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    1. Supernanny : How to Get the Best
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    1. Supernanny : How to Get the Best from Your Children
    by Jo Frost
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    Asin: 1401308104
    Catlog: Book (2005-01-12)
    Publisher: Hyperion
    Sales Rank: 208
    Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars
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    For despairing moms and dads everywhere, "Supernanny" Jo Frost may as well be wearing a Wonder Woman costume. Her no-nonsense rules--not tips, not advice, but rules--for consistently managing one's offspring leave no room for arguments (or wrestling matches). From her arms-akimbo stance on the book's cover, it's clear she's in charge, and ready to instruct all wishy-washy (overworked American) parents how to lay down the law in their own home. She offers her "top ten rules" for setting boundaries, managing mealtimes, even surviving toilet training, and it's mostly rock-solid, and peppered liberally with British wit. (For parents who obsess over their toddler's every meal, she warns: "It doesn't take long for them to work out the obvious: you can't make them eat.") Frost may not have a degree in child development, but she was raised in a stable, doting family, and has 15 years' experience taking care of tots, a combination which puts her way ahead of most parents. She may be firm, but by setting definite boundaries, she sets the stage for parenting to be more of a "joy" and much less of a "slog." You can raise your sippy cups to that. --Erica Jorgensen ... Read more

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    2-0 out of 5 stars Probably not the best parenting resource out there
    I was given Supernanny as a gift from my brother.I'm still wondering why he chose this particular resource.I found it over simplistic and very limited.I think the author presents a few good ideas, but it does not seem to address the big picture of parenting.I felt as if Jo Frost's rules were simply not applicable to the parenting challenges we are facing.I'd like to think that there is more to parenting, more to family interactions, than the ideas advanced in this book.If Jo's suggestions do not work as suggested - and they do not seem to be - is the parent not applying the rule or combination of rules hard enough?This book seems to set parents up for failure - it gives some suggestions but does not back them up or explore them in any detail whatsoever (leaving the parent vulnerable and exposed when things do not go as planned).I feel as if Supernanny is very, very narrow in its scope and depth.I will be returning it to my brother and looking elsewhere for a more complete parenting resource.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Great concepts, but nothing original from show
    I love the Supernanny techniques, and they work great...but this book offers no more solutions than the show.So, if you've seen at least 3 episodes of Supernanny, you've pretty much seen it all.

    3-0 out of 5 stars Book vs. Show
    I was somewhat disappointed in this book.I felt that after watching the tv show I already knew the stuff that was in the book.I was looking for more.If you watch Supernanny's show the book is pretty much a waste of money unless you need it constantly at hand.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The best parenting book I've read
    We read and tried, Happiest Toddler on the Block (OK), Strong-Willed Child (horrible), Magic 1-2-3 (OK), and two Rosemond books(both mediocre.) This is the BEST and easiest to implement. We have a strong-willed 2.5 yr.old and have been at our wits end trying to control her behavior while still building her self-esteem and self-confidence. This book has totally improved all our lifes. It really works!Everything in this book has worked.In just one week we have seen the benefits.A better behaved, loving child and quality time for my husband and I. Just last week we had an appointment with a child Psychologist to help us with our daughter. We recommended he read this book. Thank God for Jo Frost. The TV show is an added benefit - free video demonstrating the techniques!

    5-0 out of 5 stars A must for anyone who deals with children
    I fell into a job where I work with kids. This book has an extreme help in teaching me to deal with the children. The "three strikes you're out" method works really well. It also teaches you what you can expect from the different ages. I have found this book to be an invaluable tool. ... Read more

    2. Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal (So They Can Look Up Your Skirt) : A Dad's Advice for Daughters
    by Philip Van Munching
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    Asin: 0743267788
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-03)
    Publisher: Simon & Schuster
    Sales Rank: 596
    Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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    Book Description

    Life can be pretty tricky when you're a teenage girl.

    New things matter: Clothes. Parties. Boys. Suddenly being liked and being popular don't mean the same thing. Your parents get completely bizarre when the subject of dating comes up. A friend you've had forever stabs you in the back for no good reason. Everybody you know seems to feel free to comment on your constantly changing body. Drugs and alcohol go from being what you see "bad" kids doing on television shows to what you see your friends doing when no adults are around. How are you supposed to deal?

    Since life doesn't come with a set of instructions, it helps to turn to people who have been through the stuff that you're facing. Even parents can help. (Really!) In Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal (so they can look up your skirt), former teenage boy -- and current dad of two daughters -- Philip Van Munching helps guide you through some of life's most confusing topics. From Beauty to Grief, from Sex to Fate, Van Munching covers the things you most want to know about and, in his wise, warm, and funny way, offers advice on how you can become the young woman you most want to be.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Dream of a Book
    I'm a new dad of a baby girl, so even though it'll be years before my daughter's ready for it, this book caught my eye.I'm glad it did.Van Munching has written a wise, funny, eminently readable and engaging tribute to his daughters, to parenting, to the minefields of adolescence.Here's a favorite bit that seems to define the spirit of this generous book:"I've learned a little something about mistakes: they are the true measure of you....they are what define and teach you....and are maybe the only things in your life that are truly your own.Everyone will jump in to grab a little glory when you do something right; mistakes are yours and yours alone.The trick is how you make use of them."What an important, right-on observation,and how I wish I'd had someone tell ME that when I was an awkward 15 year old boy. Though "Boys will Put you on a Pedestal" is specifically written for teenage girls, its applications transcend gender. A great book.

    5-0 out of 5 stars No-nonsense advice can be fun....
    While this book is intended to provide teens and pre-teens with fatherly advice, it is especially useful for parents.Van Munching weaves life lessons with self-deprecation and wit into a terrific guide that encourages girls to think for themselves.I especially like the themes of integrity, accountability, empowerment and love that run through the book.It's unfair to provide kids with these gems, when it takes the rest of us 30 or more years to learn them!

    5-0 out of 5 stars I Laughed, I Cried...(really!)
    It has been a long time since a book has made me laugh out loud, but never has a book brought me to tears.I felt like I was taken on an incredible journey with the author, hearing about his life experiences and lessons learned -and remembering my own and how they have affected my life.It is a book that everyone can relate to, regardless of where they grew up, how they were raised, or where their interests lie.Certain experiences, such asbeing taunted, going to high school parties and peer pressure, losing a loved one, your first "love", etc., ring true for all of us. Although I am neither a teenage girl or a parent yet, I feel as if it spoke to the fifteen-year old that was me as well as the future parent that I hope to someday be.I just wish that my parents, who always have been wonderful, loving and supportive, had been able to communicate that way with me when I was growing up...because I really needed it at the time!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Where oh where was this book when I was 14?!!
    This is the sweet, inspiring, moving, funny book I wish I could have read when I was a young teenage girl.Van Munching writes with warmth and sensitivity about all the Big subjects -- sex, popularity, grief, self-control, faith -- without preaching or talking down, and with a winsome, unaffected style that is beyond refreshing.Weaving stories from his own growing-up with commonsense, grounded advice, he takes the reader on a wonderful journey all the way to the last chapter, called "How to be Happy" -- which, by the way, I was when I finished this superb book.My daughter is barely five, but this book will be waiting for her when she's ready."Boys will Put You onPedestal" is for daughters, for their parents, and for anyone who cares about the emotional, physical, and psychological well-being of young girls. Run and buy it. ... Read more

    3. Mother-Daughter Wisdom : Creating a Legacy of Physical and Emotional Health
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    Asin: 0553105736
    Catlog: Book (2005-02-22)
    Publisher: Bantam
    Sales Rank: 40028
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    4. Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction (A Hazelden Guidebook)
    by Jeff Jay, Debra Jay
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    Asin: 1568385218
    Catlog: Book (2000-09-01)
    Publisher: Hazelden Publishing & Educational Services
    Sales Rank: 10200
    Average Customer Review: 5 out of 5 stars
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    A straightforward, simple and practical resource written specifically for families seeking to help a loved one struggling with substance addiction. Jeff and Debra Jay dispel two all-to-common and damaging beliefs: Addicts, they say, don't have to hit bottom before they can get help and get sober, and second, interventions don't have to be confrontational-hence their emphasis on a love first approach. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Good, Good, Good!
    As a recovering addict, this book has great ideas and is right on the mark! I will suggest this to the many people I know dealing with the disease. As with many addicts like myself, I have always had problems in relationships with women too. Another wonderful book that helped me is Stumbling Naked In The Dark: Overcoming Mistakes Men Make With Women. Between the two books there is a lot of great advice that helped make my life better and certainly more bearable.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Best single source for friends and family of addicted
    I've read several books and online materials about substance abuse and how to help someone out of addiction. This book is the most comprehensive, considerate, simple, and useful source for friends or family members. It is more complete and helpful than the better-known cornerstone works from the Betty Ford Clinic and Dr. Vernon Johnson. Not only is the text full of information, but the charts offered at the end to help organize an intervention are most user-friendly and designed to give you a thoughtful helping hand. This one is the best investment.

    5-0 out of 5 stars The best I've read on this subject
    Whether you are a family member, a friend or a professional counsellor, this book is a "must-read" for anyone dealing with alcoholism or drug addiction. It may be painful to read, but it's so true. I am purchasing copies to share with friends. I need their support.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Diocese Assistance Program (DAP)
    In an effort to promote the healing and recovery of individuals and families in the 10 county diocese with 98 parishes, the parish representatives trained in the community resourses to assist people who have loved ones with a substance abuse/alcohol problem are using the guidebook "LOVE FIRST". Because of this new approach to intervention we are averageing ONE intervention a week acrose the diocese. A beautiful well written, easy to under stand text that appeals to those with a caring love for someone who is hurting.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Love First
    This is a fantastic book!Not only did I read it,I participated in the actual intervention.A wonderful way to bring the family together and help them understand the problem.It may not cure the alchoholic but certainly makes them aware of their problem using only love. ... Read more

    5. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
    by Laura Schlessinger
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    Asin: 0060520612
    Catlog: Book (2004-01-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins
    Sales Rank: 204
    Average Customer Review: 3.52 out of 5 stars
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    Book Description

    In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.

    Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.

    Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you -- with real-life examples and real-life solutions -- how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.

    Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Men Are Simple Creatures, All They Need Is ...
    In this book, Dr. Laura presents what could be called the "Contemporary Theory of Husbands." She tries to encourage women to cast off the influence of the feminist movement which has fostered feelings that have allowed women to use their time in non-productive men-bashing, rather than in trying to analyze what they really want, and how to get it.

    Dr. Laura states the following, "Remember, men are simple creatures and very dependent on their wives for acceptance, approval and affection." Her basic theory being, that if men get that from their wives, their wives will get back many fold, what they give. And also, Dr. Laura wishes that woman would analyze carefully what they have because of their husbands and what they want out of life, and make the decision based on those factors.

    While her theory is surely not neo-Freudian or neo-Jungian, it has a very high potential to work in present day marital situations. She stresses the need for honest and meaningful communication. And she tries to point out the reality, that a successful marriage is hard work, and both partners have responsibilities within the relationship.

    Dr. Laura simplifies a lot of the problems and answers, but unlike test data in a lab, Dr. Laura's evidence actually comes from empirical field data by helping real people sort these things out on her radio show, and through letters and her other activities.

    It should be clearly stated, that Dr. Laura does NOT advocate being a stay at home mom, but she does advocate the concept that women are more responsible for child rearing than men. In addition, she states that the woman should have more responsibility in a marriage than a man, to provide the things that the man wants, and to be the leader in productive and meaningful communication.This is arguable. Both parties really have some responsibility to this in a marital relationship.

    I found Dr. Laura's commentary on embryology and "hard wired" genetic differences between men and women, which start at about 8 weeks into gestation in the womb. There is considerable evidence to suggest, that all of us, are born with both male and female "hard-wiring" but the hard wiring that is expressed, is that which is activiated by the particular hormonal mix running through the veins of the specific person. Thus, it has been shown in hundreds or animal studies and now, with transexuality, that if one changes the hormonal balance, that an animal will act in normal programmed ways as would the opposite sex, and that really it is the hormones that control the "hard-wiring" that is selected and displayed, not so much the physical equipment.

    Dr. Laura addresses some other highly relevant subjects in her book, perhaps the most important of which in marriage are the issues of "sex" and "guy time." She does a wonderful job of exploring this with support of her listeners conversations and letters.

    If there is anything at all that Dr. Laura could have done a little better at, was that I think she went slightly overboard on the concept of "repition brings remembrance." Her book often goes over the same point or concept in multiple places. But I know, that this was intentionally done by Dr. Laura.

    In all, the book is a wonderful book for both men and women, as it helps both understand the other, and work at productive and happy marriages.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Dr. Laura sparks a needed debate
    Dr. Laura's new book is an irrefutable home run on modern relationships. Like any other book, it won't save your marriage or make you a better person. Self-help books either preach to the choir or fly above heads, depending on the reader. And I expect that it will do the latter with most women. That, I think, is exactly the point.

    For the first time ever a mainstream book takes an honest look at the dark side of things feminine. It is a long overdue examination that forces us past the taboo of saying anything critical about women. Women, just like men, DO have a dark side. In western culture that dark side is reflected in many women's sense of entitlement, arrogance and selfishly driven behavior, even in an area of their lives that should be characterized by giving, respect and the pursuit of intimacy.

    The subject material of her book, even on this list of reviews, has elicited powerful feelings on both sides. And this is where she succeeds, regardless of the books efficacy for it's intended purpose. Some of the reviews drip with vitriol and the very loathing of men that Dr. Laura cautions us against. How DARE Dr. Laura imply that women are any less than perfect?! Who is she to say that healthy relationships require women to act like accountable, feeling and sensitive adults?!

    Personally, I think Dr. Laura has a great deal of wisdom, but it is wasted on women who have grown far too comfortable with blaming every negative thing in their lives on men.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Good information
    Having been through two divorces I have a bit of experience in the failed marriage business and I read this book with interest to see if I spotted any similarities between the authors advice to married women and the behaviors I experienced in my bad marriages. Spot on. Bingo. It's here. I give the book a strong recommendation to any looking to strengthen their marriage or to any planning on getting married.

    It's easy for some to vilify Dr. Laura but if you (as a woman) have ever been successfully married you've either followed her advice or you weren't all that happily married (or at least your husband was miserable). She makes it very clear that the book isn't written for relationships that are abusive and that in normal non-abusive relationships men are actually very similar and pretty much want the same things in their marriages: the respect of their wives, lots of physical intimacy and a good home from their children.

    As for the overall quality of the book and the writing, I'd say it's about average. It is a short book and a lot of it is filler, quotes, examples and stories. I read it in a few hours and did find it entertaining as well as informative. In defense of the authors style and the length of the book, I'd like to point out that to help the average person, a book can't be to long and complicated, it simply won't get read, so overall, I'd not say the length and style are a detriment. My biggest complaint was that it simply ended, there wasn't a conclusion or final chapter, the last chapter was just the last chapter.

    As for those people, women or men, that can't stand the idea of a wife respecting and honoring her husband, loving him and caring for him, it's fine if you feel that way as a single person but you're setting yourself up for a failed marriage if you think somehow you're so special that the laws of human nature and the spirit of man are somehow unique in your situation. They aren't. I highly highly recommend this book to anyone that's engaged or thinking about it. If you think the book is bunk, don't get marriage yet, at least not to a man...

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great title, great book!
    This is an easy to read, easy to implement guide for women who want a great relationship. Dr. Laura draws from the letters and call-ins she receives on her radio show and the book is full of quotes of these letters and dialogues she had with listeners. And it is easy to recognize yourself in those people?

    Dr. Laura's advice is really simple: Take responsibility for your relationship, realize the power you have and use it wisely. Make your husband your number one priority and the rewards will be manifold. It almost sounds too simple, but the many examples in the book provide clear support that this works and why.

    The book illustrates how many women have fallen into the feminist trap of demanding "to have it all" without realizing the price they pay for pursuing too many things, for ignoring their husbands for the sake of their career, or for reducing their husband to a tool to support their dreams, rather than creating and maintaining a true partnership that feeds both of them.

    One warning: Dr. Laura is a strong advocate of the traditional marriage with a stay-at-home wife and children. So it is easy for any woman who does not fall into that pattern to ignore what she says. That would be a shame. The essence of her book remains true, no matter what your personal circumstances are: Focus on your husband's needs rather than have all attention on yourself, give instead of demanding to receive, and your partnership will fly.

    Another book that I have found extremely insprirational and insightful is "Working on your Relationship Doesn't Work" by Ariel and Shya Kane. They have a refreshing new perspective on how heretofore unidentified influences in our environment, if they go unrecognized, can destroy our relationships and how you can nurture and grow your relationships ? with your partner, yourself, co-workers, friends, family ? in a way that doesn?t take time or effort and allows magic to unfold. They suggest that the mere seeing of things allow them to transform, without working on them. What a relief? and worth trying!

    I don't know one person in the world who won't date his moments of greatest happiness to the time his family was the most intact, whole, unshakable. To me, this book (despite its mildly salacious title) was about that subtle nuance of marriages that guides life to be fitted around duty and responsibility, rather than around the pursuit of that elusive straw man, happiness. It nearly makes one wish that there was someone a bit more hip and compelling than the author of this book standing up for this simple hardhitting truth, because the point is compelling. Regardless of its title or whatever polarized commentary you hear about its contents, this book is a very worthy skim. ... Read more

    6. A Child Called "It": One Child's Courage to Survive
    by Dave Pelzer
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    Asin: 1558743669
    Catlog: Book (1995-09-01)
    Publisher: HCI
    Sales Rank: 1051
    Average Customer Review: 4.67 out of 5 stars
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    David J. Pelzer's mother, Catherine Roerva, was, he writes in this ghastly, fascinating memoir, a devoted den mother to the Cub Scouts in her care, and somewhat nurturant to her children--but not to David, whom she referred to as "an It." This book is a brief, horrifying account of the bizarre tortures she inflicted on him, told from the point of view of the author as a young boy being starved, stabbed, smashed face-first into mirrors, forced to eat the contents of his sibling's diapers and a spoonful of ammonia, and burned over a gas stove by a maniacal, alcoholic mom. Sometimes she claimed he had violated some rule--no walking on the grass at school!--but mostly it was pure sadism. Inexplicably, his father didn't protect him; only an alert schoolteacher saved David. One wants to learn more about his ordeal and its aftermath, and now he's written a sequel, The Lost Boy, detailing his life in the foster-care system.

    Though it's a grim story, A Child Called "It" is very much in the tradition of Chicken Soup for the Couple's Soul and the many books in that upbeat series, whose author Pelzer thanks for helping get his book going. It's all about weathering adversity to find love, and Pelzer is an expert witness. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Touched a place deep within my heart and soul, changed me.
    My ten year old daughter introduced me to this book. I felt I needed to share this with her. I think it has changed us both forever. Neither of us slept well the night we finished it. I will never again look at any child the same way. It is hard to imagine where young Dave ever found the strength to go on and on and on. My hope after reading this compelling story is that I might be able to recognize the pain of abuse and neglect in the eyes of a child, that I might be able to reach out and make a difference. When Dave recalls the few times someone hugged him, it almost broke my heart. He wanted nothing more that to hang on to that warmth forever. Now I know that a hug, a smile, a gentle touch, or a helping hand, really can make all the difference in the world. I will never forget this story and plan to read "The Lost Boy" immediately. Dave, thanks for the gut wrenching courage it must have taken to write this book. You have opened my eyes and my daughters eyes.....wide!

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Child Called it
    This book was probally the best book that I have ever read. In his book David Pelzer describes how horrible he was treated by his mother and how he was treated by his peers and teachers at school. His life was fine in his early years, but as he grew older he became trapped in what he described as a livng hee. He began to plot out ways to survive from not being killed by his mother. He also had to deal with an alocoholic father who although, once was a caring and loving father turned his back to whatever his wife did to David. As David grew older his punishments got more extreme. One example is that he was forced to lay completely under water in cold bath water from the period after school until late at night. He was also locked in his bathroom with a full bucket of ammonia. The main idea of this book is that no matter how hard your life is that you should never give up and always look towards the future.I felt that David's choice of a title was exellent. The title describes in one word, IT, how he was treated, like a thing, that wasn't human. David showed to be a very strong and determined individual. His mother was obviously very disturbed and frustrated. The weird thing was that she only treated David horrible, the other childre were treated just as most good parents treat their kids. Davids father made me ver angr, and it was hard for me to understand him. He was a strong man physically, bu not mentally. Even though he didn't want his wife to do thee things to David he was not strong enough to do anything about it. This book definately made me think about how great my life is and how great my parents are. I feel that his is a must read book and makes you think a lot.

    5-0 out of 5 stars What a gift
    This author is a gift to us, Thank goodness he made it through the darkest hours to tell us his story. I hope this book will help others to have courage as well as show what it is like to live the life he did. Very inspirational Another inspirational book-Nightmares Echo by Katlyn Stewart

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Child Called It.
    I really was shocked while reading this book because it brought back the memories of my childhood. The shock was that I thought no one else could treat their own child so bad. My older brother was treated nearly as bad as It. I witnessed this until he moved from home at the age of 17. I would read for a while and turn to my wife or my oldest daughter and tell them some of the similuar experiences that I witnessed. The public needs such revelations as A Child Called It to fuel public out cry for such neglect and abuse. The courage to report is needed. I explain to my two children that there is no excuse for abuse of a child like what was exampled in the book. My oldest daughter even went as far as conducting a book report after reading A Child Called It. Wanting to express publicly her distress over the situation of child abuse/neglect.

    1-0 out of 5 stars A Poorly Written, Lurid Hoax!
    Several of my co-workers were simply mesmerized by the Pelzer trilogy, so joined in on the reading fest. Even as I read the book, a LOT of things weren't ringing quite true: like being repeatedly exposed to a lethal combo of ammonia and bleach (he would've been dead the very first time) and that his teachers had known for years, were powerless to do anything and risked their careers....while this MIGHT have been true in the 50's and even EARLY 60's, it wasn't true in the late 60's early 70's.

    I'm only 4 years younger than Pelzer and can VIVIDLY recall a teacher in first grade (1971, in my case) being extremely concerned about a slap mark on my face (courtesy of an older brother's rough housing)---and this was still when spanking children was regarded as a perfectly acceptable form of discipline. Additionally, child abuse had been the subject of NUMEROUS TV dramas (I recently saw an old episode of "Dragnet", among others) and was, in fact, the "hot" issue of the time. It was 1973, in fact, that the "Mondale bill" was signed into national law (and had drawn extensive attention for quite a few years prior)---so the idea that no criminal charges would have been levied against Mrs. Pelzer is even MORE absurd.

    Please do NOT mistake me----I am FULLY aware that abused children daily go undetected and that in the 1970's we were barely beginning to comprehend the depths
    of this horrible issue. I can certainly believe that "Catherine" Pelzer was an alcoholic, probably bi-polar and very possibly DID smack the poor kid around (which I firmly believe NO child should EVER experience)--but much of the other aspects were clearly fabricated.

    ((...) ... Read more

    7. Family First : Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family
    by Phillip C. McGraw
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    Asin: 0743264932
    Catlog: Book (2004-09-14)
    Publisher: Free Press
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    Do you feel that your family is not what it used to be, or what it has the potential to be? Do you worry that the parenting decisions you're making today may be scarring your child for life? Do you sometimes feel you are in a tug-of-war with the world over who will shape your child's values and beliefs?

    With Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family, Dr. Phil offers a new classic on family life -- and gives parents real answers and a plan for being the most positive and effective parents possible. Starting right now, you can begin to make realistic choices and take day-to-day actions that can make your family phenomenal. You must decide that you will lead your family with strength and love and that peace and joy are not just for the people next door or on TV. They're for your family.

    In Family First, Dr. Phil gives it to parents straight: even in this fast-paced world your family should be the center of your life and your child's life. Parenting is the most important and noble act you will ever undertake, yet American families are threatened like never before from the inside as well as the outside -- many of us fight too much, don't get involved enough in our children's lives, or get bogged down in life's daily struggles instead of keeping our eye on the big picture of our family's well-being.

    Dr. Phil has been working with families for over twenty-five years to help them repair the fissures that have fractured their home lives. In Family First, he provides a proven action plan to help parents determine the strengths and weaknesses of their parenting style. His 7 Tools for Purposeful Parenting cover the most important elements for any parent: parenting for success -- for the purpose of raising cooperative, caring, and competent children. Exercises, scripts, assessments, solutions for specific problems, and precise directions for implementing the steps you need to take are all included in this landmark work.

    Dr. Phil shows parents how to make changes now -- how to put a stop to your children's tantrums; talk to them about peer pressure or self-esteem; instill values like integrity, honesty, and respect for other people; and bring order back to your house. If you want your child to have a happy, fulfilled life, you must open your eyes to the crucial role you play in his or her development.

    Most important, Dr. Phil's new book offers you and your family hope -- for a phenomenal home life now, and a productive, fulfilling future for your children. As Dr. Phil says, you are not just raising children, you are also raising adults, and everything you do today impacts what kind of adult your child will become. You are building the future. ... Read more

    8. Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety
    by JudithWarner
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    Asin: 1573223042
    Catlog: Book (2005-02-17)
    Publisher: Riverhead Hardcover
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    The old adage is especially true for Perfect Madness: don't judge this eminently readable book by its stern and academic-looking cover. Judith Warner's missive on the "Mommy Mystique" can be read in a weekend, if readers have the time. Of course--according to the book--many would-be readers will have to carve out the hours in between an endless sea of child-enriching activities, a soul-sucking swirl that leads many mothers into a well of despair. Warner's book seeks to answer the question, "Why are today's young mothers so stressed out?" Whether shuttling kids to "enriching" after-school activities or worrying about the quality of available child care, the women of Perfect Madness describe a life far out of balance. Warner spends most of the book explaining how things got to this point, and what can be done to restore some sanity to the parenting process.

    Warner draws her research from a group of 20- to 40-year-old, upper-middle-class, college-educated women living in the East Coast corridor. In other words, mirror images of Warner herself. Her limited scope has caused controversy and criticism, as have some of her more sweeping statements. (For example, Warner blames second-wave feminism--rather than corporate culture--for the many limitations women still experience as they try to balance the work-family dynamic.) Other favorite targets include the mainstream media, detached fathers, and controlling, "hyperactive" mothers who create impossible standards for themselves, their children, and the community of other parents around them. Warner begins and ends the book with a compelling argument for the need for more societal support of mothers--quality-of-life government "entitlements" such as those found in France. It's these big-picture issues that will provide the solution, she says, even if most mothers don't want to discuss them because they consider the topic "tacky, strident-sounding, not the point." In these sections on governmental policy, and also when she steps back, encouraging women to be kinder to each other, the author's warmth comes across easily on the page. Pilloried by some readers and supported by others, Warner should at least be applauded for opening up the Pandora's Box of American motherhood for a new generation. And if readers are of two minds about the issues raised Perfect Madness, as Warner sometimes seems to be herself, it's a fitting reaction to a topic with few easy answers. --Jennifer Buckendorff END ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A good read
    In Perfect Madness , Judith Warner successfully exposed a strong view being held by some groups of professional women about motherhood in the new millennium. It is all about securing career growth while being a mother, a path that demands less presence by the mother in the life of her child(ren), while at the same time is fraught with the pressure to be the ideal mum that children always dream about, the mother who is always there when needed. It is a rising conflict in motherhood in the rapidly professional America where the specter of single parent families is growing everyday. However I think this book should have toned down its strong feminist perspective. It is a good read though. Like THE USURPER AND OTHER, DISCIPLES OF FORTUNE, THE COLOR OF WATER, HOW TO AVOID THE MOMMY TRAP,THE JOYS OF MOTHERHOOD , the echoes of conflicts in motherhood are very similar. I like its hilarious side the most.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Unnecessarily bleak -- Read Avoid The Mommy Trap to avoid it
    Along with others, I kept wondering, where is the joy and magic of being a mother, and of children?Why are all the men depicted not helpful?I read an article quoting Judith Warner in which she stated that the men in her generation just were not going to help out enough to take this awful weight off of our shoulders.This assumption is not correct for many of us, thankfully.My husband does a little more in the house and with our children than I do, and we both have worked hard to achieve a good balance in our lives and we are in Warner's generation, and many of our peers do the same.The norm we see is parents sharing and mothers, whether they work or not, finding their own life after the first few years if not before, not the over-stressed Moms alphabetizing toys or lining up at 6 am to sign up for a pre-school or arts and crafts class.The best book on this subject and almost the only one that is not whiney or depressing is How To Avoid The Mommy Trap, by Julie Shields.Shields interviewed a different set of Washington parents, among others, including some in France.I'd much rather hang with them, and their children than in the amped up, unhappy world Warner presents.

    4-0 out of 5 stars A big warm pat on the back
    The book succeeds at the least in being an interesting read and quite a we're-all-in-this comfort if you're a mother working in or out of the home, or both. Though she's interviewed but a small slice of society, Warner taps into the extreme performance anxiety many American moms are facing as we try to cope with what society's dealt us.And it's not senseless whining, as other reviewers have claimed -- there's a clear agenda here, but it involves getting together and getting some big policy changes through -- in the interests of mothers and children, for a change. If more women understood that's what needed, fewer would blindly accept that mothering is a "sacrifice." It needn't be.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Necessary Read
    This book has struck a chord with me and many of the women I know balancing a family and work. The author has some great points about the lack of a public support system (or even a private one in today's world) and my generation of control freaks. I recognized myself and many of my friends in bits here and there throughout the book. It is also a good history on motherhood and feminism through the 20th century, and different social movements. This book also states right out front, it doesn't have the solution, but is a collection of what women are feeling.

    Where I feel the book lacks are a couple of areas. The author interviewed many women, but mainly women in the Washington D.C. area, it would have been good to see more women around the country profiled. Also many of my friends (inlcuding me) have husbands that are staying at home or sharing in child care and the book tends to focus on the father as the chief breadwinner and I quote, "Men who cut their hours to spend more time with their children are routinely regarded as losers." Nu uh, maybe in Washington D.C., but not in my world honey. I see men among my friends doing this, and men I work with, and when I hear one of them is working his schedule to keep up with his family, he is a hero in my eyes.

    I read this book on vacation, and my Mom seemed a bit worried about it. "Maybe you should read something a little more upbeat." She is right. The book did raise my own level of anxiety, but I think it was needed. I look forward to the slew of books that will provide the solution.

    1-0 out of 5 stars No real solutions, just hopelessness
    I finished Perfect Madness with a heavy sigh. As I thought about how to sum it up, all I could do was sigh some more.

    I'll compare it with Mommy Guilt, in which the underlying message throughout is, "You are not alone. It's OK. You're doing a great job. Forgive yourself. Stop feeling guilty." When I finished that book, I felt energized, excited, empowered. I wanted to tell everyone about it.

    Here's the message from Perfect Madness: Life sucks. It sucked for our mothers. We thought we would take over the world. We didn't. Life sucks for us. It even sucks in France now. Nowhere is a good place for women or their children. It's hopeless.

    Something seems underhanded. Much like the author accuses women of humiliating their husbands by sharing intimate details of their sex lives, she somehow does the same to other women. She sat among them, talked to them, even proclaimed to be one of them. Yet she took their confidences, stamped them with her judgment, fit them as pegs into the holes she so neatly lined up and turned them out for the world to see. In the beginning, she said she wanted to prove that mothers aren't divided. At the end, she divided them herself, pitting SAHMs against WOHMs.

    I'm not a frantic parent she discusses throughout the book. But you know what? I still feel overwhelmed, underappreciated and isolated sometimes. I need something to help me get through every day, every week, every year.

    Will the author's "solutions" help me get through today or even next year? The solutions are vague at best. I can say we need "quality daycare" too. But what exactly does that mean?

    Sigh. What a depressing book. I'll take empowerment (Mommy Guilt) over hopelessness (Perfect Madness) any day. ... Read more

    9. Because I Said So : 33 Mothers Write About Children, Sex, Men, Aging, Faith, Race, and Themselves
    by Kate Moses, Camille Peri
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    Asin: 0060598786
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-01)
    Publisher: HarperCollins
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    5-0 out of 5 stars This is a Phenomal Book!
    This is one of my top Five books of 2005. In fact, this is the best book I have read this year. If I could give it a ten, I would. I identified with each of the authors in this collection of essays ~~ even though some of their experiences I may not share, they are writing from the deep reaches of their hearts and souls. This book is not only a collection of essays of women from all ages and all walks of life ~~ it is about Everywoman. It's about you and me.

    When I started reading this book, I thought, oh, I'll have one favorite essay. Nope. I have more than one ~~ in fact, I love them all. These women have a wonderful and rare gift of expressing their thoughts and feelings on paper. They are inspirational for me to be the best mother, wife, friend, daughter that I can be. And if you're worried that this is all about women writing about children and parenting ~~ your fears are groundless. These women are writing about everything. They write about divorce, race, religion, abuse, love, tenderness, parenting, babysitting, watching their children grow up, dealing with prejudice,having nannies, being banned from the mosque and more.

    These women write of real experiences. These women are not angry writers. They are thoughtful and reflective writers, writing with prose, humor and lyrical rhyming. These women reveal their strength and grace in their essays. They don't have any male-bashing in their essays nor are they bitter or angry. They just write and their feelings and thoughts flow together in a wonderful chime of words.

    If I have any regret from reading this book, it's this one. I wish I could meet each and every single one of these essayists and sit down with them and just talk. I have learned so much from the little they've shared within this book, that I want to learn more. They are inspirational for women like me who do like to read and think. These women take in their events that changes them and in a small way, they change my perceptions and thoughts. A reader cannot walk away from this book without gleaning something from this book. It's just impossible. These writers make you stop and think about issues that you may not even be aware of. They challenge the status quo, so to speak. You cannot be comfortable with life after reading some of these essays ~~ but like I said, they're not angry writers, just perceptive and challenging writers. They force you to think, whether you like it or not.

    I highly recommend this book for every woman and men too. Men can learn a lot about women and what we think just from reading this book. If you're looking for a wonderful Mother's Day gift for the thinking and reading woman in your life, this book is it. I also recommend it for high school/young women to read ~~ it gives them an idea of what women face every day as they juggle the roles of motherhood and wifehood or single parenting or just being a woman in today's world. This is a wonderful book and a best gift for everyone to add to their booklist.

    4-12-05 ... Read more

    10. Ready or Not, Here Life Comes
    by Mel Levine
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    Asin: 0743262247
    Catlog: Book (2005-02-01)
    Publisher: Simon & Schuster
    Sales Rank: 507
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    Every parent wants to know, "What will he be like when he's in his twenties?" After decades of observing children grow into young adults, Dr. Mel Levine, nationally known pediatrician and author, addresses the question of why some youngsters make a successful transition into adulthood while others do not.

    In recent years, says Dr. Levine, we have experienced an epidemic of career unreadiness as too many young people begin what he calls "the startup years" unprepared for the challenge of initiating a productive life. Parents and schools often raise children in a highly structured world of overscheduled activities, meeting kids' demands for immediate gratification but leaving them unable to cope on their own. Instead of making a smooth transition into adulthood, many youngsters find themselves trapped in their teenage years, traveling down the wrong career road, unable to function in the world of work. These young people have failed, says Dr. Levine, to properly assess their strengths and weaknesses and have never learned the basics of choosing and advancing through the stages of a career.

    Dr. Levine urges that schools focus less on college prep (which, he points out, generally means "college admissions prep") and instead teach "life prep," equipping adolescents with what they will need to succeed as adults. He identifies these skills as falling within four growth processes, "the four I's": inner direction, or self-awareness; interpretation, or understanding the outside world; instrumentation, or the acquisition of mental tools; and interaction, or the ability to relate to other people effectively. It is these abilities that ensure a successful transition into the startup years of early adulthood. Parents, schools, and adolescents themselves can all work together to improve work-life readiness, and Dr. Levine shows how. He even offers advice for young adults who find themselves unable to navigate the world of careers.

    Insightful, wise, and compassionate, Ready or Not, Here Life Comes is a powerful commentary on our times and a book that can help adolescents and startup adults -- with an assist from parents and educators -- to spring from the starting gate of adulthood. ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars A Gem for Students, Educators, and Parents!
    Dr. Mel Levine makes some good points in describing why so many of today's young adults have trouble with the transition from the world of school to the world of work. For starters, Levine states that many of the skills needed for school may be different from the ones they will need during a career. For example, think of all the multiple-choice tests you may have taken in high school or at a university. I agree with Levine that these tests really don't prepare a student for anything important in the adult world.

    Levine also says that kids need to be more interested in the working lives of people. I think this is a great point. So many kids grow up idolizing sports stars or entertainers. Instead, they should try to make more connections with the adult world. Kids and students should focus on their feasible futures because the odds of making it in sports or entertainment are minute. It also talks about reading biographies of people you admire (to get an idea about how they navigated life). However, with technology and other reasons jobs are changing so fast that, as Levine notes, role models even within a family are an endangered species.

    A lot of the advice is very practical. For example, it helps to know what abilities you have, what you enjoy doing, where you see yourself in x amount of years, etc. If you know this, you will not make the mistake of just taking whatever job comes along. This could easily turn into being stuck in a job you hate after awhile. It is important to keep in mind that a willingness to start way down and climb way up is, of course, the American Dream.

    Bottom Line: It is a great/essential/interesting read for educators, parents, and students.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Critical, practical look at preparing young people for life
    Levine takes a hard look at today's youth and how they're being prepared for life in the real world by parents and teachers alike. His all-too-true allegations about young people being prepared to be students rather than real-life workers is all too true. College and college prep programs prepare one for four years in a classroom, but not necessarily for a true career. Learning about a career and actually working in it are two different things, and Levine recognizes this difference with sound advice as to how to prepare for both. Highly recommend for educators, students, and their parents.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Author interview on Diane Rehm show, 2/4/2005
    The Author was interviewed on the Diane Rehm show, 2/4/2005.
    Sounds very practical and with good ideas.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Author of Survival Meditations for Parents of Teens
    As a therapist working primarily with teens and families,I've often felt that the transition from college to work is one of the most overlooked areas in research and writing. Finally a book that helps us prepare our teens for the world of work. I found out about this book by reading Time Magazine's article on kids in their twenties living with parents (a phenomenon all over the world, apparently!)This is a wonderful book, a much needed contribution.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Another Winner
    I read "A Mind at a TIme" by Dr. Levine and my relationship with my son changed for the better. I then read "Behavior Coaching" by Dr. Scott Hall and experienced an immediate improvement in my son's behavior through the application of the step-by-step plan in that book. I just got and finished reading "Ready or Not, Here Life Comes" by Dr. Levine and I am thrilled, excited by what I learned in this new book.

    "Levine argues that telling a student he is learning disabled or has attention deficit disorder is not very helpful" sounds like common sense right? Then why do so many others give the opposite advice or none at all.

    "He preaches the virtues of helping kids understand their strengths and weaknesses as part of understanding the way learning works." This is the most helpful thing that I learned from reading Dr. Levine.

    Recommended: "A Mind at a Time" by
    Mel Levine, "Behavior Coaching" by Scott Hall ... Read more

    11. Big Shoes: In Celebration of Dads and Fatherhood
    by And Friends, Al Roker, Amy Rennert
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    Asin: 1401301711
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-05)
    Publisher: Hyperion
    Sales Rank: 518
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    From Al Roker and friends, a new book in celebration of Dad, just in time for Father's Day!

    Bestselling author and beloved Today show personality Al Roker teams up with his celebrity friends to share personal thoughts, stories, and reflections on fathers and fatherhood in this heartwarming collection.

    A dad is always there to provide support and encouragement just when it's needed most, as well as help teach us some of life's most invaluable lessons -- from how to fly a kite and pitch a tent to how to change a tire, negotiate a raise, or take on our first big home improvement project. Now it's time to say thank you!

    In Big Shoes, Al Roker and 45 other well-known personalities share personal stories about how their fathers have been there for them during times of both adversity and triumph, and the countless large and small ways they've shaped their lives throughout the years. These essays remind us of the important -- and lasting -- legacy of our dads, even as we've grown up and gone on to start families of our own.

    A stellar group of contributors reflects on the importance of fathers and fatherhood, including:

    --Matt Lauer
    --Katie Couric
    --Beau Bridges
    --Bonnie Rait
    --Kris Kristofferson
    --Lemony Snicket (aka Daniel Handler)
    --Bradley Whitford
    --Robert Mondavi
    --Dr. Dean Ornish
    --B.D. Wong
    --and many more! ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Dads are special to each of us.
    Al Roker along with his friends expressed love, compassion and admiration for their fathers. Al made the statement that he always thought his father would be here.Isn't that so true?We think that dads will always be around.To hear others, such as Katie Couric, B.D. Wong share their thoughts, memories and feelings of their Dads allows us to see what characters traits were inherited and developed.This is a great read and a perfect gift.
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    12. Big Russ and Me : Father and Son: Lessons of Life
    by Tim Russert
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    Asin: 1401359655
    Catlog: Book (2005-05-11)
    Publisher: Miramax Books
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    Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars
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    Veteran newsman and Meet the Press moderator Tim Russert is known for his direct and unpretentious style and in this charming memoir he explains why. Russert's father is profiled as a plainspoken World War II veteran who worked two blue-collar jobs while raising four kids in South Buffalo but the elder Russert's lessons on how to live an honest, disciplined, and ethical life are shown to be universal. Big Russ and Me, a sort of Greatest Generation meets Tuesdays with Morrie, could easily have become a sentimental pile of mush with a son wistfully recalling the wisdom of his beloved dad. But both Russerts are far too down-to-earth to let that happen and the emotional content of the book is made more direct, accessible, and palatable because of it. The relationship between father and son, contrary to what one would think of as essential to a riveting memoir, seems completely healthy and positive as Tim, the academically gifted kid and later the esteemed TV star and political operative relies on his old man, a career sanitation worker and newspaper truck driver, for advice. Big Russ and Me also traces Russert's life from working-class kid to one of broadcast journalism's top interviewers by introducing various influential figures who guided him along the way, including Jesuit teachers, nuns, his dad's drinking buddies, and, most notably, the late New York Senator Daniel Patrick Moynihan, whom Russert helped get elected in 1976. Plenty of entertaining anecdotes are served up along the way from schoolyard pranks to an attempt to book Pope John Paul II on the Today Show. Though not likely to revolutionize modern thought, Big Russ and Me will provide fathers and sons a chance to reflect on lessons learned between generations. --Charlie Williams ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Solid Father-Son Memoir
    Russert writes about the father-son relationship with great honesty, compassion and narrative clarity, and if his story is more uplifting than most (certainly, mine included), that's OK, because now as fathers we can correct all the mistakes our fathers made. My two other favorite father-child memoirs are "I Sleep At Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets," by Bruce Stockler, a small but breathtaking look inside one Dad's life-defining immersion in fatherhood, and "Running with Scissors: A Memoir," by Augusten Burroughs, the opposite kind of book--bestseller, very dark and mostly bleak.

    1-0 out of 5 stars complete cutout bin tripe from a tired old hack
    A sprawling midlife crisis in the key of DULL, Russert's magnum crapus seems more like a product to flog the legend of RUSSERT across all NBC's other programs than an honest portrait of his father. His pathetic paen comes off as an attempt to get the reader to project these mythical superdad qualities onto Not-So-Little Russert - shameless selfpromotion of the sort typical in the circles Russert runs in. Rich corporate fatcats with Nantucket estates pretending to pass for blue collar salt of the earth tapes... the Dubya Method, in other words.

    Frighteningly empty cliches litter each page like dead cockroaches, anecdotes with no point attempt to tug at the heartstrings but end up aiming more for the stomach. A nauseating brew of egomania and false modesty can be a sickly mix indeed!

    I'm looking forward to him appearing on every NBC program yet again every time a new printing is issued - they have to do that, considering he probably buys thousands of copies to give out as Christmas presents.

    Here's to hoping he includes the receipt!

    2-0 out of 5 stars Boring read...
    I was very disappointed with this book.The book is represented as a book about Russet's father, this was not the case.The book details the life of Tim Russet rather than his father.Although many references were made about his father is was not about him.I bought this book to learn about being in WWII and the "greatest generation", Big Russ' generation.If you are a Tim Russet fan and wish to learn more about him and his Democrat background this book is for you.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A delightful memoir! I loved it!
    This book is one of the most delightful memoirs I've ever read! Tim Russert, host of "Meet the Press," writes with a great deal of affection and humor about growing up in South Buffalo, New York, the only son of a homemaker and a sanitation worker. "Big Russ," as Tim referred to his father, taught his son many important and valuable lessons about life, some by word but most through example.

    Big Russ was a dedicated and hardworking parent who held down two jobs all the years Tim and his sisters were growing up. Yet, along with Tim's mother, he still managed to find time to instill in his children the importance of respect, hard work, faith, and to his son especially, even a great love and appreciation for the sport of baseball. Mr. Russert writes about his happy home life in such a refreshing manner and recounts numerous funny episodes from his years as a student in Catholic elementary and high schools, even including priceless anecdotes about some of his favorite teachers. I couldn't help but laugh out loud when reading about the formidable Fr. John Sturm, prefect of discipline at Canisius High School, who once said to young Tim, "Russert, mercy is for God. I dispense justice." Fr. Sturm's detention class assignments were an absolute riot and if you have ever been a student at a Catholic institution of learning you will be especially delighted with these reminisces.

    Mr. Russert goes on to write about his college and law school years, his career as an assistant to Senator Daniel Patrick Moynihan (another very influential male figure in his life), his marriage and the birth of his own beloved son, Luke, and finally, his arrival to the position of host of "Meet the Press." Always, at every crossroad of his life and every important step along the way, Big Russ has been there for him with words of advice and guidance. Mr. Russert states that even today, his most valued critic and reviewer of his television program is his Dad.

    If you enjoy memoirs you definitely will not want to miss this one. It is truly a gem! Both Tim and his father come across as such likeable, decent individuals that it is just a joy to read their story and I was very sorry when I had reached the end of this book. A very enthusiastic thumbs up!!

    4-0 out of 5 stars Enjoyable Memoir
    I really enjoyed Tim Russert's wonderful memoir. In all lot of ways I felt as though I was reading about someone I had grown up with. He does a tremendous job of capturing the mood of growing up Irish Catholic in the '50's and '60's. A VERY ENJOYABLE READ!! ... Read more

    13. Marriages and Families : Making Choices in a Diverse Society (with InfoTrac)
    by Mary Ann Lamanna, Agnes Riedmann
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    Asin: 0534588875
    Catlog: Book (2002-07-24)
    Publisher: Wadsworth Publishing
    Sales Rank: 59677
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    This number one seller in the market combines top-notch interdisciplinary research with a unique choices theme, allowing the text to appeal across the spectrum of the market. Lamanna and Riedmann's coverage of American family issues is diverse in its inclusion all family types: working parents, poor and minority families, gay and lesbian couples, and other nontraditional families. In addition to strengthening and thoroughly updating the research base, the authors have added two completely new chapters: Chapter 2, "Social Constructions of Families," which focuses on societal factors and how they affect the family, and Chapter 17 "Aging and Families," which includes new topic coverage on retirement, elder care, and sexuality in old age. At the same time, the authors maintain the humor and personality that has shaped their text into the market leading text it is today. ... Read more

    14. Confessions of a Slacker Mom
    by Muffy Mead-Ferro
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    Asin: 0738209945
    Catlog: Book (2004-03-26)
    Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong
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    Parents who are fed up with the pressure to turn their children into star athletes, concert violinists, and merit scholars-all at once!-finally have an alternative: the world of Slacker Moms, where kids learn to do things for themselves and parents can cut themselves some slack; where it's perfectly all right to do less, have less, and spend less.

    Slacker moms say "No" to parenting philosophies that undermine parents'-and children's-ability to think for themselves. They say "Yes" to saving their money and time by opting out of the parenting competition. And they say "Hell, Yes!" to having a life of their own, knowing it makes them better parents.

    In this witty and insightful book, author Muffy Mead-Ferro reflects on her experience of growing up on a ranch in Wyoming, where parenting-by necessity-was more hands-off, people "made do" with what they had, and common sense and generational wisdom prevailed. We should all take her sane lead! ... Read more

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    Finally I have read a "parenting" book that does not presume to tell us all exactly how to be parents, but rather tells us that we already know most of what we need to know to raise our children, if we are thinking human beings who love our kids. Every other generation -- we're talking thousands of them -- knew how to raise its children without all the parenting experts so can't we figure SOME things out for ourselves? If we do I firmly believe that growing up will be easier on our kids (it will be easier on we parents, too, as Mead-Ferro suggests, to the horror of some readers), and that when they ARE grown up they will be better off because they'll be self-sufficient! And isn't that they key to being a successful person? I would recommend this book to any mom or anybody who is planning to become a mom. It's short and sweet and that's what we busy moms need.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Humorous, witty, and a refreshing look at parenting!
    I thoroughly enjoyed this book! I found her annecdotes thorougly entertaining, and often laughed out loud.
    It should be clearly understood that this is not a "how to" parenting book, and should never be mistaken for one. Instead, it is one woman's account of trying to navigate through the incredibly tricky maze of parenting. Fortunately for us, she she presents her take on the whole thing through a wonderful sense of humor. If you can't laugh at yourself as a parent, perhaps this isn't a book for you.
    I congratulate Muffy Mead-Ferro's courage to question some of today's "modern wisdom" about raising children and instead, listen to her gut about what's right for her children. And I commend her ability to "confess" about it!
    I agreed with her about some things in the book and disagreed about others, but that's what makes this book so fun to read. We all have our own styles of parenting and should trust our instincts enough to follow them. Although I consider myself a slightly more experienced mother (I have kids ranging in age from 15 to 4), I gleaned some wonderful nuggets of wisdom from her childhood days on a Wyoming Ranch. These were some of my favorite parts.
    I have recommended this book to many friends, and have purchased it for several gifts. It's a great read for parents of all ages.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Thank God for Slacker Moms.
    Finally!!! I am given written permission to let my kids be kids and me be an imperfect Mom and human being. I am the mother of two boys, three and six, and frankly watching them make their own mistakes, and letting them see me make mine, is what I think makes our family special. I live in a place where kids have day planners and birthday parties are budget breakers.
    Confessions of a Slacker Mom is not the typical parenting book. It is a refreshing insight into the thoughts and concerns of a mom just like me, who realizes money and "stuff" can't fix every problem or guarantee your success as a parent.
    My favorite memory of the book is "if your kid doesn't have stitches by the age of seven, you are over protective".
    If you think you can bail your kids out of every problem and prevent every scratch and scrape (why would you want to?) then this book is not for you.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Pretty funny even if you don't agree with everything
    It's an easy, quick read, although we advertising writer types always did have a knack for concise thoughts (i.e., "where's the beef?") Personally, I'm a stay at home mom, and my worst day home with my son is better than any day back at the office working for somebody else. So yeah, I was a little disappointed with Chapter 8 and the whole justification for letting strangers raise my kid. (Sorry, they can go to preschool when they're three, that's not so long to be out of the rat race.) But her observations are funny and it's true that our society does overindulge, advertisers are a parent's worst enemy and the experts don't have all the answers. And some mommies do get a little Stepford-ish...oh admit it, you do. (I've never scrapbooked either, I thought it was a noun.) The book made me realize how uptight I am so much of the time, so I might loosen up just a touch... except during PMS, then all bets are off!

    5-0 out of 5 stars It's only funny if you have a sense of humor about parenting
    Parenting has got to be the ultimate sacred cow, so I applaud Muffy Mead-Ferro for her willingness to poke fun at the extremes we parents sometimes go to, her ability to laugh at herself, and her belief in her kids, and all kids, to figure at least some things out for themselves -- even if that means a "lesser" role for the parents.

    I think the title "Slacker Mom" however is totally tongue-in-cheek because it actually takes more effort for a parent who loves their kids to back off than to smother.

    It is odd that some reviewers found it disingenuous for Mead-Ferro to caution parents about the effectiveness of marketing, since she has had a career in marketing. I felt just the opposite, that she is someone who knows what she's talking about because she's been there. She knows what lengths advertisers will go to and this is the reason she suggests that we parents should take their messages about all the stuff we're supposed to buy for our kids with a grain of salt.

    Of course there is a contingent who will never think that it's okay for a mom to have a job or a career -- a situation which will almost always necessitate some type of child care arrangement. But in our day and age that is not only unrealistic but a disservice to women, and one reason this book is a welcome relief is that it reminds us working moms that we don't need to feel guilty about it -- it's absolutely possible to be a great parent (and a great example) to your kids, even though you have a career.

    The ideas of this book are important ones, although they are presented in a humorous (and often self-deprecating) way. I hope they catch on. ... Read more

    15. The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family
    by Dave Pelzer
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    Catlog: Book (1997-08-01)
    Publisher: HCI
    Sales Rank: 1555
    Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars
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    Imagine a young boy who has never had a loving home. His only possesions are the old, torn clothes he carries in a paper bag. The only world he knows is one of isolation and fear. Although others had rescued this boy from his abusive alcoholic mother, his real hurt is just begining -- he has no place to call home.

    This is Dave Pelzer's long-awaited sequel to A Child Called "It". In The Lost Boy, he answers questions and reveals new adventures through the compelling story of his life as an adolescent. Now considered an F-Child (Foster Child), Dave is moved in and out of five different homes. He suffers shame and experiences resentment from those who feel that all foster kids are trouble and unworthy of being loved just because they are not part of a "real" family.

    Tears, laughter, devastation and hope create the journey of this little lost boy who searches desperately for just one thing -- the love of a family.

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Amazing
    After reading A Child Called It, I of course, had to read Lost Boy. Though, I was very happy to see David got away from his mother, I was more compelled to learn that the school system got involved, finally! Being in foster care itself, can't be a easy task, i.e. living out of a paper sack with the only prized possessions he ever owned, but not knowing from moment to moment if you are going to be pulled out of that home. This book is one of those books that you just can't put down, you have to turn the page to see how David pulls through each situation. Don't pick up this book if you don't have a few hours to spend starting and finishing this book. It is a MUST read! I have purchased A Man Named Dave and have begun to read it. This series is compelling!

    5-0 out of 5 stars Dave is Inspiring to All
    The Lost Boy is the most beautiful book I have ever read. It tells about his life from the ages of 12 to 18 as a foster child. It is the long awaited sequal to the book A Child Called 'It.' A book so intreguing, it was literally impossible to put down. This book is Pelzer's moving sequel. It deals with child abuse and how he survived. He takes you through his five diffrent foster families during his adolesent years. Pelzer tells about his desperate dtermination to find the love of a family and a child's dream of 'fitting-in.' While reading The Lost Boy, you will experiance an uproar of emotions. It will make you cry and at the same time it will make you mad. Then when you least suspect it, you will be crying and cheering for Dave. Dave is living proof that abusive cycles can be broken. He is an inspiration to us all. It would be an honor to hear this wonderful man speak.

    1-0 out of 5 stars Peddling bogus melodrama for a profit
    This 'memoir' ought to be labeled trash fiction. Hasn't anyone read the New York Times article tracing Dave's childhood and examining the inconsistencies in his books? He peddles these books at 'conferences' in order to keep his name on the NYT Bestseller list - which is NOT an evaluation of the merit and literary value of any particular book, but just shows the general ignorance of today's reader.

    I'm embarrassed for the readers who actually believe the pages of rubbish. It's a sad state when books like these continue to garner attention and prey on poor innocent readers.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Great book!
    I really liked the book "The Lost Boy" and read it after I finished a "Child Called It." I cried in many parts of this book and enjoyed reading it very much. If you have read "A Child Called It" (and enjoyed it) I would highly recommend you read "The Lost Boy." The book was mainly about how Dave Pelzer was moving to different foster homes, his problems fitting in, and his constant fear of his mother.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Brought me to tears again
    This book was just as good as "A Child Called It"

    What David Pelzer went through is unspeakable. I can not even formulate it into words, but to say, no child should go through what he went through.

    At the end of the book there was light at the end of the tunnel, he became an adult an enlisted in the Armed Forces. I will read "A Man Called Dave" to see how his life unfolded.

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    16. Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
    by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
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    Asin: 0380799006
    Catlog: Book (1998-02-01)
    Publisher: Perennial Currents
    Sales Rank: 2905
    Average Customer Review: 4.77 out of 5 stars
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    With a title like this, it's no surprise that authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish had a monster bestseller on their hands when the book first appeared in 1988. From the subsequent deluge of readers' stories, questions, and issues, they have created nearly 50 pages of new material for this, the 10th anniversary edition. The central message remains the same, and sounds almost too simple: avoid comparisons. But parents know that's easier said than done. The value of Faber and Mazlish's discussions is precisely that they talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help you teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses. The highly informative text is punctuated with helpful summary/reminder boxes and cartoons illustrating key points. It's a must-read for parents with (or planning on) multiple children. But parents of young children who get along fine (so far) should read it too--as the authors make very clear, rivalry is inevitable. The only question is how to manage the rivalry with intelligence and compassion, and on that subject they offer a wealth of good advice. --Richard Farr ... Read more

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    5-0 out of 5 stars Parenting advice without rival
    My sister spoke very early and her first words were "I'm telling mommy!" From the moment she arrived home from the hospital, we were locked in mortal combat. Our rivalry finally ended when I left home at 18. We are now good friends, but I wish that my parents had read this book during our childhood. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, authors of "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk", share years of experience gained through their own parenting trials and through those of the thousands of parents who have attended their workshops. Their aim is to teach parents the skills and techniques necessary to redirect rivalry into cooperation. Topics such as teaching parents to stop treating their children equally instead of uniquely, helping children express their angry feelings acceptably, motivating children to solve their own problems, and handling fighting are expertly covered. This best-selling book puts the reader right into the middle of a fictional workshop, sitting with other frustrated parents, asking questions and working out solutions. Each chapter begins with questions aimed at helping parents to understand and acknowledge the feelings behind a common problem. The book then describes the communication skills necessary to defuse the rivalry and gain cooperation instead of arguments. Theory is put into practice in cartoon form. A problem is presented in a cartoon, which shows the "typical" way an untrained parent would respond, and then the way the problem could be resolved using the new techniques the authors teach. The last chapter of the book explores ways in which we can mend fences and renew our relationships with our own adult siblings. Several poignant stories illustrate that it is never too late to learn effective communication skills. I found this book useful for parents of only children, since the skills presented are as useful for dealing with one child as for many. For parents of two or more children, this is a MUST READ

    3-0 out of 5 stars Good, but outdated
    This book contains excellent ideas, but it's obvious that its 13 years old. The examples are most useful for the traditional family with at-home mom. I found the cartoons and text a little too simple for my tastes. The concept bothered me a bit because the authors assume that all siblings hate each other. My kids do fight, but they are friends, too. For good ideas on raising siblings try these books: Loving Each One Best and Kid Cooperation (There's a chapter about siblings, but the whole book has ideas that are helpful when it comes to raising more than one.)and The 10 Greatest Gifts to Give Your Children (Not about siblings, but all the ideas covered do apply.)

    5-0 out of 5 stars Couldn't live without it!
    I love this book! It is filled with practical advice complete with sketches of common arguements and how to respond. I re-read a chapter every six months as problems arise. You will refer to it again and again. I give it as a "second baby" shower gift and have received RAVE reviews!

    5-0 out of 5 stars A very helpful tool in dealing with your kids
    This book was EXACTLY what I was looking for. In dealing with my two stepsons as well as my own two daughters, ranging in age from one to seven, I felt there HAD to be a way to prevent some of this fierce competitive and unkind nature between kids. I refused to believe there was nothing much we parents could do about it. The perspective it gave in how to treat the children each as individuals, without reference or comparison to their siblings in any way seemed obvious, yet for most of us parents, we do these things unconsciously in various daily situations. I began realizing how even the smallest comments, however well-intended, could induce rivalry between the kids and have found the ideas and suggestions in this book to be of immeasurable value to my family. In some areas, I do feel that it gets a little too extreme to be realistic, however, the main concept behind the advice and suggestions is very helpful.

    4-0 out of 5 stars A Very Practical "How to" Book
    This book is useful not only for dealing with sibling rivalry, but also with diffusing conflicts between any children. It is valuable not only for parents but also for those adults who regularly deal with children avocationally (as in Scouts, or AWANA Clubs) as well as professionally (school teachers). This book refrains from dry theory. To the contrary: It contains many cartoons that depict a common response to childrens' conflicts versus a much better way of handling these conflicts. The conflicts dealt with range from children's feelings of adult favoritism all the way to open fighting. ... Read more

    17. Honeymoon with My Brother : A Memoir
    by Franz Wisner
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    Asin: 0312320906
    Catlog: Book (2005-02-01)
    Publisher: St. Martin's Press
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    This is the true story of Franz Wisner, a man who thought he had it all- a high profile career and the fiancée of his dreams- when suddenly, his life turned upside down.Just days before they were to be married, his fiancée called off the wedding.Luckily, his large support network of family and friends wouldn't let him succumb to his misery.They decided Franz should have a wedding and a honeymoon anyway- there just wouldn't be a bride at the ceremony, and Franz' travel companion would be his brother, Kurt.

    During the "honeymoon," Franz reconnected with his brother and began to look at his life with newfound perspective.The brothers decided to leave their old lives behind them.They quit their jobs, sold all their possessions, and traveled around the world, visiting sixty countries for the next two years.In Honeymoon With My Brother, Franz recounts this remarkable journey, during which he turned his heartbreak into an opportunity to learn about himself, the world, and the brother he hardly knew.
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    by Michele Weiner Davis
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    Asin: 0671797255
    Catlog: Book (1993-02-01)
    Publisher: Simon & Schuster
    Sales Rank: 13716
    Average Customer Review: 4.17 out of 5 stars
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    In this ground-breaking book, Michele Weiner-Davis gives straightforward, effective advice on how couples can stay together instead of come apart.

    Using case histories to illustrate her marriage-enriching, divorce-preventing techniques, which can be used even if only one partner participates, Weiner-Davis shows readers:

    * How to leave the past behind and set attainable goals
    * Strategies for identifying problem-solving behavior that works -- and how to make changes last
    * "Uncommon-sense" methods for breaking unproductive patterns

    Inspirational and accessible, Divorce Busting shows readers in pain that working it out is better than getting out. ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars This book is good, but it may be too late for you
    I totally agree with "A Reader From California." I got this book out of the library after my wife told me she had been having an affair for the past year and wanted to separate (but not get a divorce!) What a trauma! I read this book and started following its instructions, which, simply put, involves changing YOURSELF and not the other person (because you are the only one whom you CAN change). Well, it was just too late! She still wants to separate, and our marital therapist agrees that there is not much left to try besides that: "Your wife will either be very lonely and feel like something is missing in her life, or she will feel like she has finally come into her own." "You don't have a marriage any more," the therapist added. "You have a RELATIONSHIP." Some of the other books in this category were more to the point for my needs, including "Uncoupling" by Diane Vaughan (very sobering) and "When the One You Love Wants to Leave" by Donald R. Harvey (much more upbeat, but still realistic). Still, I am giving this book 4 stars, because if there is NOT a separation in the works for the reader, then this book offers really good advice. I just wish I had had a little more warning so I could have followed that advice, but in marriage there is nothing like a case of adultery to serve as a wake-up call! Read this book and you might never get that call.

    5-0 out of 5 stars This Book Saved My Marriage
    I have been married for 16 years, 3 kids, 2 dogs, great home - what I thought was the perfect life. Almost two years ago my wife came to me and told me she wanted a divorce. She "loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore", was how she put it. She had been going to a therapist for over a year who had encouraged her to "find herself", "make herself happy". Never mind her husband and her children. I agreed to go to counseling sessions with her therapist. The counselor wanted us to explore our past and express our anger at each other. With each session our marriage got worse. I begged my wife to stay in the marriage and keep trying to make it work, not just for us, but for the children. She refused. She said it was over.

    I bought "Divorce Busting" after visiting the author's web site. I read that there was a name for what happened to me. It's called the "walkaway wife syndrome". I read the book from cover to cover several times during the next few months. I immediately stopped chasing and begging my wife to return. I employed every technique in the book. I even tried what Michele calls "the last resort technique". I learned that I couldn't change my wife, but I could change myself. If I changed, truly changed my behavior, it would have to change my marriage. I love how this book is so clearly written. I really enjoyed( and continue to enjoy ) setting and achieving my goals. I love how this book gave me hope. It took almost 4 months of constant work on my part, but it worked!! My wife came back. For the first month that she was back, it was touch and go. I continued to use my divorce busting techniques and mindset, and now things are better than they have ever been in our marriage. We're like newlyweds again.

    If you need to save your marriage and your family, Divorce Busting is the book to buy! Should be required reading before and during marriage. Thanks Michele!


    5-0 out of 5 stars This book provides helpful, practical skills
    I read this book after my husband moved out of the house. Unfortunately, he has filed for divorce and it appears that he is very determined to end our marriage. However, I don't regret spending the time to read this book. It's a very practical book on relationship skills. The knowledge may prove useful in the future.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Seperated with hope of reconciliation
    Divorce Busting was very helpful and I found answers to alot of the problems I have in my marriage. The only problem I have with this book and some of the other ones is that it assumes your spouse and you are either still together or communicate regularly. If you think you or your spouse wants to seperate I would suggest you read this book before it is to late.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Divorce Busting changed my life!
    I couldn't disagree more with the woman from California. Although this book isn't everything for everybody- no book ever is- it completely changed my life. My husband was in the midst of a mid-life crisis, big time. He had an affair, lost weight, the whole bit. Everyone was telling me to leave. But I didn't want to give up seventeen years of marriage when we have 3 kids together. Call me crazy, but through the whole thing, I still knew our marriage could work. But I didn't know how to make that happen. I was so depressed. My friends were tired of talking to me. I went to a therapist who told me to leave. Nothing helped.

    Then I saw Divorce Busting in the bookstore. When I read it, it felt like the author had been watching my marriage from my living room. I learned so much from it, not only about getting my husband back, but about all kinds of relationships. The methods WORK! My husband and I have never been happier. I don't usually write reviews, but I just couldn't keep quiet when I read the review from that unhappy woman. I realize that some people can't save their marriages because it's too late. But even if I had not been able to turn things around in my marriage, I feel I am a better, stronger person because of this book. I have the author to thank for saving my marriage! ... Read more

    19. Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship
    by Christine Ann Lawson
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    Asin: 0765703319
    Catlog: Book (2002-07-01)
    Publisher: Jason Aronson
    Sales Rank: 21780
    Average Customer Review: 4.68 out of 5 stars
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    "Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim." ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars From another author about BPD
    As the author of "Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Back Your Life when Someone You Care About has BPD," I am so pleased that finally we have another book about the effects of BPD behavior on family members. This book is easy to read and packed with information that you need to know if you had a mother with BPD traits. I spoke with the author, and she agreed with me that these effects are not limited to children, so I would recommend the book to anyone in a relationship with a person with BPD.

    My only wish is that the book could have been organizaed for easy reference in terms of the BP's thoughts, feelings and behaviors and the resulting thoughts, feelings and behaaviors of the non-BP child. I wrote a chart for myself, culling the information from all the different sections, and will put it up on BPDCentral at (www BPDCentral com) for those looking for aan easy chart. A must-have for anyone coping iwth BPD behavior.

    Finally, Lawson's type of BPs takes much clinical information and makes it easy to access. Adult children will probably find that their parent leans toward one of the four types, but will probably see elements of the three other types in their parent.

    People interested in this book may also be interested in books for those with mothers who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. These include TRAPPED IN THE MIROR by Elan Golomb and CHILDREN OF THE SELF-ABSORBED by Nina W. Brown. Other must-have books of interest inclide Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward and Toxic Parents.

    5-0 out of 5 stars A Welcome Find
    This book is a lifeline to sanity for any child of a mother who suffers from borderline personality disorder. The first chapters dissect this complex disease more thoroughly than I've read in any other book, and the final section explains how to cope with the volatile relationships that form between mother and child. Every page contains a wealth of information that is simultaneously therapeutic and proactive. The validation that came with being able to relate to the experiences of other children living with this was priceless (as well as being long overdue). I have read dozens of books about borderline personality disorder, but none (until now) addressed the consequences the disease has on children of mothers suffering from the disorder. The book seems to focus on the relationships daughters have with their borderline mothers, but does deal with the impact it has on sons, as well.

    I strongly recommend this book for anyone seeking to find help with mood disorders, identity issues, self-esteem issues, reoccurring unresolved anger and troubling relationships.

    Excellent compliments to this book are: The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders: An Interactive Self-Help Guide by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen; Treating Attachment Disorders: From Theory to Therapy by Karl Heinz Brisch and Kenneth Kronenberg; Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man by Scott Wetzler; The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert Pressman; Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier; Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown; Toxic Coworkers: How to Deal with Dysfunctional People on the Job by Alan Cavaiola and Neil Lavender.

    And if you want to pursue the subject even further, you may be interested in reading The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment.

    4-0 out of 5 stars Frighteningly accurate
    As the "no good" child of a borderline mother, this book was very helpful as well as frightening. If you are the child of a borderline, I would highly recommend that you read it in the context of therapy. It is clearly written, easily understood and to the point. However, it spends far more time defining and diagnosing than explaining how to transcend BPD challenges. Perhaps this was not the purpose. Regardless, there were a few statements about how often anxiety and depression are lifelong battles for children of borderline mothers. I haven't found this to be true on a personal level and hope others understand that the anxiety or depression felt from growing up with a borderline mother can be controlled and eradicated almost entirely. Overall a very good book, comprehensive and very accurate. I found it very helpful but had to take it in small doses.

    5-0 out of 5 stars Not Light Reading
    This book is intense, especially if you happen to be the child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder. The author breaks types of Borderline mothering into categories, recognizing that often times categories overlap. Well described and I would have liked to have seen more suggestions for healing at the end. In any case, approach this with care, it is perhaps best read under the care of a therapist or psychiatrist. ... Read more

    20. The Indigo Children: The New Kids Have Arrived
    by Lee Carroll, Jan Tober
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    Asin: 1561706086
    Catlog: Book (1999-05-01)
    Publisher: Light Technology Publishing
    Sales Rank: 9320
    Average Customer Review: 3.12 out of 5 stars
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    Do you think your child is special? Well, perhaps he or she is! Self-help professionals Lee Carroll and Jan Tober have collected essays by dozens of doctors, counselors, and other childhood experts that seem to document the arrival on earth of a newly evolved species of human kiddie referred to here as an "indigo" child. The 10 most common traits are: 1.) They come into the world with a feeling of royalty. 2.) They have a feeling of deserving to be here. 3.) Self-worth is not a big issue. 4.) They have difficulty with authority by ritual or without explanation. 5.) They simply will not do certain things. 6.) They get frustrated with systems that don't require creative thought. 7.) They often see better ways of doing things. 8.) School is often difficult for them and they can seem antisocial. 9.) They will not respond to guilt-trip discipline. 10.) They are not shy about letting you know what they need.

    If your little angel/devil fits this pattern and you are pulling your hair out trying to relate, you may want to read this book before resorting to Ritalin. --P. Randall Cohan ... Read more

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    4-0 out of 5 stars Hillarious load of claptrap
    THIS BOOK IS A JOKE, PEOPLE!! Honestly, before you go buying this sublimely hilarious lampoon of cultish, new-age child-raising remember that it is NOT A GUIDE FOR RAISING CHILDREN WITH TROUBLE LEARNING, it is a joke, and a very clever, subtle one at that. Sorry to blow the whole joke people but seriously, working parents whose kids have learning disabilities shouldn't go wasting their hard-earned money on a joke at their expense. "The Indigo Children" is good for a laugh but parents, there are lots of real books and real experts out there that can really help you and your kids. This book contains no real info, think of it as the "Spinal Tap" of the self-help world.

    5-0 out of 5 stars This book could be helpful if you have a problem child
    I have certain memories of how I acted as a child and have been surprised that children today seem to be more mature. It was therefore with some fascination that I found that the authors of "The Indigo Children" had noted the same thing, but not being experts in this field they looked to others better qualified to comment. Lee Carol and Jan Tober have collected articles from many people who work with children who tell us that today's children have a feeling of royalty, believe they deserve to be here, know who they are, challenge authority, refuse to do certain things, are frustrated with ritual-oriented systems, are system busters, act anti-socially, do not respond to guilt discipline, and tell us what they need. Because we cannot handle these children, our society smothers them, labels them as "learning disabled" and drugs them with Ritalin and Cylert. These children believe they came to serve the planet as emissaries from heaven, bearers of wisdom to give us a new understanding of humanity and consider themselves gifts to their parents. By honoring the Indigo Child as a gift instead of a problem we will open the door to understanding their wisdom. We should listen to their message as many Indigos are inherently gifted philosophers, scientists, inventors and artists. Many parents are unaware that their child could be potentially gifted and do not recognize or respect their children although performance scores may be exceptionally high.

    But why the color indigo? Nancy Ann Tappe can look at people and see their life color from which she can determine their mission on earth. She can "read" personality. About 90% of children are now born radiating an indigo color. There are four types of indigo - the humanist who will become a doctor, teacher, lawyer or politician; the artist who is creative and into the arts; the conceptualist who will work as a designer, engineer or architect; and the inter-dimensional who seems to know everything and will bring us new philosophies and religions.

    Punishment will not work while discipline guides by providing logical and realistic consequences. As these children read intent more than words we should treat them with the same respect we would other adults. We should say what we mean, mean what we say and do what we said we would do. Integrity should be our guide. If we want these kids to make wise choices, we must give them the opportunity to make choices, including some unwise ones. Listen, talk, share. Many Indigos have problems with school. It is interesting to note that Albert Einstein found his schooling so distasteful that he could not consider scientific problems for a year. There is a 12-year old who would not go to school because he saw no value in the hours spent there but who helped bring about change in the school to better serve the needs of himself and others. Education must change to accommodate the Indigo Child. Robert Ocker helps children to focus on problem solving, conflict resolution, taking responsibility and character education. Education requires a new vision for the children of the 21st century. As educators we must revisit our assumptions about the meaning, purpose and function of education. We must teach children how to think, not what to think and develop children's abilities and skills rather than memories. These children are computerized and technological which means that they will introduce technology that we cannot even dream of. Real education takes care of the body, soul and spirit. Are there any school systems that really work with Indigo children? There are two established systems - the Waldorf System based on the teachings of Rudolf Steiner and Montessori schools. Waldorf schools are reported to be the fastest growing nonsectarian educational system in the world.

    If you think you have or know of an Indigo Child, this book could be invaluable. If you are an educator and have trouble with some children who seem to be exceptionally bright, this volume could shed new light on the situation. It is very helpful to learn what these people who have long experience working with children have to say.

    2-0 out of 5 stars Is your child an Indigo? Probably not...
    I see auras, and from my experience, the colors we all exude say quite a bit about us... That said, 90%+ of children being born today are NOT indigo. ADD & antisocial, perhaps - but not indigo. These folks have always been around, and probably comprise less than 5% of the population. I REALLY don't understand where anyone could get the idea that it's more than that, or that Indigos are mainly children... And without judging the authors' motivations for quoting her, the fact that Nancy Ann Tappe "says so" is unsubstantial evidence.

    However, some of what is written about the actual traits of Indigos is informative... I believe a lot of adults will see themselves in the desciptions. Regarding children, it probably would be best if people quit stuffing their kids with preservatives & refined foods, then pacifying them with ritalin & the like. Props to this book for saying that much.

    In conclusion, I'm willing to bet that most indigos are being born to "energetically odd" parents, who won't need a book to tell them how to raise their children. As for the others... They should work on appreciating their children for what they are, & acknowledge the fact that every one of us is unique, special & gifted in our own way.

    5-0 out of 5 stars It's all in how you look at 'em...
    This book probably could've couched it's philosophies in a less directly "New Age" manner so it wouldn't frighten the herd with it's theories about such radical concepts as "evolution" and "societal change". But it's didn't and I, for one, am glad.

    This book is all about the new kids on the block - the latest addition to the family of aura colors - kids who aren't like the traditional model we have for viewing children and childhood.
    These kids are born with a different orientation in the world, they seem wiser and old methods for dealing with kids (spanking, for example) just don't impress these kiddos. They're not investing in our "tradition" memes. They just don't buy it.
    They call "B.S." on hypocrisy and parental smoke blowing. They don't automatically respect authority. Respect has to be earned. Hence these little critters are often dubbed "troublemakers" or "problem children" and raising them can be difficult.

    However, this book does parents and children a wonderful service by calling on parents to re-frame how they view these children and urges parents and teachers to rethink their old approaches to discipline and child raising acting as their children's advocates and coaches rather than stern and distant authority figures. This book urges flexibility of thought and imagination when dealing with Indigo Children - something I've found altogether too rare in child rearing books.

    This book helped me better understand, appreciate and nurture my child. It helped me view her strengths and marvel at her differences rather than constantly seeing "problems". My kid is a happy, healthy, self esteem INTACT, gifted fourth grader now.
    That alone should garner this book five stars.

    3-0 out of 5 stars The fine line between Narcissism and Autism
    There is a fine line between narcissism and autism, and this is it!
    Children all over the world do have more similarities in recent decades; we are all trying to keep up with the Jones's and mothers are more likely working. Women CAN get jobs in societies that wouldn't permit that in the past, and they do get them. The children are spending less time with nurturers, or conversely spoiled rotten with all of the decadent garbage of our society that their parents can now afford or are trying to.

    Narcissism; spoiled, neglected, or both. I happen to believe when you spoil a child you neglect them because you are not preparing them for the real world. You are neglecting their needs to assimilate and function in society, and therefore neglecting them.

    Moreover, doing greater harm than imaginable because their level of frustration for why the rest of the world doesn't play along to satiate their wants/needs make them very angry with life. They don't understand the real rules of engagement in the world, and are left far behind.

    Furthermore, children are deeper thinkers and do have the aptitude to create neat solutions if only we will listen. Prior to recent decades children weren't permitted as much simple respect as we give them now. The whole world is on the "All about the children" bandwagon. That is a good thing.

    My child was described to me to be an Indigo Child. He is a person who is high functioning (Asperger's) Syndrome Autism with parents who teach him to see the bigger picture of life; look at everything from every angle. Every child could be nurtured to see life from every angle.

    Who knows, maybe our Autistic Children really are more evolved; quiter, more sensitive, usually very beautiful, etc. ... Read more

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