo by Katlyn Stewart,A Paper Life by Tatum O'Neil <br />

    5-0 out of 5 stars Excellent Style
    Excellent style of writing,a story that captures your attention and holds it. I am a fan of Non Fiction works, Particularly that of Memoirs-Autobiographies. This book is meaty and hard to put down. Other Non Fiction works that have caught my attention are- Running With Scissors,One Child and Nightmares Echo

    2-0 out of 5 stars didnt like it either
    I had a few probs with this book.

    1. Nafisi talks at length about the vices of the islamic republic of iran - which i wholly empathize with - however, she fails to give substantial background on the how the country reached this state ie. the radical secularism that plagued the country only a generation before, under the 'shah'. And while this seems like a mere detail, its very significant, as it provides a sociological context for the political ongoings Nafisi writes so much about.
    2. she seems a bit whiny to me and kind of passive....
    3. maybe its bc i havent read most of the books she mentions, but I found her running commentaries on the books a bit boring and tedious. I felt like i was reading a book report or something.
    4. the one thing i expected from this book was a heartwarming narrative of female bonding (think female"dead poets society" or "how to make an american quilt"). instead, i found the relationship nafisi conjurs somewhat empty and unsatisfying. i felt like she was trying to take me somewhere and we never got there.

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    8. Confessions of a Slacker Mom
    by Muffy Mead-Ferro
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    Asin: 0738209945
    Catlog: Book (2004-03-26)
    Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong
    Sales Rank: 5682
    Average Customer Review: 3.97 out of 5 stars
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    Parents who are fed up with the pressure to turn their children into star athletes, concert violinists, and merit scholars-all at once!-finally have an alternative: the world of Slacker Moms, where kids learn to do things for themselves and parents can cut themselves some slack; where it's perfectly all right to do less, have less, and spend less.

    Slacker moms say "No" to parenting philosophies that undermine parents'-and children's-ability to think for themselves. They say "Yes" to saving their money and time by opting out of the parenting competition. And they say "Hell, Yes!" to having a life of their own, knowing it makes them better parents.

    In this witty and insightful book, author Muffy Mead-Ferro reflects on her experience of growing up on a ranch in Wyoming, where parenting-by necessity-was more hands-off, people "made do" with what they had, and common sense and generational wisdom prevailed. We should all take her sane lead! ... Read more

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    Finally I have read a "parenting" book that does not presume to tell us all exactly how to be parents, but rather tells us that we already know most of what we need to know to raise our children, if we are thinking human beings who love our kids. Every other generation -- we're talking thousands of them -- knew how to raise its children without all the parenting experts so can't we figure SOME things out for ourselves? If we do I firmly believe that growing up will be easier on our kids (it will be easier on we parents, too, as Mead-Ferro suggests, to the horror of some readers), and that when they ARE grown up they will be better off because they'll be self-sufficient! And isn't that they key to being a successful person? I would recommend this book to any mom or anybody who is planning to become a mom. It's short and sweet and that's what we busy moms need.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Humorous, witty, and a refreshing look at parenting!
    I thoroughly enjoyed this book! I found her annecdotes thorougly entertaining, and often laughed out loud.
    It should be clearly understood that this is not a "how to" parenting book, and should never be mistaken for one. Instead, it is one woman's account of trying to navigate through the incredibly tricky maze of parenting. Fortunately for us, she she presents her take on the whole thing through a wonderful sense of humor. If you can't laugh at yourself as a parent, perhaps this isn't a book for you.
    I congratulate Muffy Mead-Ferro's courage to question some of today's "modern wisdom" about raising children and instead, listen to her gut about what's right for her children. And I commend her ability to "confess" about it!
    I agreed with her about some things in the book and disagreed about others, but that's what makes this book so fun to read. We all have our own styles of parenting and should trust our instincts enough to follow them. Although I consider myself a slightly more experienced mother (I have kids ranging in age from 15 to 4), I gleaned some wonderful nuggets of wisdom from her childhood days on a Wyoming Ranch. These were some of my favorite parts.
    I have recommended this book to many friends, and have purchased it for several gifts. It's a great read for parents of all ages.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Thank God for Slacker Moms.
    Finally!!! I am given written permission to let my kids be kids and me be an imperfect Mom and human being. I am the mother of two boys, three and six, and frankly watching them make their own mistakes, and letting them see me make mine, is what I think makes our family special. I live in a place where kids have day planners and birthday parties are budget breakers.
    Confessions of a Slacker Mom is not the typical parenting book. It is a refreshing insight into the thoughts and concerns of a mom just like me, who realizes money and "stuff" can't fix every problem or guarantee your success as a parent.
    My favorite memory of the book is "if your kid doesn't have stitches by the age of seven, you are over protective".
    If you think you can bail your kids out of every problem and prevent every scratch and scrape (why would you want to?) then this book is not for you.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Pretty funny even if you don't agree with everything
    It's an easy, quick read, although we advertising writer types always did have a knack for concise thoughts (i.e., "where's the beef?") Personally, I'm a stay at home mom, and my worst day home with my son is better than any day back at the office working for somebody else. So yeah, I was a little disappointed with Chapter 8 and the whole justification for letting strangers raise my kid. (Sorry, they can go to preschool when they're three, that's not so long to be out of the rat race.) But her observations are funny and it's true that our society does overindulge, advertisers are a parent's worst enemy and the experts don't have all the answers. And some mommies do get a little Stepford-ish...oh admit it, you do. (I've never scrapbooked either, I thought it was a noun.) The book made me realize how uptight I am so much of the time, so I might loosen up just a touch... except during PMS, then all bets are off!

    5-0 out of 5 stars It's only funny if you have a sense of humor about parenting
    Parenting has got to be the ultimate sacred cow, so I applaud Muffy Mead-Ferro for her willingness to poke fun at the extremes we parents sometimes go to, her ability to laugh at herself, and her belief in her kids, and all kids, to figure at least some things out for themselves -- even if that means a "lesser" role for the parents.

    I think the title "Slacker Mom" however is totally tongue-in-cheek because it actually takes more effort for a parent who loves their kids to back off than to smother.

    It is odd that some reviewers found it disingenuous for Mead-Ferro to caution parents about the effectiveness of marketing, since she has had a career in marketing. I felt just the opposite, that she is someone who knows what she's talking about because she's been there. She knows what lengths advertisers will go to and this is the reason she suggests that we parents should take their messages about all the stuff we're supposed to buy for our kids with a grain of salt.

    Of course there is a contingent who will never think that it's okay for a mom to have a job or a career -- a situation which will almost always necessitate some type of child care arrangement. But in our day and age that is not only unrealistic but a disservice to women, and one reason this book is a welcome relief is that it reminds us working moms that we don't need to feel guilty about it -- it's absolutely possible to be a great parent (and a great example) to your kids, even though you have a career.

    The ideas of this book are important ones, although they are presented in a humorous (and often self-deprecating) way. I hope they catch on. ... Read more

    9. How to Be Like Women of Influence : Life Lessons from 20 of the Greatest
    by Pat Williams, Michael Mink, Ruth Williams
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    Asin: 0757300545
    Catlog: Book (2003-09-01)
    Publisher: HCI
    Sales Rank: 34029
    Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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    What do Oprah Winfrey, Sandra Day O'Connor, Margaret Thatcher, Marie Curie and Sojourner Truth have in common?Not only are they some of the world's most influential women, their life lessons are now revealed in the latest book by Pat Williams.

    Williams blends the personal accounts of each influential woman with the contemporary and historical insights of others, what emerges is an intimate portrait of each great person-her motivations, her aspirations, her personal challenges and the qualities that made her so successful at her calling. An added bonus is life lessons at the end of each chapter, which provide remarkable motivation for women who are blazing a new career trail, building a strong family or struggling to "have it all".
    This exceptional book highlights a diverse group of women, from activists, businesswomen and humanitarians to athletes, explorers and scientists-it will appeal to any reader regardless of age, occupation or creative pursuits.

    Profiles of women of influence include: Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Mary Kay Ash, Helen Keller, Anne Frank, Amelia Earhart and others. This is not a history book-it is a perfect blueprint for creating a successful life.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A great read even if you know the stories already
    The book spine is cheap and separates some from the pages (without the pages falling out) - the physical quality of the book isn't among the best in the bookstore, but what's inside was surprisingly great--much better than I could have expected from the outside. Even if you know the stories of these women already, it's still great reading!, which amazed me.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Give him a PAT on the back...
    I cant say enough about this book.I, being a woman, have always thought of taking on a project of this nature.However, Pat Williams beat me to the punch.It tickles me to see an idea I often thought about in such a splendid format.Any woman who feels the need to improve on their quality of life must read this book.You can be sure to gain a new perspective on living life as a women.The content of the book provides the reader with twenty life lessons that will continue to guide you throughtout your life.A great read for any female regardless of race or wealth.In addition, any of you fellas out there who are interested in females, if you have ever wanted to learn what makes us tick, read this book.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Motivational and Inspirational
    My life was in shambles.I had no direction and I was definately no women of influece.One day I stumbled upon one of Pat Williams great pieces of literature, how to be like women of influence.It changed my life.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Motivational and Inspirational
    My life was in shambles.I had no direction or meaning for my beautiful journel through life.I was looking for something to save me and sure enough I found it in my local bookstore.What I found was the book, how to be like women of influence and now the rest is history.

    5-0 out of 5 stars How to Be Like Women of Influence
    This book has been such an inspiration to me. The in-depth way that the author describes each woman featured is incredible. After every reading session, I was more and more anxious to better myself to be like these women. They really have made a huge influence on society and I think this book will also! ... Read more

    10. The Courage to Heal - Third Edition - Revised and Expanded : A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
    by Ellen Bass, Laura Davis
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    Asin: 0060950668
    Catlog: Book (1994-06-29)
    Publisher: Perennial
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    Average Customer Review: 4.49 out of 5 stars
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    The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and encouragement to every woman who, was sexually abused as a child -- and those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible. The authors weave personal experience with professional knowledge to show the reader how she can come to terms with her past while moving powerfully into the future. They provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, a map of the healing journey, and many moving first-person examples of the recovery process drawn from their interviews with hundreds of survivors.

    Definitive in scope, The Courage to Heal speaks directly to the survivor in a warm and personal way:

    • TAKING STOCK -- outlines the effects of child sexual abuse and the ways women cope over time.
    • THE HEALING PROCESS -- explores each stage from the decision to heal and remembering through breaking silence, knowing it wasn't your fault, nurturing the inner child, and grief and anger, to resolution and moving on.
    • CHANGING PATTERNS -- offers in-depth guidance for shifting self-defeating patterns in specific areas of one's present life, including self-esteem, feelings, intimacy, sexuality, and dealing with families.
    • SUPPORTERS OF SURVIVORS -- provides insight and strategies for partners of survivors, family members, and counselors.
    • COURAGEOUS WOMEN -- profiles survivors who share the challenges and triumphs of their own healing journeys.
    • HONORING THE TRUTH -- a substantial new Afterword that refutes the "false memory" argument and presents a thorough and enlightening response to the backlash.
    • RESOURCE GUIDE -- fully updated for this edition -- informs readers about therapy, healing activities, recommended reading, support groups, self-help programs, and services and organizations.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars A wonderfully supportive and helpful book!
    This book has gone a long way in helping me to begin the long journey to coming to terms with the sexual abuse I suffered as a pre-teen. For most of my adult life, I've been reluctant to attribute any of my problems (such as depression, self hatred, unhealthy sexual relationships with men, a general disgust about myself, etc.) to being molested by my stepfather. Within the past couple of years, however, I've begun to examine my feelings about it more and more. I bought this book rather hesitantly, but ended up reading the first few chapters in tears as I read so many of my own feelings and experiences echoed by the other abuse survivors. I had thought that I was all alone and that there was something intrinsically wrong with me for feeling the way I did about myself, and it was an overwhelming relief to find others who feel the same after having similar childhood experiences. The reviews offered here referring to the "memory" issue misrepresent the focus and intent of the book. These readers seem to want to keep abuse survivors quiet to save the "sanctity" of the family. So many of us have done this for years; sacrificing of our emotional well being. They belittle the profound hurt and damage caused not only by the abuse, but by the silence as well. At the very least, this book has helped me to feel human and has given me hope that I may one day feel whole. I highly recommend this book as an invaluable resource.

    5-0 out of 5 stars More than one path exists
    I have read Courage to Heal and I found that many of the exercises were helpful in getting me in touch with my feelings. The personal accounts shared in the book helped me to feel connected to a larger group of individuals who had been sexually abused. This connection was especially critical at a time when my own shame was still so strong that I couldn't bring myself to join a group or talk about the abuse in more than vague terms. It was one step on the path and a very important step at that - the authors provide a list of resources which are also helpful. The one thing that I find off-putting is that the book seemed to stall on the issue of anger (feeling the anger related to the abuse) and didn't offer enough to guide one to a place of resolution. And, there are, afterall other sources for dealing with anger.

    5-0 out of 5 stars total agreement
    I am in total agreement with the prior reviewers. If you want healing to occur, then you must read "Courage To Heal", "Courage To Heal,The Workbook" and "Nightmares Echo". These are some of the best books I have come across for healing and understanding the pain of sexual/child abuse. I also agree with : "Beauty For Ashes",it is a spiritual look at healing.

    5-0 out of 5 stars One of the best
    Theresa, surviving the past, January 16, 2004,
    One of the best
    this is one of the best books to read regarding healing from past child abuse/sexual abuse issues. I am very thankful for the knowledge of the authors.

    I also recommended: Nightmares Echo-Katlyn Stewart,Beauty For Ashes-Joyce Meyers

    1-0 out of 5 stars Junk, Junk, Junk
    Nothing worse than junk pop-science from the touchie-feelie crowd. ... Read more

    11. She Wins, You Win: The Most Important Strategies for Making Women More Powerful
    by Gail Evans
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    Asin: 1592400590
    Catlog: Book (2004-05)
    Publisher: Gotham
    Sales Rank: 210110
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    The New York Times bestselling author of Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman tells women the ONE RULE they need to know in order to succeed in business.

    In her first book, Gail Evans showed women how to get ahead in the workplace by learning the unwritten rules of business that men "wrote" and play by. In She Wins, You Win, Gail takes her empowering approach to corporate success a step further by telling women that it isn't enough to understand the men's rules—women must create their own.In SHE WINS, YOU WIN Gail shares the secrets of:

    · The importance of being a team player—and how to set up your own winning team
    · When it's okay to break the rules
    · How to use the resources already at your disposal much more powerfully
    · Rainmaking, and why it's absolutely essential to women's success
    · When to stay quiet and when to share information
    · Why women should forget networking and start "webbing"
    · Why you have to watch our for Silent Treatment Sophie and Queen Bea
    · Why you don't have to play golf

    Whether you're a top executive or an entry-level assistant, She Wins, You Win will give you the tactics and strategies you need to attain your career goals. ... Read more

    12. The Breaking Point : How Female Midlife Crisis Is Transforming Today's Women
    by Sue Shellenbarger
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    Asin: 0805077111
    Catlog: Book (2005-04-06)
    Publisher: Henry Holt and Co.
    Sales Rank: 910
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    In the tradition of The Second Shift, a groundbreaking work that identifies and explains the phenomenon poised to redefine our culture

    When Sue Shellenbarger wrote about her midlife crises in her award-winning Wall Street Journal Work & Family column, the volume and emotional intensity of the responses from her readers was stunning. As she heard story after story of middle-aged women radically changing course in search of greater fulfillment, a trend began to emerge: an entire generation of women was experiencing the tumultuous transition of midlife in ways not seen before.

    To capture this paradigm shift, Shellenbarger combines original research data and interviews with more than fifty women who've navigated their own midlife crisis. Long stereotyped as the province of men, today the midlife crisis is reported with greater frequency by women than men. Emboldened by the financial independence to act upon midlife desires, exhausted by decades of playing supermom and repressing the feminine sides of themselves to succeed at work, women are shedding the age roles of the past in favor of new pursuits in adventure, sports, sex, romance, education, and spirituality. And in the process they are rewriting all the rules.

    Beyond defining a new phenomenon, The Breaking Point shows how various options women use to cope with the turmoil of midlife-from playing it safe to dynamiting their lives-have a profound impact on their families, careers, and our culture at large. Provocative, insightful, and resonant, The Breaking Point is sure to be one of the most controversial and talked-about publications of 2005.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars I recognize some of these people!
    For years Sue Shellenbarger has written a "Work and Family" column for the Wall Street Journal, one of the first to focus on the practical consequences of juggling careers and home. She's not a psychologist or sociologist, and doesn't pretend this is a scientific study. Rather, she tells the stories of women who reach the mid-point of their lives and find that somehow it doesn't work anymore. It's much more than menopause, the empty nest syndrome or a mid-life crisis. The author lays out six "archetypes"--representing six types of change women seek--the leader, the lover, the adventurer, etc. It made sense to me--I know far too many women who reach mid-life and abandon successful careers and start new ones, travel--with or without spouse, begin new ventures or new businesses.

    When I was 40, I attended my husband's 35th college reunion--he and his classmates were in their mid-50's. I listened in on a women's breakfast meeting, and heard thrilling stories one after the other from women who were soaring, having finally completed child-rearing and the struggles to establish careers. What was going on I wondered?--being only 40, they'd seemed old to me. Now I understand!

    2-0 out of 5 stars A Disappointment
    When I read a review of this book, I was interested and checked it out of the library. It was a quick and easy read, and, unfortunately, also a disappointment.

    In author Shellenbarger's favor, it must be said that the book is literate, well-organized and based on a reasonable methodology of data collection. It even has footnotes. It categorizes female midlife crisis into specific types, and gives defining examples of each.

    However, _The Breaking Point_ is also quite superficial, despite a few offhand references to Jungian psychology. After awhile, the collected personal stories which are used as examples start to sound like a litany of airheaded people who made bad decisions (dropped out of college to get married, married emotionally remote men, tried to mold themselves according to other people's expectations) and eventually wound up paying the price. The book also has virtually no perspectives that are not rooted in the last 50 years of human experience, which makes it difficult to take seriously.

    I am a 52-year-old woman, recently retired, and I find it impossible to identify with these people. I also find it absolutely astonishing that anyone should find the notion of continued personal growth a radical solution to any problem.

    This book may possibly be of assistance to women who are like those the author interviewed. There is at least one piece of sensible advice herein: throwing yourself into a series of sexual or romantic affairs may be dangerous to your mental health and your marriage.

    Sorry, Sue, nice concept, weak execution.

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    13. Quicksands: A Memoir
    by Sybille Bedford
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    Catlog: Book (2005-05-10)
    Publisher: Counterpoint Press
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    Beginning in 1956 with the publication of A Legacy, the highly acclaimed Sybille Bedford has narrated-in fiction and nonfiction-what has been by turns her sensuous, harrowing, altogether remarkable life. In this memoir, her first new book in over ten years, she provides the moving culmination to an epic personal story that takes readers from the Berlin of World War I, to the artists' set on the C™te d'Azur of the 1920s, through lovers, mentors, seducers, and friends, from genteel yet shabby poverty to settled comfort in London's West End. Whether evoking the simple sumptuousness of a home-cooked meal, or tracing the heartrending outline of an intimate betrayal, she offers both "a deliciously evoked return to worlds" (John Fowles), and spellbinding reflections on how history imprints itself on private lives. ... Read more

    14. Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives
    by Laura C. Schlessinger
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    Asin: 0060976497
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    Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the incredibly popular and controversial psychotherapist who hosts a nationally syndicated, top-rated midday radio talk show. She has strong convictions and doesn't hesitate to voice them to callers. She urges women emphatically to lose a domineering jerk of a lover and pick one of the "good guys," to stay home and parent the babies they've made, and to follow the dream rather than some dreamboat. Above all, she exhorts women not to blame anybody or anything but themselves if they're unhappy and their lives seem a mess.

    10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives uses real-world examples from Schlessinger's radio show and private practice to drive the message home. And the message is that our reticence to be bold and brave often makes us act like stupid, submissive victims. Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless.

    If you're looking for an all-approving hand to hold, you won't find it here. If you're prepared to take a clear-eyed look at your self-diminishing behavior and to make the move to a quality existence, there's no one better than Schlessinger to keep you honest and to cheer you on. One thing's for sure: You'll never look at your relationships, behaviors and decisions the same way after you've finished reading this book. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars skip the one star reviews
    ....I have listened to Dr. Laura's program for the last 8
    years... that's before the religious conversion she/her show
    underwent. I have read all her books, so i feel i have some basis
    from which to comment. If you are thinking about buying this book, do
    it. What is it, 10 bucks for the paperback? If the information in it
    could change your life for the better wouldnt it be worth it? If you
    think its a bunch of crap... thats fine, but really, really try to
    read it with an open mind... sometimes the truth hurts and we dont
    want to admit the image in the mirror is a reflection of ourselves. I
    had bought a bunch of these paperbacks and gave them to female friends
    i cared about... young, in their early twenties. .... Dr. Laura is
    VERY straightforward, blunt, logical, and does not mince words... many
    people get offended by this style. "Whoa, how can you tell me
    like it is? I want you to make me feel good." You want to feel
    good? Go read Chicken Soup For the Soul, but if you want some
    straightforward advice READ THIS BOOK.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Maybe Because I'm A Guy
    Dr. Laura is great, fantastic and well.... fantastic. I listen to her radio show as often as possible, but when I get to read one of her books, it is shear pleasure. This is the first of her "Ten Stupid Things..." books and I really enjoyed it, although not as much as "Ten Stupid Things Men Do..." Maybe it's because I'm a guy, and couldn't stop saying "wow, how true!" every five seconds.

    When I bought the book, my intention was to try and get some insight into how women think and where they are coming from. But I left the book gaining something better than insight into the mind of a woman. I gained the understanding that women, just like us men, have messed up, have hang-ups, and have insecurities. And we as men have to do our best to help support and empower the women in our lives to rise above (overcome) their pasts so that they can fulfill the destiny God has for them. As long as we drag our feet in the past, we can never run towards our future, and we can't continue to hang failures over our wive's/mother's/sister's/daugther's heads. Knowledge isn't worth anything until it becomes understanding... until it has substance in your life. Buy both books and do yourself a favor.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Stupid behaviors, not stupid women
    I really enjoyed reading this book after a recommendation on a messageboard after sharing my experience. I didn't know what I was feeling and experiencing till I read this book. It was like it was writing about my life! Well, suffice to say, it helped me to open my eyes. I heard about the controversy surrounding this author and I understand why. She is being very realistic and sensible about realities of life. Most of the things in the book I have an agreement about, while some others it didn't really elaborate much. It depends where you are at this point in your life. But do read it if you're at crossroads (like I). But if you're totally happy with your relationship, then maybe it's not for you.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Guys Perspective
    Call me stupid, but this book made sense. As a pastor I have come to realize that pastoral counseling is not one of my strengths. My concept of pastoral counseling is to get a 2 x 4 and smack someone on the side of the head and tells them to get a life- perhaps, that is my this book appealed to me. Dr. Lauras straightforward approach made perfect sense to me. Perhaps that is my so many woman reviews have panned this book at being cold, insensitive, or uncompassionate.

    But after twenty years of pastoral counseling, I still am dumbfounded how some women sabotage their lives. Case in point. During premarital counseling sessions, I always try to determine whether there is drug or alcohol abuse, especially in second or third marriages where children are involved. More than once, I have been told that there is no abuse where I have suspected there was only to have the woman back in my office three to six months later crying her eyes out and blowing snot into her hanky and telling me about her husbands drug or alcohol abuse. What is partially frustrating for me is that invariable these woman knew before their marriage that the problem existed, but believed that love would solve the problem.

    Ok, so I am another insensitive white male who does not understand woman. So be it. But I think that Dr. Laura is right.

    4-0 out of 5 stars For Those Who Want to Reflect on Themselves
    Dr. Laura gives it to you straight in this no nonsense book. While most people wouldn't have the guts to be this brutally honest and constructively critical, Dr. Laura goes where no one else dares to go. So many other self help books are too concerned about being politically correct and candy coating topics, that in the end you feel like you don't gain anything. But whether you like her or not, everything she says is actually true. This book will remind you of times in your life (and it's happened to all of us) when a family member or friend tells us something we don't want to hear but deep down inside we actually know is true. Dr. Laura is also a very logical person, so much of her opinions and advice is not hard to follow. I recommend this book to anybody in search of learning more about themselves and how they can improve themselves. ... Read more

    15. The Girlfriends' Guide to Toddlers
    by Vicki Iovine
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    Asin: 039952438X
    Catlog: Book (1999-02-01)
    Publisher: Perigee Books
    Sales Rank: 2494
    Average Customer Review: 4 out of 5 stars
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    Beyond child development theory and experts, beyond the"shoulds" and the "don'ts" that guilt-ridden parents constantly hear echoing in their ears, there's Vicki Iovine, America's favorite "girlfriend" and mother-in-the-trenches. In The Girlfriends' Guide to Toddlers, Iovine's third addition to her parenting panoply (The Girlfriends'Guide to Pregnancy and The Girlfriends' Guide to Surviving the First Year of Motherhood) Iovine focuses, for the first time, more on the child than on the mother. (Toddlers always get all the attention, don't they?) Iovine is wise,and not just because she's read all the current parenting literature (shehas) or heard it from her famous mythical "girlfriends." Iovine knows whatshe's talking about because she has four young children and she's beenthrough it all. In her ongoing vision of parenting, humor and a network of friends play an important role, bribery has its place, discipline is sensible and loving, and advice is grounded in the practical ratherthan the theoretical. From "Eating (or Not)" to "Discipline" to "The Comfort Zone" (Binkies, Bankies, Loveys and Thumbs) to Potty Training ("What'sthe Big Rush?") to "Sleepy Time" to "Fashion" (yes, it's an issue for toddlers), Iovine continues her mission to inform the contemporaryparent, to tell the truth, to boldly go where many child development expertshave gone before, and to keep her readers laughing while she does it. --Ericka Lutz ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Vicki taught us to laugh!
    I have loved all of Vicki Iovine's books, but the guide to toddlers is extra special to me. I purchased it when my son, my first-born, was entering his terrible twos. Being inexperienced parents, my husband and I were ready to pull our hair out over such new concepts as behavioral issues, night terrors and potty training. Vicki's book explained these issues to us in a non-clinical, non-judgemental, and overall humerous way.

    We read other parenting books by "experts" that provide facts, but Vicki is like an experienced girlfriend or sister who holds your hand, puts things in perspective for you, and tells you to lighten up and laugh a little.

    I think readers who complain about Vicki's books need to gain a sense of humor and stop looking for too much in her chapters -- Vicki constantly reminds you that she is not a physician or child psychiatrist and that you should consult the real experts should you have concerns.

    My son is now almost 4 years old, fully potty trained, well-adjusted and well-behaved (not counting his little "moments," of course!). I believe Vicki helped us immensely in making us recognize that a lot of the issues we experienced with him were normal, so we were able to treat various challenges with love, understanding, a sense of calm, and most importantly, humor.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Disappointing; is Iovine just a franchise now?
    I don't think I could have gotten through my pregnancy without my two ultimate sources, WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU ARE EXPECTING and THE GIRLFRIEND'S GUIDE TO PREGNANCY. Only Iovine really made me understand what "breaking water" might be like and prepared me for some of the ins and outs of the birthing process. So with high hopes, I grabbed a copy of THE GIRLFRIEND'S GUIDE TO TODDLERS -- and I was so disappointed. It reads like a compendium of her articles for Child magazine put together by her editor. Missing are the delicious little girlfriend details one counts on. Wouldn't you expect really good scoop from the Girlfriends on potty training? Need some really nifty tricks to convince your toddler to sleep (or at least to convince yourself that his/her insomnia isn't your fault)? Don't look for it here; it's just the basic stuff. If you need a girlfriend fix, or are just curious about Iovine's take on toddlerhood, you are better off hitting the library and looking up her articles in Child. I have not referred to the book even once since reading it. I didn't even think it was funny enough or full of enough info to give away to a friend.

    4-0 out of 5 stars So much rings true.
    I recently finished this very witty, informative "guide", I wouldn't exactly consider it a true manual that one would want to live by, this is also due to different points of view on a couple of issues. I don't believe in terrorizing, mistreating, disrespecting, or smacking around sacred little creatures that we've put on this earth, but I sort of found her disciplinarian approach to be a little too wishy-washy. Even though she does suggest stooping down to where you are at eye-level with the child and looking and sounding like you mean business (even when at times you're about to bust out laughing), that works at times, but not always, childre are much smarter than we often give them for credit for being and therefore they often take advantage of this "putting them on an equal" level. This is the part of the book where I have to agree with what she says about her father who said that he would resort to occasional spanking, not to hurt his children but to get their attention. At times this alternative seems to be the only solution for many of us parents and it's not one bit fun for us either, as a matter of fact the less used the better for us too. Unfortunately, a lot of people out there choose to classify an occasional smack on the hand or bottom as a form of child abuse. Child abuse is treating a child roughly or cruelly, something most of us could never, ever do in the first place.
    However I think Vicki Iovine hits the nail on the head on a numerous selection of subjects, and she does so with tact, straightfowardness, wit and wisdom. Okay we do gather that she is socioeconomically at a higher level than many of her readers, but so what! Who cares? I don't see many readers' problem with it. I think she's still very grounded, basically relates to all socioeconomic levels and makes her point many a time. Come on! This lady has a heck of a lot on her plate with four children, you can have a maid, butler, nanny, whatever, but the responsibility of your little ones is still YOURS. All the nourishment, hygiene, doctor/ dentist appointments, overall organization, education, direction, and preparations for big world are solely YOURS (and your spouse's of course). How does a woman raising four kids with all those concerns find time to write so many books? We can't say she doesn't have it together that's for sure!
    I recently finished this very witty, informative "guide", I wouldn't exactly consider it a true manual that one would want to live by, this is also due to different points of view on a couple of issues. I don't believe in terrorizing, mistreating, disrespecting, or smacking around sacred little creatures that we've put on this earth, but I sort of found her disciplinarian approach to be a little too wishy-washy. Even though she does suggest stooping down to where you are at eye-level with the child and looking and sounding like you mean business (even when at times you're about to bust out laughing), that works at times, but not always, childre are much smarter than we often give them for credit for being and therefore they often take advantage of this "putting them on an equal" level. This is the part of the book where I have to agree with what she says about her father who said that he would resort to occasional spanking, not to hurt his children but to get their attention. At times this alternative seems to be the only solution for many of us parents and it's not one bit fun for us either, as a matter of fact the less used the better for us too. Unfortunately a lot of people out there choose to classify an occasional swat on the hand or bottom as a form of child abuse. Child abuse is treating a child roughly or cruelly, something most of us could never, ever do.
    However I think Vicki Iovine hits the nail on the head on a numerous selection of subjects, and she does so with tact, straightfowardness, wit and wisdom. Okay we do gather that she is socioeconomically at a higher level than many of her readers, but so what! Who cares? I don't see the problem with it. I think she's still very grounded, basically relates to all socioeconomic levels and makes her point many a time. Come on this lady has a heck of a lot on her plate with four children, you can have a maid, butler, nanny, whatever, but the responsilibity of your little ones is still YOURS and all the healthcare and dentist issues, organization, education, direction, and preparations for big world are solely YOURS (and your spouse's of course).
    How does a woman raising four kids find time to write so many books? We can't say she doesn't have it together that's for sure.

    4-0 out of 5 stars A hilarious look on raising toddlers!
    As a first-time mom of twin toddler boys (they will be two in three weeks) ~~ I have literally thought I was losing my mind till I found this book. When I picked it up and read the first paragraph on when to let your toddler sleep in a "big" bed, I was hooked.

    Thank goodness for an author like Iovine ~~ she definitely knows her toddlers. And not only is she humorous about the situations we all face as parents with toddlers, she is also reassuring that we are not nuts. That all of a sudden that our sweet little infants turned into these demons running our lives. =0) She has made lots of valid points about raising children, discipline and how to deal with it. She also reassures me, as a first-time mom, that it is all normal. She points out the humor of the situations ~~ in a gentle way as if to remind us that it's not all bad.

    I am just glad that I am not the only mom out there who feels like she's the meanest and baddest mom dealing with two toddlers running ramshod all over the house/world. This is not only a helpful guide ~~ it's a reassuring guide. It's light-hearted enough to get me out of the doldrums to laugh again ~~ and it's serious enough to give me pointers that I may not have considered before.

    I am definitely buying this for my niece who is expecting her first child this fall ~~ I sure wish someone had bought all of these Girlfriend's guides for me!


    5-0 out of 5 stars A Tidy Dose of Sanity
    I'm on my 3rd or 4th reading of this book - I lost count somewhere along the way. It has saved my sanity on many occasions when I thought either my toddler must be possessed by aliens or I am surely the worst, most inept and meanest mom in the whole world. Vicki's book made me see that all toddlers and their behavior can drive you to these feelings, and best of all, that most of the problems work themselves out in their own good time. Vicki calls her approach "non-neurotic parenting" and that's something I've always strived for. Her book helps me put my experience with my daughter in perspective, and enjoy the journey with her as she grows to a self-sufficient child. ... Read more

    16. It's Not Where You Start, It's Where You Finish! : The Success Secrets of a Top Member of the Mary Kay Independent Sales Force
    by GillianHennessy-Ortega
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    Asin: 0471709743
    Catlog: Book (2005-04-22)
    Publisher: Wiley
    Sales Rank: 2782
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    PRAISE FOR It's Not Where You Start, It's Where You Finish!

    "Along her journey, [Hennessy-Ortega] has inspired, motivated, and encouraged thousands of women to believe they too can turn their dreams and goals into realities. You will love this book; it will produce incredible results in your life."
    —Rena Tarbet, Independent Senior National Sales Director Mary Kay Inc.

    "With a refreshing style all her own, Gillian Hennessy-Ortega uses her down-to-earth wit and wisdom to ignite your belief in what's possible, raise your level of expectation for your future, recognize your potential, and empower you to take a step ahead of the crowd and into a lifetime of success. A must-read for anyone committed to living their dreams!"
    —Lisa Diane, author, When You Can Walk on Water Why Take the Boat?

    "Gillian inspired me to reach for the level of excellence I had dreamt of. This book will encourage you, at all levels of your life, to reach for your highest accomplishments. You won't be able to put this book down. Inspiring!"
    —Albert Pujols, First Baseman, St. Louis Cardinals 2001 National League Rookie of the Year

    "In It's Not Where You Start, It's Where You Finish!, Gillian shares the nuggets of truth that ensure both starting and finishing with results and excellence. As someone who uniquely knows what it means to live the American Dream, she has made herself a master of life and business. Now, as master teacher, she is passing it on to you."
    —Pamela Waldrop Shaw, author, Design Your Life 90-Day Planner Independent National Sales Director, Mary Kay Inc.

    "Gillian inspires people to reach farther and stretch beyond the comfort zone and into greatness. She has practical, straightforward ideas and tools to help any organization or individual move to the next level of success. I would recommend this book to anyone who desires success in their life."
    —Guy F. Hulen, Director of Human Resources Hong Kong Shanghai Banc Corp. (HSBC) ... Read more

    17. Women Who Love Too Much
    by Robin Norwood
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    Asin: 0671733419
    Catlog: Book (1990-10-01)
    Publisher: Pocket
    Sales Rank: 5176
    Average Customer Review: 4.69 out of 5 stars
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    This is the world-renowned, inspiring, practical program for women who believe that being in love means being in pain. Based on the multi-million-copy bestseller, Women Who Love Too Much presents a clear, comprehensive, 10-point recovery plan for women who are addicted to the wrong men for the wrong reasons. Among the vital lessons you will learn in this program are:
    How the search for the love you never got from your parents can become a crushing obsession in adulthood.
    How to change from loving someone so much it hurts, to loving yourself enough to stop the pain.
    How to free yourself from destructive loving and build a healthy, meaningful relationship.
    This step-by-step self-awareness program offers help, understanding and, above all, hope -- the pathway to making love the truly happy event it is supposed to be.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars This book is a must . . .
    ... for women who can't understand how & why they keep getting stuck in relationships where they are taken for granted or abused. I was given a copy of this book in 1993 by the bank officer who helped me open my bank account when my marriage was falling apart and this book changed my life!

    It had such an impact on me that ever since, as soon as I realize that any of my female associates & friends are in these types of destructive relationships, this is the book I buy for them. I've probably bought this book 20 times in the last 7 years . . . I gave up on lending it out, and just buy my friends a copy, because I never get mine back!

    To Robin Norwood, thank you for putting into words what I needed to hear & opening my eyes 7 years ago. My life has totally changed for the better & I am now in a wonderful relationship. (Ladies, there are good ones out there! Don't settle for less!) There have been bumps along the way, but I will always have my trusty well-worn copy of the book to remind me that *I* can change this pattern forever!

    5-0 out of 5 stars THIS HAS BECOME MY BIBLE
    I come from a family of many sisters. So many have married men with whom they now struggle. One sister was brave enough to divorce her first and second husbands, then discovered this book. Now, she has an awesome, loving, truly supportive husband! She purchased two copies of this book for each one of her siblings. We are all grateful! We have all read the book at least once and many of us have so dog-eared and marked up our first copy, that we were appreciative of the foresight for the second copy we had been given. I honestly keep this next to my King James Bible and I refer to it as my "Second Bible". I have to read from it daily. I can not describe with words the power I receive from my worn-out copy. I am ready to purchase a third copy because this one is getting quite tattered as well. I pray a prayer of thanks constantly for Ms. Norwood's inspiration which has changed the direction of my life and my family's lives as well.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Do you really need this book?
    Girls, it's really quite simple. Women are attracted to the potential in men, men are attracted to what's already there in women. If we followed their formula we wouldn't end up with our hearts broken so often or so badly. Unfortunately it would also mean an awful lot of lonely single women with inadequate men who never bother try living up to their potential. The reality is women ARE a motivator for men when they do manage to get something done like pass the Bar or fix the grill. It's our unlucky lot in life as the smarter more adaptable specie I'm afraid to be stuck in this losing end of such a questionable arrangement of keeping the world turning. Also, instead of thinking of yourselves as loving too much (!!) maybe, ratio-wise, statisticaly speaking, there are just more jerks in the world who are men. It's ok to give up on the buggers for a moment and go dancing with the girls.

    5-0 out of 5 stars This book could help you change your life!
    I recommend this book to friends all the time! I first read it 3 years ago and it was a real turning point in my life. It helped me to realise where I was going wrong in relationships and how to put it right - perhaps the main one for me was learning to really love myself first. So read it! Even if you don't think its for you, there is probably going to be a gem in there for you, and certainly you will know friends to whom you want to give a copy.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Eye Opening
    This is an eye opening book. The personal stories in this book can apply to many women to one degree or another. Most women I know have fallen into a relationship at one point in time that is similar to the situtations described in this book. It offers insight into why this happens and allows females to look within themselves for the answers. Worth the read. ... Read more

    18. The Twelve Gifts of Birth
    by Charlene Costanzo
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    Asin: 0066211042
    Catlog: Book (2001-04-01)
    Publisher: HarperResource
    Sales Rank: 6992
    Average Customer Review: 4.93 out of 5 stars
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    There is no more magical moment than when a newborn baby is laid in a mother's arms. What was for many months a dream and a mystery is now a miraculous new person at the threshold of a life filled with possibilities.

    Through a tender, inspiring tale, The Twelve Gifts of Birth reveals the birthright inheritance that all children receive at this moment. Wise women, otherwise known as fairy godmothers, announce the twelve gifts in the form of blessings and show how to use them to enrich one's life.

    This keepsake book encourages new parents to nurture and protect the wondrous qualities that have been bestowed on their tiny miracles. When shared with young children, this message helps form within them a strong foundation of self-respect and values. For teens and adults, this story offers healing and hope during times of diminished self-esteem and uncertain transition. It reminds all readers to see the dignity that is inherent in themselves and others.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Great Gift - Inspirational Message
    Everytime I read this book to my children I am reminded myself of the "Royal dignity" within everyone. An important message of worth, hope and wisdom.

    I will be giving this book to everyone I know who is having a child now and in the future.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Beautiful photography illustrating our unique human gifts.
    I bought this book as a baby shower gift for a close friend, but I loved it so much I bought several more copies for other gifts and myself. The book is simply beautiful and portrays an important inspirational message to children and adults.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great book for everyone
    I bought this book as a sign-in book for my daughter's first birthday party... and everyone loved it! It has a very positive message, which is exactly what I want to express to my daughter. And now that it has messages from all her relatives, I hope she will cherish it forever.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The Twelve Gifts
    The perfect gift for a newborn, or even someone who is a little older. It's never too late to receive the very special message contained within the pages of this beautiful book!

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Precious Reminder ...
    Wow - this is such a simple, yet powerful book that allows parents to impart positive values to their children! I can't imagine my children ever outgrowing this book. ... Read more

    19. The Courage to Heal Workbook : A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
    by Laura Davis
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    Asin: 0060964375
    Catlog: Book (1990-02-28)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Sales Rank: 7146
    Average Customer Review: 4.48 out of 5 stars
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    In this groundbreaking companion to The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis offers an inspiring, in-depth workbook that speaks to all women and men healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. The combination of checklists, writing and art Projects, open-ended questions and activities expertly guides the survivor through the healing process.

    • Survival Skills -- Teaches survivors to create a safe, supportive environment, ask for help, deal with crisis periods, and choose therapy.
    • Aspects Of Healing -- Focuses on the healing process: gaining a capacity for hope, breaking silence, letting go of shame, turning anger into action, planning a confrontation, preparing for family contact, and affirming personal progress.
    • Guidelines For Healing Sexually -- Redefines the concept of "safe sex" and establishes healthy ground rules for sexual contact.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars Healing exercises for anyone with any kind of abuse issues.
    This workbook is an excellent tool for survivors of any type of abuse to use during their healing process, whether the journey to healing has just begun or the traveler has been on the road to healing for a while. I shared this book with my therapist, she said she was going to recommend it to me but I had beat her to it! This book can be worked on alone or with support groups or partners. I recommend the companion book as well, but this book can be used alone.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A must for a survivor
    This workbook and its companion reading material is a MUST. It is amazing how soon you can start to heal when you learn just how much abuse affects all aspects of your life. Completing this workbook is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but I do not regret it. I have tried other books and workbooks and not finished them because they just didn't seem to "get it" about what it was like to experience the abuse and what it does to a child. This book got it right. The authors don't preach, condem, talk down to you, or make you feel like the guilty party. I highy recommend.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Much needed
    Thank goodness for this and its companion book, THE COURAGE TO HEAL. With the problem of abuse being so rampant, you'd think that there would be more books like this on the market--more "quality" books. While there are numerous works of fiction dealing with repressed memories, abuse, multiple personality disorder, etc (think McCrae's BARK OF THE DOGWOOD or SYBIL) there is a shortage of "how to" books. This one fills that void. Thank you Laura Davis.

    5-0 out of 5 stars recommendations-
    I had read "Courage To Heal Workbook" first, Then went back and got "Courage to Heal". I was then recommended by my Doctor to go and get "Nightmares Echo" and "Beauty For Ashes".
    Each book helps in so many ways. If you are a past victim of abuse I would recommend that you start with "Courage To Heal", then "Nightmares Echo", then "Beauty For Ashes" (spiritual) and finally "The Workbook". The WorkBook Brings it all together and sums it up. Helping to strengthen and learn new techniques for your life.

    5-0 out of 5 stars 3 excellent books
    I have read Courage To Heal, The Courage To Heal Workbook (Laura Davis)and Nightmares Echo (Katlyn Stewart). I can tell you that because of these books I am now on the path to healing. I understand so much as to why I have done some of the things I did in my past. I learned I am not alone in the feelings I had. I thank the authors of these books that have made it possible to heal. ... Read more

    20. Fat Girl : A True Story
    by JudithMoore
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    Asin: 1594630097
    Catlog: Book (2005-03-03)
    Publisher: Hudson Street Press
    Sales Rank: 1127
    Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars
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    A nonfiction She's Come Undone, Fat Girl is a powerfully honest and compulsively readable memoir of obsession with food, and with one's body, penned by a Guggenheim and NEA award-winning writer.

    For any woman who has ever had a love/hate relationship with food and with how she looks; for anyone who has knowingly or unconsciously used food to try to fill the hole in his heart or soothe the craggy edges of his psyche, Fat Girl is a brilliantly rendered, angst-filled coming-of-age story of gain and loss. From the lush descriptions of food that call to mind the writings of M. F. K. Fisher at her finest, to the heartbreaking accounts of Moore's deep longing for a family and a sense of belonging and love, Fat Girl stuns and shocks, saddens and tickles.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars Most Impressive
    What is most impressive about "FAT GIRL" is that it takes strong stands. The author takes risks with confidence. As with other books in the same league of impact and merit ala "YOU REMIND ME OF ME," "THE GLASS CASTLE", "NIGHTMARES ECHO," "MY FRACTURED LIFE," or "NEVER LET ME GO," "FAT GIRL" is a book that will either amaze you or offend you. The author presents a finely crafted story it is. Judged on impact and merit, this is a story that is in the same league as "MY FRACTURED LIFE", "THE LOVELY BONES", "MIDDLESEX", and "RUNNING WITH SCISSORS."

    2-0 out of 5 stars Most pointless book of self-hate I've ever read
    Like mosquitoes drawn to lights, I couldn't stop reading this blessedly short vilification of overweight people.208 pages could hardly contain the mounds of self-hatred Judith Moore exhibits here.I have to admit she writes well.When she describes a meal, she not only seduces the reader into craving, she makes her smell and taste it. Unfortunately, the same can be said about her depictions of fat people; I kept feeling she wanted me to shower and put on deodorant several times while reading.

    I looked at the author's photo on the back flyleaf and could not figure out just why she described herself in the beginning of the book as looking so horrendous and disgusting, with rolls of abdominal fat hanging over her thighs and each bubbling buttock sluicing against the other.She looked fine to me, very normal.Moreover, she admitted to being, at most, only 40 pounds overweight, weight she continually lost and regained over the years.I have been more than 40 pounds overweight and I never looked anything like the woman she so vividly describes, nor do other people I know with even more excess poundage.Ms. Moore is evoking someone morbidly obese, someone begging for a heart attack or stroke.She described her father as repulsive at over 6 feet and more than 200 pounds.Yet, most men over 6 feet tall are at a healthy weight when near 200 pounds.Then I realized that her outrageously abusive childhood had obviously warped her perception of herself (and other overweight people).As she said "Even when I was slender, I was fat".

    But I have read Ms. Moore's earlier book, Never Eat Your Heart Out, where her autobiographical sketches are of, as another reviewer wrote, a "relatively ordinary life" with little hint of the horrendous existence she portrays and blames in Fat Girl.Yes, her parents divorced when she was very young, yes, her father disappeared from her life and her grandmother and mother were vicious shrews, her school life was friendless and full of teasing.Hey, that's the story of hordes of people who have nonetheless gone on to lead fulfilling lives free of excessive vitriol focused on a past they cannot get beyond.Ms. Moore is now in her sixties and the mother of two grown daughters.She must realize that a lousy childhood and nasty relatives should not be given permission to control her perceptions and self-worth into late adulthood. My advice to Ms. Moore - get over it.Do good deeds for others less fortunate (yes, there are people with worse lives), smile, and act like the attractive and well-adjusted person you want to be; it will quickly become self-fulfilling. Or get thee to a good therapist posthaste.

    For those who might read this book, save yourselves the agony and have something to eat instead.

    3-0 out of 5 stars motive unclear
    I'm not quite sure what to say about this book. The writer doesn't mince words or make excuses, she lays out her life, her pain, and her fat. She doesn't cut a sympathetic figure, and she isn't trying to be one. I had difficulty finding a context for the novel. Why write it? Was it for self exploration? To explain something to people she knows? To chew the fat? I couldn't figure it out, and couldn't decide if reading it was enlightening or vouyerism.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The Truth Hurts
    I read this book in one day, alternately weeping and laughing out loud.The author is so brave, honest and unsparing in her description of inner pain.Self-medicating with food does not work but it is easy to fall into. Her descriptions of food are seductive and sensual. I wanted to call her when I finished reading the book and just say I am sorry you suffered that way, you are a delightful human being, and I just want to put my arms around you.I will never judge an overweight person, myself included, again.We cannot know another's inner pain or early experiences.I thank Ms. Moore for sharing hers so brilliantly.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Story That Had To Be Told
    FAT GIRL is an abrupt and blatantly rude title. It's one that is silly in a way that is funny only to bullies. That's the point. That sense of feeling is exactly what FAT GIRL captures. It is the biography of being fat, being made fun of, being the outsider. My sister was a "fat girl" and I know first hand how she came home crying from the way she was treated. She wasn't any less intelligent than me or any less kind or less polite, yet she was treated so differently - all because of her weight. FAT GIRL is an excellent book in the same league as THE GLASS CASTLE, MY FRACTURED LIFE, SECRET LIFE OF BEES, and THE TRUE AND OUTSTANDING ADVENTURES OF THE HUNT SISTERS. ... Read more

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