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41. I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict
by Roni Cohen, Phd Sandler, Michelle Sliver
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Asin: 0140286004
Catlog: Book (2000-03-01)
Publisher: Penguin Books
Sales Rank: 9957
Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars
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1-0 out of 5 stars Great advice if your kids perfect already!
I wouldn't have bought this book if I wasn't dealing with a VERY defiant, and manipulative teenage daughter--so when this book assumes that I can just say the right thing and everything will be fine, is an absolute joke! This advice would be great if it worked as simply as the book says. But if you already have a tough kid, these tips are NOT going to suddenly make her see the logic in my rules. Kids don't care about the explaination of why it's wrong to dress trashy or wear too much makeup...they want what they want. This book assumes that your kid obeys you in the first place! The title really drew me in--I thought that I had finally found a book that understood what I am going through. But it's just another below-average parenting book with a catchy title!

5-0 out of 5 stars No, I'm not going crazy!
I thought I going was nuts, not knowing how to parent my pre-teen. At last, a book to let me know I was not going crazy by myself, that it is perfectly normal what we are going through, why I as the mom am the target and spring board for her growing up. It also gives ideas on how to rethink parenting, your responses to issues. It shows why "I" the mom am the only one, cuz I'm the closest one to her, that she is 'experimenting with life' off of. I don't feel so alone, I'm okay, and can see why I get the backwash, and the testing. I highly recommend this book to other moms and also dads too, so they can understand the battle while they watch from the sidelines.

4-0 out of 5 stars best book re teenage girls
At a time when I was ready to give up on being a mother till my teen "grew up", this book was a godsend. My feelings of desperation, confusion, loss, and wondering where I went wrong were all validated. I have already started trying techniques recommended. Even if it doesn't change my daughter, my perception has changed so that I'm better able to cope. Very readable (not a bunch of jargon) I'd recommend it to any mother of a teenage girl. The only reason I didn't give 5 stars was because there were no illustrations. Of course, as an adult I don't have to have them, but I like them. Sometimes a well-placed cartoon helps to illustrate a point. It may be the authors thought illustrations are inappropriate for their book.

4-0 out of 5 stars Good News For Mothers and Daughters
This work is an interesting and practical guide on how to maange the highs and lows of mother/daughter relationships. Cohen-Sandler and Silver not only offer valuable insights into the sensitive realtionship between mothers and teenage daughters, but they also present specific how-to's for building and maintaining a healthy relationship. This book begins by asking mothers to examine their own strengths and weaknesses in their role as parent and mentor. Next, the reader journeys through the characteristics of the teenage girl in today's society. Mothers are then given specific advice on how to handle numerous crises. The authors reassure us that conflict does not have to be a bad thing, as long as it is managed in a postive way. Although the book is very readable, the early chapters challenge the readers patience. The authors relate stories of several mothers and their daughters. However, they separate the stories in two different chapters. Although I understood their reasoning for focusing on the mothers and daughters in individual chapters, I found it tiresome to flip back and forth between the chapters to remind myself which mother was connected to which daughter. This book is a valuable read and I recommend it to both mothers and daughters who wish to remain actively engaged in one of the most influential relationships of their lives.

5-0 out of 5 stars Just what the doctor ordered to stay sane!
It's comforting to know I'm not the only mom who has tumbled off her pedestal.Intuitively I may have known my daughter's adolescence would cause bumps in the road, but I had not anticipated many of her (and my!!) insensitive reactions. The book greatly helps to keep things in perspective. ... Read more

42. A Woman's Guide to Successful Negotiating: How to Convince, Collaborate, & Create Your Way to Agreement
by Lee E. Miller, JessicaMiller
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Catlog: Book (2002-07-15)
Publisher: McGraw-Hill
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Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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All day, every day, we negotiate: with our friends, spouses, children, boss, customers, and co-workers. A Woman’s Guide to Successful Negotiating builds on women’s innate skills in professional and personal situations. Drawing upon their considerable experience, as a top corporate negotiator and as an investment banker, Lee and Jessica Miller have developed proven strategies, tactics, and techniques that tap into women's abilities to convince, collaborate and create. The authors feature innovative strategies for negotiating with aggressive men and competitive women. The authors also explore the ten common mistakes women make during negotiations and how to avoid making them. In addition, the book will teach you 3 keys to successful negotiating. Whether negotiating for a raise or where to go to dinner with your boyfriend, this book shows you how to get what you want.

What others are saying about A Woman's Guide to Successful Negotiating:

"Breakthrough perspective. Every woman can benefit from this indispensable guide to getting what you want."--Cathleen Black, President, Hearst Magazines

"No matter what the situation, this book provides you with the negotiating techniques and the overall confidence to deal with the issue."--Rose Marie Bravo, Chief Executive Officer, Burberry Ltd.

"Whether you are in the boardroom or at home with your kids, this book shows you how to get what you want and do it with style."--Lisa Hall, Chief Operating Officer, Oxygen Media

"Lots of practical advice on how to win with a woman's touch."--Jan Hopkins, Anchor, CNN Street Sweep

"A useful book for women on the art of negotiating . . . in business, in personal relationships, in every area of life."--Donna Lagani, Publishing Director, Cosmopolitan Group, publisher of Cosmoplitan magazine and CosmoGirl

"An invaluable source of wisdom for woman,young and old, who want to take their place in the world."--Christine Baranski, Emmy and Tony Award Winning Actress

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5-0 out of 5 stars Saw This On Good Morning America
Then I picked it up and read it. An amazing book. I was able to use the advise immediately and found that it helped me get what I want at work and at home with my husband and children. I don't expect to need the chapters on cars, houses or divorces but the other chapters are directly applicable to things I have to deal with every day.

5-0 out of 5 stars Taught me how to negotiate in all aspects of your life
After reading this book, I learned that everything really is negotiable, all you have to do is ask. It taught me how to approach negotiating in my daily life. Now, I can get what I want and it is fun! I didn't realize how often I was negotiating, but now I can control the deals I make. It is easy to read and very empowering. I highly recommend reading it.

5-0 out of 5 stars A great read for anyone looking to improve their negotiating
The book is a great read for any woman and can be especially helpful for those just starting out in today's business world. With a straight to point the narrative and candid anecdotes and interviews, the book offers a fresh perspective to negotiation for a woman's point of view. A great read for anyone who is trying to improve their negotiating techniques!

5-0 out of 5 stars Every Woman Really Can Benefit From This Book.
I never thought I could negotiate but after reading this book I find that I am able to get what I want, not only at work but from from my husband and from my friends as well. The techniques described in the book even work with my children. I expected to find advice about negotiating at work but I was surprised to learn how the same techniques work at home as well. Learning to negotiate truly is empowering. ... Read more

43. The Mommy Brain: How Motherhood Makes Us Smarter
by Katherine Ellison
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Catlog: Book (2005-04-13)
Publisher: Basic Books
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Average Customer Review: 2.0 out of 5 stars
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A Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist implodes the myth of the dumbed-down mom, offering startling scientific evidence that motherhood gives women unexpected mental advantages

Generations of mothers have been told-and believed-that having a baby means checking their own brains at the delivery room door.

"The Mommy Brain" usually refers to a head full of feeding times, soccer schedules, and nursery rhymes, at the expense of creative or challenging ideas. But recent scientific research paints a dramatically different and far rosier picture.

Journalist Katherine Ellison draws on cutting-edge neuroscience research to demonstrate that, contrary to long-established wisdom that having children dumbs you down, raising children may make moms smarter. From enhanced senses in pregnancy and early motherhood to the alertness and memory skills necessary to manage like a pro, to a greater aptitude for risk-taking and a talent for empathy and negotiation, these advantages not only help mothers in raising their children, but in their work and social lives as well.

Filled with lively (and often hilarious) stories of multitasking moms at home and on the job, The Mommy Brain encourages all of us to cast aside conventional thinking and discover the positive ways in which having children changes mothers' brains for the better. ... Read more

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2-0 out of 5 stars A little thin
I was disappointed with this book.In an effort to keep the book from being too scientific, Ellison waters down the material too far for my comfort.Also, there are a lot of unanswered questions in this field of research.Time after time, Ellison poses an interesting question, and then is forced to answer her own question by saying, "We don't know yet."Then she moves on to idle speculation to fill in the blanks.

Also, my copy of the book was missing pages 17-40, and had two copies of pages 41-64. ... Read more

44. The Lost Daughters of China: Abandoned Girls, Their Journey to America, and the Search for a Missing Past
by Karin Evans
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Asin: 1585421170
Catlog: Book (2001-10-01)
Publisher: Jeremy P. Tarcher
Sales Rank: 2975
Average Customer Review: 4.62 out of 5 stars
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"This book calls attention to the pressing issues of abandoned baby girls in China, the result of a combination of historical and cultural prejudices against women and the current draconian, one-child policy. The Lost Daughters of China is an evocative memoir that will not only attract parents or would-be parents of Chinese baby girls but will touch the hearts of us all."(Chicago Tribune)

Proclaimed an instant classic upon its hardcover publication, The Lost Daughters of China is at once compelling and informative. Journalist Karin Evans tells the story of adopting her daughter, Kelly, who was once one of the hundreds of thousands of infant girls who wait for parents in orphanages all over China. Weaving her personal account with extensive research, Evans investigates the conditions that have led to generations of abandoned Chinese girls and a legacy of lost women.

With a new epilogue added for the paperback edition, this book will appeal to anyone interested in China and in the emotional ties that connect people regardless of genes or culture. In the words of bestselling novelist Amy Tan, The Lost Daughters of China is "not only an evocative memoir on East-West adoption but also a bridge to East-West understanding of human rights in China."
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3-0 out of 5 stars Read Selectively
I had read an excerpt of this book in the San Francisco Examiner (describing the paper chase process and the trip to China to get her daughter) and that, coupled with Chapter 4, The One Child, Maybe More Policy, gave me a cogent picture of Chinese adoption. On the negative side, I felt that there were organizational problems with the arrangement of the chapters, and within the chapters themselves, and that the prose was sometimes meandering, moving around from one topic to another - an editing issue as much as a writing one. There were too many quotes from other books, which felt like 'padding' to me. I'm more interested in first hand experience and research. I look forward to the time when China is more open and women who have abandoned their daughters can speak for themselves about their experience.

5-0 out of 5 stars Great reading on China Adoption!!
I must admit that this is the ONE book that WILL make you cry! We have done this "amazing" journey ourselves (adopting in China) and it is the best book I have ever read, and even recommended to my entire family to understand the tedious process of our daughter's amazing adoption. I have bought three copies (one to keep for my daughter) and 2 for relatives! Amazing reading! You will read it over and over again and never get tired of it! It is a book I will treasure forever!

5-0 out of 5 stars Thank- you Karin!
Wow! Marvelously written. It is informative, thought provoking, insightful and stirring. Karin Evans has done a great service to all those who have or will adopt from China, their families and anyone interested in understanding or getting a glimpse of the situation in China that has led to these precious girls being abandoned and their hope for tomorrow.

5-0 out of 5 stars Must Read for Families Who are Adopting From China
Evans combines her personal journey that led her to adopt a girl from China with statistics and facts about why these girls are in orphanages in the first place. I disagree with many of the reviewers who say that this book is schmaltzy. It is one of those books that you just don't want to put down. We are in the midst of adopting from China and it was wonderful to read about Evan's experience. We have given this book to aunts and uncles of our soon to be daughter and everyone has been glad to have read it for they learned a lot. It dispelled a lot of myths that they had about China and adoption.

5-0 out of 5 stars Perfect for adoptive extended family
I was delightfully surpised by this book. I'm an aunt-to-be of a neice from China and have been looking for any information I can find for family members of adoptive parents. This book turned out to fit the bill perfectly. Evans beautifully interweaves her own story of her daughter's adoption with a broader, factual picture of international adoption from China. Although this is only one family's experience, it enlightened me on what my relatives will and are going through on their adoption journey. It also filled in many of the gaps in my knowledge of China's infamous "one child" policy and how this affects women and children's lives in China every day. It is chilling when Evans gives statistics on the number of China's daughters that have been lost. And yet at the same time you can not help but be filled with hope to read of the perfect matches between adoptive parents and their Chinese daughters. Evans approaches her subject with obvious thoughtfulness and care and you can't help but care right along with her. I recommend this book not only for adoptive parents but grandparents, aunts, uncles, and friends of parents adopting from China. ... Read more

45. Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry
by Katrina Kenison
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Asin: 0446525316
Catlog: Book (2000-04-01)
Publisher: Warner Books
Sales Rank: 255997
Average Customer Review: 4.75 out of 5 stars
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In an age when "keeping up with the Joneses" refers not only to material riches but also to a whirlwind of activities, author Katrina Kenison humbly asks, "Just whose standards am I living by, anyway?" Kenison, mother of two sons and former annual editor of The Best American Short Stories anthology since 1990, understands the hectic agendas, short tempers, and full-time careers today's families endure. But she has also learned to limit the chaos. The title comes from Kenison's youngest son, Jack, cuddled up with mom one quiet afternoon as she crochets mitten strings. He holds up a long piece of yarn and proclaims, "I'm knitting a mitten string for God"--a sweet phrase, but a bit misleading. Despite a sprinkling of minor religious references, the larger focus of Kenison's beautifully written first book lies in living with care and awareness. Chapters with titles like "Grace," "Healing," "Spirit," and "Breathing" offer soothing pictures of a family life that honors patience, imagination, and Sundays without plans.Kenison weaves together personal stories and wisdom from such philosophers as Thoreau and Anne Morrow Lindbergh; the graceful resulting tapestry shows how peace and simplicity can be savored in a world hell-bent on pushing people to accomplish more, own more, and do it all as quickly as possible.--Liane Thomas ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars Entertaining, inspiring, and filled with thoughtful ideas!
Katrina has written such a beautiful book. I often pick it up to read chapters over again (and the recipes are delicious!). She includes stories from her own life of things that worked and the sometimes hilarious ones when things went bad (cat peeing on the floor and she lost it in front of the children). And who among us hasn't packed our children in the car to see some children's entertainer, only to realize later that we would have had more fun snuggling up and reading to eachother at home? Because she shares her humbling parenting mishaps, it's easier to consider her advice in the stories when she seems like such a perfect parent. She offers practical and thoughtful ideas for slowing down, connecting, and really being present with our children.

This is my favorite book to give to mothers with young or school-age children. Buy an extra one -- you'll want one to loan out so you can still keep your own. Enjoy!

5-0 out of 5 stars essential reading, ASAP, for all mothers
A dear friend quietly recommended this book to me, but I feel like shouting to the rest of the world that this book has added a quality to my living that I never knew possible. I shudder to think that I may not have breathed in her wisdom and ideas until it was too late.

I have read other books that celebrate living in the moment, and I thought I was doing more of it. But Kenison's practical suggestions, woven with her raw awareness for the simple goodness availabe to us in our lives, have finally brought me to the place, where for the first time in my life, I am making conscious decisions about raising my family and nurturing myself that are allowing me to BE rather than DO.

She has helped me to resist the flow of popular culture, and listen the the voice of the mother and person I know I have always wanted to be.

Like a millenium version of Anne Morrow Lindbergh's "Gift from the Sea", Mitten Strings for God is prayer for mothers to find and live more moments of pure joy and inner fulfillment. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Thank you, Katrina Kenison, for this important book that will become as legendary to mothers as "Gift from the Sea".

5-0 out of 5 stars A MUST FOR MOMS
Mitten Strings For God: Reflections For Mothers In A Hurry by Katrina Kenison is a series of meditative thoughts. Inspirational and life-affirming, it offers reminders of what is of lasting value, such as grace, love, tranquility.

Ms. Kenison writes, "I can only bring peace to my children when I possess it myself."

The mother of two energetic young sons and former editor of The Best American Short Stories anthology, Ms. Kenison well knows the pressures under which contemporary families exist, the whirlwind activities generated when one wants only the best for children, and the frenetic treadmill involved in being a working wife/mother.

Nonetheless, the author has suggestions for discovering oases of serenity as she intersperses personal experiences with philosophical wisdom. Her writing, which is as simple and true as that of Anne Morrow Lindbergh, bears rereading and contemplation. Ms. Kenison brings a sense of reawakened pleasure to the sometimes harried family evening meal, as well as a profound joy found in the ordinary.

"Only by slowing down do we make time for one another," she writes. "Only by stopping long enough to observe our surroundings can we bring shape and meaning to our lives."

How simple. How true.

- Gail Cooke

3-0 out of 5 stars I'd give this a 3.6 rating on a scale of 1 to 5
This book has many beautiful components to it. The author shares hard-won lessons from her own life as a mother, wife, and an editor in a series of thoughtful essays. Certain insights-if you have peace in your home then you carry it into the world-will stay with me.
However, I also had trouble with this book. There seems to be little consideration for other ways, other paths to balancing or living a life. Some women have to work for economic reasons. Some women don't have the luxury of being able to maintain a relatively prestigious career from home. Some women want to work.
In addition, while certain solutions to a more peaceful, more balanced life may work for the author-no television, unstructured time for children during the summer, fewer lessons-they may not work for everyone. Without being too politically incorrect, television offers a lot of interesting and educational fare if you know where to look. Some children cherish their memories of summer camp. Some kids want all those lessons.
Finally, the author clearly has certain economic priviliges not shared by all. In addition, what about the mother of children with disabilities? I would hesitate giving this book to my friends with autistic or physically challenged children. They could never live this life due to the demands on their time.
While I admire the author for having the guts to formulate and propound a philosophy for family life, I also must say that I found her and her book a bit smug and self-satisfied with little thought for alternative ways to live.

5-0 out of 5 stars Not in too much of a hurry to read this!
Katrina Kenison can make magic. This short and easy series of thoughts on mothering was able to go down all the better for it's brevity (the boy's napping - let's take 5 and read a couple of pages!). It's brevity causes it to lose nothing for gravity and richness - it only serves to make her thoughts more precise, more clear. I've enjoyed adding things to our own life (like the brownie who lives in the kitchen) and will happily look for more of her work. ... Read more

46. When All the World Was Young : A Memoir
by Barbara Holland
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The author deemed "a national treasure" by the Philadelphia Inquirer finally tells her own story, with this sharp and atmospheric memoir of a postwar American childhood.

Barbara Holland finally brings her wit and wisdom to the one subject her fans have been clamoring for for years: herself. When All the World Was Young is Holland's memoir of growing up in Washington, D.C. during the 1940s and 50s, and is a deliciously subversive, sensitive journey into her past. Mixing politics (World War II, Senator McCarthy) with personal meditations on fatherhood, mothers and their duties, and "the long dark night of junior high school," Holland gives readers a unique and sharp-eyed look at history as well as hard-earned insight into her own life. A shy, awkward girl with an overbearing stepfather and a bookworm mother, Holland surprises everyone by growing up into the confident, brainy, successful writer she is today. Tough, funny, and nostalgic yet unsentimental, When All the World Was Young is a true pleasure to read.
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5-0 out of 5 stars Absolutely Delightful
An absolutely delightful book that brings back so many memories. I've often wondered how any of us survived child hood. I had about as much trouble with school as she did, as she called it "The Long, Dark Night of Junior High School." We didn't have a junior high school, but I certainly thought high school was a bitch.

I was struck by her story of wanting to ride on the back seat of a bus. She was in the South at the time, and this forced the African American women to stand. But she didn't know. There weren't any signs, just 'everyone' knew.Where I lived there were signs. I remember riding on a bus with our "negro" (the word at the time) baby sitter. She sat behind the sign, my brother sat just in front of her, with the sign in the middle. My brother and I played with the sign until the ultimate authority in the world, the bus driver came back and said, "leave the sign alone kid." We sat perfectly still for the rest of the trip.

This book is not a typical autobiography. It's a series of little stories from a time when the world was different. It wasn't as easy a world as one would have liked, but she made it through.

My life was much the same, I wish I could write like she does.

5-0 out of 5 stars Memoir of the times as well as the person
A misfit, bookish, lonely child beset by terrors and bewilderment, Barbara Holland grew up to look back on her pre-mid-century childhood with wicked hilarity and affectionate humor, but not a shred of sentimentality. Growing up in the Washington DC suburbs during World War II, graduating high school in 1950, Holland, author of 14 non-fiction books, reanimates a bygone world when "the Father's chair" was sacrosanct and mothers never sat at all but fussed endlessly over their families. Except for her mother, who belonged in a category all her own: "Mothers and my mother."

Holland's mother is brilliant, attractive, talented, and about as unmaternal as a mother of five can be. A skilled carpenter and artist who believes her place is in the milieu she's least suited to - the home- she emerges as a complex, sympathetic character with dozens of quirks (not all of them endearing), who shuns housekeeping for murder mysteries.

Holland's stepfather, on the other hand, receives no such complex attention. He's a monster with only two dimensions, cold and brutal, and at long last Holland has her revenge on him. She calls him " `Carl,' since that wasn't his name." "Just thinking his name brings him back too vividly and I can even remember his smell, not noxious but sharp and distinct like a whiff of danger in the forest." Her real father was lost to divorce early on and nobody explained things to children in those days. Lucky for her, her grandmother anchored her childhood, a constant, if undemonstrative presence, with whom she spent most of her weekends.

Holland, writing as an adult, with an adult's horror and sympathy, appears comfortable with the elasticity and vagaries of memory. She conveys the immediacy of the child's world - the acuteness of perception, vulnerabilities and emotion - and accepts the large blurry patches from which islands of vividness emerge, inking the spaces with evocations of the daily round. Her chapter headings evoke the past with Dickensian humor, beginning with: "In Which the Chairs & Domestic Habits of Fathers Are Explored, & Nick Is Born."

She was five when Nick, her younger brother, appeared. "I was horrified....He howled when Carl was trying to read his paper; he howled at night when Carl needed his sleep. He fouled his diapers and made outrageous demands on Mother's time and attention, even during dinner. He was totally ignorant of the danger he was in; how could he know? He just got here." It was her job to save them both from being cast out of the house into the street. "Apparently Mother didn't understand the danger either. She had, as I said, a great capacity for refusing to notice."

School was the bane of Holland's existence, second only to Carl: "School & I Struggle with Each Other, Plus Hard Times with the Old Testament." The social maneuvering baffled her, numbers were a threatening mystery, each day was a looming dread. Reading, however, was a miracle, and she read voraciously, "shucking the self gladly like a shirt full of fleas."

In elementary school she was called on to read the Bible to her class each morning. A methodical child, unfamiliar with the Bible, she prepared herself by starting at the beginning. The "sheer meanness of God" shocked her. She cried hardest at the fate of Lot's wife: "Struck down for a moment's homesickness." "I wanted no more of God. He was Carl on a cosmic scale. When He put His foot down, everyone died."

Then came war, a time of change. A girl from California came to class wearing Bermuda shorts, a Northern family descended with a white housekeeper, Republicans moved into the neighborhood. Food deteriorated but children, just as they had before the war, "ate what was put in front of them, without comment, and barely noticed." Mother went to work. "Fathers, by definition, came home from the day's work exhausted and surly. Mother came home sparkling all over as if from a light fall of snow."

In school there were air raid drills and in Florida, where she spent summers, German submarines prowled the waters, sinking oil tankers, and fighter planes practiced offshore. "In Washington the war, though great fun, was largely imaginary; on Florida's east coast it was actually happening."

After the war there was Joe McCarthy and the House Un-American Activities Committee, which put the fear of State into many of their friends and neighbors, though not Holland's socialist grandmother, who resigned from teaching rather than sign the loyalty oath. There was also polio and the nuclear threat, which progressed from backyard shelters to evacuation to the end of life on earth.

"The Long Dark Night of Junior High School," ended with the blossoming of a wonderful, intense friendship, her first with a soul mate, and high school brought a succession of bad-boy boyfriends, then after graduation she fell into a stultifying depression. But Holland leaves us on a high note, "In Which I Am Saved Again & Live Happily Ever After:" saved by a job - nothing special about it, except the independence of a paycheck, no small thing, then or now.

Holland draws us into a time when big families were the norm, mothers stayed home and had black household help, children roamed at will, and people ate creamed chicken and pineapple upside down cake. In school history was male, girls weren't expected to do math or allowed to take shop and Latin was still offered. Funny, poignant, even savage, Holland's memoir will inspire you to seek out her other books, which cover a wide range of subjects from the irreverent presidential short takes of "Hail to the Chiefs," to "They Went Whistling," a wry and lively account of history's forgotten females, and "Gentleman's Blood," a sharp-witted history of dueling.

4-0 out of 5 stars A Wonderful Cultural Reflection
My sister Sally H. S. says, "Had Barbara Holland stayed at BCC high school, instead of leaving as a sophomore because she flunked gym, we would have been in the same home room. . . she writes about sledding down Meadow Lane, and she went to Rosemary School.She does a great job of capturing the atmosphere of suburban Washington in WWII."

5-0 out of 5 stars Couldn't put it down!
What a terrific read! Here is a girl who slayed many a dragon, surviving to become a brave, funny and rocky-smart lady who writes like a dream. The fascinating personalities who people Barbara Holland's world are portrayed with precision and compassion. A noble work, highly recommended. ... Read more

47. Women Don't Ask : Negotiation and the Gender Divide
by Linda Babcock, Sara Laschever
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Men ask for what they want twice as often as women do and initiate negotiation four times more, report economist Linda Babcock and writer Sara Laschever in the footnoted but engaging Women Don't Ask. With vivid research examples drawn from cradle, classroom and playground, the authors detail culture as the culprit in discouraging women from negotiating on their own behalf.

Men, socialized in a "scrappier paradigm," learn to pursue and energize their goals at work and home. The two key elements are control and recognizing opportunity. For example, girls, rewarded for hard work, learn to see control as outside of themselves while boys are urged to take charge. Boys are schooled to recognize opportunity and girls to choose safe targets.

Several chapters are focused on prescription; how women can decrease anxiety, anticipate roadblocks, plan counter-moves and resist conceding too much or too soon. The authors shine in their examination of culture and gender--and their optimism about how women can counter the culture. They falter whenever they adopt the "sexes-from-a-different-planet" fallacy. Most notably, in a chapter that details a "female approach" to negotiating. Overall, the authors have created a smart summary of research and used it to affirm every woman's urgent right to ask. --Barbara Mackoff ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars Highly Recommended!
The debate on gender equity often emphasizes that women earn less than men with similar experience. Authors Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever say that while women may indeed be the victims of external forces, they also to some extent may suffer from their own inability, unwillingness or aversion to negotiate or make demands. In fact, men negotiate four times as frequently as women, and get better results. Men are much more apt to make demands and ask for benefits, pay increases and so forth. Men make more money not necessarily because the system is overtly discriminatory - though it well may be - but because men demand more. The book tends to belabor its point, and sometimes the evidence does not seem as well-presented as it might have been, but We found that it sheds useful light on a knotty social problem. Perhaps it will spur more women to fight - or to continue to fight - on their own behalf.

5-0 out of 5 stars Powerful!!
I read this book in almost one sitting. It has compelling factual data and riveting anecdotes. But, unlike Backlash, by Susan Faludi, which was almost totally negative, the authors also look at women's strengths in negotiation, and give some ideas for how to put their ideas into action.

It's not a how-to-negotiate book; I've spent the last 23 years practicing corporate law, negotiating sophisticated legal transactions and running an in-house department. This book goes beyond "how to" into "why". Essential reading for any woman!

5-0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended
This book is incredibly well-researched and thoughtfully laid out. It builds its case beautifully with interesting examples, then backs it up with empirical research. And credit to the authors' writing styles, for they do not point fingers or whine about the way things are. And they never fall into a dry style of writing. The book flows nicely, and is easy to read.
Most importantly, they shine a light on issues women have in asking for what they deserve and by laying out their case in such a well-articulated fashion, they help provide answers that we can all act upon and move forward with.
The issues that the book explores impact women across all facets of their life -- from negotiating child care responsibilites to getting the recognition and compensation they deserve on the job. As a co-author of the business book "The Old Girls' Network", I see these issues in evidence in how women buiness owners also negotiate -- for contracts, for customers, in how they price their products and reticence about charging appropriately. So, I would say this book has broad appeal to stay at home moms, women in corporate life and for the large contingent of female entrepreneurs. It is a must-have addition to all of our reading lists, and one that should bring positive results.

5-0 out of 5 stars Women have come a long way but...
In recent comments about a novel featuring a women who was number 1 in her class--ahead of 262 men--former U.C. Berkeley, Boalt Hall Law School Dean Herma Hill Kay said: "Women in the law have come a long way since the l960s, making up 60 percent of this year's freshman class of Boalt, but, as in Poswall's book [THE LAWYERS: Class of '69], women are still treated differently in the classroom and in the courtroom." How can it be that even as a majority, women are not accorded the status this would imply?

Babcock and Laschever explain why. It is not enough to outnumber men; it is to value one's own worth. And, I might add, as a trial lawyer, I am often confronted with the fear of leaving a women on a jury to judge another women. As this book demonstrates, women can do it to other women as much as they do it to themselves.

Courageous women, like the real Herma Hill Kay, first women dean of Boalt Hall Law School, as well as the fictional character, Rose Contreras, in the above novel, have led the way, against hostility and prejudice in the 60s. Now, as Babcock and Laschever show, it is up to women in this generation to go the extra step to full equality, first in how they see themselves, and then in the workplace and in their personal lives. It should be comforting to realize that, finally, women are close to having control over their own lives. This book shows how.

5-0 out of 5 stars A must read...
This book will help you see areas in your life where you can achieve more. There are truly differences between the workplace style of a man and a woman. Women need to learn to be more assertive and ask for the things they want.

I have purchased copies of this book for co-workers and my administative assistant. This should be required reading for every female in college.

Well written, well researched, and very useful. Worth every penny. ... Read more

48. Motherless Daughters : The Legacy of Loss
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In the tradition of Passagesand My Mother, My Self, thisunique, personal, and ground-breaking NewYork Times best-seller -- the first ofits kind -- explores the profound pain of motherloss among women and is available here for thefirst time in paperback. "When my mother died,I knew no woman my age who had experienced motherloss. I felt utterly and irrevocably alone. Incollege, where new friends knew only as much aboutme as I was willing to reveal, I told few peoplemy mother had died. I searched the universitylibrary and local bookstoresfor writings aboutmother loss. In each book I found aboutmother-daughter relationships, I quickly flipped ahead to thechapter about a mother's death, but discoveredthey all assumed the reader would be in her fortiesor fifties when her mother dies. I was eighteen."--excerpt from MotherlessDaughters.

Not only for motherlessdaughters, but for all women who want to betterunderstand the mother/daughter relationship, thisbeautifully written work inspired an AnnaQuindlen column; appeared in the New York Times, Ingram,Barnes & Noble, and San Francisco best-sellerlists; and received an extraordinary amount ofmedia attention including a feature on The TodayShow. Hope Edelman lost her mother to breast cancerwhen she was eighteen. Unable to find a book tohelp her understand and cope with that loss, shedecided to write her own. She posted noticesasking motherless women to share their experienceswith her, and was unprepared for both the number ofresponses she received, and for their emotionalintensity. Eventually meeting with 92 women andsurveying 154 by mail, Hope was able to compare howmother loss affects daughters differentlydepending on their ages, their relationships to theirmothers, their father's attitude, and the supportor dependency of siblings. But more importantHope's book explores what these women share -- a voidin their lives they cannot seem to fill. Theircommon experiences and insights will helpmotherless daughters, and those who care about them, cometo better understand how this painful loss shapeslives forever. ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars A Vital Read for Every Motherless Daughter
I read this book during the most raw period of my grieving - two weeks after my mother passed away from a rapid three month battle with cancer in June of 2001. At a time when I felt so alone and misunderstood, I could hear Ms. Edelman's words, as well as those of the women about which she writes, speak to me. Every time I opened the book, I felt as if I were entering a support group comprised of this sorority of women who "just know." This book has helped me tremendously to understand my behavior relative to my loss, gain insight to various forms in which the loss will present itself in the future and understand the inevitable change in family dynamics. It has also taught me how to help others cope with the same loss. This last point is particularly useful to me in that it provides guidance as to how I should expect my 13 year old sister to react and how I can help ensure that she continues to grow up feeling loved, secure and well-cared for. Hope, thank you for writing such an important book.

5-0 out of 5 stars An orphan's homecoming
From the moment I read the first few pages, I knew I had hit upon the most familiar, yet previously unwritten, words I had read to date. In a world where only 5 percent of children lose a parent while they are young, I had felt completely, utterly alone. No one I knew could understand my pain; I learned early not to burden anyone with it. The book takes the reader inside the mind and heart of an author who lost her mother at a crucial time (what time isn't?). When another has experienced the same loss, it is as though the words she reads are her own. Slowly, tenderly, she unravels the stories of other women who were orphaned (not meaning 'without parents' but technically defined as 'motherless') at a young age and gives them life. She beautifully and bravely takes the reader through her worst fears - having children, attaching to another person, dying at the same age as her mother. Hope Edelman, through a series of stories about women like me, has written my story. It is a book that healed a part of me previously untouched, and allowed me to finally take my place as a woman who would survive the most profound loss any child could experience.

2-0 out of 5 stars Has some problems.
I read this book several years ago, and while I appreciated that the author had addressed the issue of the loss of mothers, I had some significant issues with the book. First, I thought she incorrectly conflated losing one's mother to death with losing one's mother to other reasons (death, illness, estrangement, etc.). I cannot be convinced that any of those other reasons could compare to having your mother die. Further, if memory serves, the author did not seem to make much distinction between losing one's mother as a child and losing one's mother as an adult. As a woman whose mother died days after my sixth birthday, I found it insulting to suggest that it is just as hard to lose your mother at, say, 30. While I know losing a parent as an adult is an extremely difficult transition (my dad died when I was 31), it is perposterous to claim it has anything like the effect of losing a parent at a young age. I was most annoyed that the author's claim that the death of a mother is harder on girls than boys. My brother was 9 when our mother died, & I know that her death was as difficult for him as it was for me. Finally, I thought there were way too many anecdotes from the author's own experience. It seemed more of an exercise in her own grief than a nuanced analysis of bereavement. That in itself would be valuable, but it should have been labled as a memoir rather than anything else.

5-0 out of 5 stars Motherless Daughters: The Daughter of a Bi-Polar Mom
I read this book some years back per the suggestion of a therapist. At the time my mother was still alive yet for so long it was as though she were not. Hope's book not only includes information on the emotions of someone who has to deal with the death of a mother but for people who have lost their mother's due to Mental Illness. My mother was BiPolar and was never medicated. She was never able to function in the role of a mother and the one that I had so longed for. As a matter of fact, I felt like I was the mother always providing that emotional support to her. The book was an eye opener and helped me to understand more as to who I react in this world. I identified espeically with feeling out of place around other women who partake in small talk. It is my intention to pick up the book again and read it since my mother has now passed from this world. For me.....her death was the finality of not having that mother and knowing that I never would. The book helped me to realized that my feelings and emotions were appropriate, that I was not alone and that there was a reason for some of my behaviors. I will say that at the time I read it that it was a very difficult and painful book for me to read. However, it was most definitely beneficial.

5-0 out of 5 stars Enlightening
I read this book 20 years after my mother died. At last here was a book that explained some of my feelings and actions over the past 20 years. It is very easy to read and easy to just read a small part at a time. ... Read more

49. Princess: A True Story of Life Behind the Veil in Saudi Arabia
by Jean Sasson
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PRINCES: A TRUE STORY OF LIFE BEHIND THE VEIL IN SAUDI ARABIA describes the life of Princess Sultana Al Sa'ud, a princess in the royal house of Saudi Arabia. Hidden behind her black veil, she is a prisoner, jailed by her father, her husband, and her country.

Sultana tells of appalling oppressions, everyday occurrences that in any other culture would be seen as shocking human rights violations: thirteen-year-old girls forced to marry men five times their age, young women killed by drowning, stoning, or isolation in the "women's room."

PRINCESS is a testimony to a woman of indomitable spirit and courage, and you will never forget her or her Muslim sisters. ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars UNBELIEVABLE YET TRUE!
Having lived in Saudi Arabia for five years, I applaud Ms. Sasson for having written about the position of women in that society. In my work, I had contact with Saudis - both men and women - together and separately. There are few western women there and even fewer that have contact with Saudi women and families. This is the only explanation I can give for the reviewers that claim to 'know better'. I can even understand some Saudi women denying the truth of this story to avoid being ashamed of their culture. In Saudi Arabia women have very little freedom and are often abused. Princess is well written and very enlightening for Westerners. I have recommended the book to friends, who always express disbelief. This book is sad, scary, and unbelievable. But it surely is the true story of one woman's life and should be read by one and all. The world needs to know!

Islam has nothing to do with the Saudi's treatment of women. This is cultural, not religious, practice. The story of Sultana's children continue to bring the horror of this system into focus for the rest of the world. I hope there will be more! Bravo, Ms. Sasson!

5-0 out of 5 stars Fascinating and unforgettable!
I enjoyed this book from beginning to end. Anytime I had a moment to read, I reached for this book and was absorbed by the story. I'm ready to read more books by Princess Sultana.

This is a fascinating first-hand look at what women have to go through and live under in countries where life is ruled by men. There isn't any way out of that life except by following or being forced to follow the cruel or oppressive conditions.

This book follows the princess from her girlhood to an arranged marriage and its consequences.

Highly recommended to anyone who is interested in women's rights, their lives and dark secrets in different countries.

5-0 out of 5 stars Not a Fairy Tale!
This book should be "required reading" for all women who enjoy freedom! It is an eye-opener about our sisters in the Arab world!

5-0 out of 5 stars A peak into a Culture Unlike Anything you Have Ever Known
Amazing, absolutely amazing! The details, the shock, the beautiful culture, the ugly traditions. You will get lost in this story of a Saudi Princess. I have read this book many times over. A must read for anything even remotely interested in Middle Eastern culture.

5-0 out of 5 stars One of my favorites!
This is one of the first novels i read. And it totally got me involved in the story. Being based on true events gave me another excuse to keep reading it. I finished it in one day. Highly recommended. ... Read more

50. Couldn't Keep It to Myself: Testimonies from Our Imprisoned Sisters
by Wally Lamb, Carolyn Adams Goodwin
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In a stunning work of insight and hope, New York Times bestselling author Wally Lamb once again reveals his unmatched talent for finding humanity in the lost and lonely and celebrates the transforming power of the written word.

For several years, Lamb has taught writing to a group of women prisoners at York Correctional Institution in Connecticut. In this unforgettable collection, the women of York describe in their own words how they were imprisoned by abuse, rejection, and their own self-destructive impulses long before they entered the criminal justice system. Yet these are powerful stories of hope and healing, told by writers who have left victimhood behind.

In his moving introduction, Lamb describes the incredible journey of expression and self-awareness the women took through their writing and shares how they challenged him as a teacher and as a fellow author. Couldn't Keep It to Myself is a true testament to the process of finding oneself and working toward a better day.

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5-0 out of 5 stars close to home-literally
I live about fifteen minutes from York and work at a halfway house for drug addicted women trying to get their lives back on track and many of our clients come from this prison...point being I obviously could not wait to read this book. I was not disappointed-it is uplifting and heartwrenching- it teaches compassion and shows these are women are HUMAN BEINGS not just criminals. I am glad Mr. Lamb started this writing program at the prison and that despite the efforts of some to shut it down it continues to thrive. For those who didn't like the book I can only say that you must have a very closed heart to not find any connection with any of these women...should we feel sorry for them, forgive their crimes? No-but should we be able to show some some compassion for those that may have had less than "wonderful" lives? Yes! Not everyone can have as horrible a life as some of these women and then simply pull themselves up by there bootstraps and live a "normal", happy, problem free life! Another reviewer said that it was like reading essays written by kids in grade school or some such must remember when reading this book most-although certainly not all-of the women who were contributers did not complete school and have not had much in the way of formal education-compassion for others is a beautiful quality-may this book help us all to cultivate that trait a bit more in our daily existence.

5-0 out of 5 stars Captivating from the very first page!
Wally Lamb is an amazing writer. I purchased this book with a gut feeling that it would be special, and I wasn't disappointed. The individual stories of the women were touching, well written, and at the risk of sounding corny, truly inspirational. It was enlightening, educational and made me a believer in what Bonnie Foreshaw says several times throughout her story, "We are human beings first, inmates second". A highly recommended read for anyone, and if you are a fan of Wally Lamb, it will do nothing more than reinforce and further your love of his work.

3-0 out of 5 stars Ok read
I had to read the book for class and I thought that is was good but I wouldnt read it for anything other than class.

4-0 out of 5 stars Interesting but..
The book held my attention for the most part and I had it finished in 2 days. I have mixed emotions, however. My curiosity about the reality of prison life is what made me buy this book. This book portrayed prison life as a lot LESS harsh than I had imagined. In this book the prison seemed like a social club for wayward women. Being in prison seemed to actually improve the lives of some of them who had been used to harsh street life, abuse and a daily battle with society but now have three warm meals a day, shelter, clothing, social time, schooling and no responsibilities.

Nothing surprised me concerning the lives of these women. What happened to them was pretty typical in stories you hear of women in the system..child abuse both sexually and physically, neglect, lack of security, no financial stability, etc, etc. I found some of the stories to be monotonous because of this and got tired of how nearly every story went from their childhood to adulthood, childhood to adulthood..back and forth, back and forth..each one so similar. The my opinion...were very predictable and it doesn't help that you don't know why, specifically, some of these woman are in prison. You hear what drove them there socially and psychologically, but not the exact crime they committed..understandably hidden in some cases because of laws that have to be kept concerning writing about crimes, but these type of stories needed more of that information so you weren't left hanging. It doesn't tie together and are suddenly jerked to a stop at the end of each story wondering what on earth this person had done to land in jail. A brief excerpt at the end of each woman's story stated matter-of-factly why they were there but the story itself doesn't lead up to each don't understand what's going on. I kept reading partly because I thought it would pick up my interest the further I delved but that didn't happen. Sure, it has a few touching stories but I wasn't that impressed as a whole.

One thing that really bothered me is how nearly every woman was sexually abused as a child but it was almost spoken of lightly..the abuser wasn't turned in...nothing was done..almost like it's an accepted fact and a part of life. I found it deplorable that it was spoken of so generally and almost in an acceptable manner. All in all to sum it up in one sentence: it was a background on a bunch of women who had hard lives, like millions of us, but they went over the edge.

1-0 out of 5 stars Couldn't Keep It To Myself
Love Wally lamb...Hated this book! The intro was good (because it was written by Lamb) but the rest of the book read like a junior high school writting class project. I know Lamb wanted to dispel any rumors that prison is a fun place to spend a relaxing 10-12 but I believe he accomplished that in the intro without dragging us through chapter after chapter of abuse. (ours and theirs)

Sorry, I wouldn't recommend this to anyone. ... Read more

51. When God Was a Woman (Harvest/Hbj Book)
by Merlin Stone
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4-0 out of 5 stars All About Eve......
WHEN GOD WAS A WOMAN by Merlin Stone explores the controversy surrounding Eve by examining the links between the Old Testament text and archeological and linguistics research conducted in the 20th century. Although you may not agree with Stone's premise, interpretation of the Old Testament text, or conclusions, if you are one of Eve's daughters you owe it to yourself to learn more about her and how she may have been maligned by the ancient Levite priests when they constructed text such as Genesis, Deuteronomy, and other Old Testament books.

Stone's work has been referenced by feminist writers Margaret Starbird, Sue Monk Kidd, and Lynn Picknett, and her chapter "Unraveling the Myth of Adam and Eve" presents a compelling argument and an interesting perspective, especially when contrasted with Elaine Pagels' ADAM AND EVE AND THE SERPENT, and Joseph Campbell's mythology works.

I enjoyed this book very much. As one who studied the Bible many years and found the murder and mayhem in the Old Testament quite disturbing, I was intrigued by Stone's insights which caused me to reflect on the folks the Hebrews fought. Perhaps they were not nearly so wicked as we were taught to believe ages ago. On top of that, the criticism of women in the Old Testament may be totally unjustified as it was directed towards non-Hebrew women who were forced marry the male Hebrew victors after they had killed their kinsman. In other words, when the walls of Jericho fell, who died?

This book is so stunning, I am amazed that Stone had the courage to write it, let alone that a publishing house published it. If nothing else thia book is an example of having the intellectual courage to address a verboten subject that could lead to a Christian fatwah if Christians did such things. Think of Merlin Stone as Christianity's answer to Salmon Rushdie. Only this is not a work of fiction, however speculative it may be.

The only complaint I have concerns the sourcing of statements. As it happen, I know a bit about the Bible so I could follow Stone's arguments. Unfortunately, she offers direct quotes in some cases, but does not in others. One unfamiliar with the Old Testament might find Stone's book challenging.

5-0 out of 5 stars There was history before the Bible?
In light of the recent decision by the board of education in Kansas, I now know that we truly live in a society of ignorance. The historical evidence presented in this book is well-researched and I don't feel as though any is taken out of context. I can see why Christians and Jews would take offense to this book because it threatens their supposed one true god. Stone goes point by point taking apart the origin of their religion through the destruction of what had existed as a belief system for eons. Could something had existed before Adam & Eve? Perish the thought! I feel closer to the Goddess now and how things used to be thousands of years ago than I ever did in 10 years of Luthern Sunday School and confirmation class. As for the state of Kansas, I pity the students for they will make ignorant adults when evolution ceases to be taught. Its just another example of "accidental or intentional censorship" of ideas outside of Christian thought. I am truly disgusted with those who are in positions of power nowadays. It is so reminiscent of those long ago patriarchal invaders who propagate their own opinions by making people think its how "its always been."

5-0 out of 5 stars God: The Mother
Modern Christianity, Judaism and even Islam, have long regarded God as a man. In the wake of the Women's Liberation Movement, new waves of thought on the subject have come forward. It's not fair to blame feminists for delibarately revising and rewriting the Bible to appeal to liberated women of today's 21st century Western world The truth of the matter is that for centuries men have taken advantage of the fact that only men wrote the Bible and attributed maleness to God. The Bible on the whole is gender-biased and sexist. Women in the Bible are either submissive and obedient (like Sarah, Abraham's wife who called him "My Lord") or virtuous women like Mary, Jesus' mother or the wanton, decadent and "evil" women like Jezebel, Delilah or Eve, who by empowering themselves met with a dire fate. There is never much to say about "The Bride" who is in fact Mary Magdalene, who is re-cast as a prostitute in the New Testament. But Mary Magdalene, who was either Jesus' wife or a very special female Apostle, wrote her own Gospel which never made it to the Bible curiously enough. The Roman Catholic Church did all it could to alter the Bible, changing names and lingusitics so as not to reveal the importance of God's female half, the Goddess.

In Kabbala tradition, the Goddess is the Shekinah, or the Latin Sophia "Wisdom". She is the Holy Spirit and the source of inspiration and wisdom for God himself. In the early days of Judaism, when the Israelites wandered the desert like nomads, the practice of male-and-female union sexual consummation for fertility and for divine inspiration was very common. But the Bible omitted this later on so as not to disclose the Shekinah. This information has resurfaced in many ways. The best-selling book "The DaVinci Code" re-inforces the value and spiritual significance of The Goddess. There is no need for feeling bad about it. The truth is that God has to have a female side. Everyone does really. We are male and female in spirit though male and female individually in physical body. The female side is the nurturing Mother. For this reason we call Earth "Mother Earth" or "Mother Nature"- for she nourishes the life that lives upon it, animal and human. The reason more women are spiritual and more active in Church is the same reason that God's female half is equally as strong. This book is helpful in its detail about the Goddess worship of ancient Israel and the Middle East. It's living proof that at one point...God was a woman. Think about it. He has to be both male and female because we are either male and female. How can a single male God even fathom the females in his creation ? He would only relate to the males. He has to be both male and female in order to adequately rule over and look after all of his creation. This book was really a blessing, even for a former Christian like myself. Merlin Stone writes well and convincingly, eventhough this book was made in the early 70's. Perhaps this is why this book is so passionate in its theme. At that time in America and other parts of the West, the Women's Lib movement and the rising growth of feminism was much stronger than it was today. I hope some day men can let go of their male egos, not feel threatened by powerful women and share the fruits of labor and the government with women. What is in store in the future for able women ? The first and hopefully not last female President ? Female Pope ? The possibilities are endless.

1-0 out of 5 stars Tunnel-Vision at its worst.....
Before I was even done reading the first chapter I knew that
this was going to be a "man-bashing" book. First, I would
like to state for the record that I am a Pagan and view the
gods as both male and female and hold the Goddess as
first among equals. That said, this book does nothing
for me. Merlin Stone kept getting on the case of "other"
writers being too biased....HELLO! This is one of the most
biased books I ever read. If the distant past was really like
this for men, can you blame them for invastion? This book
says men were these weak, castrated, inferior shadows
who had no rights and were treated like second-class
citizens- they had no right to worship, they were godless,
misfit step-children.....the really sad part is that some
women think this is as it should be. Two wrongs do not
make a right! We must see the Divinity as both Male and
Female - through balance we will grow and learn from
each other.


5-0 out of 5 stars God as a man never made any sense!
It's a shame that we can't get back to the roots of true worship. Men created a male god because they couldn't handle the idea of being inferior. This should be required reading for all teenage girls. ... Read more

52. Be Happy at Work : 100 Women Who Love Their Jobs, and Why
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53. A Year by the Sea: Thoughts of an Unfinished Woman
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Now available in paperback, the entrancing story of how one woman's journey of self-discovery gave her the courage to persevere in re-creating her life.

Life is a work in progress, as ever-changing as a sandy shoreline along the beach. During the years Joan Anderson was a loving wife and supportive mother, she had slowly and unconsciously replaced her own dreams with the needs of her family. With her sons grown, however, she realized that the family no longer centered on the home she provided, and her relationship with her husband had become stagnant. Like many women in her situation, Joan realized that she had neglected to nurture herself and, worse, to envision fulfilling goals for her future. As her husband received a wonderful job opportunity out-of-state, it seemed that the best part of her own life was finished. Shocking both of them, she refused to follow him to his new job and decided to retreat to a family cottage on Cape Cod.
At first casting about for direction, Joan soon began to take plea-sure in her surroundings and call on resources she didn't realize she had. Over the course of a year, she gradually discovered that her life as an "unfinished woman" was full of possibilities. Out of that magical, difficult, transformative year came A Year by the Sea, a record of her experiences and a treasury of wisdom for readers.
This year of self-discovery brought about extraordinary changes in the author's life. The steps that Joan took to revitalize herself and rediscover her potential have helped thousands of woman reveal and release untapped resources within themselves.
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3-0 out of 5 stars Thoughts of an Unfinished Man
A female friend suggested I read a new book by Joan Anderson if I wanted to get a notion of the female psyche going through a sort of mid-life crisis. Admittedly, there may be a general con- sensus that only males, and then only some of us, experience this life phenomenon, that women some- how don't or, worse, shouldn't. They, in fact, have their own rite of passage...menopause. So, without a lot of enthusiasm, I got my hands on a copy of this autobiographical book and began reading. A Year by the Sea is another in the long line of twentienth century self-help books which present themselves with modern answers to modern dilemmas. The problem with Anderson's book, like so many of its type, is that it presupposes a problem, in fact, creates a problem so that it has something to solve. Anderson makes no sound case in describing a married life that demanded rescuing. She alludes to one or two instances of insensitivity on her husband's part, but even these are not of a magnitude to justify in most people's minds the compelling need to abandon the nest and strike out on one's own. If anything, her marriage may have become stale, or predictable, at least as she briefly describes it. It would seem then that her motivation was questionable, even if her intentions were sincere. The conclusion in the twelve month chronicle comes quickly and is more than a bit unsatisfying. Whether the newly reborn couple will live happily ever after we will never know, at least not based on the 195th page. Anderson's solution to her marital dissatisfaction is to escape to the sea...a primal drive to return to one's roots. What she fails to acknowledge, however, is that in seeking to uncover herself, she cannot bury her past.

5-0 out of 5 stars A YEAR BY THE SEA
This book spoke to my very being! It touched my soul and heart, and made me realize the importance of getting in touch with who I really am and always have been. Joan Anderson had the courage to find her true self, and the graciousness to share that journey with her readers. She has moments of self doubt,but carries on despite the circumstances. It appears she dug deep within her soul and unlocked resources that had been trapped within for years. There is something about the sea - its ever changing forms - its constant ebb and flow, and its ability to soothe. Ms. Anderson seems to seek answers about life while by the sea. In her writing, the inhabitants of that seaside area - both human and animal - are so well characterized and developed, the reader actually comes away with a feeling of "being there". Her well described relationship with seals,for example, presents the reader with a sense of fulfillment and spiritual awakening. I shall read the book a second time(and perhaps more). I am already sharing it with friends. Joan Anderson, through this book, has made me realize how very important it is to "get away" - take time for yourself - so you can share with others the "REAL YOU". It also confirms my belief in the healing qualities the sea holds for the human race. It soothes the soul, and truly gets us in touch with ourselves and nature.

5-0 out of 5 stars Proud to be an "unfinished woman"
This is the best book I've read in a long time. I was feeling a little lost the week that I happened to find this book and it totally changed my attitude. So many pages had at least one sentence if not more, that echoed exactly how I felt. I no longer feel alone in my thoughts and I am now proud to be an "unfinished woman." Thank you to the author for sharing her experiences!

5-0 out of 5 stars Thought Provoking
How many of us have wished for a year of solitude with Nature in order to reflect, learn and grow. By reading this little book, we can at least share Anderson's experiences. So many of her thoughts and emotions reflect what many of us feel, especially at that age and point in life. Kids are grown and have become independent, our traditional role in life is over and we're not quite sure where we belong anymore. Excellent read!

5-0 out of 5 stars A Book For All Women to Enjoy and Relish Each Chapter!
I loved this book. It is so "real". I wish I could go away for a year to "find myself". Swimming with sea lions, working in a fish market to earn $ to fix her hot water heater, I could only dream about this adventure!

After reading this book - I rushed out in search of her second book - An Unfinished Marriage. I cannot wait to read all 3 of her books! I own all of them and will begin the second book as soon as I have some free time. I wish we could have a book discussion at *Bucks on these books! ... Read more

54. How to Say It For Women: Communicating with Confidence and Power Using the Language of Success
by Phyllis Mindell
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Phyllis Mindell, an acclaimed expert on professional communications, shows women how to transform themselves by transforming their language; shed weak words, phrases, and gestures; empower themselves to win attention and respect; and get their ideas across with confidence and power.

Perhaps the best teacher of how the power of language can transform is an unexpected one: Charlotte the spider of E.B. White's, Charlotte's Web. Mindell demonstrates how Charlotte communicated messages that gained national attention and saved a friend's life. As a model, she combines female strengths of wisdom and compassion with the determination and power to make a difference.

As part of Prentice Hall Press's highly successful How to Say It tm series, How to Say It tm for Women is packed with practical tips, techniques, and examples that arm women to grapple with every communication issue, from choosing the right word or sentence to speaking, reading, writing, leading, dressing, and interviewing effectively. Readers will learn how to: shunwords that weaken messages and make women invisible; sail through interviews; assess and develop leadership skills; say NO, kindly but firmly; respond appropriately to slurs, insults, and harassment; say the one winning word thatgets people to follow directions.

True stories about women in every field, along with quotes from Ruth Bader Ginsberg, Carla Hills, Amelia Earhart, Elizabeth Dole and others, enable women totapthe power of words to persuade, motivate, establish authority, and make a difference-- without sacrificing their integrity, their compassion, or their femininity. ... Read more

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4-0 out of 5 stars Insightful!
Martin M. Broadwell and Carol Broadwell Dietrich expertly guide you through learning how to be the boss. They cover adjusting to your new role, acquiring the skills you'll need and coping with becoming a supervisor - from planning and organizing to directing and controlling. There may be just too much about stress and not quite enough about daily processes and follow through, but the information is solid across all subjects. The authors get right to the point, never sacrificing warmth, context or detail. Each section ends with thought-provoking group or individual exercises to reinforce what you've just read. We recommend this book to people who are taking their first supervisory positions, to those aiming for that goal and to anyone who has to train either of them.

5-0 out of 5 stars This book delivers on its promises
Dr. Phyllis Mindell begins her work with an opening that outlines the benefits you will gain as a reader, and advice for making the most of the book. Among Dr. Mindell's long list of promises are some very audacious ones, such as "influence policy decisions at the top" "improve your career" and "lead and manage successfully". Upon reading this intro, I was intrigued but highly skeptical. After all, Phyllis didn't know my particular situation, the politics in my company, or the people with whom I am dealing. How then, I wondered, could she guarantee me such dramatic results? After reading the book and seeing immediate improvement in my professional life, I understand that that is the point indeed--the issues faced by women in all professions and at all levels have common roots! Dr. Mindell has discovered the true cause of women's relative lack of success in the workplace when compared to men: a failure to appreciate and utilize the power of language. Unfortunately, we are often guilty of self-sabotage in which we undermine our own effectiveness with weak language or an attempt to imitate the "strong" language of men.Fortunately, Dr. Mindell has developed a language style for women and she teaches it in a practical, actionable way with lots of examples and tools to show the reader "how to transform your life by transforming your language". She also discusses style and dressing for success, as well as power reading, both important issues related to that of language. The book's effect on me was immediate, as I was reading it on a plane on the way to Brazil: I had to write a presentation to give in Sao Paulo and was "cheating" by using my time to read instead. However, when I got to the chapter on organizing and writing effective presentations, I simply followed the outline and got mine done in half the time. I also received many compliments for my apparent "off the cuff" speech the next day at the Energy conference. Little did they know that I had the help of an "expert"! I loved the whole book and read it in a couple of sittings although it is not a "light read" by any means. I am now recommending "How to Say it For Women" to all my women colleagues and friends. The book is a good investment and a steal at that price.

5-0 out of 5 stars Mandatory Reading for the Successful Businesswoman
How to Say It For Women delivers an action plan to convey confidence in today's business environment. Whether it is in speech, writing or behavior, the guidelines outlined provide a common sense approach to successful business communication.

5-0 out of 5 stars Indispensable!
How to Say It for Women is the only guide to communication I'll ever need. It not only gives great tips on reading, writing, speaking, listening, style, and body language, but it even gives "crib sheets" that suggest exact words to say in hard situations (job interviews, conflicts, performance appraisals). To top it off, the checklist on leadership skills show a clear way to perfect my skills. And the idea of using Charlotte the spider as the role model is so much fun and brings me back to my own childhood.

5-0 out of 5 stars Winning Words for Women
Dr.Mindell knows how to make hard things seem easy,like how to plan a presentation without panic,how not to let fear stop you,and the different kinds of e-writing.My favorite chapters are the ones about style[don't vacuum while wearing high heels,shape doesn't matter],listening,and interviewing.I recommend it for everyone. ... Read more

55. The Trouble with Islam : A Muslim's Call for Reform in Her Faith
by Irshad Manji
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This "call for reform" reads like an open letter to the Muslim world. Irshad Manji, a Toronto-based television journalist, was born to Muslim parents in South Africa. Her family eventually fled to Canada when she was two years old. Manji shares her life experiences growing up in a Western Muslim household and ask some compelling questions from her feminist-lesbian-journalist perspective. It is interesting to note that Manji has been lambasted for being too personal and not scholarly enough to have a worthwhile opinion. Yet her lack of pretense and her intimate narrative are the strengths of this book. For Muslims to dismiss her opinions as not worthy to bring to the table is not only elitist; it underscores why she feels compelled to speak out critically. Intolerance for dissent, especially women's dissent, is one of her main complaints about Islam. Clearly, her goal was not to write a scholarly critique, but rather to speak from her heartfelt concern about Islam. To her fellow Muslims she writes:

I hear from a Saudi friend that his country's religious police arrest women for wearing red on Valentines Day, and I think, Since when does a merciful God outlaw joy—or fun? I read about victims of rape being stoned for "adultery" and I wonder how a critical mass of us can stay stone silent.

She asks tough questions: "What's with the stubborn streak of anti-Semitism in Islam? Who is the real colonizer of the Muslims—-America or Arabia? Why are we squandering the talents of women, fully half of God's creation?" This is not an anti-Muslim rant. Manji also speaks with passionate love and hope for Islam, believing that democracy is compatible with its purest doctrine. Sure, she's biased and opinionated. But all religions, from Christianity to Buddhism to Islam should be accountable for how their leadership and national allegiances personally affect their followers. One would hope that this honest voice be met with a little more self-scrutiny and a little less anti-personal, anti-feminine, and anti-Western rhetoric. --Gail Hudson ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars Muslim refusenik makes me a non-confusenik
The front cover art says it all... a woman's mouth is silenced. But that was the past. Ms Manji's book is filled with rants, but fantastic rants filled with angst (she frequently gets threatened, modern Muslim architecture negates local cultural influences), humor (martyrs are actually promised 72 hur/white raisins, not 72 virgins), advice (how to speak out, liberal Western Muslims should assert their ownership of the religion), and insight (the roots of literalism). She joins a chorus of voices of Muslims who are questioning the strict, information hoarding leaders and teachers of their faith; she calls for a reformation or debate as profound as Martin Luther's or Talmudists. The twin towers Manji, 35, wants toppled are the towers of deceit and conceit. She denounces the lack of intellectual diversity in mainstream Islam, and desires ITJIHAD (the struggle for critical independent thinking) over JIHAD. Ms. Manji is a daughter many would pray for: inquisitive, intelligent, but blunt. As a teen, she confronted her teacher in a religion class who taught anti-Jewish ideas. She quoted the Koran to contradict him. She as expelled. As an older teen, she spoke out against her extended family's racism, use of slavery, and sexism. It was decided she should not visit them in Uganda. When threatened with physical abuse by a joyless parent, she fled to the roof. Many readers will say she is not religiously observant or learned enough to question Islam. Some will write her off for criticizing Muslim societies for allowing honor-killings, wife beatings, torturous clitorectomies; but this is a must read for any thinking person who wants to embrace both religion and the contemporary diverse world.

4-0 out of 5 stars Good look at Islam but there are much better books than this
Granted, there are better books that expose Islam, but Manji's "The Trouble With Islam" is a detailed look at the world's second largest faith, and why it's practices and beliefs are in disagreement with modern civilization. This book will help the many Muslims in this world that are tired of being associated with their terrorist and inhumane religion. Unlike other books that expose Islam, Manji doesn't go into deep theological reasons for her re-evaluation of Islam. Instead, she focuses more on the modern-day corruption of Islam. She speaks of how the Middle East conflict has taken over Islam, and in turn put fuel on the fire of Anti-Semetism that has existed since the days of Muhammad. Perhaps her most shattering grievance is the hijab. As anybody who was a Muslim knows, the hijab has taken on a level that are disturbing. If a Muslim woman doesn't wear hijab, then she is automatically looked at as being unfaithful to her religion, and possibly a hypocrite.

My major disappointment regarding this book is that it is clear Manji is no scholar. Her knowledge is limited, and I found myself getting bored of her laundry list of problems with Islam. ...I thank Manji for contributing to the fight against Islam.

1-0 out of 5 stars Full of Mistakes
This book lacks accuracy but it is also full of mistakes. On page 44 she states that Muhammad preached for "25 years or so." All books of history tells us that Muhammad received his first revelation from Angle Gabriel at age 40 and passed away at age 63. That's 23 years. She has many other mistakes too; however, I prefer to give some facts about the life of Muhammad she should have included:

Muhammad was born in Arabia in 570 years after Christ. He was the descendant of Abraham and Ishmael. He was orphaned as a child and grew up poor. By the age 25 he came to be known for his honesty and good character. People called him Al-Ameen meaning trustworthy and truthful. At the age of 25 a wealthy widow impressed by his honesty and good character proposed marriage to him. Although she was 40 he accepted her proposal, and they lived for the next 15 years a comfortable and blissful marriage.

Until the age of 40 Muhammad had lived as a good citizen--a quiet uneventful life. One night while he was meditating in a cave Angel Gabriel appears to him and asks him to, "Read in the Name of Your Lord." Muhammad was illiterate so he said I can't read. But eventually he repeated the words after Gabriel. This began 23 years of revelation that we know now as the Qur'an. When he proclaimed the message people laughed at him. They wondered why God has chosen him instead of much wealthier more intelligent and powerful leaders of Mecca. But God chooses whomever he wills! They attacked him and early Muslims physically and verbally. At one point due to severity of persecution, a group of Muslims that migrated from Arabia to a nearby country, Ethiopia, rules by a just Christian king. At his court facing extradition to Mecca, they explained to the Christian King why they had left the religion of their forefathers in the following manner:

"O King!! we were plunged in the depth of ignorance and barbarism; we adored idols, we lived in unchastity, we ate the dead bodies, and we spoke abominations, we disregarded every feeling of humanity, and the duties of hospitality and neighborhood were neglected; we knew no law but that of the strong, when God raised among us a man, of whose birth, truthfulness, honesty, and purity we were aware; and he called to the Oneness of God, and taught us not to associate anything with Him. He forbade us the worship of idols; and he enjoined us to speak the truth, to be faithful to our trusts, to be merciful and to regard the rights of the neighbors and kith and kin; he forbade us to speak evil of women, or to eat the substance of orphans; he ordered us to fly from the vices, and to abstain from evil; to offer prayers, to render alms, and to observe fast. We have believed in him, we have accepted his teachings and his injunctions to worship God, and not to associate anything with Him, and we have allowed what He has allowed, and prohibited what He has prohibited. For this reason, our people have risen against us, have persecuted us in order to make us forsake the worship of God and return to the worship of idols and other abominations. They have tortured and injured us, until finding no safety among them, we have come to your country, and hope you will protect us from oppression."

The above summarizes the effect of Muhammad and his message on humanity. In this regard renowned British Historian Arnold Toynbee remarked in his Civilization on Trial, "The extinction of race consciousness as between Muslims is one of the outstanding achievements of Islam, and in the contemporary world there is, as it happens, a crying need for the propagation of this Islamic virtue...This Islamic spirit (of submission to divine guidance) maybe expected to manifest itself in many practical ways, and one of these manifestations might be liberation from alcohol, which was inspired by religious conviction and which was therefore able to accomplish what could never be enforced by the external sanction of an alien law...Here then in the foreground of the future we can remark two valuable influences which Islam may exert upon the cosmopolitan proletariat of the Western society..."

Many historians have attested to this fact and consider his accomplishment nothing short of a miracle. Yet as he said through out his mission he was only a man conveying God's message.

Historian Michael Hart wrote in his book The 100: A Ranking of the Most Influential Persons in History, "My choice of Muhammad to lead the list of the world's most influential persons may surprise some readers and may be questioned by others, but he was the only man in history who was supremely successful on both the religious and secular levels."

French Poet Lamartine wrote in Histoire de La Turquie, "Philosopher, orator, apostle, legislator, warrior, conqueror of ideas, restorer of rational dogmas, of a religion without images, the founder of twenty terrestrial empires and of one spiritual empire, which is Muhammad. If Greatness of purpose, smallness of means and astounding results are the three criteria of human genius, who could dare to compare any great man in modern history with Muhammad?"

I think you get the idea that Muhammad was more than a reformer or philosopher. He brought about real change, real peace, all in the name of God, never taking credit, live a humble simple life and died with no possessions.

Thus, I believe a serious study of his life and accomplishments are something to consider, especially his claim of receiving a message from God. Please visit

1-0 out of 5 stars What a biased book?! Misrepresentation of Muslims.
Ms. Manji is just using Islam to make money. Her book is full of inaccuracies. Her obsession with a "righteous" Israel is also misplaced. No matter how liberal Islam becomes, it can never tolerate a Lesbian or Gay lifestyle. So my suggestion to Ms. Manji would be to convert to say, Judaism, and let us be. If you have so many problems with Islam, why do you follow it?
Muslim women have, can and will do great things; nudity is not eqvalent to liberation. After all, Benazir Bhutto, a woman, has ruled Pakistan twice. The United States hasn't been ruled by a woman.
So, open your mind to the real Islam, not the biased version shown on FOX news and other TV channels and media.

1-0 out of 5 stars glossy cover and words don't make scholarship
I couldn't even give this a star, but had to since 0 stars is not an option. Manji is typical of the counterfeit type of scholarship so common in our age that tries to integrate observations in a slanted and maligning way. After productions such as this, I can understand how in ages before, educated classes were against allowing the written word to be learned by those who had no intellectual skills; To those who read this book, please do not be fooled. Ms. Manji is not at all considered learned in any branch of Islamic study, and the half-baked information and slanted conclusions she makes any fourth grader can make. This book is mostly a sophisticated and literate deployment of shallowness and disintelligence. ... Read more

56. Good Catholic Girls : How Women Are Leading the Fight to Change the Church
by Angela Bonavoglia
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The inspiring true story of the women who are fighting for the soul of the Catholic Church

Angela Bonavoglia is a self-described "itinerant Catholic." Born a Catholic, she knew she would die a Catholic. She was resigned to living with the knowledge that the Church had failed to live up to its own ideals, but then she heard the story of one woman who had the courage to say no to the pope. That launched Bonavoglia on a journey of discovery, through which she found many contemporary women, all over the world, stepping forward to challenge one of the last bastions of male authority -- the Roman Catholic Church. She began to believe that change just might be possible.

The recently exposed transgressions of priests within the Church stunned the faithful and sent a new surge of energy through the progressive Church reform movement in the United States. Despite the movement's growing profile, the world has only recently learned that Catholic women are the driving force behind reform. Good Catholic Girls is a lively account of these courageous women, as seen through Bonavoglia's eyes. They include Joan Chittister, the Benedictine nun who refused to obey a Vatican order not to speak at the first international conference for women's ordination groups worldwide; Mary Ramerman, ordained a Catholic priest before 3,000 jubilant supporters in a packed theater in Rochester, New York; Frances Kissling, whose fight for women's reproductive rights has shaken the Church at its highest levels; priest abuse survivor Barbara Blaine, who created the most powerful voice for victims, the Survivors' Network of those Abused by Priests; and Sister Jeannine Gramick, who built a pioneering ministry to gays and lesbians, despite Vatican orders to silence her and ban her work.

Backed by supporters worldwide, these and other women are rethinking Catholic theology, changing the face of ministry, and resurrecting the lost lives of female Church leaders. They are working to open ordination to all, challenging the Church's sexual repression, and calling the Church to openness and accountability. Their work is brave, provocative, and vital, for what becomes of women in the Catholic Church will determine what becomes of the Church itself. As Bonavoglia shows in this compelling book, the hierarchy ignores them at its peril.

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5-0 out of 5 stars Revealing
Good Catholic Girls is a beautifully written book based on views held by a wide spectrum of catholic women. It is especially interesting to pay attention to where Catholicism is growing the fastest, especially in Africa. DISCIPLES OF FORTUNE mirrored some of the paths taken to reconcile the Church's role in the complicated worlds of the faithful.

5-0 out of 5 stars Dignity Restored
Bonavoglia's interviews of "good Catholic girls" vivify a sweeping panorama of women in the Church from the ancient to our gifted present. What we hear seems to rest and grow on the obscure and the obscured, the silenced and the banned, until we recognize the bold stillness of a mountain revealed. Recent events in the the Roman Catholic Church beg the unanswerable question - how might things have been different? Bonavoglia puts much to rest in this invaluable recap of who stays, what they are doing and where they are taking the rest of us. The women we meet are not leaving the Church and yet they are not staying--they are changing the Church while their work moves and alters everything and everyone it passes. Write on, Angela!

Peggie L. Thorp, Boston, MA

1-0 out of 5 stars More feminist propoganda
It is interesting how Ms. Bonavoglia is writing so much misinformation regarding the Catholic Church. However, "good" Catholic women would know better than to read and listen to this misinformation. Hopefully other "good" christians and nonchrisitans will also get the point. This is the same, old, boring feminist information that has been spreading since the 60's. Luckily for real Catholics, these people are getting older and are quickly dying out while the young of the church are standing strong. The younger generation is comming out full force behind the teachings of the Church. If you are truly interested on reading about women, Read Pope John Paul II's Apostolic Letter Mulieris Dignitatem regarding the Dignity and Vocation of Women.
I would also recommend going to the Couple to Couple League's website and learn about Natural Family Planning. When you are knowledgable about what it TRULY is (no the "Rythm Method"), why we should do it (to allow God's will), you will begin to see the beauty of God's love and his gift to married couples.
And for the VERY basic of reading, I would recommend pulling out your Holy Bible and reading about what role God truly intended women to have.

5-0 out of 5 stars St. Augustine would like this book
Angela Bonavoglia has written an up to date view of the Catholic Church in the United States.She has researched and interviewed wherever she could find Catholic women.These Catholic women are enrgetic, hard working and faithful.Faithful in the broadest sense of the word, followers of the good news to the outcasts of society and the good news of mutuality which Jesus preached.Most importantly she brings the beauty of Catholicism into full view through her stories of the women in the Church. "Ah beauty, ever ancient, ever new..." Augustine wrote.The new beauty of the Catholic Church is found in her women.
Gaile M. Pohlhaus, Ph.D.
Coordinator Villanova Theology Institute
Villanova University

5-0 out of 5 stars An Engaging Read
After wading through tons of books about current Catholic "troubles", it was refreshing to pick up a book that entertains as well as it informs. Bonavoglia is a skilled craftswoman. Hats off! ... Read more

57. A World Apart : Women, Prison, and Life Behind Bars
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58. The Goddess Blackwoman: Mother of Civilization
by Akil
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12 lessons to restore the image, the character, & the responsibility of the goddess blackwoman. ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars RIGHT ON TIME
This book was given to me by a brother in queens who read it himself and once the book was opened i couldn't put it down. You can't help but apply the information that is obtained in this book in your life because he tells you how powerful you are and once that knowledge is known there is no stopping you. Women are powerful individuals who seek powerful Men. Women who don't know themselves will seek just that; a man who does not know himself. I have recommended this book to every women and man I know. It's the best piece of knowledge I have ever read!!!!

5-0 out of 5 stars The realest book.
This book is one that is unparalled in what it does to the mind of a blackwoman. The book is honest open and informative..any blackwoman who needs to find their true self needs to read this book.peace

5-0 out of 5 stars All Praise is due to Allah!
Thank you, Brother Akil, for sharing what Allah has revealed to you.

Many Black Women, including myself, have no idea what their original, God-given purpose is. Through reading this book I have a new-found sense of worth and value to my family, community, the world and ultimately my Creator.

This book is not for those of us who are not ready to take a soul-searching, scrutinizing look at ourselves in the name of understanding and ultimately change!

If you are ready to elevate your thinking and your level of consciousness, this book is definitely for you.

I have purchased this book for all of my girlfriends after it was given to me by a very dear friend. Everyone absolutely loved it and we continue to read and apply it to our lives. ... Read more

59. Nine Parts of Desire : The Hidden World of Islamic Women
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Geraldine Brooks spent two years as a Middle East news correspondent, covering the death of Khomeini and the like. She also learned a lot about what it's like for Islamic women today.Brooks' book is exceedingly well-done--she knows her Islamic lore and traces the origins of today's practices back to Mohammed's time. Personable and very readable, Brooks takes us through the women's back door entrance of the Middle East for an unusual and provocative view. ... Read more

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5-0 out of 5 stars Eyes and Minds Need to Be Opened
This book was an eye-opener for me, as I was woefully ill-informed on the topics Brooks covered in her book. I found her approach to be balanced in her attempt to show the varying ways women are treated in different Islamic countries. She NEVER presents herself as an Islamic scholar but merely as an observer of the various countries which she covered during her years in the Middle East.

One thing that really shocked me was how the Koran seems to be interpreted by different groups for different reasons. It seems that anyone can rationalize behaviors by finding an interpretation of the Koran to support such actions. And each one believes that he is correct!

To have a religion based on these varying interpretations is one thing, but to have entire cultures and political movements based on them is very frightening. Cultural practices seem to be intricately tied up with religious interpretation and vice versa.

I find ANY religious extremism to be anathema, whether it is Islam or some other religion. When one refuses to believe that there are alternate ways to live a good life or to attain eternal happiness, this is very dangerous and leads to violence and wars, as can be seen in the history of civilization. I also am of the opinion that wherever (in the West or the Middle East or anywhere) any kind of religious fundamentalism exists, women suffer.

I also realize that this is a Western look at women in Islamic countries and that there are many women living happy and contented lives in Muslim societies. The author never says otherwise despite what is written in some reviews.

I could not understand those who said that Brooks was totally wrong in her reporting and that Muslim women are protected and treasured (and educated) -- when fully documented atrocities toward women are committed in Muslim countries and when women in Afghanistan are not permitted to go to school past the age of 12.

While I do not think this book should be the only source that one should use to try to understand the Islamic countries and their cultures, it certainly provides a thorough background and basic explanations based on Brook's experience while living in these countries. I read this just after seeing the incredible documentary, "Beneath the Veil" and thus concluded that Brook's reporting was accurate. It certainly opened my eyes and made me want to learn more.

4-0 out of 5 stars read as a personal account, not factual history
Once you recognize that Ms. Brooks has her own hang-ups about woman's role in the world of Islam, you get a lot more out of this book of her travels in the early 1990s as an Australian woman to different Muslim countries and the women and men whom she meets. The topics covered are fascinating --- how Muslim women train for battle, their university studies, her own encounters with Queen Noor of Jordan (who spoke at my university graduation during that time, as her adopted daughter was in my class.) I'll admit I skipped the chapter on cliterodectomies --- I was too squeamish.

Ms. Brooks inserts snippets from the Koran and Prophet Mohammad's life into her text, and I am unsure of their accuracy. Also perturbing is her tone towards Prophet Mohammad --- we know he is human, but she seems to insinuate some of the baser human qualities upon him. I felt this is very disturbing and disrespectful, and was not even necessary in her accounts.

This is a good book to be read (with a grain of salt) for a snapshot of people in different countries at different moments in time, but by no means should anyone take it as a definitive text on a religion.

4-0 out of 5 stars A great book on Women in Islam
A very interesting read for anyone interested in the cause of women in Islam. Some might find it biased - the author makes her opinion very clear and her view is not impartial.

However, she makes some very good parallels between the situation in the Prophet's time and what it is today - and this is not a pretty picture. The testimonials of women is various countries of the Middle East are very enlightening and some make the situation of women in those countries very frightening. It is also interesting to see some of these women's view towards their culture, their society and the progress made by Muslim women.

It is probably one of the best book, if not the best book I have read on women in Islam and I highly recommend it.

5-0 out of 5 stars The Experience of Our Sisters
This is an exquisitely written book. Brooks has great talent for pulling the reader into the mind of the people she tells about, and especially, I found as a man, pulling you into the minds and lives of women. I found myself empathizing with the women in ways that only real life can provide. It is amazing what Brooks has experienced, but it is far more amazing what the women she tells of have experienced.

Brooks writes honestly and directly about the good and bad of Islam, and how it influences women. She doesn't pull any punches, but also is not writing to denigrate, as she finds aspects of official and folk Islam that harm women, and aspects that help women. She speaks of the positive attitude Islam has towards sexuality, being largely uncorrupted by the Greek dualism that invaded later Christianity, so that, within marriage, Muslims are encouraged to celebrate the gift of God in sex. Indeed, this provides the title of the book, as Ali, the 4th Khalifa, speaks of how sexual desire is 1/10th the man's, and 9/10ths the womans. Of course, this provides later motive to sequester women, put them in hijab, and restrict them, so that the "ever-devouring vagina", as later writers speak of it, does not overcome the men around them.

Since Brooks relies primarily on her experiences, with what she's seen with her own eyes and heard with her own ears, she is hard to argue with. This is the plight of many women in the Muslim world. But lest we think these are limited experiences of one Western woman talking with a few Arab and Persian women scattered in a few countries, Brooks has also done extensive research to intersperse between her stories- relying on the Qur'an, Hadith, Ijtihad, and Muslim history. But mostly, on women's experiences- for, let's be honest, the perspective of women is largely missing from the official sources, as it is in most religions- with notable exceptions like the wonderful Hadiths of Aisha. Most of which were discarded by early Islamic jurists, as Brooks points out.

One regret, is that there is not more here about the countries of North Africa, particularly, Morocco, with the exception of one paragraph paying tribute to that great Moroccan feminist, Fatima Mernissi. But of course, this book is about Brooks' experiences, not a research text, and her journalistic experience was much more centered on the Middle East.

I found one of Brooks' most powerful arguments to be on issues like FGM, Female Genital Mutilation. She shares how Muslims say it's not authorized or encouraged in the Qur'an. How it's not only Muslims who do it, but some African Christians. I've hear this many times before myself. They're quite right. But Brooks brings up the sapient question- why isn't there more spoken against it from the minbar? Why are 20% of Muslim women in areas where this is practiced? If Islam is a religion that supports women, or if there are at least some aspects of it that are positive towards women (as I believe there are), why isn't there more said publicly about the plight of women, on many issues, to change things, to encourage women's emancipation, using the wealth of resources? Why is Mernissi such a lone worker in the night?

1-0 out of 5 stars Another book that misleads and adds to hate not understandin
Brooks officiates herself as an authority on the Arab world and on Islam. Her knowledge is that of a journalist, not a scholar. She is not any different from the extreme muslim fanatics that view the Western world as decedant and corrupt world. They view the West with their own narrow and biased eyes. She and they are in the same camp. They both generate misleading hate and add to confusion by looking on each other's world in extremist disposition.

Brooks tries to be objective in her review only to discredit herself immediatly with her sanctimoneous rejection of edicts in Islam that are not any different from what exists in Judaism. You do not see any comparative paragraphs on how Judaism treats Jewish women!! Some of her translations of Quran are incorrect as well.

There is good and bad in any society and in any faith. Satirizing Islam and blurring the lines between the faith and tradition is not acceptable. Also pulling on weak hadiths and selecting exreme cases to say "look ... here what Islam stands for and here is what the Arabs are all bout" is to say the least rediculous.

If I wrote a book about the West that depicts it as the world of AIDS, wife beaters, prostitution, teenage pregnancies, drugs, rape, and dumping of the elderly in terrible nursing homes and turned ot the world and said ... look this is what the West is all about!!! am I being true to my readers! No ... I would be simply misleading them by officiating myself as a false authority to cover bias and prejudice and that is exactly what Brooks does. We should of course believe that her being a Jewish feminist has nothing to do with her nasty coverage of Islam and of the Arab world ... give me a break! ... Read more

60. In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development
by Carol Gilligan
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5-0 out of 5 stars Profound, but limited samples
Most of this book struck me as profound, even wise. Gilligan's thesis that men develop their independence before women and that women are more attune to their relationships (and hence develop a sense of self much later than men) makes a lot of sense to me. It rings true for many of the women and men I know. One very big critique though. Many have hailed this as a modern masterpiece, which in most respects it is. But I was struck by the tiny samples on which Gilligan builds her theories. In most cases she only sampled a couple dozen people, a paltry number by any standard for a book that professes to inform readers about the differences between men and women. Other than that though, I loved this book and I highly recommend it. I also recommend Howard Gardner's Extraordinary Minds.

4-0 out of 5 stars Both Ground-Breaking AND Interesting!!
Gilligan's "In a Different Voice" attempts to dispute the often misogynistic psychological assertions made by her male predecessors. Gilligan is primarily concerned with differentiating between male and female moral and identity development. Her thesis is ultimately to prove that male psychologists tended to sample from a group of males,while later outrageously drawing conclusions based upon the data derived from the entirely male experimental group and applying the information to males and females alike. Gilligan is essentially groundbreaking, in her sense of finding fault with the psychological research which does not include a variety of sampling and interviewing. She also asserts that not only have psychologists derived false and misleading conclusions regarding female adolescent development, but psychologists have also unfairly generalized female and male moral and identity development. Gilligan has conducted research to come to the conclusion that adolescent females develop in a fashion very dissimilar from that of males, which she shares in this eloquent and engaging book!

5-0 out of 5 stars Good starting point for learning about women's psychology
Originally published in 1982, this book was in its 33rd printing when it was reissued in 1993. It describes the developmental differences between men and women and what that means. Harvard professor Carol Gilligan explains that male development has typically focused on separation, individuation, logic, and hierarchy. Female development, on the other hand, has emphasized attachment, relationship, connection, and communication. I had several "ahas!" while reading this book for the first time in 2003. While I've always discounted some of Sigmund Freud's work, it had never occurred to me that much of traditional psychological theory, including the work of Jean Piaget, Erik Erickson, and Lawrence Kohlberg, has also been based on observations of men, then applied to women. As a result of comparisons to male norms that don't fit their own experience, women have often felt discounted and inferior, rather than simply different. It made sense to me that these comparisons and significant developmental differences often result in women feeling selfish and guilty when focusing on their own needs, rather than those of others. It also fit my experience that men and women tend to respond differently to attachment and separation issues. According to Gilligan, men see danger more often in intimacy than in achievement, while women sense more danger in impersonal and competitive situations. Gilligan's observations have generated quite a bit of controversy over the years (as indicated by some of the previous reviews on this list!), but ring true for many women (including me), and have been used as a stepping stone for the work of many later authors.

1-0 out of 5 stars Ideologies and book reviews
Here's a supposition: Amazon[.com] asks "did you find this review helpful?" I suspect that "helpful" to most readers means "This review supports my bias." For example, if the review is positive, and you liked the book (or you think you will [or should] like the book), you'll be likely to say "this review is helpful." And so on.

Now to the book in question. Her evidence is weak, her thesis is vaguely put, her argument is disjointed, and you think this is a helpful review, right?

5-0 out of 5 stars For those who've read Freud, from a researcher
I was given every Freud text printed by WW Norton in college to read throughout my studies. Sitting in class I was alternately amazed by Freud's insights and thoroughly irritated by the defects of his analysis of female development. His theories seemed inconsistent, even containing contradictions, especially regarding the growth of girls into womanhood. It was extremely difficult to refute parts of his theory without denying the truth of how he spoke to boy's development, since his system of theory is all-encompassing and hermetic, and "It's rational precisely because its based on irrational subconscious thought" etc etc etc.

Suprisingly, Carol Gilligan, adds to the main body of psychological theory, counterposing slightly but mainly filling in grey areas, rather than directly opposing it. I was suprised by this because I had avoided Gilligan due to Hoff Sommers criticism, among others, which had led me to believe Gilligan's work was more ideological than scientific. Gilligan has suprising insights into the the critical age of adolesence for girls, and the postulation of a parallel understanding of morality is still as relevant now as it was when first written.
The form of morality she outlines fleshes out women's development as a fully realized system that understands the human condition full of falliabilities, rather than shrill repressive/mothering feminism I feared. As a bonus to readers wary of ranting, Gilligan is fairly focused on female development as opposed to social critique. Be aware, though, that her style does emulate Freud in that the writing is focused on specific examples to show broad conclusions, as opposed to vast statistical analysis.

Highly recommended. ... Read more

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