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    2. The 36-Hour Day : A Family Guide
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    1. Early Bird : A Memoir of Premature Retirement
    by Rodney Rothman
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    Asin: 0743242173
    Catlog: Book (2005-04-26)
    Publisher: Simon & Schuster
    Sales Rank: 213
    Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars
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    Everyone says they would like to retire early, but Rodney Rothman actually did it -- forty years early. Burnt out, he decides at the age of twenty-eight to get an early start on his golden years. He travels to Boca Raton, Florida, where he moves in with an elderly piano teacher at Century Village, a retirement village that is home to thousands of senior citizens.

    Early Bird is an irreverent, hilarious, and ultimately warmhearted account of Rodney's journey deep into the heart of retirement. Rodney struggles for acceptance from the senior citizens he shares a swimming pool with, and battles with cranky octogenarians who want him off their turf. The day-to-day dealings begin to wear on him. Before long he observes, "I don't think Tuesdays with Morrie would have been quite so uplifting if that guy had to spend more than one day a week with Morrie."

    Rodney throws himself into the spirit of retirement, fashioning a busy schedule of suntanning, shuffleboard, and gambling cruises. As the months pass, his neighbors seem to forget that he is fifty years younger than they are. He finds himself the potential romantic interest of an aging femme fatale. He joins a senior softball club and is disturbed to learn that he is the worst player on the team.For excitement he rides along with a volunteer police officer on his patrols, hunting for crime. But even the criminals in his community seem to have retired.

    Early Bird is a funny, insightful, and moving look at what happens to us when we retire, viewed from a remarkably premature perspective. Any reader who plans on becoming an old person will enjoy joining Rodney on his strange journey, as he reconsiders his notions of romance, family, friendship, and ultimately, whether he's ever going back to work. ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Existentialist in Florida

    This is a profoundly depressing, insightful and refreshing book. Sure it's all gussied up as uproarious by the marketing drones. But its messages are all downers.Not that there is anything wrong with that, of course: I highly recommend it.

    Rothman is an observant 28 year old, burned out and jobless, who escapes to Florida to get a head start on retirement.He expects older people to have 'figured it out' -- to be wise and inspiring -- kind of like the Morrie character in "Tuesdays with ... ." (Rothman's expectations, not my characterization of them.) Instead he finds ... nothing in particular.Near death, people are still searching, seeking, angst-ridden, horny, hopeless and hapless.Kinda like how one is at 28.

    The book strikes you on several levels:First: it's a warning not to expect too much wisdom from elders.Go seeking advice from an elderly person and you're going to get a particular person's take on life -- a take that has been sharpened and narrowed over the years. (Obvious, buttragic.)

    Second:The possible corollary to the lack of wisdom Rothman observes among retirees is that ... there is no wisdom to be had. That is, we're here, we don't know why, we can't know why, we've got the blip of consciousness, so don't go looking for some "meaning of life" experience. It's not that people aren't wise ... there is nothing particularly to be wise about.

    Buy the book. It's not Camus -- but is still good stuff.

    1-0 out of 5 stars seniors beware
    I'm a senior and unfortunately found nothing funny about this bizarre and unpleasant contrivance. Unfortunately, because I spent good money on it, thinking that a former writer for David Letterman would at least give me a few laughs. Well, there are some, but they're all at the expense of us seniors. You know, how we've got sagging skin, love early bird specials, forget things--all the tired and offensive cliches. Har, har har. Unless you want to endure a 28-year-old sitcom writer's snarky observations about the failing minds and bodies of the elderly, avoid this one. I suggest these books as alternatives: Be An Outrageous Older Woman; 100 Things I'm Not Going To Do Now That I'm Over 50; How Not To Become A Little Old Lady. I'm sure that amazon carries them all.

    5-0 out of 5 stars This Old Bird Likes "Early Bird"!
    Funny, original and poignant, "Early Bird" will bring a reader lots of laughs and even atear or two.As a senior, I appreciated that the author could laugh at old folks while showing an affection for for them.If you are living in a retirement community or know someone who is, this is a fun read.

    5-0 out of 5 stars As Yoko-Ono would say, "YES"
    More a series of essays than a book, Rodney Rothman gently muses about aging and retirement with an edgy wit that makes his cynically nostalgic look ahead at old age remarkably sweet, bitter and entertaining.I know what you're thinking -- it's not possible to "look ahead" with cynical nostalgia -- but, my friends, this clever book proves it is not only possible, but a welcome change from the sappy nostalgia with which most novels attempt to conquer the subject of old age.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Ahhhh. . . . .
    By the time I had read about 5 pages, I thought to myself, "Hmmmm, he's got a straight guy David Sedaris vibe to him." Well into his adventures in retirementworld, the Sedaris vibe proves to be a good thing. His take on the golden years is hilarious, honest, and not condescending. He has genuine affection for some of these folks, genuine disdain for some, and he's even envious and physically attracted to others. That's how REAL life goes -- it can be cruel, interesting, boring, hilarious, and delicious (or bland if you're at a cheap buffet eating scrod). I'm now loaning my copy of the book to all my friends. ... Read more


    2. The 36-Hour Day : A Family Guide to Caring for Persons With Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementing Illnesses, and Memory Loss in Later Life
    by Nancy L. Mace, Peter V. Rabins
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    Asin: 0446610410
    Catlog: Book (2001-04-01)
    Publisher: Warner Books
    Sales Rank: 1740
    Average Customer Review: 4.29 out of 5 stars
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    Updated with the newest information on Alzheimer's Disease and dementia, this bestselling book has remained the "bible" for families who are giving care toafflicted loved ones. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars This book is for your Entire Family; it is a survival guide.
    When our family first learned that our Mother had Alzheimer disease, we were devastated. After we all read "The 36-Hour Day", there was a great deal of relief. Although Alzhemier and other dementing illnesses can seem catastrophic, this book reads like a freindly family doctor givng you straight forward, no-nonsense advice. It covers all aspects of dealing with the family member, from explaining just what dementia is and how it can appear, to how you can deal with it appropriately without losing your patience or embarrasing your family member. Medical help, daily care, medical problems, behavior, mood, legal issues, common compassion and basic 'rules of thumb' are thoroughly covered. Several "examples" of previous family incidents are mentioned with thoughts on how to address each and every one. Great care has been crafted into this book and I highly recommend it. You will feel better, thus making the family member you are helping feel better.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Provides direction and help for caretakers and loved ones
    A truly remarkable book. It is well written, and very easy to read and follow, providing a background in this disease and what can/will happen to those afflicted. Providing extremely helpful insights and strategies for those of us who are caregivers, spouses, sons, daughters, and other family and friends. Personally, this book helped me to understand what was happening to my mother, helped me to be more understanding and less frustrated and annoyed with her. This book provides a great deal of insight and allows the reader to get a "feel" for the current situation and possible future situations. I have recommended this book to my personal physician to pass along to her other patients who may be in the same position as I am.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The Answers I Have Been Searching For
    It doesn't give medical advice, it doesn't give technical advice, although it provides resources for seeking such advice. What it does give are explanations and insights into the thinking of brain impaired persons, explanations for their behaviors, and advice on how to manage and cope with being their caregiver.

    These are exactly the answers I have been searching for. So many of my father's actions, reactions and behaviors are profiled in this book, and it's becoming clear that his decline had started many years ago with smaller incidents that we as his family had dismissed. The path of progression can be tracked, and even predicted. It will be helpful to know what's coming next and be prepared. But most important to me is the understanding of why. Being able to understand the why of his behavior helps me a great deal in being able to let go of the anger and to cope better with the situation that has recently escalated to horrific.

    In trying to manage the situation I have started taking anti-anxiety meds, as well as antidepressants and high blood pressure med. I have done all that I can to make changes within myself, yet things have gotten progressively worse. I am beginning to understand that these changes have been part of the problem in a sense in that I have become "unpredictable" to him in not reacting the way he expects me to.

    3-0 out of 5 stars A Fairly Clinical Approach to Alzheimer's Caregiving
    More than 3 million Americans are currently over 80 years old, and their numbers are expected to double by 2025. As the number of very old expands, the incidence of Alzheimer's disease and other forms of dementia will increase proportionately. Already at least 1 in 4 Americans cares for an elderly relative; in just a few years, a greater proportion will assume the mantle of caregiver to a dementia patient.

    I do not find this thought comfortable, nor did I find The 36-Hour Day comfortable reading. As the caregiver of an elderly person with Alzheimer's, I found this volume helpful with specific problems that often accompany Alzheimer's disease but much in need of updating in other areas, such as caring for the caregiver. Going to a counselor or buying a new dress may have been reasonable options in 1999. For many caregivers in 2004, they are too expensive to be considered.

    Recommended primarily as an overview of what to expect with specific dementia-related problems.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Caregiving
    Highly recommended, an excellent resource, a must-have when beginning the caregiving journey with a loved one with dementia. This book has been out for many years, is updated often, and continues to be one of the very best. It was one of the books that helped me when I had to care for my parents, both with dementia, and inspired me to write my own book, Elder Rage. ... Read more


    3. The New Retirement: The Ultimate Guide to the Rest of Your Life
    by Jan Cullinane, Cathy Fitzgerald
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    Asin: 1579547966
    Catlog: Book (2004-07-07)
    Publisher: Rodale Books
    Sales Rank: 6315
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    When is the right time to retire? Should you relocate, and if so, where? How can you make sure your money will last as long as you do? What kind of lifestyle will best suit your retirement years? Two million Americans reach retirement age each year, and they urgently need reliable information and guidance as they plan for the second half of their lives.

    Drawing on the expertise of the authors-who conduct retirement seminars and have traveled extensively investigating places to retire and talking to prospective retirees and those who have taken the plunge-as well as the insights of contributing experts in various fields, Retire Right is designed to be a comprehensive, all-inclusive resource.

    - Provides detailed information about particular locales, financial planning and tax considerations, lifelong learning opportunities, leisure and volunteer activities, and working after retirement

    - Includes interactive surveys, questionnaires, and worksheets to involve readers in the rewarding process of planning their ideal retirement

    - Delves into the psychological issues surrounding retirement

    Filled with practical information and advice, anecdotes, resources, and a healthy dose of humor, Retire Right is the one and only guide retirees will ever need.
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    5-0 out of 5 stars The New Retirement: A Holistic Approach!!!
    Finally........the retirement book that I have been looking for....and I have been doing a lot of looking this summer.

    I hope to retire in about 7 years and I have yet to find a retirement book (until this one!) that is truly A-Z in its scope. This book hit the spot specifically because it delved into the psychological and readiness aspects of retirement as well as doing a great job on explaining the typical financial and locational aspects of retirement. The psychological opportunities and pitfalls of retirement are discussed and supported with recent and credible psychological studies. This book really makes you think clearly and test yourself before jumping into that standard question: "Do I have enough enough in my 401-K to retire?"

    Yes, this book puts retirement planning all together in an easy-to-read "one stop shop" approach. Its delivered in a fun manner with straightforward and understandable language. I strongly advise anyone planning retirement to get this book!

    5-0 out of 5 stars The New Retirement: it works for me
    Does it seem like you've spent a life time searching for the perfect retirement planning guide? If so, now you can "retire" from your search. Nestled among the mountains of how-to books, I found something new ... and best of all ... something truly different. Authors Jan Cullinane and Cathy Fitzgerald offer readers a yellow brick road to the perfect retirement destination. Perfect because the destination you choose is based on your unique needs.

    You will not find a lock-step, "one size fits all" plan here. More than just informative, this book is inspirational. Turning these pages awakens your motivation to plan. Remember, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. So motivation to plan is the real key to retirement success. "New Retirement" opens the reader's mind to all the possibilities, and all the resources necessary to arrive in style when you get to retirement's door. Readers aren't just invited to drink the water, the authors get you to jump in and swim among a sea of options.

    Some say, "You can't judge a book by it's cover." Wrong. The book's cover design, created by Joanna Williams, is the best I've seen in my 25-plus years in the field of gerontology. Let's not forget, the first obstacle publishers must overcome is to "get people to pick up the book ... then read ... then plan ... then retire successfully. The cover design is bold, compelling, and a wonderful metaphor to those who believe our retirement outlook is sunny and bright ... with nothing but blue skies ahead. I predict a Best Seller.

    One other thing. When I began reading the book, I was pleased to notice the attention to detail. For example, right there in the book's acknowledgments, the authors note their financial experts are Certified Financial Planners, not just financial consultants. If you don't know the difference between these two professional groups, you really need this book. In fact, I'd advise, "Don't retire without it."

    Topics address issues related to time management, personal goal-setting, meaningful use of time (travel, education, voluntary service), extra income (second careers, consulting), retirement locations, legal and financial concerns, health and wellness, and checklists to facilitate comprehensive and sound retirement planning.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The only book you'll need!
    I've read through many retirement books and this one really has the most comprehensive approach. My husband and I are boomers looking to retire within the next 5 years. This book not only provides a great review of recommended locations (along with key website information!), it addresses a host of other considerations. I especially loved the checklists in the back. It is well written, informative and funny! ... Read more


    4. Retirement Places Rated: What You Need to Know to Plan the Retirement You Deserve, Sixth Edition
    by DavidSavageau
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    Asin: 0764544381
    Catlog: Book (2004-08-16)
    Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
    Sales Rank: 28234
    Average Customer Review: 4 out of 5 stars
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    Whether you're considering retirement or scouting out the best location for a second home, Retirement Places Rated is an invaluable sourcebook. For more than 20 years, people have turned to author David Savageau for help in choosing the perfect location, and now that the number of Americans who are reaching retirement age is greater than ever, this information is more valuable than ever before. Nearly 200 top retirement areas in the United States, both traditional and newly discovered, are profiled.They're ranked and compared for cost of living, climate, health care, economic factors, crime, services, cultural life, and recreation. Included are climate graphs, maps of retirement regions, comparison charts, and demographic profiles of each area. A special section on relocation resources helps you set your plans in motion once you've chosen where to live.This completely updated edition includes new locations and factors in the latest statistics. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Can't wait for next update!
    Though this book is currently from 1999, it still contains useful information. Having a sense of what you need, and the kind of life you'd like to life will help you to understand why's the book is organized as it is.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Bloodless
    This book is a total disappointment. It provides no sense of place, no feel for locales. It simply provides tables and statistics.

    It's a bloodless book. It's like picking a bride from a catalog with no pictures and no commentary -- just body measurements, IQ measurements, and test scores.

    The book is, in my opinion (of course), nearly useless.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book but a little dated?
    This book has just about all the information you will need to start your research on where and how to retire. It contains detailed information that you will need to plan your retirement budget. If this was a novel a copywrite date of 1999 would not matter but, this book contains cost-of-living, tax and housing costs information. One would have to take this into consideration when reading this book. It is well worth buying. There is no book that I know of that has this much detailed info in it.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Almost everything I wanted to know
    This book is filled with facts and figures about numerous retirement possibilities. I like the quantitative nature of the book, but wish there was more on the people and lifestyles of the different cities.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Quiz error
    This book is excellent and very detailed, but the personal profile quiz has mixed up the Service and Working categories. Letters D and E in the quiz should be interchanged. ... Read more


    5. Buckets of Money : How to Retire in Comfort and Safety
    by Raymond J.Lucia
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    Asin: 0471478660
    Catlog: Book (2004-02-20)
    Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
    Sales Rank: 6088
    Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars
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    A proven way to financially prepare for retirement

    Are you wondering if you can make your retirement savings last?
    Concerned about inflation reducing your purchasing power?
    Worried about the stock market’s violent swings?

    In Buckets of Money: How to Retire in Comfort and Safety, nationally recognized Certified Financial PlannerTM and radio personality Ray Lucia offers you a smart and conservative way to protect and grow your nest egg–so you can enjoy a comfortable retirement without worrying about your money running out.

    Developed by Lucia over his thirty-year career as a financial planner, the "Buckets of Money" technique is a proven way to achieve both income and growth, while guarding against the ravages of inflation. Buckets of Money is filled with in-depth insights and practical advice that will help you assess your retirement situation, save the money you need to last your entire lifetime, and adjust your plan to good times and bad.

    Regardless of your age, income, net worth, or investment experience, you need to have a solid plan for your retirement years. Buckets of Money provides you with such a plan, and shows you the best way to implement it. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Must Read
    I first became aware of Mr. Lucia and his "BrainTrust" (Rick Plum, Rob Butterfield, Jr., and John Dean) when his long-running (14 year) San Diego-based radio show went national and became syndicated with Business Talk Radio at the end of 2000; I thank the day I stumbled upon this sage. The show has become increasingly popular and now airs in around 60 markets. Once limited to the greater San Diego area, this show is now educating people all across the country. This book continues the process of finally bringing Ray Lucia to an even broader audience.

    Lucia's show and this book avoid the ridiculous "buy, sell, hold" approach that permeates the work of so many other financial gurus. This is not a "get rich quick" or "doom and gloom" book. Lucia does not pretend to know what direction markets or any individual security is going in the short-term. He sticks to what he knows (and what you need to know). This book is about much more than asset allocation and diversification. It is solid advice based on the prestigious 30-year career of Lucia and his highly competent associates.

    If you want books that teach you how to learn how to do a solid fundamental analysis of securities, I recommend the classics by Benjamin Graham, by Peter Lynch, by Philip Fisher, by Louis Engel and about Warren Buffett. If you want a book that takes a refreshing approach and truly carves out a niche by focusing on financial planning, Lucia's book is the book for you. In many ways, Lucia's book is a more relevant read than any of the above mentioned authors.

    Believers in an efficient market understand the other authors can only take you so far. Lucia takes you several steps further by sharing financial planning strategies that will work for everybody. This is what is lacking in the vast majority of financial literature. Authors spend too much time trying to tell you how to find the next Microsoft. In the process, they neglect powerful basic and advanced personal finance strategies and investment tools. This is what truly reduces risk and adds value to one's portfolio over time. The vast majority of investors will get more from Lucia's book than any other book they read in their lifetime.

    I enthusiastically recommend Lucia as must reading for any investor in any stage of his/her life. This is a great book for a grandfather to buy to read and pass on to his daughter, who can then pass it on to her son. People just starting out will greatly benefit from this book in that it will tell them as much about what not to do, as what to do. More sophisticated and astute investors will benefit from Lucia's empirical study based recommendations on how to allocate and balance one's portfolio. I have acquired more practical knowledge from Mr. Lucia than I have through my undergraduate studies, graduate studies, and other studies combined.

    It is a rare and refreshing treat to find someone in this field who not only has such a vast body of knowledge that he is willing to share, but is able to communicate it in such an articulate manner. Lucia not only recommends the right things, but he does things the right way. Lucia is altruistic and passionate. In terms of financial planning savvy, Lucia is by far the best of the financial gurus. In terms of the intangibles, in his words you will find a motivator who cares deeply about his family, his work, and sharing his vast body of knowledge with people from all walks of life so as one of his mottos goes, "You will be successful in your money, your business, and your life."

    Lucia may not (yet) get the press and hype of some of the other financial gurus that have television shows, radio shows, and books. However, if you read his book, you will see he is the premier guru in the country. If you don't agree with this comment after reading his book, I recommend you read his book twice and then listen to his radio show.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great tool for retirement
    I really enjoyed reading Ray's book, and it helped me to understand the "Buckets" philosophy he talks about on the radio. It's a great retirement strategy, although you do have to be somewhat disciplined at saving to make it all work properly. It also requires you to take money from only about 5% of your portfolio each year, which some people may or may not be able to do, so if you're used to taking huge chunks of cash from your savings each year you might not be able to follow it. It seems rather foolproof (which I like), and while it doesn't promise huge returns on your money (it's very conservative), it does make sure that you never run out of money even if we run into another "bad run" in the stock market. I wish I read it two years ago, but that's the breaks.

    I also enjoy his radio show, he's much better than that boring Ramsey guy that follows him. Maybe I'll get the nerve to call in one day and ask a question to the Braintrust!

    4-0 out of 5 stars Easy to understand
    This is not really a book about how to amass your retirement savings, but rather what to do with it when you are retired. The system is simple. You have 3 buckets. In bucket number 1 you put your money for the next 5-7 years. Bucket number 2 is for the next 5-7 year period after that. And finally, bucket number 3 is for the money you will not need for 10-14 years. The book then discusses the proper investment choices for each bucket, how to rebalance them when necessary.

    The plan makes sense and seems simple. The only part I was not entirely clear on is when to move items from bucket 3 to bucket 2. Maybe I missed it. In any case, the book was a good read and I plan on reading it again when I get closer to retirement.

    I'm looking forward to Ray's next book (the radio show is good too).

    5-0 out of 5 stars Really good book!
    I listen to Ray's radio show all the time and now that I've read the book I can understand the whole "Buckets" retirement strategy even better. It was easy to read and enjoyable! Thanks, Ray!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Simple, easy to understand retirement advice!
    Great book! Easy read! Helped me sort through my retirement options and I actually understood what he was talking about. Good radio show too! ... Read more


    6. Caring for Your Parents : The Complete AARP Guide
    by Hugh Delehanty
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    Asin: 1402717393
    Catlog: Book (2005-04-01)
    Publisher: Sterling
    Sales Rank: 2409432
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    Filled with inspiring stories from real people and packed with creative ideas, this thought-provoking book shows readers how to transform caregiving into an act of spiritual growth and personal discovery.

    Drawing on AARP's deep wellspring of expertise in the topic, AARP's Caring for Your Parents explains how to help your elderly parents improve their lives-with a difference. By revealing the wealth of knowledge we stand to learn from other cultures-specifically, those that venerate elders as keepers of priceless wisdom-this eye-opening book guides readers through a new, creative approach to caregiving that turns familial duty into a journey of emotional development and resolution.

    Based on a 32-page National Magazine Award-nominated special feature, Caring for Your Parents documents the innovative ways in which real people are coping with this age-old issue. Throughout the book you will also find useful, field-tested recommendations from AARP's staff of experts. Topics explored in depth run the gamut from locating quality health care to avoiding consumer scams to planning the disposition of an estate. There are also tips on designing your parents' house to make it more elder-friendly, navigating the hidden dangers of assisted living, and dealing with the invisible sibling issue. A resource guide in each chapter lists help lines, websites, and consumer action groups.

    Thirty million Americans are looking for a new, more effective approach to eldercare. Caring for Your Parents is the answer. By including the wisdom of ancient cultures within the pages of this thoroughly modern guide, the editors of AARP The Magazine have provided lessons that can be adapted to any family situation in a profoundly personal way.
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    7. Merck Manual of Health and Aging : The Complete Home Guide to Healthcare and Healthy Aging For Older People and Those Who Care About Them
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    Asin: 0911910360
    Catlog: Book (2004-05-18)
    Publisher: Pocket
    Sales Rank: 5893
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    Merck Pharmaceuticals have edited a clear and comprehensive reference for older adults.Dr. Mark Beers begins with the age-old questions: when does a person become old and why does the body change? The remainder of this guide is divided into preventive and active care for self and others. The list of topics is a virtual everything you want to know about aging: nutritional needs, finding a doctor, understanding tests, surgery and rehabilitation, and long term care. More than one hundred specific medical conditions including fractures, constipation, tinnitus, dental disease, and dementia are explained and cross referenced with useful details. Although a clinical explanatory model prevails, non-traditional methods such as acupuncture and homeopathy receive honorable mention. The guide takes an unflinching look at sexuality, end of life decisions, and mistreatment of elderly adults. Other practical c! hapters are devoted to driving dilemmas and navigating the Byzantine financing of health care. This information is punctuated with essays from older adults--including a cheeky Max Sendak cartoon. The essays, along with charts, photos, and illustrations help to lessen the book's encyclopedic tone. Many older adults and the people who care for them will welcome the well-organized format and richly detailed information of this guide. --Barbara Mackoff ... Read more


    8. America's 100 Best Places to Retire (all new third edition)
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    Asin: 0964421690
    Catlog: Book (2002-09-06)
    Publisher: Vacation Pubns Inc
    Sales Rank: 9642
    Average Customer Review: 4 out of 5 stars
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    This book blends highly readable personal accounts with essential statistics on climate, cost of living, taxes, housing costs, crime rates, and health care. ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Almost as good as the previous edition
    The change of authors from the second to third editions coincided with the publisher's decision to eliminate crime rate statistics from the compendium of worthwhile data in the latest volume. These stats were held to be skewed because of population fluctuations in popular vacation destinations, and that omission is unfortunate. The good news is that the articles are interesting, and the interviews that form the basis for these descriptions do much to bring each spot to life. This remains one of several good books to have at one's disposal. ... Read more


    9. How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free: Retirement Wisdom That You Won't Get from Your Financial Advisor
    by Ernie Zelinski
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    Catlog: Book (2004-03-01)
    Publisher: Ten Speed Press
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    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    Retirement does not have to mean the end of life—in fact it can mean a whole new beginning to the life you never had time to explore. In HOW TO RETIRE HAPPY, WILD, AND FREE, best-selling author Ernie J. Zelinksi shows that the key to enjoying an active and satisfying retirement is dependent on much more than just having adequate financial resources. It means paying attention to all aspects of life, including leisure activities, creative pursuits, physical and mental well-being, and solid social support. With its friendly format, lively cartoons, and captivating quotations, Zelinski’s guide offers inspirational advice on how to follow your dreams instead of someone else’s, how to put your retirement in proper perspective, and how to enjoy life after work. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Zelinski Again
    Who Wouldn't Want To Be Coached By A Guy Named Ernie Zelinski? That's the title of an article I wrote about Zelinski's other books. I love Zelinski. This time his book, How to Retire Happy, Wild and Free is about living, although it's disguised as a book on retirement. It is his best.

    I recommend the book for anyone under 27 years old because they are young enough to embrace the ideals of this book and shift their lives accordingly. They can choose to live the life their heart calls them too instead of the life the MBA drives them, too. After 27 years of age people get buried in delusions about the supposed necessities of life.

    I also recommend the book for people over 50. These people are now wise enough to know better and can embrace the attitudes of Zelinski's retirement long before they stop working for money. His definition of retirement is all about following your heart and is not based much on working for a living or not. Retirement is a state of mind, and you can apply many of the ideas in the book today to make your life happy, wild, and free.

    Zelinski is inspiring. Zelinski knows we are all creative; I agree. I am constantly urging my patients to have some creative pursuit in their lives. Here is what he says from the book:

    Once you retire, you too can reclaim your creative spirit and find an artistic pursuit that will ignite your inner fire. Your artistic pursuit -- whether it's painting pictures, writing poetry, or making pottery -- will rekindle a part of you that has been suppressed for years by the structure of a job and the routine of daily life. Not only can it make you feel more alive, an artistic pursuit can constitute the primary reason for your being.

    Ninety-five percent of books on retirement are about how to plan financially for the event, and they ignore the spirit of the matter. Zelinski goes for the heart as he always does. He shows oodles of evidence demonstrating money has little to do with satisfaction in retirement. It is about finding meaning in your life. It's about living happy, wild, and free. Isn't that something that would be useful at any age? It's what I want for you and for me. That and being able to wear aloha shirts or the equivalent whenever you want. Cha!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Retirement is not just about the money, it's about lifestyle
    Having been a financial advisor for more than 30 years, it is a refreshing relief to find a book that does not focus on the monetary issues of retirement. As principal of a company that helps people "design the best years of their life" this book is an excellent primer that is also entertaining. Contrary to the sub-title there is a slowly increasing number of advisors who have an equal focus on retirement lifestyle planning as they do on pure financial planning. The style of read is "appealing." This book will encourage the baby boom generation to explore what is possible for them in retirement, to be more and to contribute more to their communities. Life Planning Matters distributes this book to its clients - it makes a great gift!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Well worth the purchase and your time
    Ernie Zelinski's newest publication, entitled HOW TO RETIRE HAPPY, WILD, AND FREE (Ten Speed Press, 2004), is intended for pre-planners, retirees, and those who dream about leaving the restrictions of the daily grind. His often whimsical, yet essentially practical ideas are meant to assist in our making the best of life's pleasures. Like his very successful THE JOY OF NOT WORKING (Ten Speed Press, 2003), HOW TO RETIRE HAPPY, WILD, AND FREE is well thought out, upbeat, and a delight to read. Anyone contemplating retirement -- and I guess that means all of us -- could take a page from Zelinski's book about lifestyle considerations to make the daily activities in our new "life after work" not only full of purpose, but also full of enjoyment. This book is a primer on how the many opportunities found in retirement can help each of us be the person we always knew we were but were too busy to realize...

    I'd like to use the expression "right on the money" to characterize Zelinski's suggestions, but after completing this book or any of his others, readers will know that money is not the touchstone for a comparison. As Zelinski himself tells us: "the biggest mistake you can make with your retirement planning is to concentrate only on the financial aspects" (p.2)...Zelinski is methodical in revealing ways for us to be so engaged.

    I highly recommend that you purchase and read HOW TO RETIRE HAPPY, WILD, AND FREE. This is one book that will prepare you to keep smiling. ... Read more


    10. Still Here: Embracing Aging, Changing, and Dying
    by Ram Dass, Ram Dass, Mark Matousek, Marlene Roeder
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    Asin: 1573228710
    Catlog: Book (2001-06-01)
    Publisher: Riverhead Books
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    More than thirty years ago, an entire generation sought a new way of life, looking for fulfillment and meaning in a way no one had before. Leaving his teaching job at Harvard, Ram Dass embodied the role of spiritual seeker, showing others how to find peace within themselves in one of the greatest spiritual classics of the twentieth century, Be Here Now. Now, as many of that generation enter the autumn of their years, the big questions of peace and of purpose have returned, demanding answers. And once again, Ram Dass blazes a new trail, inviting all to join him on the next stage of the journey. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars This book contains the antidote for troubled times
    Ram Dass has once again established his role as mentor for those who seek solace at times of despair. The world situation at present set aside, this book dares to raise a mirror to our mortal fear of aging and dying. But that mirror doesn't reflect sagging skin, bruised egos, and loneliness of marching toward demise. Quite the opposite. Ram Dass re-cycles his always potent understanding of Eastern philosophy and focuses those tennants on our preoccupation with remaining youthful. His patient reiteration of the diferences among Ego, Soul, and Awareness leads him into a very warm, personal, sensitive aura of learning to embrace aging and dying as processes within the framework of the cosmos. The fact that he has had a debilitating stroke makes his words of nurturing and care all the more credible. This man knows how to write/think/share in a way that makes the reader feel as though this book is a private session with the guru. His personal experiences are good humored, delicate, and poignant. Here is a book we all need to read, to share, and to join in the obligation to enlighten our fellowmen about the entire cycle of being. It is food for contemplation, for immediate advice on how to help ouselves and our friends deal with "tragedy", and for sharing. Please read it.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Make this book a gift to yourself
    I first met Ram Dass when he spoke at Drake University in Des Moines many years ago. Such wit, charm, humor-and light! Since then I have read most of his books and have several of his audiotapes in my car, too. He never fails to make me laugh at my own failings-and keep going in spite of them. He also has helped me achieve a greater understanding about other people's failings, too-and what I can learn from them. His basic spiritual philosophy does not change, of course; after all, it is centuries old. But in his various books, he applies that philosophy to different situations, thus deepening and enriching my understanding of it. Now he applies his practiced spirituality to aging and dying, putting a whole new spin on the basic premise of learning to let go. This is a winner. All of his books are. I don't know if I will be able to laugh at my own death, but Ram Dass-with his humor, humanity, and wisdom-is helping me step back and consider my life and eventual passing in a more peaceful light. Light being the operative word, of course.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Ram Dass At His Best ... Guiding Us Again.
    Another epoch in our lives (us Baby Boomers) and Ram Dass is right there to point the way once more. I can't say enough about how appropriate this book is for anyone getting on in years that wants a proper approach towards aging with happiness and a spiritual focus.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Sorry I didn't think the reader fit the book
    This review only refers to the audio version. I must say that the book "Still Here" is WONDERFUL and has inspiring information on the personal journey of Ram Dass before and after his stroke...or as he would say-"he was stroked." Once you read the book version I recommend seeing the documentary "Fierce Grace". Keep in mind that the only reason I gave this a low rating was because the reader didn't match the spirit of Ram Dass!!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Plush Velvet Sometimes, Sometimes Just Pretzels and Beer
    Ram Dass explores the profundities and challenges of human frailty in a very personal way in Still Here: Emracing Aging, Changing and Dying. Written in part after Ram Dass's stroke in 1997, Still Here touches the core of weakness and all the bogeymen that come with it. Loneliness, embarrassment, powerlessness, loss of role/meaning, and depression are explored in the early part of the book--and that's all before Ram Dass gets to the good stuff. As in Journey of Awakening and Be Here Now, the author does a wonderful job of clearly explaining the cause of human suffering and its remedy.

    I bought this book because I wanted to better understand my grandmother's world and what my parents are beginning to face, but I ended up experiencing its apt relevance to 36-year-old me. ... Read more


    11. Alzheimer's Activities: Hundreds of Activities for Men and Women With Alzheimer's Disease and Related Disorders
    by B. J. Fitzray
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    Catlog: Book (2001-06-01)
    Publisher: Rayve Productions Inc
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    ALZHEIMER'S CAREGIVERS GET HELP . . .WITH A NEW BOOK FROM RAYVE

    Hundreds of Activities for Men and Women with Alzheimer's Disease and Related Disorders

    Contains an incredible compilation of creative activities and fascinating information that will benefit both Alzheimer's caregivers and patients. The 288-page, idea-packed book has suggestions for everyday and special-occasion activities, and facilitates communication between caregiver and AD patient with helpful details about social eras the patient may have experienced during his or her lifetime, U.S. holidays, religious holy days, and modern invention timelines. In addition, there are topic-appropriate questions to ask the patient, tips for successful activities, caregivers' anecdotes, resource lists, encouraging words, and much more. (See Contents below). ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THIS BOOK.
    This book is brilliant......I am a RAO, and I use this book daily when I am doing documentation.....The appropiate words are jumping out for you to use and why you are doing the various activities to stimulate the elderly....as I have said it is just brilliant and a must to have....

    5-0 out of 5 stars Activities for both daily and special occasions
    Family and professional caregivers of Alzheimer's patients now have a unique and very book which can identify appropriate activities for various levels of Alzheimer patients. Almost 300 pages outlines the activities for both daily and special occasion celebrations, with tips on how to ask the patient for input, resource lists, caregivers' anecdotes, and more. Invaluable. ... Read more


    12. Reverse Aging
    by Sang Y. Whang
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    Asin: 0966236319
    Catlog: Book (1998-01-01)
    Publisher: Jsp Publishing
    Sales Rank: 25317
    Average Customer Review: 4.25 out of 5 stars
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    Not science fiction, but a scientific fact!This book is the first common sense scientific explanation of the aging process and "how to" reverse it.The nutrients that we deliver to our cells burn with oxygen and become acidic wastes after giving energy to our body.The body tries its best to get rid of these acidic wastes through urine and perspiration.Unfortunately, our lifestyle, diet and environment prevent our body to get rid of all the wastes that it generates.Gradually, these leftover acidic wastes accumulate somewhere within our body.Since acid coagulates blood, the blood circulation near the waste areas becomes poor, causing all kinds of degenerative diseases to develop.The author defines the aging process as the accumulation of non-disposed acidic wastes within the body.According to this theory, the reduction of accumulated wastes is re verse aging.This book explains how some of the adult degenerative diseases are caused by too much acidic wastes, and describes the various scientific devices and methods to reduce these wastes without any harmful side effects.These devices and methods are being wid ely used in Japan.Alkaline water makers (water ionizers) have been in existence in Japan for more than 40 years.Many in the alternative health industry of water ionizers, magnet and far-infrared devices regard this book as the most comprehensive and up-to-date reference book of its kind in the English language.It is a "must read" for all who are health-conscious. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Acid/Alkaline Hype will die down soon enough
    Sorry to disappoint all of you who are pumped about about the acid/alkaline theory. The author of this book makes it seem as if we will all become champions by drinking water with a high pH. This just isn't true, for several reasons.

    The authors research is based on nothing. It's based on his opinion, which is foolish. He throws in a whole bunch of scientific jargon, as if its going to win us all over. The fact is, drinking water with a high pH can be detrimental to your health, not positive. Putting those drops in your water "clusters" the water, making the molecules smaller, thereby hydrating the body more than regular water. This is bad because it tricks the body into overhydrating, and can wreak havoc in your stomach. Dr. David Wheeler points this out on his site thoroughly.

    Again, don't want to disappoint the fans of this theory, but there's a lot more to it than drinking alkaline water to become healthy. Half the people who drink this water will become too alkaline, and could do some serious damage, like not producing stomach acid anymore. It's happened to thousands.

    I urge you all to do natural things. Not use medication, like Alkaline water. It IS indeed medicine. The body WILL try to reject it.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Reverse Aging
    Dr Sang Whang Gets It!...Daily Wellness- and So Simple! This is not rocket science, but a straight forward explanation of how our bodies change from alkaline to acid over the years by what we consume and breathe daily and why we suffer from the diseases and illnesses that we do, chronic or just annoying. It is Reverse Aging simple put, but also a way to daily wellness. It is so simple, but we seem to like "complicated". The ease of adding a few alkaline drops to your daily liquids that you prepare, drink, eat makes such a big difference in the balance of our body's PH. Dr Whang is easy to understand and you'll read the book in one sitting and then you'll reread it and tell all your friends and family! This is book for all ages as is explains the process of acid waste accumulation and its impact on our total body function. He addresses why we get the maladies and organ dysfunction that we do in our younger days and advancing years. This makes sense- hesitate no longer! Health and wellness readiness is yours today- read Reverse Aging NOW and get those drops from his website! You will wonder why you ever hestitated. Today! NO excuses - read this book!Make it a gift for yourself and others. You will be glad you did.

    4-0 out of 5 stars A very valuable book
    Forward-thinking health theorists stress the need for our bodies to be less acidic. Civilization and laziness have led most of us to detrimental eating habits, one result being acidic bodies. If you want to test your acidity all you need is ph testing paper from the health food store. Test your urine. Then try to get more alkaline. It isn't easy.

    Dr Whang safely assumes that most of us will not easily change our behavior. His recommendation is to use ionized water which is indeed very effective at impacting acid conditions. He has several other interesting theories as well.

    I have been using ionized water for two months and see many internal improvements that reach beyond an increasingly better acid balance. Some of the true believers in ionized water consider the alkalinity to be only one potential benefit of the water. Do some web searching for further information.

    If you read all of the reviews of this book you will find some that are cautionary. The reasoning and backup for these opinions is somewhat thin, but this is true of information in general on ionized water. I have read much of what I can on this matter and suggest that you do the same. For myself I believe the material in the book to be very valuable. For the immediate future I will use ionized water as a health supplement. Based on what I have seen and read I hope that it will be an ongoing aid in the effort to find balanced health...

    A recommendation for an inexpensive batch ionizer to get started (no affiliation whatsoever)...hiddencures.com

    1-0 out of 5 stars Recipe for stomach pain!
    I read this book and was thoroughly convinced that the author was onto something big. I purchased his special product that alters the PH of water to help alkalize your system. I began to experience strange stomach pains. It took me many months to ferret out that it was his product that was causing it! I tried another bottle: same problem. It didn't matter when I took it or whether I took it with or without food and/or other supplements.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Who would have thought it so simple...
    I think this is an important and essential addition to all self-help libraries. Mr. Whang explains very simply the workings of the body. I have been interested in nutrition for some time and have learned over the years to eat "basic," that is, emphasizing foods that balance the body's pH... lemons, for instance, I learned, although acid in taste actually have a basic effect on the body. Most foods used in their natural form do also.

    But good heavens with the introduction of modern, refined and processed foods as well as the various prevalent pollutants that we spill into our environment, the aging process has sped up while degenerative diseases have increased. Now I wouldn't recommend this water as a plethora. Rather it is good to use while making some other corrections to one's diet as well, beginnning with cutting back on the carbonated drinks and other various highly sugar-laced and/or overly processed food stuffs!

    I think he has a very original idea with the ionizer and the drops! In France there is the Dr. Kousmine who has also thought and taught along those lines, advising patients to take alkalizing salts when urine pH is too acidic.

    I especially appreciated his middle-of-the-road-no-excess philosophy, so important in matters of health, MODERATION being the key word. Let's face it, we wouldn't even be needing this water if we hadn't already broken a few of the rules along the way... But even too much of a good thing can be bad. With that in mind, don't over do it with the basic water... BALANCE being the main goal!

    Thanks Mr. Whang for this great and very simple-to-use idea! ... Read more


    13. 101 Secrets for a Great Retirement : Practical, Inspirational, & Fun Ideas for the Best Years of Your Life!
    by MaryHelen, ShufordSmith
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    Asin: 0737304200
    Catlog: Book (2000-09-11)
    Publisher: McGraw-Hill
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    More than 5,000 people retire every day--yet there have been no retirement books that are both informative and motivational until now.101 Secrets for a Great Retirement encourages and inspires retirees to simplify their lives and pursue their dreams.The authors cover all the essential topics, including health, social life, relationships, financial matters, legal issues, and more.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Great book for those facing retirement in a few years
    This is a much more practical book than some of the "100 things you can do when retired" books that suggest babysitting, dogwalking or other simplistic ideas. Mary Helen Smith lists 101 things you should think about or do, like consider what is "quality of life"--for example, downsizing your house versus staying in an expensive piece of real estate, and listing government programs for retirees, something you may not know about. In addition, she stresses understanding about money. Once you are on a fixed income, and one that is possibly lower than your salary, you must deal with money in a different manner. Now is the time to learn about finances and money, not after you've gotten your first social security check. With many millions of people hitting retirement or near-retirement age from the Baby Boom, this is a really good starting-off point to plan out your coming retirement years. Highly recommended.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Practical inspiration
    I'm impressed by how much information is packed into the conversational style of this book. An abundance of practical information is available without it feeling tedious. Your approach is positive, encouraging, and realistic. Maslow and intuition are acknowledged. Caring ways to honor yourself and others are gently and directly suggested. Thank you for writing a helpful book that will positively affect the lives of those who read it. ... Read more


    14. Too Young to Retire: 101 Ways to Start the Rest of Your Life
    by Marika Stone, Howard Stone
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    Asin: 0452285577
    Catlog: Book (2004-04-01)
    Publisher: Plume Books
    Sales Rank: 19864
    Average Customer Review: 4.55 out of 5 stars
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    With Americans living longer, healthier lives, the conventional idea of retirement is obsolete.Millions of Americans are working past the age of sixty-five—not because they have to, but because they want to.Many, like Marika and Howard Stone, discover second careers, start their own businesses, or go back to school.

    Based on the popular website 2young2retire.com, Too Young to Retire offers inventive and exciting retirement alternatives to help readers find their labors of love, inner activists, or how to make a home away from home. Enlightening exercises and workbook pages as well as a comprehensive list of publications, home exchange organizations, and websites are included to assist readers in making meaningful choices.For those who aren’t ready to throw in the towel, Too Young to Retire is the essential resource for discovering what comes next. ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars An Enticing and Useful Guide For All Aging Baby Boomers!
    For anyone interested in how the rapid changes in our society have affected traditional ideas about retirement, this book provides a wonderful resource that not only questions a variety of traditional notions regarding aging and retirement, but also provides a plethora of thought-provoking considerations that help us to reconsider both the fact of growing older and the idea of retirement as they are currently viewed in this culture. Of course, the fact that I have already retired from one profession and am rapidly approaching the same conclusion with a brief secondary teaching career may make me the perfect candidate for such a book.

    Yet I must admit that while I do not fully agree with many of the particulars that authors Marika and Howard Stone so enthusiastically espouse, I do find their overall message regarding the exciting possibilities for individual achievement and continuing contribution that such a life situation offers the retirement-eligible individual or couple. They embark from the substantial philosophical position carved out by former academic Theodore Roszak ("The Making of a Counterculture") in his absorbing tome, "America The Wise, The Longevity Revolution and the Wealth of Nations"(see my review), pointing out the facts associated with the new and burgeoning potential of the so-called baby boomer generation which is rapidly approaching retirement age with an incredible reserve of both financial and human resources at its disposal. Both Roszak and the Stones both argue for unleashing the human potential in a wave of creative activity, which is socially useful, and personally enriching.

    What this book represents, then, is an eminently useful and immensely practical resource for people hoping to restructure their expectations, values, and personal experiences about what the retirement years are going to mean for them. Given the realities that traditional ideas about retirement are undergoing a revolution, the Stones provide the reader with an easy way through the maze toward a better understanding of what all the options are, as well as how to evaluate and assess these options and opportunities for a better and more fulfilling experience in the later years of life. And while the Stones find the mantra of life to be closely connected to work and expression through one's livelihood, they are wise enough to recognize other options for others, and encourage the reader to explore whatever seems valuable and worthwhile. This is a wonderful book, a delicious treat for those of us anxiously peering over the fence into the retirement years and wondering what to make of it all. Enjoy!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Especially for anyone over the age of 62
    Motivational speaker Howard Stone and yoga teacher Marika Stone team up in Too Young To Retire: An Off-The-Road Map To The Rest Of Your Life to present readers with a down-to-earth instructional guide which is drawn from the authors own lives as a couple, their research, and several assorted case histories in order to present practical and effective alternatives to retirement -- including stimulating work and community service. From opportunities to earn money or participate in business, to volunteering one's time, to traveling for fun and profit, Too Young To Retire is an exciting and dynamic self-help instructional guide for charting new possibilities for the future and highly recommended reading -- especially for anyone over the age of 62 and not ready for the rocking chair/nursing home slide into oblivion.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Save Your Money and Skip This One
    Unless you are a far-left political idealist; "open-minded," as Mr. and Mrs. Stone say, their book offers little useful information for retirees.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Why Retire when you can Review?
    "It is already clear the 21st Century will demand more of all of us, young or old. The gifts we are given ? longevity, better health, education and financial resources ? come with responsibility. After all, we have inherited and even helped create a world that needs our wisdom, experience, and compassion now."

    I've always thought the idea of retiring to be a strange concept. Why would you just give up your entire life? Even if you gave up your job should there not be other interests you would pursue, perhaps even more aggressively than your previous job.

    It has been said that a "hobby" is more the man than his "job." I jest not when I say reviewing can be quite a great job/hobby.

    The authors explain how to awaken the inner activist or volunteer. Chapter 5 gives a list of 101 Opportunities you could pursue. I know for sure there is a need for professional people who can keep giving their talents to society. Some of the ideas include:

    Relocation Specialist
    Personal Coach
    Home Tutor
    Travel Writer
    Yoga Teacher
    Massage Therapist
    Author
    Executive chef
    Cabaret Singer

    You might be thinking, "Hey, those sound more fun than what I'm doing now!" I personally like the "author" and "massage therapist" idea.

    The authors explain how life is uncharted territory. How we live in a culture preoccupied with wealth. Are we not living our lives to find our deepest purpose?

    The Contents Include:

    Money - The Prose of Life
    It's Not Working
    It Is Working - Volunteering Revisited
    101 Opportunities for the Open-Minded
    Toward Wellness
    Radical Departures
    Resources

    After you read this book, you will wonder if retirement really represents the "good life."

    Well if you take Chapter 7 into account and start traveling the world, this might be just the bliss your soul has been craving. I also "loved" the idea of becoming a care taker. Who would not want to go live in a beautiful location as a property manager?

    This book is about living in the moment and seeing your new freedom as an excuse to do exactly what you love.

    Creative and Wise!

    4-0 out of 5 stars To retire or not to retire, that is the $ question
    The couple that worte "Too Young to Retire" tried out the idea of a Sunbelt retirement in Palm Springs and ended up realizing that this was not the life they'd had in mind. Is retirement meant to be living at 70% of your income, completely at leisure in a warm climate, or do you want something more challenging, such as a new career?

    The Stones give alternatives to the leisure life, including ideas for new types of jobs such as doula (childbirth coach), Navy contract teacher, and housecleaner.

    The only vague part of the book is that it doesn't give a complete picture about health insurance; this can be quite a burden financially and fraught with dangers until you can qualify for Medicare. Even COBRA's (carry-over insurance from your employer) are expensive for family coverage and can be a significant part of your (now-reduced) retirement income unless you get another job that has benefits.

    But I certainly support the Stones' assertion that retirement can be a lot more than golfing and bingo, and if you are of the same suspicion about your own leanings, this book may give you some sharp ideas about life alternatives to that Florida condo. ... Read more


    15. Get a Life: You Don't Need a Million to Retire Well, Fourth Edition
    by Ralph E. Warner, Ralph Warner
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    Asin: 0873378377
    Catlog: Book (2002-11-01)
    Publisher: Nolo.com
    Sales Rank: 49988
    Average Customer Review: 4.31 out of 5 stars
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    The financial-service industry wants you to believe that in order to avoid financial destitution, you need to put aside huge amounts of money that you -- let's say it together -- "should have begun saving years ago."

    Not true, states Warner, the author of Get a Life. Although a sensible savings plan makes good horse sense, many other actions and decisions will determine whether you enjoy your retirement years.

    Get a Life shows you how to beat the anxiety surrounding retirement, and to develop a plan to make your golden years the best of your life by:

    * developing family relationships
    * maintaining and creating friendships
    * improving health
    * keeping active
    * developing a robust curiosity for the world
    * realistically calculating how much money you need and how to secure it

    Interviews with successful (and successfully) retired people illustrate how to put Warner's advice into action. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars One of the best all round books on planning for retirement
    As a former Certified Financial Planner, I recommended this book to many of my clients who are seriously planning their retirements. Warner has done a great job putting things in the proper perspective with a book that is an "easy read". While adequate money is important to a satisfactory retirement (and helping clients build a satisfactory net worth was how I made my living), I do find, as has Warner, that there are more important things such as health, friends, and a purpose (i.e., reasons to get up in the morning) when it comes to planning out one's retirement. I frequently ask clients what they plan to do when they retire. When they say "go fishing" or "play golf", I then ask them what they plan to do the second week/month/year. And I keep asking the question until they realize that its a serious one. Warner takes it further with discussion and clear examples. In short, a must read for anyone approaching retirement.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Another valuable book from Nolo Press
    Get a Life Stresses the importance of planning ahead.

    It notes that older people who have happy marriages, plenty of friends and warm relationships with other members of their famlies live longer than older people who don't. So it tells how to improve family ties, make new friends to replace the ones who die and work at having a happy marriage.

    It has a useful chapter about health and fitness which you should supplement with three other books: Fats that Heal, Fats that Kill, by Udo Erasmus; The Healing Nutrients Within, by Eric Braverman and any book by Barry Sears about his Zone Diet.

    It tells how to avoid nursing homes or pay for them if you can't avoid them. It has tips about buying used cars and pre-paying mortgages.

    Chapter 8 surveys where your retirement money will come from. It tells how to save enough for retirement, even if you think it's impossible. And it presents what it calls the savvy peasant's investment guide. Here it covers bank savings accounts, bank certificates of deposit, money market accounts, U.S. Treasury bills, U.S. Government bonds and notes, municipal bonds, corporate bonds, stock, stock mutual funds, variable annuities, immediate or fixed annuities, real estate and precious metals and exotic investments.

    4-0 out of 5 stars One of the best
    I read someones comments, that there is "too much deperveration" in this book. I think they need to re-read it. The whole point is NOT to have too little, but to have what's right. This book confirms my long held belief that you can save "too much" and miss what's good for the now. On the other hand, chances are you will live a good while, so you cannot neglict that either. This book shows how to do both. The mindset of many people is just plain wrong, and this book, even if you don't agree with it, shows another way of thinking. Based on the retired people I know, it rings VERY true. Health, Friends, Family are first, the money part can be managed. You should read this book. It's very good.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Change your thinking about retirement!
    As someone who will probably retire within the next dozen years, I was beginning to wonder whether the doom-sayers were right: I don't have a million bucks in savings or a fat stock portfolio, so was I being foolhardy in assuming that I'd have enough to live on comfortably in my old age? This book was tremendously reassuring. Some of the author's main points are: (1) The difference between a happy, fulfilling retirement and "waiting for the undertaker" is not money but quality of life -- family, friends, good health, and meaningful activities that give you a reason to get up in the morning. (2) It's possible to estimate fairly accurately how much money you'll need to live on after you retire, and in most cases it's nowhere near the "70% of your present income" that the doom-sayers insist that you need to maintain your present lifestyle. (3) The loudest doom-sayers are the ones who are trying to sell you retirement plans! The author tells readers how to access a free set of "retirement calculators" on the Nolo Press web site to assist them in financial planning, and that alone is worth the price of the book. But what really "made" the book for me was his many interviews with happily retired people from all sorts of backgrounds and economic levels -- just reading about them was a real upper. There are plenty of books on how to provide for your retirement financially, but this is the only one I know of that adequately addresses the REST of your life. Read it!!

    1-0 out of 5 stars Too much deprivation
    If you never spend money you won't have to worry about running out of money before you die. But who really wants to live that way? Isn't there some happy medium between this book's do-without message and the other books trying to tell us how to save and invest? ... Read more


    16. Retirement Bible (Bible)
    by LynnO'Shaughnessy
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    Asin: 0764552457
    Catlog: Book (2001-01-15)
    Publisher: Wiley
    Sales Rank: 23203
    Average Customer Review: 4.93 out of 5 stars
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    Your one-stop guide for all you need to know about the ins and outs of planning a successful retirement -- it's never too early to start. Indside the Retirement Bible you'll find:

    • How to play the retirement savings game -- putting together and sticking to a retirement check list
    • Tips on cutting through the clutter of financial advisors -- your best sources for finding them, the questions to ask them, matching their services with your needs
    • The inside scoop on private money managers -- should you hire your own?
    • 401K contribution strategies -- getting the 401K you deserve, escaping a potential 401K nightmare, and alternatives for your 401K when you leave a job
    • Stock picking 101 -- how stocks measure up, value versus growth, mutual funds, and new alternatives
    • Establishing trusts -- ten steps in creating a great trust
    • and much, much more!
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    5-0 out of 5 stars This book's a winner!
    LYNN O'SHAUGHNESSY is a terrific wirter who has written a book that combines remarkable readability with comprehensive coverage of financial aspects of retirement. As in her prior book THE UNOFFICIAL GUIDE TO INVESTING and her most recent book THE INVESTING BIBLE, she puts her journalist's skills to good use having thoroughly researched this subject and written for a spectrum of readers ranging from those first approaching the subject to those already quite sophisticated.

    While lots of others have written about calculating how much you need to have (or to save) for retiremeent and about stocks, bonds, and mutual funds, she covers these beautifully but also covers oft neglected topics: finding the right financial experts, investing and spending strategies during retirement, a nice introduction to estate planning and trusts, managing the family dynamics of inheritance, and the role of charitable giving in retirement income and estate planning. She has also included a thorough and well researched "resource guide" listing by topics the best of names, addresses, phone numbers, and website addresses for further help and study.

    Just how good is this book? Good enough that we've given it as a present to good friends who also hope to one day retire comfortably.

    5-0 out of 5 stars This book is a winner!
    I just love this book. Other books on retirement just seem so shallow. This one is truly comprehensive, and it is written in a way that I understand! The part that sold me was in the acknowledgements, when the author jokes that this book is big enough to be a lethal weapon. The Retirement Bible is the perfect resource for anybody who dreams about retiring someday, which should cover just about everybody. And Lynn O'Shaughnessy certainly has a way with words.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Lives Up to the High Standards of Its Namesake
    Introduction. Aiming to be a one-stop source for all things retirement related, the Retirement Bible largely succeeds in accomplishing its goal. Presenting sound and authoritative advice in a well-organized package, the book is appropriate for anyone at any age who is interested in planning for that important yet often neglected milestone in life: retirement.

    Traditional retirement plans. The book begins by covering the media-ignored pair consisting of Social Security and pension plans. Despite the chapter title of "Gambling on Social Security," the author takes an overall optimistic perspective on the matter, arguing that the system will still be around a century from now due to political forces. That being said, the recommendation is wisely made that the rising generation's "best strategy is to plan for less." On the subject of pensions, the author chastises the media for rarely mentioning the topic, even though almost half of private-sector workers still have them.

    Finding expert advice. The book next presents--in rather excruciating detail--a full three chapters on locating and using financial experts of various kinds. While the information is essentially useful, I felt the subject could have been covered in a single, pithy chapter. However, the author presented a well-formulated case for taking advantage of the experts. For most services, the author's apparent bias is toward the CFP designation, and fee-only planners are recommended.

    Common retirement vehicles. With a solid foundation to build upon, the retirement vehicles themselves are introduced, starting with 401(k)s. I particularly enjoyed the section titled "The Six Worst 401(k) Mistakes." It presented in no uncertain terms the landmines that can explode in one's face when dealing with this common retirement plan. Additionally, a great review was provided of the standards that a high quality 401(k) should meet.

    When it came to IRAs, I felt the author assumed too much foreknowledge on the part of her readers. She talked a great deal about IRAs but never quite said what they are. Likewise, the explanation of IRA rollovers was given too early and was confusing. I also found the separate chapter solely devoted to inherited IRAs to be unnecessary, overly specialized, and ultimately fruitless.

    Stocks and mutual funds. The Retirement Bible beautifully explains stock picking and its related jargon. It is mildly conservative and declares that market timing is a waste of time. In short, the advice is to "Buy and Hold and Hold and Hold." In one of the author's shining moments, she gives the best explanation I have ever read of how economic factors like interest rates and inflation affect the stock market. She further acknowledges that individual stock investing is not for everyone; nevertheless, thoughtful advice is provided on creating a balanced portfolio this way.

    As one thus might guess, the author raves about mutual funds. In particular, she expounds upon the virtues of index funds many times throughout the book. Mutual funds and other investments with high expense ratios are her greatest enemy, it seems, and on their heels are unnecessary taxes.

    Bonds. This area has always confused me, and the Retirement Bible was perfect on this point. It began at the ground level, stating that "a bond is an IOU." The book pointed out that guessing interest rate movements is essentially pointless and recommended laddering bonds. Rather than being content to leave bonds as the only fixed-income investment to choose from, the author also wisely discussed alternatives.

    Withdrawal tactics. In a smart move, the author sets up realistic expectations for her readers in saying that many assumptions must be made in planning for cashing in one's retirement funds. Unfortunately, to mitigate the uncertainty of retirement planning she goes overboard in repeatedly extolling the virtues of Monte Carlo simulations at least three times throughout the book.

    General comments. As alluded to above, the author's overall approach to investing is to be risk averse without being overly constrained. "Trying to outsmart the market is futile," she proclaims. While the subject is certainly debatable, I for one concur with her feelings. Likewise, I agree with the constant touting of index funds as the major core of a person's portfolio; I will follow this advice.

    Despite the reality that the author does "take sides" in certain instances, one of the Retirement Bible's strongest points is its simple and unbiased approach. In fact, the constant barrage of "Advantages of..." and "Disadvantages of..." sections almost becomes a cliché as one nears the book's end.

    As also mentioned earlier, the author sometimes assumes too much foreknowledge of her readers. In the chapter called "A Primer on Trusts," for example, the fundamental definition of the term trust is never provided. Additionally, some terminology is simply used in a confusing manner. The terms bond and fixed-income investment are frequently used as synonyms even after the author has just finished explaining how utilities, convertible securities, preferred stock, and REITs are types of fixed-income investments.

    Another interesting quirk I noticed about the book is a slight but noticeable bias toward recommending certain companies over and over. Specifically, these were Vanguard, Fidelity, and T. Rowe Price. While the ostensible reason for this practice is that these institutions are low-cost leaders in their field, I still found myself getting the feeling at times that other companies out there had to be offering some useful services, as well.

    Finally, the most major suggestion I would make to the author is to include a chapter that "ties things together," so to speak. At times, one feels as if stocks, funds, bonds, IRAs, 401(k)s, and the like are being discussed within a vacuum. I would have greatly enjoyed a chapter that brought the concepts together in a more meaningful manner than what is already provided.

    Conclusion. Though not a perfect book, the Retirement Bible for the most part lives up to its name. It covers a wide range of subjects while presenting simple, easy-to-follow advice that likely fits well with the risk profile of the average investor. It is, therefore, a fitting bible for retirement planning.

    5-0 out of 5 stars O'Shaughnessy Bibles are Must-Haves
    Lynn O'Shaughnessy has written two books, 'The Investing Bible' and 'The Retirement Bible,' that complement each other and provide the reader with all of the vital information necessary for making sound financial decisions. The books are written with such clarity and consistency that I have discarded five others on similar subjects because they could not compare with these. I've given copies of both books to my daughter who has joined a surgery practice and needs to become more financially astute. I hope the author will update these two superb texts periodically.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Re-Review of my original rating of this book
    I may have erred in my previous commentary about exchange traded funds. They may, in fact, be "open-ended" funds, meaning that they trade at the net asset value at any instant in time during a trading day, rather than at at a premium or discount as closed end funds do. If I have erred, MEA CULPA! Since I have no proof that my original comment is valid, I've upped my rating on this "bible" to 5 stars. ... Read more


    17. Alzheimer's Early Stages: First Steps for Family, Friends, and Caregivers
    by Daniel Kuhn, David A., Md. Bennett
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    Asin: 0897933974
    Catlog: Book (2003-03-01)
    Publisher: Hunter House (CA)
    Sales Rank: 18001
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    This edition includes the latest information on Alzheimer’s risk factors, treatments, and prevention, as well as a new chapter, "Voices of Experience," composed of reflections by family members. It also provides information about new drugs approved since 1999 and the federal government’s decision to cover counseling and other health-related services through Medicare. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Best Road Map for Families
    I wish this book had been available when I started the caregiving journey with my parents, both with (mis-diagnosed) early stage Alzheimer's disease. I had to learn everything the hard way. Knowledge is power and this book will explain all the details your doctor doesn't have time to tell you. If you know anyone starting down this path with elderly loved ones, this is a book they will thank you for.

    I also interviewed Mr. Kuhn on my radio program, "Coping With Caregiving" (wsRadio.com) and was impressed further by his vast knowledge and by the way he explained Alzheimer's early stage, which is so easily overlooked by families as well as physicians.

    Jacqueline Marcell, Author of "Elder Rage, or Take My Father...Please! How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents."

    5-0 out of 5 stars Still the leading book in the field
    When the first edition of this book appeared in late 1999, it became the antidote for the scary books about Alzheimer's disease that have dominated the literature since the 1980s. By focusing on the early stages of the disease, Kuhn provides the right dose of help and hope to those struggling to come to terms with the myriad changes in roles and responsibilities of all concerned. The second edition provides updated information while leaving intact positive messages about living with Alzheimer's and not merely surviving through it. A new chapter gives voice to experienced family members who share valuable lessons. This book provides accurate information about the disease and useful tips that enable family members, friends and interested professionals to cope with someone's memory loss and other thinking problems. It's the one book that should be read by all starting down this difficult road. And doctors should be writing down this title on a prescription pad! ... Read more


    18. Talking to Alzheimer's: Simple Ways to Connect When You Visit with a Family Member or Friend
    by Claudia J. Strauss
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    Asin: 1572242701
    Catlog: Book (2002-01-09)
    Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
    Sales Rank: 18696
    Average Customer Review: 4.43 out of 5 stars
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    Few books manage to balance practical suggestions and loving sympathy as well as Talking to Alzheimer's, a concise and comprehensive guide to communication with both paid caregivers and their patients. While the title suggests focus on a specific disease, the recommendations are appropriate for any family struggling with serious communication issues, whether those issues are the result of stroke, surgery, disease, or an accident.

    Much of the book discusses methods of easing conversation during visits, as well as ways to manage the emotions that can surface in difficult times. From asking open-ended questions like, "How did your day go?" to gently reintroducing yourself to lifelong friends, the pointers here are written with kindness, and they focus on maintaining dignity for all involved. Short sections include tips on involving children in your visits and a welcome list of resources that spans organizations, Web sites, and additional books; this straightforward advice even includes expected response time to Web site inquiries. Instead of an index, you'll find a list of topics, so you can find immediate answers on "ending a conversation" and "when to insist."

    One lengthy chapter covers the heartbreakers, such as dealing with refusals to eat or listening to tearful requests to be taken home. Author Claudia Strauss acknowledges the difficulty of these situations honestly, while at the same time providing simple words that can help diffuse the issues and open the path for joyful visits that benefit everyone involved. --Jill Lightner ... Read more

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    2-0 out of 5 stars Misleading Title
    Based on the previous reviews, I thought this book would have some helpful techniques for conversing with my grandmother and father-in-law who are both suffering from Alzheimer's. However, this book is geared towards volunteer care/visitors, not family. A lot of the techniques suggested would not work if you are a family member of a Alzheimer's patient. It was definitely not the worth the money!

    4-0 out of 5 stars What to say besides "how are you?"
    Especially helpful were the phrases to say. I needed a substitue for " How are you today?" I purchased this book because I volunteer in an Alzheimer's facility.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Guide for Training Caregivers
    As a middle stage Alzheimer [aka CRSer], it has been my burden, duty and responsibility to train my Caregivers in how to communicate with me. This has been psychologically draining, and I have wished for a simple guide, so that I could say what works and does not work in caring for this rapidly deteriorating newly discovered "Dependant."

    There is a well known acronym, K.I.S.S., which is inaccurately translated as "Keep It Simple, Sweetie(?)." As an educator, I have always encouraged the use of trots, Cliff Notes, Classic Comics, and the "Idiot's Guide" series. All of these are written to inform unknowing readers in depth of subjects of interest, in simple understandable terminology. "Talking to Alzheimer's" is just such a tome. I have strongly recommended it to the facilitors of my Berkeley ALZ Support Groups, as a Bible or Koran for recalcitrant Caregivers. It works!!!
    With it in hand, we ALZers and Caregivers can and will communicate thoughtfully and without unnecessary stress. Words leave us, but our souls remain. Strauss is one of the best in this genre.

    5-0 out of 5 stars If you've ever wondered "what do I say" this tells you...
    This is really the book my family has been needing. We want so badly to keep connecting with my father-in-law but it's hard to know how to hold a conversation with someone who rarely knows what time of day it is. We love him and we want desparately for him to now that, but how?

    Ms. Strauss offers a practical, informative, and hopeful guide, lists of 'dos and donts' rather than a medicial or theoretical guide. Since I've had this book I have been able to connect to Pop in a much more rewarding way for both of us. I highly recommend it to those who still want to connect!

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Treasure
    This book is a blessing for anyone who has a loved one with Alzheimer's, dementia or is a victim of stroke. Ms. Strauss's advice comes from the heart and not just the mind.She reminds us that to truly connect with others we must conciously be in the moment with them.This is good advice no matter who it is we are trying to stay connected to. How often are we distracted by outside thoughts and miss opportunities to truly connect to others. This book is a gentile reminder to us all. ... Read more


    19. The Best Friends Staff: Building a Culture of Care in Alzheimer's Programs
    by Virginia Bell, David Troxel
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    Asin: 1878812637
    Catlog: Book (2001-03-15)
    Publisher: Health Professions Press
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    20. Another Country: Navigating the Emotional Terrain of Our Elders
    by Mary Bray Pipher, Mary Pipher
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    Asin: 1573227846
    Catlog: Book (2000-03-01)
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    Average Customer Review: 4.43 out of 5 stars
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    Mary Pipher's phenomenal New York Times bestseller-a book about us and our parents...

    "[Pipher] ventures into communities and then returns to explain their truths and ways of being to the rest of us in clear, clean English.Totally accessible...[Another Country] is a compassionate...look at the disconnect between baby boomers and their aging parents or grandparents." -USAToday

    There are more older people in America today than ever before.They are our parents and grandparents, our aunts and uncles and in-laws.They are living longer, but in a culture that has come to worship youth-a culture in which families have dispersed, communities have broken down, and older people are isolated. Meanwhile, adults in two-career families are struggling to divide their time among their kids, their jobs, and their aging parents-searching for the right words to talk about loneliness, forgetfulness, or selling the house.

    Another Country is a field guide to this rough terrain for a generation of baby boomers who are finding themselves unprepared to care for those who have always cared for them. Psychologist and bestselling writer Mary Pipher maps out strategies that help bridge the gaps that separate us from our elders.And with her inimitable combination of respect and realism, she offers us new ways of supporting each other-new ways of sharing our time, our energy, and our love.

    "In Another Country, [Pipher] observes that to grow old for many people in today's fragmented, age-phobic, age-segregated America is to inhabit a foreign country, isolated, disconnected and misunderstood."-New York Times

    "Pipher explores how today's mobile, individualistic, media-drenched culture prevents so many dependent old people, and the relatives trying to do right by them, from getting what they need...her insights will help people of several generations."-The Washington Post

    "[Pipher] wrote [Another Country] to help Boomers like herself better understand their parents and grandparents and to glimpse what might await them in their old age."-Chicago Tribune

    "Mary Pipher urges baby boomers to stay in tune with their elderly parents' needs...With average life expectancy now in the mid-70s and 2 million Americans turning 65 each year-a number that will skyrocket as the baby boomer generation ages-the stakes are raised for families and societies alike."-People

    "The author of Reviving Ophelia unflinchingly takes us into the heart of this largely uncharted territory."-Rocky Mountain News

    "A field guide to old age, combining personal stories with social theory."-Boston Globe

    "Dr. Pipher sees aging from a broader perspective.[She] emphasizes the need for the elderly to become elders-people who can help us find a deep structure for our communities-[and] she makes a persuasive case for roots."-Christian Science Monitor

    "This is a book that thoughtful Boomers can embrace as their own...Another Country looks at issues like care-giving, death, generational relations and the resiliency many elders display in old age. It offers advice on improving our relationships with other generations and with understanding our own passing years."-St. Petersburg Times

    "Rich in stories and full in details....For people wondering about their parents' or more poignantly, their own aging."-St. Louis Post-Dispatch

    "[Mary Pipher] comes across as neither saint nor scold. [Another Country is] not a how-to book, but a how-to-think book."-Minnesota Star Tribune
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    5-0 out of 5 stars PLEASE, PLEASE BUY THIS BOOK!
    ...I feel I owe large debtof thanks to Another Country.

    It's been years since I've taken a highlighter pen to a book (college!), but this one has already taught me many ways to rethink my relationship with my parents as they age. The case studies and explanations reflect a lot of what I've been feeling. I believe I can refer back to them often for help and guidance. Mary Pipher's done for caregivers what she accomplished for adolescent girls in "Reviving Ophelia," and has my utmost respect as a writer and as a person.

    I guess I'm writing this as the voice of at least one more person who is definitely dealing with intergenerational problems. Elder care is as much of a family issue as child care-if not more so, since everyone has parents and not everyone chooses to have children. It's nice to know we're not alone.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Baby Boomers' Guide to Aging Parents
    They raised us on Dr. Spock. Not the pointy-eared Nimoyian character on Star Trek! Dr. Benjamin Spock, the Baby Doc! And Mary Pipher has done for the children what Spock did for our parents - answered perplexing questions like "Why do they do that?" and "What can I do?"

    Pipher's thesis is that "Knowing when people were born allows us to predict attitudes and behaviors. A person from a specific era will have a certain `collective consciousness.'" She explains that we dwell in "different cultural time zones." This explains, for instance, why Mom and Aunt Em save all those few tiny bites of leftover food that they then leave in the refridgerator to turn green - the hoarding tendencies wrought by the Great Depression and rationing on the Homefront during World War II.

    I am currently moving my parents to an Assisted Living Facility and this book is an important resource. I highly recommend it. Reviewed by TundraVision.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Another country: the tourist perspective
    Not being "old-old" myself, with both parents dead, I picked up this book out of curiosity. Piper does not mince words. She says at the outset, "Old age is not for sissies," and she goes on to describe life as an old person in a country designed for the young. It's an apt metaphor: the old learn a new language and a new terrain.

    Pipher offers creative solutions that are not always easy, as she herself is the first to admit. Not everyone is equipped to be a caretaker. And as a society we do not have the infrastructure to deal with the challenges that increase daily.
    Ironically, she notes that having a purpose in life will keep us young longer: the 85-year-old woman with an overaged dependent son may seem indulgent to outsiders, but she has a reason to get up every day. Yet at the same time, challenging work and respect from the community -- the source of purpose for most of us -- will be denied by a society that worships youth.

    Pipher seems to be selling us on the importance of caring for the elderly. It's a way our own children will learn respect for the family and for us, she says. Yet many of us will not have children of our own. Today something like one-third of households have only one member. Being single or childless is no longer "odd." And sometimes a parent disappears from a child's life, only to re-appear in a time of need. There's no basis for a relationship -- it's not about healing but about building a relationship with a stranger .

    Pipher does not address these topics, but the thousands of midlife adults who face aging parents will say she's offered more than enough to benefit her readers.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Don't Wait Until Later....Read it Now!
    I cried, I laughed and I sighed at the grim truths and revelations in Mary Pipher's book on aging and the place held in our society by our elderly citizens. I folded so many page corners over for review that the book looks like a favorite old cook book. I wish I had read this book before my parents entered old-old age. I was not raised with any grandparents nearby, so had no examples for what to expect and how to deal with and care for aging parents. Growing old with dignity and dealing with declining health and eventually death is the hardest passage of our lives. None of the other passages as individuals, parents or spouses can compare to these challenges. Adolescence, puberty, child-birth, child-rearing, divorce...all seem like a walk through the park in comparison.

    Having said that, we all need to read the book before our parents reach the old-old phase (although who knows exactly when that might happen). If you're in your 40's or 50's, chances are you should be reading this book. Although the book doesn't provide any recipes or procedures for dealing with the issues of the aging, it does provide valuable insights and suggestions into attitudes, fears, and concerns of both the aged and their care-givers.

    We just assumed that mother would ask for help when she needed it, but her pride, reluctance to communicate and fierce need to be independent would not allow her to admit how needy and frail she had become. We finally discovered how badly she had deteriorated (although she still wouldn't admit it), and are still regretting that we didn't intervene sooner. She's now in a convalescent hospital, sometimes stoically accepting her condition, but sometimes angry, depressed and resentful. I'm sure I'll pick up the book and read it again as we find our way through this passage. And then when I become a young-old and finally an old-old, hopefully I'll be able to remember the valuable life lessons I'm acquiring now.

    3-0 out of 5 stars A Trip on the Nostalgia Express
    Mary Pipher is an excellent writer. Her introduction is beautifully written, and her empathy and love for her clients and friends (it is hard to distinguish) is evident throughout the book.

    By choosing to write of America's elderly, Pipher gives "Another Country" a subtext - that the elderly are valuable, as human beings if no longer as contributors to society. This is bound to anger the brat generation - those who have had no war or depression to ruffle the surface of their lives, and who are quick to blame any and all unhappiness on some form of abuse by their parents. She even suggests that caring for another is not evidence of mental dysfunction or codependency. It is good that Pipher sugarcoats her message with nostalgia for her rural childhood in Nebraska, somewhat sentimentalized "case studies", and too many quotes from her wide acquaintance with literature and song lyrics. The quotes are particularly irritating - if only because Pipher is a fine writer and leaves no doubt that she herself can say anything she means.

    In short, a good read, a message that needed broadcasting, but presented as extended Hallmark card. However, if a book as idiotic as "Michelle Remembers" could have sparked the Satanic Ritual Abuse craziness, maybe "Another Country", and "The Shelter of Each Other" can shift our current paradigms in the direction they badly need to go. ... Read more


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